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Many PI’s have found missing people in their careers. Sometimes, when people don’t want to be found, it can go badly. Most of the time, it can be joyous.I had been working on a case involving a 15 month baby girl. The mom and dad had a bad breakup due to mom’s use of illegal drugs.Because the father was the only parent that worked, his money ran out constantly, trying to pay for his baby’s needs, living costs and legal fees. He decided to ask his parents for financial help in which they had no problem whatsoever.So, the grandparents were my clients. They rarely got to see their granddaughter. They were medical doctors who had their own practice so that took up a lot of their time. They tried numerous times to make an appointment with the baby’s mom to see their granddaughter, only to be stood up again and again.Baby’s mom would disappear for days or weeks at a time with the baby only to eventually call baby’s father to come rescue her out of a’situation’ The ‘situation ‘ always involved having to pay off one of her drug dealers and driving mom and baby home.The court process is SLOW and father was fighting as much as he could to get custody of his daughter. The courts wanted both homes evaluated. Courts wanted lots and lots of hoops for father to jump through. I was getting evidence, little by little involving her drug use. It was just taking too long to do anything of significance.Finally, grandparents got a court ordered visitation with their granddaughter for the day. It was just a few hours because mom’s insistence that she was still breastfeeding the 15 month old. During the visit, grandparents, being good doctors, immediately noticed that the baby had some things medically wrong! They contacted a pediatrician they knew who immediately saw the child and took blood samples. The samples would take time for the laboratory to evaluate. This was 20 years ago and labs were slow in comparison to today.Grandparents reluctantly gave baby back to the mom when the visitation ended. They had good reason to worry, as it turned out. Part of the lab work came in the next day and what it showed, caused grandparents to call the attorney on a Saturday and get an ex parte (immediate court appearance) for the following Monday. Baby’s mom is notified as required by law of the ex parte hearing.Grandparents, father and their attorney show up for the hearing, lab work in hand. Mom or baby are nowhere to be found and didn’t show up for the hearing. Mom’s attorney was there though, so she was represented.The judge looked at the lab work and saw that the baby had at least THREE ILLEGAL DRUGS in her tiny body! Although mom’s attorney tried, they were unable to prevent the grandparents from getting legal, temporary custody. The problem was, where was the baby?I immediately got to work on finding mom and baby. So did the police. The amount of drugs in the baby’s system was high enough to warrant an immediate search that the police took seriously.I was able to find out the first name of a person that mom told a friend about. Mom said this person would hide her. With just a first name to go on usually would be almost impossible! I TRIED to work with the police but they weren’t going to have any of that. I did, however, give them the first name of the person I felt she was with.At that time, our investigation office was one of the first database oriented offices in the country. We had a LOT of public records from all over the country. We had information, the police didn’t!Thank God the person’s first name was unique. I found maybe 20 people in the state who had this first name. I can’t divulge how I found which name/address was the one, but grandparents and I were on the first plane we could get to Northern California. We rented a car at the airport and headed for the police station in the area where I knew Mom and baby were. The custody order was in hand. After learning of the dire situation, these police were AMAZING and we were all on our way to the address.When we got to the house, it turned out to be a well known drug house to the police. They went in and came out with mom and four other people in handcuffs. I guess the people couldn’t hide all the drugs quick enough and when they opened the door, the police had a visual of drugs and paraphernalia, giving them reasons to go into the house. One male officer, walked out, holding the baby. This officer had tears in his eyes. It was obvious that the baby was drugged. An ambulance was called and baby girl was ultimately taken to the children’s hospital in San Francisco where she remained for almost a week!We all stayed at a hotel for that week, going to the hospital daily to see the progress of the baby. Grandparents offered to fly me home, but I wanted to stay. We were now friends and I was going to stay and support this family however I could.So, as a trained investigator, I was able to find a missing baby, whose mother had been drugging with her breast milk. I only had a first name of someone to go on. I always thank the higher power that led us to save this innocent child.Father raised his daughter as a single parent. Mom, fortunately, didn’t remain in her daughter’s life. Grandparents doted on their granddaughter until they left this world about five years ago.

I hope you have a little time, I will be as brief as possible but feel I should talk about some events that lead up to my bad ass moment- lol… I have only 1 child (daughter) mom and I split before she was born- after birth the family prevented me from seeing her for roughly 4/5 months and rarely after that, I went to the town the mom lived to visit every other weekend ‘ well attempted visits… several months went by I was not able to locate my daughter and the grandmother said she hadn't heard from them- I had cops do a well check at last known address, no luck- I can remember it as if it was yesterday… I would call grandparents weekly following up, on one of the calls the grandmother admitted my daughter was with her… and had been- child protective services was involved, and my daughter was placed with grandparents- it was fathers day!!! So I called CPS, found out very little except for the mom and grandmother told CPS my location was unknown- I wasn't placed on birth certificate… anyways as I worked with CPS from my town things just kept getting postponed… I ended up moving where my daughter was… worked with CPS and daughter was placed with me just after her 2nd birthday, mom had rarely made attempts to keep in touch with daughter over the years to come…grandparents called weekly, I moved to another state purchased a home daughter and I lived 10 years no issues, one day while at work I received a call my daughters mom had showed up at her school- I had court orders with mom needing to be supervised during any visits- demanding daughter, cops were called, I was out of area about 90mins 2 hours top- before I got back in town, they allowed mom to leave with daughter, I was devastated!!! I know she was too… she fled 3 states away… you would think with court order I'd be fine…nope once she left the state we lived, they may as well have left the country… it was from the time places open to the time they closed trying to figure out what I needed to do… I was bounced from attorneys between 3 states… about 7 months go by, I had not spoke to my daughter, and spent thousands on traveling expenses by now- ultimately I had no choice but to hire an attorney in the state parenting plan was issued, I figured things would get going… I was called by the attorney a few months into things, he said the judge received a letter from my daughter (12 years old) saying to stop fighting for her… she didn't want to come back… I was in shock I could tell just as any involved parent would be able to that those were not words my daughter would use… the attorney pretty much flipped to moms side… now here comes my bad ass moment… I went to the state daughter was, picked her ass up… went home- of course mom called cops… so not trusting of my local law because they allowed an unfit mom to flee in the first place (I'll add this was all the result of pour law enforcement training!!!!) the mom should have been directed to local court to address custody issues…no cop has the power to issue orders like a judge dumb ass holes… anyways we went to a friend's house on a reservation not far from our home- met with tribal police, and a officer from the town next to the reservation- I spoke with tribal police explained everything, he talked with my daughter who is now 13 years old… he went and spoke with other officer, I was called over to speak with other officer, who had moms local police on the phone, threatening to have me arrested for parental kidnapping- by this time I pretty much knew the UCCJEA, which most courts must abide by, in that is a section that if your child is in danger or a harmful situation you do not have to return them, but must start legal action immediately on these grounds… they really tried to get me to releasing daughter to them… I refused… they left, she stayed, and that's my bad ass moment- a friend and I drove 3 states to rescue my daughter from an unfit mom, I'll add during the time she did have with daughter she was abusive… so love was not moms motive.. hopefully I did not bore everyone.. there is some more of course, but I'll save that for the chapters…lol- great question!!!

First, I would eliminate normal civil marriage. We need to start everyone out on a level playing field. I would eliminate a lot of the federal benefits of marriage; there is no reason why that one lifestyle should be privileged over others.Then, I would take the most important marriage rights; medical power of attorney, financial power of attorney, inheritance, hospital visits, financial sharing, benefits beneficiaries, etc., and list them on a long piece of paper with check boxes. People who want to get "married" could go to a clerk and fill out the boxes with the rights they want to designate to that person. They would be able to fill out multiple boxes for multiple people; for those rights that could come into conflict (like power of attorney), the form with the most recent date would overrule others if the bearers disagreed on something. Forms could also be voided at the grantee's discretion.Children should be handled completely separately from marriage. Biological parents (who are on the birth certificate) already have certain established rights and I think that works well. I think that the biological parents should also be able to designate secondary custodians (similar to how grandparents have certain rights with regards to their grandchildren in some states) as they choose; it would take both parents to grant such rights, but they should not be able to revoke them without proving the association is harmful to the children.