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There are many signs of narcissism. Hopefully this article clarifies what some of the signs are. This is one of many excellent articles from Psychology Today..10 Signs That You're in a Relationship with a NarcissistBe on the lookout for these, before you get manipulated.Posted Sep 14, 2014“That’s enough of me talking about myself; let’s hear you talk about me”― Anonymous“It’s not easy being superior to everyone I know.”― AnonymousPsychologist Stephen Johnson writes that the narcissist is someone who has “buried his true self-expression in response to early injuries and replaced it with a highly developed, compensatory false self.” This alternate persona to the real self often comes across as grandiose, “above others,” self-absorbed, and highly conceited. In our highly individualistic and externally driven society, mild to severe forms of narcissism are not only pervasive but often encouraged.Narcissism is often interpreted in popular culture as a person who’s in love with him or herself. It is more accurate to characterize the pathological narcissist as someone who’s in love with an idealized self-image, which they project in order to avoid feeling (and being seen as) the real, disenfranchised, wounded self. Deep down, most pathological narcissists feel like the “ugly duckling,” even if they painfully don’t want to admit it.How do you know when you’re dealing with a narcissist? The following are some telltale signs, excerpted from my book (click on title): “How to Successfully Handle Narcissists”. While most of us are guilty of some of the following behaviors at one time or another, a pathological narcissist tends to dwell habitually in several of the following personas, while remaining largely unaware of (or unconcerned with) how his or her actions affect others.1. Conversation Hoarder. The narcissist loves to talk about him or herself, and doesn’t give you a chance to take part in a two-way conversation. You struggle to have your views and feelings heard. When you do get a word in, if it’s not in agreement with the narcissist, your comments are likely to be corrected, dismissed, or ignored.“My father’s favorite responses to my views were: ‘but…,’ ‘actually…,’ and ‘there’s more to it than this…’ He always has to feel like he knows better.”― Anonymous2. Conversation Interrupter. While many people have the poor communication habit of interrupting others, the narcissist interrupts and quickly switches the focus back to herself. He shows little genuine interest in you.3. Rule Breaker. The narcissist enjoys getting away with violating rules and social norms, such as cutting in line, chronic under-tipping (some will overtip to show off), stealing office supplies, breaking multiple appointments, or disobeying traffic laws.“I take pride in persuading people to give me exceptions to their rules”― Anonymous4. Boundary Violator. Shows wanton disregard for other people’s thoughts, feelings, possessions, and physical space. Oversteps and uses others without consideration or sensitivity. Borrows items or money without returning. Breaks promises and obligations repeatedly. Shows little remorse and blames the victim for one’s own lack of respect.“It’s your fault that I forgot because you didn’t remind me”― Anonymous5. False Image Projection. Many narcissists like to do things to impress others by making themselves look good externally. This “trophy” complex can exhibit itself physically, romantically, sexually, socially, religiously, financially, materially, professionally, academically, or culturally. In these situations, the narcissist uses people, objects, status, and/or accomplishments to represent the self, substituting for the perceived, inadequate “real” self. These grandstanding “merit badges” are often exaggerated. The underlying message of this type of display is: “I’m better than you!” or “Look at how special I am—I’m worthy of everyone’s love, admiration, and acceptance!”“I dyed my hair blond and enlarged my breasts to get men’s attention—and to make other women jealous”― Anonymous“My accomplishments are everything”― Anonymous executive“I never want to be looked upon as poor. My fiancé and I each drive a Mercedes. The best man at our upcoming wedding also drives a Mercedes.”― AnonymousIn a big way, these external symbols become pivotal parts of the narcissist’s false identity, replacing the real and injured self.6. Entitlement. Narcissists often expect preferential treatment from others. They expect others to cater (often instantly) to their needs, without being considerate in return. In their mindset, the world revolves around them.7. Charmer. Narcissists can be very charismatic and persuasive. When they’re interested in you (for their own gratification), they make you feel very special and wanted. However, once they lose interest in you (most likely after they’ve gotten what they want, or became bored), they may drop you without a second thought. A narcissist can be very engaging and sociable, as long as you’re fulfilling what she desires, and giving her all of your attention.8. Grandiose Personality. Thinking of oneself as a hero or heroine, a prince or princess, or one of a kind special person. Some narcissists have an exaggerated sense of self-importance, believing that others cannot live or survive without his or her magnificent contributions.“I’m looking for a man who will treat my daughter and me like princesses”― Anonymous singles ad“Once again I saved the day—without me, they’re nothing”― Anonymous9. Negative Emotions. Many narcissists enjoy spreading and arousing negative emotions to gain attention, feel powerful, and keep you insecure and off-balance. They are easily upset at any real or perceived slights or inattentiveness. They may throw a tantrum if you disagree with their views, or fail to meet their expectations. They are extremely sensitive to criticism, and typically respond with heated argument (fight) or cold detachment (flight). On the other hand, narcissists are often quick to judge, criticize, ridicule, and blame you. Some narcissists are emotionally abusive. By making you feel inferior, they boost their fragile ego, and feel better about themselves.“Some people try to be tall by cutting off the heads of others”— Paramhansa Yogananda10. Manipulation: Using Others as an Extension of Self. Making decisions for others to suit one’s own needs. The narcissist may use his or her romantic partner, child, friend, or colleague to meet unreasonable self-serving needs, fulfill unrealized dreams, or cover up self-perceived inadequacies and flaws.“If my son doesn’t grow up to be a professional baseball player, I’ll disown him”― Anonymous father“Aren’t you beautiful? Aren’t you beautiful? You’re going to be just as pretty as mommy”― Anonymous motherAnother way narcissists manipulate is through guilt, such as proclaiming, “I’ve given you so much, and you’re so ungrateful,” or, “I’m a victim—you must help me or you’re not a good person.” They hijack your emotions, and beguile you to make unreasonable sacrifices.If you find yourself in a relationship with a difficult narcissist, there are many strategies and skills you can utilize to help restore health, balance, and respect. In my book (click on title): “How to Successfully Handle Narcissists,” you'll learn how to maintain composure, ways to be proactive instead of reactive, seven powerful strategies to handle narcissists, eight ways to say “no” diplomatically but firmly, keys to negotiate successfully with narcissists, and seven types of power you can utilize to compel cooperation.Also available: (click on title):"A Practical Guide for Narcissists to Change Towards the Higher Self"Source: Preston Ni, Communication CoachingSource: Preston Ni, Communication CoachingFollow me on Twitter, Facebook, and LinkedIn!Preston Ni, M.S.B.A. is available as a presenter, workshop facilitator, and private coach. For more information, write to [email protected], or visit www.nipreston.com.

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Be warned though - this answer is going to be a massive book dump! :DHistoryIntroductory textsNCERT books - 9th-12thJeremy Black (Editor) - Encyclopedia of World HistoryJared Diamond - Guns, Germs and SteelImportant booksKarl Polanyi - The Great Transformation: The Political and Economic Origins of Our TimesCharles Tilly - Coercion, Capital and European States, AD 990-1990Charles Tilly - The Formation of National States in Western EuropePrasannan Parthasarathi - Why Europe Grew Rich, and Asia Did Not: Global Economic Divergence, 1600-1850Benedict Anderson - Imagined Communities: Reflections on the Origin and Spread of NationalismHarbans Mukhia - The Mughals of IndiaImmanuel Wallerstein - The Modern World SystemPaul Kennedy - The Rise and Fall of Great Powers: Economic Change and Military Conflict from 1500 to 2000Further ReadingRomila Thapar - Cultural PastsPaul Schroeder - The Transformation of European Politics, 1763-1848David Graeber - Debt: The First 5000 YearsPerry Anderson - Lineages of an Absolutist StateThomas Kuhn - The Copernican Revolution: Planetary Astronomy in the Development of Western ThoughtEconomic Theory/Political EconomyIntroductory TextsGregory Mankiw - Principles of EconomicsHa-Joon Chang - Economics: The User’s Guide: A Pelican IntroductionImportant BooksGregory Mankiw - MacroeconomicsHal Varian - Intermediate Microeconomics: A Modern ApproachRobert Carbaugh - International EconomicsPaul Krugman, Maurice Obstfeld, Marc Melitz - International Economics: Theory and PolicyFurther ReadingAdam Smith - Wealth of NationsKarl Marx - The CapitalJohn Maynard Keynes - The General Theory of Employment, Interest and MoneyJoseph Stiglitz - Globalization and Its DiscontentsThomas Piketty - Capital in the 21st CenturyFriedrich List - National System of Political EconomyPrince Peter Kropotkin - The Conquest of BreadPrince Peter Kropotkin - Fields, Factories and WorkshopsHa-Joon Chang - 23 Things They Don’t Tell You About CapitalismHenry Hazlitt - Economics in One LessonFriedrich Hayek - The Road to SerfdomMilton Friedman - Capitalism and FreedomAlbert O Hirschman - The Passions and the Interests: Political Arguments for Capitalism Before Its TriumphJoseph Stiglitz - The Price of Inequality: How Today’s Divided Society Endangers Our FutureJoseph Stiglitz - Freefall: America, Free Markets, and the Sinking of the World EconomyRobert Heilbroner - The Worldly Philosophers: The Lives, Times and Ideas of the Great Economic ThinkersLee Boldeman - The Cult of the Market: Economic Fundamentalism and its DiscontentsWestern PhilosophyIntroductory TextsWill Durant - The Story of PhilosophyBertrand Russell - A History of Western PhilosophyImportant BooksPlato - RepublicAristotle - Nicomachean EthicsRene Descartes - Discourse on MethodDavid Hume - A Treatise on Human NatureWilliam Hegel - The Phenomenology of SpiritKarl Marx - The German IdeologyFriedrich Nietzsche - Beyond Good and EvilLudwig Wittgenstein - Tractatus Logico-PhilosophicusLudwig Wittgenstein - Philosophical InvestigationsImportant ArticlesImmanuel Kant - What is Enlightenment?Further ReadingImmanuel Kant - Critique of Pure ReasonImmanuel Kant - Critique of Practical ReasonFriedrich Nietzsche - Thus Spoke ZarathustraG.E. Moore - Principia EthicaMartin Heidegger - Being and TimeJacques Derrida - Of GrammatologyHans-Georg Gadamer - Truth and MethodMary Midgley - Beast and Man: Roots of Human NatureRichard Rorty - Philosophy and the Mirror of NaturePolitical Theory/PhilosophyIntroductory TextsHarvey Mansfield - A Student’s Guide to Political PhilosophyImportant BooksPlato - RepublicAristotle - Nicomachean EthicsAristotle - PoliticsNiccolo Machiavelli - The PrinceNiccolo Machiavelli - DiscoursesThomas Hobbes - LeviathanJohn Locke - Two Treatises of GovernmentJean-Jacques Rousseau - The Social ContractAdam Smith - The Theory of Moral SentimentsImmanuel Kant - Groundwork for Metaphysics of MoralsWilliam Hegel - Philosophy of RightKarl Marx - The Communist ManifestoJohn Stuart Mill - On LibertyIsaiah Berlin - Two Concepts of LibertyJohn Rawls - A Theory of JusticeRobert Nozick - Anarchy, State and UtopiaJurgen Habermas - The Structural Transformation of the Public SphereFurther ReadingConfucius - The AnalectsGandhi - Hind SwarajEdmund Burke - Reflections on the Revolution in FranceThomas Paine - The Rights of ManAlexis de Tocqueville - Democracy in AmericaJames Burnham - The Machiavellians, Defenders of FreedomLarry Siedentop - Inventing the IndividualJames C Scott - Seeing Like A StateAlasdair Macintyre - After VirtueHannah Arendt - Origins of TotalitarianismAmartya Sen - The Idea of JusticeInternational Relations/Foreign PolicyIntroductory TextsRobert Jackson, Georg Sorensen - Introduction to International Relations: Theories and ApproachesRichard Mansbach, Kirsten Rafferty - Introduction to Global PoliticsImportant BooksKarl von Clausewitz - On WarE.H. Carr - Twenty Years Crisis 1919-1939Hans Morgenthau - Politics Among NationsKenneth Waltz - Theory of International PoliticsJohn Mearsheimer - Tragedy of Great Power PoliticsRobert Keohane - After HegemonyAlexander Wendt - Social Theory of International PoliticsImportant ArticlesKenneth Waltz - Nuclear Myths and Political RealitiesDaniel Deudney, John Ikenberry - The Nature and Sources of Liberal International OrderRobert Keohane - International Institutions: Can Interdependence Work?Alexander Wendt - Constructing International PoliticsAlexander Wendt - Anarchy is what States Make of itRobert Keohane - Ideas Part-Way DownYale Ferguson, Richard Mansbach - Polities Past and PresentChristian Reus Smit - Reading History Through Constructivist EyesMary Kaldor - American Power: From ‘Compellence’ to Cosmopolitanism?Kathryn Sikkink - Transnational Politics, International Relations Theory, and Human RightsFurther ReadingHedley Bull - Anarchical SocietyJ. Ann Tickner - Gendering World PoliticsRobbie Shilliam - International Relations and Non-Western ThoughtAmitava Acharya, Barry Buzan - Non-Western International Relations TheoryFred Chernoff - Theory and Metatheory in International RelationsJohn Mearsheimer, Stephen Walt - The Israel Lobby and US Foreign PolicyNoam Chomsky - Hegemony or Survival: America’s Quest for Global DominanceSamuel Huntington - Clash of CivilizationsSocial TheoryIntroductory TextsPaul Ransome - Social TheoryImportant BooksMax Weber - The Protestant Ethic and the Spirit of CapitalismHenri Lefebvre - Everyday Life in the Modern WorldPierre Bourdieu - The Logic of PracticeMichel Foucault - Discipline and Punish: The Birth of the PrisonMichel Foucault - The Archaeology of Knowledge and the Discourse on LanguageEdward Said - OrientalismJean-Francois Lyotard - The Postmodern ConditionDavid Harvey - The Condition of Postmodernity: An Enquiry into the Origins of Cultural ChangeAnthony Giddens - The Consequences of ModernityArjun Appadurai - Modernity at Large: Cultural Dimensions of GlobalizationZygmunt Bauman - Liquid ModernityFurther ReadingMax Weber - Politics as a VocationAshis Nandy - The Intimate Enemy: Loss and Recovery of Self Under ColonialismLouis Dumont - Essays on Individualism: Modern Ideology in Anthropological PerspectiveBent Flyvbjerg - Making Social Sciences Matter: Why Social Enquiry Fails and How It Can Succeed AgainUlrich Beck - World Risk SocietyMichel Foucault - Madness and CivilizationMichel Foucault - The Order of ThingsDevelopment TheoryIntroductory TextsRichard Peet, Elaine Hartwick - Theories of Development: Contentions, Arguments, AlternativesAndrea Cornwall, Deborah Eade (Editors) - Deconstructing Development Discourse: Buzzwords and FuzzwordsImportant BooksErik Reinert - How Rich Countries Got Rich, and Why Poor Countries Stay PoorSeymour Martin Lipset - Political ManSamuel Huntington - Political Order in Changing SocietiesE.F. Schumacher - Small Is BeautifulNaila Kabeer - Reversed Realities: Gender Hierarchies in Development ThoughtChalmers Johnson - MITI and the Japanese MiracleAmartya Sen - Development as FreedomPeter Rogers, Kazi Jalal, John Boyd - An Introduction to Sustainable DevelopmentRobert Chambers - Rural Development: Putting the Last FirstImportant ArticlesHa-Joon Chang - Breaking the Mould: An Institutionalist Political Economy Alternative to the Neo-liberal Theory of the Market and the StateJoseph Stiglitz - Some Lessons from the East Asian MiracleMark Beeson - Developmental States in East Asia: A Comparison of the Japanese and Chinese ExperiencesJohn Knight - China as a Developmental StateShigehisa Kasahara - The Asian Developmental State and the Flying Geese ParadigmJoseph Wong - The Adaptive Developmental State in East AsiaFurther ReadingAtul Kohli - State-Directed Development: Political Power and Industrialization in the Global PeripheryPrince Peter Kropotkin - Conquest of BreadPrince Peter Kropotkin - Fields, Factories and WorkshopsIvan Illich - Deschooling SocietyHa-Joon Chang - Reclaiming Development: An Economic Policy Handbook for Activists and PolicymakersHa-Joon Chang - Kicking Away the LadderPeter Evans - Embedded Autonomy: States and Industrial TransformationDani Rodrik - One Economics, Many Recipes: Globalization, Institutions, and Economic GrowthDaron Acemoglu - Why Nations Fail: The Origins of Power, Prosperity and PovertyJohn Minns - The Politics of Developmentalism: The Midas States of Mexico, South Korea and TaiwanI hope I've scared you off enough :PIf you just go through the introductory texts alone for all these disciplines, that will give you a lot of knowledge. If you want to read any specific books in this list, but you're not sure if you have the pre-requisite knowledge for it, just message me. I'll be able to point you to easier sources that might help you understand complex things more easily.