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True story.A woman who was reporting to me came into my office to ask for help."Dushka" she says. "There is an opening for someone with my qualifications in our office in China. Can you please help support my transfer?"Me: "I'd support anything you were really interested in. Would your husband go with you?"Her: "No. He's working for a start-up and feels it's important to stay".Me: "But, you've been married less than two months. Please give this some thought. It's a really tough thing to do to a relationship. Listen: good jobs come and go. Finding a husband is a once in a lifetime thing (ideally.)"Her: "We've talked about it, and we really want to do this".So, against my better judgement, I help her transfer. Inwardly, I know they are making a really big mistake.Time goes by. I see their posts on Facebook. They are having a candle-lit dinner together via Skype. They are in opposite ends of the world, and every few months meet in a new "midway" location so they are traveling a lot. They look so happy. She tells me they are in touch multiple times a day.Then she calls to tell me her year is up, that she's ready to return. She says she learned so much, and got to visit many places she had always dreamed of. The fact that her experience is now more international is a huge asset to my team.I find out through reading the news that his very successful start up sold for millions and millions of dollars.How is that for giving someone the wrong advice?Sometimes you feel you have a choice to make between two opposite things and the truth is that is rarely the case. Choose to have it all, and then make intelligent decisions to make it viable.

A teacher, medical professional, firefighter, cop. In no particular order.Let me tell you a tale. A tale of two funerals.In the late '90s a certain relative of mine passed away. We were not close. He was extremely successful as an industrialist; had a mansion and yachts and a collection of Rolls Royce's.His name is on a building, he left a wake of endowments behind him.But he didn't have much contact with others. Couldn't resolve conflict. Was often belligerent and obnoxious.20 people came to his funeral. 10 of us family and the rest on his payroll in one way or another.OK, let me tell you about another funeral. My father was a philosophy teacher at Conn College for almost 40 years. He died suddenly between Christmas and New Year's, 1999.Trips were cancelled. Flight plans redirected. 100's of people showed up for his funeral. Mostly former students. One simply shook my hand and said, "Your father inspired me to be a teacher."That's legacy.That's life.That's why we came.

Never.I'd choose my career over love any day. After family, career is my priority. I can literally do anything for my family and career.I believe it's easier to survive a failed relationship than a failed career.Love won't pay my bills, a successful career surely will.:)