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Ah, my favourite subject.Plastic surgery.Before I answer this, ‘on fleek’ means your eyebrows are on point.Plastic surgery really wasn't meant to be used to enhance beauty.Plastic surgery was generally used when you had a serious accident. Whatever the accident was, the part of your body that was severely injured, plastic surgery was used to put your body back together again. As near normal as possible.I say near normal as a caveat: Let the buyer beware.Plastic surgery is now seen as the must have goal. A band wagon of sorts has been created. Anyone can set themselves up as a beauty consultant and open a business, and practice surgery of sorts.You only have to look at the horror stories of men and women having plastic surgery. Face lifts: As for face lifts, the face always looks out of sync after surgery. Breast implants: Leaking poison into your body, & butt implants. Fat sucked out of their waists and thighs, then transferred to their butts to give them a butt lift. Many people have died because they've enhanced their butts & the medicines used during this procedure are in actuality deadly poisons. That deadly cocktail of anaesthetics swirling around your body is enough to make me vomit.The horror stories go on. The only thing about plastic surgery is it'll surely leave you with empty pockets.With the advances of Social Media, and the need to be seen as perfect. Everyone wants a piece of the actionI wear eyebrow pencil, most days, a good moisturiser and petroleum jelly. I don’t wear make up. I like my skin to breathe. Sometimes I don't wear any eyebrow pencil at all.I've have a snub nose. I love my nose. I'm not going to let a surgeon cut & paste the cartilage with flaps of skin from another part of my body.Hell no.Before you consider plastic surgery, picture this.If you’re a smoker, no smoking for at least 2 weeks before surgery, and 2 weeks after. Better still, give it up altogether. Smoking increases the risk of infection, and slows down the healing process. No exercise, or blowing your nose. Dosed up to the eyeballs with painkillers. So you’ll have to sit around, with enormous black eyes, until the swelling goes down, feeling sorry for yourself.Plastic surgery is a waste of money, spending it on surgery you’re never satisfied with. The surgeon may botch it up. You spend even more money, putting the surgery right, when there was nothing wrong with you to begin with. You end up looking like every nip & tucked person who has had it. I hate needles. No plastic surgeon is going to come near me with a needle. I'd be more likely to punch him/her out.JOKE.I’m just not interested in plastic surgery.Plastic surgery goes wrong for many reasons: Greedy plastic surgeons who don't care about the outcome of the surgery. They're only in it for the money. The patient smokes, after surgery, undoing the good work the plastic surgeon has done. The plastic surgery doesn't heal well. Poor after care.As for looking strange. I imagine the plastic surgeon has a template in their minds. Working on the premise, that it worked on that person. I’ll do the same for this person. After surgery, you can't smile or show emotion. But here's where the strange part comes into it, you’re left with a caricature of your former self.Duck lips, large staring eyes & a face that is stretched beyond belief.Horrendous.Remind you of anybody?I guess every plastic surgeon loves Barbie, because everybody who has had plastic surgery, looks plastic, just like Barbie.Plastic surgery feeds into your insecurities. It's highly risky, & it's a personal choice.And therein lies the rub.Everybody believes a liar. So we’re programmed to say to somebody who has had plastic surgery, “You look great.” Nobody likes to be told they've gone too far, & the plastic surgery they have looks hideous. Everybody wants to be told they look beautiful.Before you have any plastic surgery, make sure your plastic surgeon is registered.I don’t advertise for anybody, but in this case I will.British Association of Plastic, Reconstructive & Aesthetic Surgeons. As well as a good Ear, Nose & Throat (ENT) surgeon.Be a real friend. If the person you love has had plastic surgery, be honest, tell them whether the surgery worked or didn't, without being nasty about it. Break it to them as gently as possible.If they want to try again, by all means get a 2nd opinion. I’d advise getting a 3rd or 4th opinion.Good luck.

Melanie Klein was a contemporary of Anna Freud, Sigmund’s daughter, and like the Freud’s she escaped from the persecution of Jews and intellectuals to settle and practice as a Psychoanalyst in London before the second world war. Like Anna, she concentrated on the analysis of children, and in so doing, extended the scope of the whole subject enormously. Freud had very little clinical experience with children, and may have thought his ‘talking cure’ was not suitable for them; I doubt there was a market for it either back then. Anna and Melanie were able to adapt and innovate, and so were able to explore the world of the child, and reconstruct the development of our psychological life from infancy to adulthood (according to their beliefs).One of Melanie Klein’s most innovative concepts involved her ‘discovery’ that during early infant development there is a serious psychological problem that requires a solution, and that the nature of that solution influences the whole of psychological life thereafter.The problem is related to the simple observation that to survive we must feel love - we love the milk, then the breast, and when we figure it out, we love the mother whose breast it is, and whose milk the breast contains. Love on this level and this early is a primitive emotion, but strong, and helps bind us to the activities and objects that will keep us alive and safe and help us to develop.The problem as Klein saw it was that you cannot have love without hate. Hate cannot be avoided; it occurs because of love. We hate the milk that is not there when we feel hungry, the breast that is absent when we want it, and the mother who seems to wilfully withhold.There is no baby that can avoid feeling hate because these situations cannot be avoided; with the best will in the world they can occur many times a day. And if you could by some miracle arrange never to frustrate your baby, they would probably fail to develop. After all, there is no real need to think or develop if you have everything you want all the time.Why is hate a problem to the baby? Because a baby has no way to moderate the intensity of her emotion - no life experience , no developed concept of time - if I’m hungry I am hungry forever - if I hate, I hate forever - and with those intense feelings come mental constructs or what we loosely call ‘fantasy’. It is almost impossible to feel strong emotions without some kind of visualisation or mental fantasy attached. We do not know exactly what the baby fantasises in those moments of intense hating, but they will surely be destructive fantasies, destructive of the absent milk, the absent breast, the absent mother. The same lack of life experience ensures that the baby will not be able to distinguish fantasy from reality, wish from action - after all the baby ‘wishes’ for milk, and generally it comes, like magic (which is probably what magic is based on). So the problem is that the love the baby needs to feel and does genuinely feel for the good mother when she is present is matched by a hate that can be felt to literally destroy the mother if she frustrates, which she cannot avoid doing. What a disaster, and what terror that must threaten - we all know what we feel afterwards if we ‘screw up’ through anger; for the baby it must be so much more intense.The solution is a form of denial: there are two mothers, one good, one bad. We love the mother Mary who rocks us in her arms, and we hate the wicked witch of the West who poisons us with bad (i.e. absent) milk (this experience being the origin of those two archetypes). According to Melanie Klein we spend the rest of our lives trying bit by bit to re-integrate these two maternal images back into the reality of a single whole reality; and this re-integration is the process and the template for so many other ‘splittings’ which have nothing to do with physical mothers at all. Those who fail to reintegrate this well enough we experience as a bit crazy - always being a bit extreme, loving and idealising at one moment, angry and paranoid the next. Those who reintegrate more will feel intermittently a bit depressed - the realisation repeated in every subsequent situation where anger is involved, that it was not a bad mother/brother/lover who we destroy in fantasy, but the same one we loved - and those individuals will likely seem saner, more in touch with reality.There are many detailed reasons why we may doubt ourselves, but I would suggest if you pose the question in this generalised way, you may be referring to the effects of this lifelong struggle to reintegrate the ‘good’ and the ‘bad’ of our experiences, which we all had to ‘split’ apart in order to survive psychologically in our early lives. We had to split our experience because, with a limited reality-sense, we were terrified that our intensity of hatred would destroy everything we loved. How can we ever know then that our love is stronger than our hate? That doubt continues, hopefully in diminishing degrees, but for the rest of our lives, and can be re-activated by so many circumstances.