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The answer is partially explained by your details: You and your wife have two young children and the sad truth is that while your wife is bonding with your children, her relationship with you is deteriorating.Why is this?Because while married couples think having children will bring them closer together, the reality is that it doesn’t.In fact children completely disrupt the mechanisms of marriage. Whereas prior to children you both had time for the little juicy things that spark intimacy and nurture sexuality, there is no time for that now.[1] Having children often leads to greater separation and less intimacy - not just sexual intimacy, I mean really deep emotional intimacy which sets the stage for stoking deep sexual desire.The situation is not helped at all by the separation of roles and duties which occur after having children. Because quite often someone in the family has to stay at home to care for the children, at least for a while, and the other person has to be the breadwinner.There is a particularly cruel dynamic which then forms and it goes like this: The husband or whomever is the main breadwinner comes home from a day of work. They enter the house, look around and ask, “What have you been doing all day?” In reality the stay at home spouse has done 1,000 small bits of constant vigilant care of the children which is like a slow vampiric sucking of energy, a slow death by 1,000 tiny cuts. Yet all this exhausting work yields no tangible visible results. In fact the place looks like a total train wreck. Or conversely the stay at home parent knocks themself out trying to maintain the previous pre-kid lifestyle of keeping the house neat and tidy simultaneously while caring for tiny relentless manic mess makers. I love this quote from comedian Jerry Seinfeld, which sums up this scenario well, “Having a two year old is like having a blender, but you don’t have a top for it.”To make matters worse, while the husband is looking around scratching his head and wondering what his stay at home wife has been doing all day, his wife exclaims, “Oh thank God you are home! Can you take care of the kids now, please?” The husband has arrived home after a very tiring and stress filled day of work and just wants to rest and have some care and nurturing himself. But the wife has no energy to give towards the husband’s needs. While the husband just wants some appreciation and nurturing, and sex at some point, the wife has no energy to devote toward any more caregiving. Her caregiving bank is utterly depleted of funds, and so is her sex drive.There is another element to this scenario as well, which is that the wife may resent that her husband’s life is pretty much the same as it was prior to children. He gets up, goes to work, and gets on with life just like before having children. She on the other hand may have put a rather exciting career or education track into long term cold storage. Instead of career opportunities or stimulating university classes her existence is completely reduced down to pure mundane drudgery of laundry, cleaning, feeding, dirty diapers, and ugly spit up stained frumpy clothes.So what is the deal with your wife and why isn’t she interested in sex? Well, she is rundown, chronically tired and might have some real physical issues from giving birth, but my bet is that she is harboring simmering resentment and perhaps depression as well. This whole situation between the two of you is a multi-year silent argument which has never been verbalized nor dealt with head on. This situation did not happen overnight; this is a story of missed opportunities by both of you and a slow drifting apart and gradual erosion of mutual respect.So just to cover all the possibilities of why your wife is not interested in sex let’s examine common motherhood underlying physical issues:Sleep Deprivation: Two years is a really long time to go without sex, however if your wife is still getting up at night to deal with the kids for whatever reason - feeding, diapers, crying - she might be exhausted from years without sleep. Sleep deprivation is a form of torture, and it is a real thing. Continual lack of sleep kills any sex drive. Hell, it sort of kills your brain. There are studies that show cognitive brain ability actually lowers during pregnancy and continues for many months after birth.[2]Physical pain during sex after giving birth: Bodily changes happen after birth sometimes making sex painful or difficult. Have you asked your wife if this is the case? Sometimes excess dryness during sex or problems resulting from birth tearing makes sex very uncomfortable.Depression: Your wife might be suffering from post-partum depression which sucks all the joy out of anything. Not only do you feel numb, but you just are sort of barely existing. If not post-partum depression, she might have chronic untreated depression. I went through depression when my kids were 2 and 4 years old. I think it was due to the chronic accumulation of years of lack of sleep, some seriously messed up hormones and continual high stress levels of parenting young kids. This toxic recipe just did a number on my body.If none of these physical based issues is the underlying problem, I think it is worth investigating the high probability that simmering resentment and anger held by your wife is the basis for her stonewalling the relationship. In fact, my money is on this as the actual problem.So how can you help get your wife’s sexual mojo back?Help arrange some childcare.The best thing I did to get my mojo back was to get the kids in a daycare for a few hours two or three days a week on a schedule. I got to sleep, wash my hair, put some nice clothes on for a refreshing change and just simply get out of the house and renew my neglected girlfriend network of friends. It helped me to step away for a few hours from the role of mother and be free from my much loved but needy little munchkins clawing all over me physically demanding constant attention. It helped me revitalize.2. Set up weekly dates, like you did when dating.It can be as simple and inexpensive as setting up a picnic to a park. The idea is to renew those moments of emotional intimacy and closeness, as many women need to feel emotionally safe and loved before they can feel sexual. Additionally it needs to be without the munchkins, so it is just you and your wife. You and your wife need to date again and renew your relationship with each other to find connection which has been lost. You will not connect sexually with your wife until you connect mentally and emotionally.3. Get some help with the housework.Yes, I realize your wife is a stay at home mother ( I read your comments on this) and she can do the laundry, the cleaning, etc. But the reality is that for her to renew she needs some time away from the never ending drudgery. Believe me, no one feels sexy after a day of household chores, plus caring for demanding children.4. Be around your wife physically without pushing sex.I acknowledge that you are truly needing sex, and two years with no sexual contact would make any man angry and desperate. Kudos for you enduring this really challenging situation. But if you can simply be around your wife like you did when you dated her without sex, it will help renew those emotional bonds. To me the bigger deal is that she is shut off from you not only physically but emotionally as well. Until you can get to the heart of the emotional issues you will not get to the sexual issues.5. Invest in at least a month of marital counseling.Withholding sex from you might be her way of lashing out at you. Your job is to see if you can discover why she is angry and start a shift in the deadlocked marriage dynamic you guys are currently trapped within. Marriage counseling might go a long way to help safely vent and the counselor also acts as a neutral third party to help mediate through emotional land mines. I can personally recommend Imago therapy, based on the theories of Dr. Harville Hendricks which are completely eye-opening. Link here: What Is Imago Relationship Therapy? If your wife is not willing to go, then going alone is often still effective as you will learn skills which you don’t currently possess and this can trigger real change. Dr. Hendricks book is fantastic as well: Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples: Harville Hendrix: 9780805068955: Amazon.com: Books6. Read up or listen to books on tape regarding this very situation to get some insight and strategies.Here is a book on this very issue: The Sex-Starved Husband's Guide: Get unstuck, win her heart back, and reignite your sex life: Jeff Borkoski: 978099765611: Amazon.com: BooksThere is a saying: “What you feed is what grows.” Unfortunately the only thing being fed right now in your marriage is separation and resentment and both of you are starving in different ways.TL/DR (Too Long, Didn't read) _____________For those people who are not big readers, try this TedTalk video for starters on the dynamics of a sex starved marriage.Footnotes[1] Why having children is bad for your marriage[2] Is “Mom Brain” a Real Thing?

Honestly, I don't want to kill your mojo here but you kinda cant.For a start your set up will make you a non-starter, potential viewers won't watch “off-screen” captures. Next your 360, its a great machine but it also about to become 2 generations out of date, finally Skyrim, as live streaming goes, is largely played out.Point 2 and 3 feed into each other nicely, You see there isn't anything left to show in vanilla Skyrim. I mean sure you could do a full on role play run but your set up will undermine that no end. The only interest in Skyrim lets plays/streams/YouTubers now are mods, you can only get mods on Xbox One or PC (the PS4 mod situation is still flakey).But let's say you want to try this anyway. I’m going to assume you don’t have a capture card so you can’t record your face and the screen at the same time.Set your phone camera on a mount/stand/wedged in some books. this needs to be steady and consistent every time you play.You want as much of the game screen in the shot as possible, ideally, you want your recording to be 99% gameplay.since your not using a capture card, your phone will have to capture your voice and the game audio… which is going to be tricky to balance. You need your viewers to be able to hear you and your game without having to alter their volume every time you talk. you may want the camera to be in between you and the TV (but this will need testing)Record then watch a few practices runs, this should give you some clue on what is working and what isn’t with your set up. Get this right before you start uploading or live streaming.Don't expect much, it takes time to build an online audience even with a fantastic setup. I recommend you lean into the fact your “low fi” If you can get set up where you or the game doesn't explode a viewer's ears maybe grab some retro systems or even handhelds, stuff that kinda a pain to do with a “traditional” set up

My biggest worry wouldn't be the number of sales you'll get on themeforest but getting the theme accepted. The review process is no where close to being transparent, and the community doesn't offer much help in guiding you to the the right direction.If you believe in your skills, create a theme, set up a themeshop, or use creative market and mojo :) ,That's what i did and I haven't looked back.