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The simple answer is, do nothing! Depending on the connection you once shared, this is likely not true. Break-ups are hard on both parties, no matter who started it. Often it’s the person who ends the relationship who has the most struggle (at least in the beginning). If you had a semi deep-deep connection. There’s a part of her that feels the same as you. She is NOT glad that you are happy! She’s putting on a front, just as you are. Which your initial question says all…. obviously you or someone told her you were happy without her, but you're not actually. It’s the same of her end. That she still talks to you shows that you are still on her mind.Silence speaks volumes!I bet after the breakup you promised her you would change; you understand that you were wrong and you promise to never do it again, that you love her so much, just please give it another chance? Yes, no? Yeah! We think this is the key to winning their heart back. With words? After the breakup, they’re completely over ‘words’ or empty promises. You’ve said all there was to say when it ended. Even worse, this behavior states one thing in big bold letters ‘NEEDY’. Surely you’ve been on that end? Some woman always texting you, won’t leave you alone at work, or always commenting on your social media, it’s irritating and extremely unattractive. As ‘needy’ people affect you this way, how is she affected when you act that way with her? You might as well just wave goodbye as the ship sets sail. Needy behavior will only accomplish to make things that much worse!No contact means no contact, unless you have exceptions like children together, work together or still live together are the only 3 exceptions to the rule aside from the utmost important 4th exception. She contacts you first. Now depending on the context of her contacting you delegate what response you give if any. Regarding your specific question and the context of her communication (did she specifically say she was glad you were happy without her… or did she say she was glad you were happy?). This is where you have to use your judgment.. some sites will advise you to ignore them no matter what. Personally, I don’t agree with that. Every relationship, break up and person are unique. Thusly, there is no correct answer as to ‘what to do,’ if the ex contacts first or says this n that. As long as it is NOT YOU starting contact. If your ex messages you something. Read it and determine if a response would benefit you. If not, don’t reply. If yes, then don’t answer straight away. Leave her on read for 15–20 mins… or maybe an hour or two. The next day she texts again with something else, leave her on read for a day (all depending on context and you using judgment for what gets put on read and for how long until you respond). The point of this is to show her you’re busy and have other or even better things to do than sit and chat with your ex. When you text back immediately, it could portray you as waiting.You’ve been waiting for days… she finally writes you. So excited!! If texted back right away it’s pretty well telling her, I’m still not doing anything but sitting home and pining over you. When she said 'I’m glad you're happy,'. Wait a good while and you could reply, 'I really appreciate that, I hope the same for you,'! You acknowledged ‘her’ text, gave ‘her’ gratitude for 'her' statement and lastly wished ‘her’ the same happiness. During this time, treat any form of communication with her as ‘business’. Cordial, friendly and to the point. Short, concise replies only. Too much wording is a tell that you care way more than you’re portraying. For the time being, don’t speak of yourself so much.Don’t tell her all the great things you’ve been doing and how happy you are.This will have the opposite effect you want. SHOW HER (actions speak louder than words). Think of it like this. You walk up to a woman and exclaim, 'Im absolutely rich and have more money than I know what to with'! Think of what her reaction might be and then compare it to this. You don’t tell her your rich, instead you’re driving your brand new Lambo, you stop at the red light, glancing over at her as she walks past; greeting her with nothing more than a smile. Which one would get the more positive/sincere reaction?Show your ex all the great things you’ve been doing and show her how happy you are. This can easily be done on social media or through mutual friends. Subtlety is necessary! Don’t be obvious, most people can smell bullshit a mile away, especially an ex who knows you so well. There is no fake it until you make it in these odds. Do or do not. Actions! Get out of bed and get it going!!Truly, one of the most important self help improvement you can do and the first thing I advise for all is to work out. Better than any other form of remedy, regular exercise helps stabilize your mood and eases anxiety and depression. By being more active physically, your brain will regulate all the wonderful neurotransmitters you’ve been lacking the last several weeks. Your mental health will undoubtedly improve and for a bonus feature it’s also sure fire way to give your confidence a huge boost. Join your local gym and then make a post about how you just joined and are looking for a workout partner. Maybe add a pic or two of you actually at the gym. The trick when making ‘all’ of your fb posts is to think ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you post will 100% be viewed by your ex. But never ‘targeting’ or putting a thin veil over it trying to ‘hide’ the real meaning behind it. Don’t post sad memes that target her or share sad songs. Post nothing negative or anything that she could even mistakenly think was directed at her. Unless she texts or calls you first, act and start feeling as if she doesn’t exist. You’re always happy and your world is the place to be at all times! She will see this and know it to be true (if it is). A warning, don’t put out a significant ‘goal’ like getting your body physically fit out there for all to see, only for you to give it up after a few days. Most unfortunate… Instead, commit!Perhaps you could go to the community center and find a new hobby, posting pics occasionally of your new craft. Start going back to school, trade school? Just anything and everything you can to #1 stay busy, #2 heal yourself, #3 identify negative attributes and qualities you posses and amend them as you are able, #4 reach a point where you seriously don’t care if she comes back or not. #5 by this time, if genuine effort was put in, the choice should really be yours as to if you want her back. No longer the other way around. It may not seem like it now, but it’s a highly conceivable outcome.Seriously, I cannot stress enough, if you attempt to fake anything, action or emotion and they catch on to it. The farther away she will be pushed. One thing I highly suggest doing is writing any phone numbers or contact info of hers on a piece of paper. Then hiding it in a very secure, hard to get to place. Delete any emails between the two, any pictures. Yes, these surely have sentimental value, so if you don’t want to delete everything, just make it hard to get too. A file in a file in a file. Delete phone number and everything that she will not be aware of that you are deleting. Don’t unfriend her on FB. She’ll eventually notice, and it will not have the reaction you want. Instead, leave her friended on your social media apps, but set it up so that none of her posts will be seen on your wall or timeline. Then, the only way that you could see her posts/profile would be to click into it on purpose (this is a big no no). Never go on her social media, it will bring nothing but more pain and despair. The idea behind all of this is a semblance of out of sight, out of mind. So no liking or sharing posts they’ve made, just stay completely away from her social media during no contact. Studies show this deleting of info and making her out of sight out of mind is a pivotal component in your healing process during no contact. As a, you don’t have to worry about even seeing her name when you're looking through your contacts for a number. I distinctly remember how just reading her name would stir up a hurricane of turmoil. Let alone pics and anything else you have high value regarding her. After all contact info is deleted, the next step is to gather any belongings that are hers, that were once both of yours or anything at all that reminds you of her. Put it all in a box and hide it in the deepest, darkest crevice of the attic or basement.Most people only see the no contact rule as a means of ‘ignoring,’ her or him for a certain amount of time, and eventually they miss you and return. That may be true sometimes, but more often than not, those re-established relationships will end in failure. In actuality, the no contact rule is a double-edged sword. It shows her you have self control and if done correctly, it shows her you no longer need her and can be/are happy without her. The hardcore kick in the ass is, this time-period is more so for you to get over her, becoming the man she always knew you could. Only you're not changing for her, your changing for yourself! Bettering yourself to the best ability is the goal! The double-edged sword? The no contact itself is very effective. Especially if your ex was the 'needy,' one. Or perhaps since the break up, you became the needy one, pleading and begging. Either way, for a long time period, your ex thrived off of you, your reactions, your comments and your emotions. Now suddenly, unknowingly to her, no contact starts.. all that attention goes... poof! With everything you’ve been showing on FB, and it all being genuine, seemingly so busy all the time now. You can barely fit in anytime for her. She sees your posts. The pics of your new physical self and your new friends you met at the gym or community center. Yes, she sees them. She has looked and will continue to do so. Post nothing that will cause her a negative reaction or misinterpretation. Then her doubts about her decision set in. She’ll start missing you, and cannot help but be pulled towards you, a new found attraction forming for you. All because she sees’s the change for the first time. It isn't empty words. Physically and mentally better throughout! All because of all your hard work, dedication and willpower.Then, next are a few attractive qualities that are a necessity with any woman, not just your ex. She notices you’ve been getting attention from other females, attractive females, but you don’t seem to care. This triggering deeply ingrained instincts. The first of which, preselection. Preselection is essentially the creator of opportunities with the opposite sex. The more attractive qualities you have, the more pre selected you are. So in this case, when she realizes other attractive females are showing attention, unease and fear sets in. 'No, wait a minute, he’s supposed to love ME'! She might think, 'oh hell no, that’s my man bitch,... you get the idea. But the first real threat of her losing you has occurred. When you can attract the attention of other females, that alone will cause her to be attracted to you again. Let’s see, you are a man that is humble and rich with culture and intelligence. A leader. You know how to speak to woman and provoke a positive response out of them, aka you make them laugh. Just getting them to laugh, they will know right away that you are a fun person. You take care of yourself, well groomed, exercise. Not essential for some, but as a whole, people who are better groomed and are in shape are more successful in life than those who are lacking in that area. You're your ex isn’t the ‘shallow’ type? Truly not caring if you were ‘Fat Bastard’ or ‘Fabio’. Irregardless, if physical improvement has taken place, she will sure as shit notice, acknowledging the effort (action) that it took to get there. The attraction is definitely starting to take root.At that point, you should be able and willing to reach out to her (once you're over her and can have a logical sound mind when speaking to her) and begin rebuilding everything from the ground up. Timing and knowing when to try. When and how to text/call her. The no contact period is over now, text/call as you will. Use caution! this period of rebuilding is extremely fragile. The slightest ‘oof’The point blank truth is, you and here are no longer together. The relationship you had will never be again. It’s not possible because those two people no longer exist. Your experience together and the outcome have changed you in some form or fashion. Now, you’ve probably lost all knowledge of who ‘you’ are. Lost the understanding that you deserve to be happy and deserve to be loved. It’s not all about her, my friend. Find yourself again… for example, you’re doing no contact a few weeks go by, you have done nothing to change for the better. Ignored her but low and behold after 3–4 weeks, she calls you and wants to ‘talk’. You do so, and the two of you have a reconciliation. I’d bet a good 97% (I no clue for actual percentage!!) chance the ‘rekindled’ relationship would come to the same end, and for nigh the same reasons the first split happened. Neither of you did anything to change the circumstances.The no contact rule… is for yourself, not for her. The reality of ‘no contact’ is… you are not to contact her until AFTER you are over her (ever wondered why there are different time frames to different no contacts? The timing you choose is supposed to be an assumption of how long it will take you to heal/get over her) and sincerely couldn’t care less if you were together or not. In this current time of self reflection and betterment of the self, your goal is to be the best you possible. So think back to the ‘peak’ of your relationship. The all time best! How did you act with her, talk to her, you were confident? I’m sure. At ease and eager to learn everything about this person you can. Somewhere along the line, things started changing.The break up was not 100% your fault, nor her, you both had equal share in the faults, I say this because after the most heart wrenching break up of my life, my ex had me firmly and adamantly believing I was completely at fault. However, during my own now contact is when realized the extreme error of this. That we ‘both’ were the cause. The true fault was when she and I didn’t communicate or issues, holding them in and letting them build. Always communicate!As I’m sure you already have been, try to do some serious soul searching. Compare the man you were when you met her, to the man you were at the end of the relationship and now. What is different? If you can derive an answer, that’s the perfect place to start with your emotional and cognitive growth. Only with complete and absolute surrender will you discover your true self. Name these negative qualities/attributes and thoughts. Familiarize yourself with how they came about, how did you react. How did the ‘negative quality/thought' stop? Or what caused you stopping its portrayal? You literally have to dissect everything and break it down. Learn to become your full potential as a man, human, and person. Use it all!! Of course every relationship, break up and people are quite unique. Therefore, it impossible to tell you specifics of do or don’t. However, if all I’ve written; most or even little is used, the chances of getting her back increase. But only if done correctly and with proper timing; (use your own judgment and gut to specify how and when) everything above is a short, sweet but yet a concise template to go by. I stand by my do’s or do not,’ listed. Your goal is very much an attainable one! Have a question? I will contrive a sound and logical answer!