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With one limitation, yes.Now that you’ve scraped yourself off the ground and recovered from “a conservative Christian Bible-believing homeschool Mom just said she’d let her 15yr old daughter be sexually active and on birth control”, hear me out.If any hypothetical 15 year old daughter of mine is worrying about pregnancy, there are many conversations that are long over. We’re past the niceties and into a realm where I’m now providing a roof, love, and legal custody to a girl who is literally rebelling against her parents’ wishes.Let’s imagine she’s determined. We will theorize that I’m an invalid, her Dad is overseas for work, and she will go out with men regardless of what we say.Yes, she can go on birth control.Preventive birth control.There are options for women that do not terminate a conceived child. Yes, I believe that the moment sperm unites with egg there’s a child involved. And I could never enable murder.But medication, in whatever appropriate form, to actively ensure no conception will occur?Fine. Let’s go. What do I need to sign?As I said… were we to arrive at the point of having such a discussion, there’s a lot of water under the bridge. But parenting often means coming face to face with cold, hard impossibilities… impossibilities that fly in the face of your deepest and strongest beliefs.And in that moment, you find a way to face reality and yet stay true.Edited to clarify:Many are asking about birth control as a means of period regulation/comfort/dealing with hormonal complications. That would be a matter to discuss with my daughter’s OB/GYN.However, given the topics I write in frequently (I am a mother of toddler boys and write frequently on conservative Christian perspectives on birth control, sexual activity, premarital sex, teen sex, and abortion) and the fact that I receive a good number of A2As related to those perspectives… I have chosen to give this question a more specific answer related to a perspective I can speak knowledgeably regarding.

I live on the 9th floor.A floor below me, lives a small family of three; father, mother and their beautiful, kind-hearted, 15-yo daughter, Alina. I don't know her personally or have ever talked to her. But everyone in the building knows her. Even our watchman calls her by name. That's how I came to know her. She greets everyone. She loves planting flowers. She plays with every kid in the building. She is the kind of girl who will not have enemies, ever ! I hope so.Usually, I return home by 8 and I always see her, in school dress, in the lift. Always Upbeat!Yesterday, after doing a long, boring night-shift, I came home at around 11 in the morning. I entered the lift. I realized I won't be seeing her today. Smiling, I went to my room. Slept.An hour later, the cook, came hurriedly, woke me up in shock, saying, “Bhaiyya, wo 8th floor waali ladki balcony se gir gayi!!”. ( Sir, the girl on 8th floor fell from her balcony. )I ran towards the lift. In the lift, I was praying, “Please, God !! Let that news be false!!” I was begging.As I reached ground floor, there was a huge crowd. My heart sank. They were taking her to the hospital. I just got a glimpse of her 'Pooh’ hair clip. It was swinging down on her hair end. I was devastated.After an hour, her body came, as she had lost a lot of blood. Her mother was in shock-silence. Her father was crying like a baby. He would try to stand but couldn't and collapsed on the floor. I had never seen anyone cry like that in my life.In the evening, I came to know the saddest part:She hadn't fallen.Someone had seen her jump from the balcony.Then came the whole story.She wasn't good in one of the subjects. Her parents used to scold her. She had failed in her exams. Her teacher had punished her. He used to insult her in front of class. She was told that she wasn't the child her parents were expecting as they both were well educated and always a step up on path of life . She had ruined her family's reputation. The day she died, her parent (I'm not sure if mom or dad) didn't speak to her at all.She was getting emotionally tortured by her loved ones and teachers, everyday. She couldn't cope with that. She found it easier to end her life.At night, I went to their home. People were there in silence. The only voice I heard was of her father. He was asking for her forgiveness. Repeatedly. His wife was consoling him to get up from there.He said, “ Nahi. Aaj baat kar lene do meri gudia se. Kal chali jayegi. Uth jao, beta. Please uth jao. Alina. Alina!”. ( No. Let me talk to my doll, today. Tomorrow she'll be gone. Please get up, my princess. Please get up. Alina. Alina ! )He started crying as if he had lost his world. And I knew he had. I couldn't control my tears any longer and came outside.. . .If you're a teenager,Please do not end your life just because someone scolds you. Just because you failed in one subject. Forget one subject. If you have never passed a single exam. Its still not worth ending your life. Your parents love you. Its just that they sometimes cannot understand that Failure is also a step towards success.Please. Please. Please. I beg you. Never end your life. Whatever the reason is. Talk to someone you can share. Come online there will be many people to help you. Come to me. I'll be happy to help you. Everyone will. Trust me. Oh please, Trust me!Please don't end your life. I will not be able to bear losing any other Alina.Your parents will love to hear “I love you, mom/dad” from you.. . .If you're a parent,Why ? Why would you do something like this to your beloved one, your prince(ss). What would be the need of high, esteemed qualifications when there will be no one to celebrate with ?Don’t you know that a child understands more when you talk or explain them something, lovingly ?Then why would you do this ?Talk to them in the purest form of love. They will understand everything.If you have to show them anger, just do it in limits. But its your duty to talk to your child and explain, in as much warmness as you can, why you scolded them. And an apology would take you places. Trust me.Please be warm and calm with your kids.Your kids will love to hear “I love you, my child” from you.Marks are not everything. They are nothing, actually, as compared to your life.. . .If you're a teacher,“A child's brain is like an unbaked clay, you can mould it in whichever direction you want”.Do you know that you're second after their parents, to get a child's most time and attention ?Your presence, your words, your values get instilled in a child's mind easily.You're worshipped almost as equal to God. Can't you be at least humane, then ?You torture then. You abuse them. A lot of times, you'd realize that its not even the children's fault. It's your anger that you're passing on to them.Just ignite a conversation with them, they will open up to you. They might even tell you the things their parents had asked them not to share.I read somewhere, that everything bad, can be rooted back to the cause being negligence of education. And education and teacher are often synonymous.Be that. Be a teacher the world willingly needs. Be a teacher that makes a difference. Be a teacher who is liberal. Be a teacher who inspires the world.Yoy might know, a doctor fixes lives. A teacher, souls.. . .I wish I had talked to her more.. . .UPDATE (1–3–2019) — I'm thankful to each one of you, for nurturing this answer. I am overwhelmed by the response I got through this answer.Thank you so much for reading, sharing this message, or talking to me.. . .By the time of this incident, I didn't know the depth of the problem I was pointing out.I'm sad to say but Alina was not the only one who went through this. There are many more than you can imagine! My inbox is full of hundreds of conversations in which it is written “Please Help!”. And every message makes me cry inside.Many are so afraid to share their stories that they start the conversation by sending just a blank message. And then I have to convince them nothing will happen if they share with me. Many teenagers broke on the phone while talking to me. There were two incidents where I had rush to their city, to their home to calm them down, to talk to them (I have taken their permission to share).Not just teenagers, many of my age, are also suffering from somewhat same thing. They have slightly different problems though, they are broke, they don't have money, they have broken up, tortured for dowry (she is going to reveal her identity soon and will do a session with me), they are lonely, their family has disowned them. Believe me, the problem is a little bit more serious than you think.So I would request you all to please try talk to the person if they are looking a little bit into trauma or at least smile. It makes a huge impact.It's not like that nothing good happened.I met some beautiful minds, met people who understood that it is useless to end your life. How priceless life is ! Some are going to be Elon Musk, soon. Some of them are already Steve Jobs. Some are mathematicians (to be). Some write so well that you'd love to read their creativity. Some are born artists. I kid you not.I can't tell you how happy I'm that I'm able to help them. One of them said, “Itna asaan hai kya, Sir. Sach mein ? Main faltu hi dar rahi thi.”I'm proud of my generation. This generation is going to think according to logic not just emotions.While all this was happening, I met a pure heart I can't tell you how happy I'm meeting her. She is the kind of girl who will cheer you up no matter what in no time. She is such a cuteness, sweetness !! She was also one of the victims of life. About to end her life. But didn't.. . .I've said it earlier, and saying it againIf you need any help, please come to me. Want to share something, wanna talk to someone ? Feeling lonely ? Whatever the problem is.May be I can't solve your problem. But what if, what if, I can ?I don't know.One thing is for sure, anyone turning to me, I'm not going to let them go on the path on which Alina went. I'll try my best.Kindly, share this answer so that it reaches to the people in need.....Thank you for your time~Anas Ansari

When their children reach the teen years, many parents wonder why their kids suddenly need privacy. Learn the relationship between privacy and trust, why parents should usually respect their child's privacy and when it's appropriate for parents to snoop.The Link Between Privacy and TrustPrivacy issues stem from trust issues. Our teens want to be trusted to do more and more things.They want to be thought of as mature and capable of handling independence. It is wonderful when we can give our teens their space and privacy. Time alone, their diary and conversations with friends are examples of private areas we can offer our teens.Sometimes teens may have private conversations with their siblings that need to be respected as well. Sons may feel more comfortable confiding in their father about certain matters, while daughters may feel more comfortable confiding in their mothers. This is especially the case if romantic relationships or the physiological changes they're experiencing at this time are the subject at hand.Other Reasons Teens Need PrivacyTeens not only strive to be independent during adolescence, they also endure physical changes that make privacy during this age imperative. A daughter who always felt comfortable changing clothes in front of her mother may no longer want to disrobe in front of her.She may also lock her bedroom door or the bathroom door to ensure that her wish for privacy is respected.The Benefits of Giving Teens PrivacyWhen we give our teens the privacy they need, they become more independent and build their self-confidence. Balance between knowing what your teen is doing, trusting your teen to have some private matters and knowing when to step in is a fine line that parents walk every day.Trust your instincts.When to Invade a Teen's PrivacySometimes a parent may need to decide that it's time to snoop on their teens. Parents shouldn't take this step to find out why a teen had a fight with a friend or for another seemingly innocuous reason. Instead, they should reserve snooping if an adolescent shows signs of depression or of hurting himself or someone else.​If your child sleeps all the time, has lost interest in the hobbies that he used to enjoy, has become withdrawn, stopped socializing, or is showing other red signs, such as drug or alcohol use, it may be time to snoop. Snooping should never be the first move a parent makes under these circumstances, however.First, try to communicate with your teen about the changes in his behavior. Ask why he no longer wants to play on the basketball team or hang out with his best friend since kindergarten. Then, listen to what your child says. If all you get in response is a shrug or "I don't know," consider having your child see a therapist. If the teen directly states that he wants to harm himself or someone else, forget snooping and get medical help right away.Wrapping UpRespecting a teen's privacy is an important move to make if you want your child to believe you trust in her or that she's capable of some forms of independence.However, if your teen is showing major signs of acting out, it is likely necessary for you to invade her privacy to get her the help she needs as soon as possible.We all have secrets that we don’t want anyone to see. Especially when someone tries to go through my phone without my permission. I remember one time I showed my colleague a photo on my mobile phone because of my work, but he secretly browsed all the pictures in my gallery. I am very angry, although there is nothing strange in my phone. But this disrespect for my privacy is very disgusting.I like joking around with my friends but I don’t think trying to get some dirt on your friend’s cell is funny. I find it quite disrespectful.I know just a way to stop your parents from taking your phone. There are some apps that can lock your phone and no one can unlock it without your password. I know sometimes it might be hard for us to tell our parents to stay away from our phone. If you are afraid your parent would be angry for you to lock your phone, you can use the fake cover feature. it would make your phone looks like it’s not working well. There is an app that I have used before, it’s called: AppLock - Android Apps on Google Play