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If Gun Control Advocates showed they actually cared about reducing firearm related deaths and not scoring political points.…I know, I know, it’s subjective…and politicians are in the business of scoring political points - but I would get on board with some “reasonable” things that I think would actually reduce firearm related crimes if the politician could convince me they were both knowledgeable and genuine. No current politician even comes close to fitting that bill…especially this jamoke:C’mon bro - after this, let’s go talk about how Guam is going to flip over!…Now, there’s basically (3) categories of gun crimes that we talk about:General firearm homicides - includes all homicidesFirearm suicidesSchool shootings / Mass Shootings at public placesWe need to understand that each of these categories probably requires different solutions.General Firearm HomicidesSome policies I would get behind to help curb overall firearm violence which mostly occurs in inner cities and is often related to gangs and drugs.End drug war - legalize pot. (I understand that pot is actually really bad for the adolescent brain, but like with any freedom comes the ability to make stupid choices). [1]Harsher penalties for illegal gun ownershipEnforce laws already on the books[2]Red Flag laws that err on the side of due process. This one is a slippery slope for sure - we need to be able to call to attention folks that are crazy, but we also don’t want to use this as a governmental cudgel.Firearm SuicidesI think suicides are unique - because probably the best way to reduce them is to just try and reduce the overall number of guns so that when people “hit rock bottom” maybe they don’t have a gun nearby to kill themselves with and will think twice about suicide by something a little less certain.Voluntary buyback programs - I don’t suspect this will do much, but maybe some concerned housewives will convince their husbands that they are a lost job or divorce away from killing themselves and the extra $500 from trading in their handguns can buy them a nice weekend at the beach.Gun Safety Programs - I think the more educated people become about firearms, the safer everyone is. Again, this is voluntary, but it might help.Red Flag Laws - again, very much erring on the side of due process, but there are problably some objective risk factors that can be used - like job loss, divorce, etc.Mass Shootings at Schools / Malls / etc.This one is the trickiest because these events draw the most outrage, have the widest variety of motives, are the least frequent, and occur in the widest variety of locations. But there may be some reasonable solutions.End Gun Free Zones - I’m not talking about arming every teacher / janitor / mall cop to the teeth with BFG 9000’s, rather, using the threat of force as a deterrent. There might be schools with 10 people carrying, there might be schools with 0…but the potential shooter doesn’t know that (or at least we hope they don’t).Red Flag Laws - I think this is where red flag laws will be the most effective. Parents need to engage their children (most of these school shooters are children) and understand if/when they are going to do something stupid.A subset to this is, again, ENFORCE THE LAWS ON THE BOOKS. The authorities had all the tips in the world that the Marjory Stoneman Douglas shooter was going to shoot up a school and did nothing.As with all things - criminals will be criminals so I expect whatever “predicted” effect these restrictions will have on gun violence to be at least cut in half.I think we have a lethal combination of drugs, guns, and psychologically unstable youth in our country and it makes a relatively violent concoction.My prediction (and hope) is that in about 10 years time, outrage culture will subside and we can begin to have reasonable discussions once again.Footnotes[1] Cannabis and the brain: Recent studies shed new light[2] America’s poor enforcement of its gun laws keeps contributing to mass shootings

With a few exceptions, U.S. federal powers are interpreted narrowly in the sphere of state politics. The role of the federal government was to handle disputes between the states by passing uniform laws of trade, measurement, and to provide for defense and negotiation with foreign powers so that the states could all run themselves the way they see fit.That’s changed since the 1800’s when the concepts first started, but there are some areas in which it still remains true today. Until Prohibition (and after Prohibition ended) alcohol was one of them. Each state was free to make itself as “dry” or “wet” as it pleased — the only thing the federal government could do was prohibit moving product from a wet state to a dry state (aka “Bootlegging”).Another good example is police powers. The federal government is largely prohibited from passing a wide breadth of the kind of little laws that we all have to deal with every day. Speed limits, parking rules, public nuisance laws, etc. These powers are restricted to the states and their counties/municipalities.Finally a really good example is divorce. You will never see a federal court handle a divorce by decree of the U.S. Supreme Court and in federal territories divorce laws are handled by the local authority (famously, you can get divorced in Guam after being there only 7 days).

I don’t know how I didn’t realize that this was a common practice. I really should have, but I guess since my parents weren’t divorced and my father was an active participant (to the degree that he could be) in my upbringing, I wasn’t paying much attention. Both of my parents came from divorced families, and this from Catholics at a time period when divorce was rather uncommon (1950’s and 1960’s). My brother followed suit to some degree, barely there for his children when he divorced, rarely using his visitation rights, only paying child support as he saw fit. He had every other weekend off, so spending that weekend with his children seemed to me like a no brainer, but he was selfish and wanted his free time to himself instead of dealing with his responsibilities. And when he did have them, I had to remove them more than once because of his behavior.In any case, I remember when my brother and his wife were divorcing, before my now ex-husband and I were married, being told by my then fiance that I should realize that I wouldn’t get to see my nephews any more. I was shocked. What did he mean by that? And I remember telling him he didn’t understand the family dynamic and that I would still get to see my nephews even though my brother and his wife were divorced. In fact, during their divorce, I had my brother’s now ex-wife walk as my matron of honor in my wedding. My experience of divorce up to that point had been my youngest aunt, who eventually lost custody of her children to their father because she wasn’t a good parent. He was a good father and paid his child support without complaint and was actively a parent to his children. It wasn’t that men left and couldn’t be bothered. While my fiance was wrong about me spending time with my nephews (which didn’t change at all), I should have realized that he was telling me something about himself.So fast forward about three years. My then husband and I weren’t working out. He joined the Navy, which I thought would make him a better person and didn’t. He was seeing other people behind my back and lying about our relationship to everyone who would listen. I had no idea what was going on until one of the other Navy wives clued me in when she realized I wasn’t like what he had said I was. I left my car, my job, a really inexpensive rent house that I would never get back into, and my pets behind in an attempt to make my marriage work. He didn’t have to send for me, so I wrongly thought that his finding on base housing for us meant that he was going to try. He didn’t. Not even close. I knew him to be a compulsive liar, but this was the last straw, so while he was deployed, I called him and told him I was moving back home and requested permission to leave the state with our daughter, which I didn’t need to do because we were legal residents of the state I was moving back to, but I got it just in case. He agreed that things weren’t working out and we made an agreement that we would stay married so he could continue receiving his extra pay for being married and I would be able to enjoy his insurance. He also agreed to send me $300 a month in child support. He was getting at least that in additional income just for being married and a parent, so it shouldn’t have hurt at all. And since we weren’t living on base, he would be receiving a housing allowance for us as well. We were being amicable and I was proud of us for that. And that’s how things went for about ten months. He was in California and we were in Louisiana so there were no visits but there was a valid reason for that. And then he was getting ready for his next deployment.Right about the time of his deployment, I lost my job. I was still living with my parents. I had no car, no job, no privacy, and just enough money from him to cover my phone bill, diapers, and groceries so my parents didn’t have to feed us. We were not living in the lap of luxury because of the $300 a month he was paying us. I couldn’t afford not to live with my parents. He called to say that he had opened another bank account where his paycheck would be deposited but claimed he would be having the $300 a month direct deposited in my account. I was suspicious as he had been trying to get me to agree to let him give up his parental rights, so I asked what I should do if the child support deposits didn’t happen. He said to wait until he was back from Guam. Sure enough, he lied about the child support deposits.I was forced to go on welfare and food stamps and go through JAG to force him to pay the support we agreed on. It took close to a year to get the whole thing cleared up. When he was discharged from the Navy years later, he sent me divorce, child support, and visitation paperwork to sign, expecting me to do so without the advice of an attorney. Sent them to my house with his mother and instructions not to leave them with me and to make sure I signed them. I refused and she left them for me to go over. My attorney laughed at them. Unless I agreed to it, it wouldn’t have been approved by any judge. He had an increase in child support and our visitation agreement said that we were to agree to visitation. He would only agree if I allowed him to prorate child support and I refused. He told his family that I wouldn’t let him see her. The truth was that he didn’t want to see her.So why didn’t he want her? Well… in this situation, my ex-husband agreed to have a child with me as a way to control me. He thought, wrongly, that if we had a child together, he could do whatever he wanted and I wouldn’t leave. So he did whatever he wanted and learned that he was wrong. I left. On the rare occasion when he did visit, he would spend more time with me than with her. His end goal was to get me… not necessarily to have me back, but at least to get me in bed with him. It didn’t happen. When I left, I was done. She was a means to an end to him. So she was no longer doing for him what her purpose was because I was over him. And when he realized that wasn’t how things worked, he didn’t want her any more and did everything he could to get rid of her. He tried to get away with not paying child support and that didn’t work. So he tried to give up his rights to her thinking that would mean he didn’t have to pay support, but he was wrong. He never used his visitation rights. And when I embarrassed him by stating publicly where someone in his family could see that I was calling him a liar and a deadbeat dad, he took me to court for specific visitation. I called his bluff and offered to have my husband adopt her and he took the bait in less than a week, as long as he didn’t have to pay child support effective immediately. He claims to his family that I manipulated him. I never spoke to him.I don’t know if that’s how it was with you, but I can tell you that no matter what, your father is the failure here. You did nothing to deserve his disinterest.