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In my case, not so much because she abused me in so many ways throughout my childhood - I was able to rationalise all that away many years ago - but because she's still abusing me.I mean, I'm in my forties. I've been married and divorced, I'm a mother of five children, one of whom is now a legal adult and discussing plans for her own family in a few more years. And this week my mother lodged an affidavit in the dispute between myself and my abusive ex-boyfriend concerning the care and custody of our sons. I haven't even read it, I know it will be just as full of spite and malice as all the other affidavits she's lodged in the past several years.So I guess the real reason I loathe my mother is because she keeps on demonstrating publicly how much she hates me. Y’know, a mother who loved her daughter would want to help keep her daughter’s family together, no? I'm not an addict, I'm not abusive (I know what an abusive mother looks like, she made sure of that), I'm not a criminal, I don't have so much as a speeding fine to my record, but my mother hates me so much she wants my children taken away from me.Some people need to learn when to let go.

More than once I fear, but I have chosen one time in particular to share today. I was assigned to a ward that included a large shopping mall. One evening I was dispatched to the Sears store in the mall at the request of store security. When I arrived I was directed to the security office. Security had a 16 year old girl who was about seven months pregnant in custody for shoplifting.I went through the standard process of completing the arrest paperwork with the security team before transporting the prisoner, as they are the arresting officers. My role was only to transport her to jail, or in this case Juvenile court. All during the time we were completing the affidavit of arrest and the narrative, the girl was begging to use the restroom.It is no secret that most women at this stage of pregnancy experience frequent and urgent urinary discomfort. As I was preparing to leave the store to take this young lady to juvenile, she begged to be allowed to relieve herself before the forty minute ride to juvenile court. It was against department policy for me to allow her to go to the restroom alone, but there was not a female officer anywhere nearby, and Sears did not have a female security officer nor would they allow non-security employees to assist with shoplifters. As a male officer, I certainly couldn’t go with her…Right here is where I made my mistake. I had compassion on this 16 year old pregnant child. Against my better judgement, I took a chance on getting myself into trouble by removing the handcuff from one arm so she could take care of her business, and allowing her to enter the restroom alone. I knew the restroom only had one door so what possibly could go wrong? I waited patiently outside the door for her to finish her business. And waited some more. Remember, there is only one door. One way in and one way out. After a few minutes which seemed to take three forevers, a female Sears employee walked by and I asked her to check on the girl to make sure she was alright. The lady stepped into the restroom briefly then came out and informed me that She saw no one in the restroom, but there was a large hole in the ceiling above the vanity. Crap!Knowing there was no one else in the restroom I went in to retrieve my prisoner. I jumped up on the vanity to look into the gaping hole she had made in the suspended ceiling. As soon as I looked into the hole I could See her standing on one of the suspension rails, hanging onto one of the support wires. If you don’t know anything about suspended ceilings, they are just lightweight metal tracks that are interlocked and held level by very thin wires every few feet. They are not designed to hold any substantial weight….like a pregnant girl?I looked at her and reached out toward her and softly asked her to come to me. The walls of the restroom went all the way to the ceiling so there was nowhere for her to go but down. Still unwilling to surrender, she leaned away from me and suddenly the ceiling support gave way and the whole ceiling fell with her on it to the floor. She was fortunately unharmed and I quickly jumped off the vanity where the ceiling had fallen around me and helped her up and reapplied the handcuff on her arm.The rest of the great ceiling adventure…or debacle if you prefer…is history. I made it to juvenile court with my prisoner without further incident. I wrote a memo to my supervisors explaining and taking responsibility for my actions. I’m not sure if they felt sorry for me or what, because I violated a policy willfully by allowing the girl free to relieve herself, but I received no repercussions from this fiasco at all other than some good natured teasing from other officers. Maybe I’m not the only sympathetic police officer after all. I will share that a Sears employee told me that the replacement ceiling cost several thousand dollars and was named in my honor. I received no repercussions from them either. I suppose even Sears was able to show compassion and a little humor back then. Life is interesting in my world and I love it!

Yes, sadly you do. This comes from experience. My husband found out he had a 7-year-old child in 2015. We got a letter from the state saying he already owed over $10,500 for the child. That is a number I will never forget. While recovering from the shock of realizing that there might be a child in the world who is a sister to our girls- we also had to come to terms with being made to pay a very formidable debt.Not only do you miss out on 7 years of first with a child, but you are also made to pay the mother for that. Ultimately in court for the back support, my husband received a judgment for nearly $20,000. The amount had increased as the government found more benefits that were paid to the child my husband owed for. So the mother got a little more than $5,000 for back support. The rest is owed to the government.We tried to argue that if my husband had been made aware of this child he would have supported them. Not only financially but also emotionally. That it was unfair of the government to ask him to pay when he didn’t know. The mother tried to claim he abandoned them in the hospital. But that was put to rest when we found the court records of when the original father sued to get off the birth certificate 3 years previous to this.Apparently, when the child was nearly 4, he found out the child wasn’t biologically his. We’re still not sure how this came about. But he successfully sued her for fraud, parenting under duress, and failing to disclose another biological contributor in the timeline of conception. In 2013 he won a judgment for child support paid, lawyers fees, and pain and suffering. It was around $6,000. To our knowledge, the mother has never paid the amount and according to court records she failed to appear at the trial.The father testified that he had no idea another man could have been the father so he was lied to when he signed the voluntary acknowledgment of paternity in the hospital. Since they weren’t married at the time of birth, the hospital usually secretly offers either parent the opportunity to get a DNA test before they sign the paperwork. He waived that right.We used his affidavit in court to bring reasonable doubt to her claim that my husband left them in the hospital. And also showed the judge baby pictures of my husband to further refute her claim that my husband left them because the “baby had blue eyes and blonde hair.” It’s hilarious as my husband himself was a blonde, blue-eyed baby.Why would he reject a baby that looked just like him, refuse a paternity test, and then another man walked in and signed the birth certificate fully believing himself to be 100% the father? So much so he declines a test? That means his testimony is in doubt. If my husband was indeed in the hospital that seriously brings doubt to the original father's lawsuit claiming he was defrauded and led astray by her lying to him. If he knew my husband was potentially also the father, then he can’t claim he now deserves to be taken off as responsible for the child.The judge hesitantly agreed with us. Then he followed that this didn’t matter- what mattered was that this child was my husband's. DNA proved that. So since my husband has an obligation to support his offspring, he shouldn’t be trying to get out of what he owes. The government spent money on this child and deserved to be compensated. Why is it fair to put this burden on the taxpayers? To which my husband replied that if he’d known about the child he’d have supported them, which would mean that they never would have received these benefits. Therefore that argument is null and void- the debt never would have been established in the first place if the government did their job of locating my husband. Why allow the child to get benefits for three years? It wasn’t like they were searching for my husband or he was one of many potential fathers. We owned a ho7me, he had a job, the mother knew his name and told it to the government, it’s not our fault they took 3 years to send us our letter.My husband said he will pay 100% of his obligations to this child going forward. Now that he knew about her, he believed that child support should start from the day that the DNA test came back. Especially because the mother delayed and avoided taking the test herself and ultimately needed a sheriff to go and take her and the child to test. My husband took him within the timeline given by the government, which was within 30 days of receiving notice.I tried to keep this short but it’s very complicated. The way child support works and then how parenting time and custody are other departments is confusing. Since we had no overnights credits we get no credits for parenting time. We got some credits going on from November 2015-May of 2016, once we enforced parenting time. My husband had the standard every other weekend and child support was determined at $800/monthly. Which is a lot for a single child. And even more to a family that was barely cutting it before this.No one cares my husband didn’t know about the baby. That he started all of this from behind. I’d say the average child support worker is a total idiot. They’re jaded and don’t believe anyone. They just want their money.That is the problem with our current court system. It cares more about child support than it does parental involvement. Mothers can withhold a child and get paid for it. There is no legal obligation for her to disclose that a child might be a man’s, but once she files for child support she Is legally obligated to receive every single dime. Something is wrong with that.Did anyone offer us make-up time for missing 7 years of a child's life? Did anyone apologize to my husband for not getting to see his baby's first steps, her first words? No. Never. Not once. Somehow all of this is my husband's fault and it’s the child who suffers. For the sake of the children take important consideration in who you sleep with- as you may be dealing with them for life.