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Geez where do I begin.My story is long, complicated, terrible, and I update this post frequently. It jumps around from stories, examples and theories but I hope anyone who reads this can get comfort from my story in the sense that no matter what you see or hear from a cluster B in public, through the phone, text, social media, or friends, their life is a chaotic mess of destruction that in the end will affect them the most.I have asked the same question and I feel like I know what you are actually searching for (I may be wrong and if so I apologize) which is “will the cluster B in my life get their comeuppance? Will their next source of supply be discarded and treated the way I was ? Will cosmic justice come to them because seeing them just get away with what they have done haunts me and they don’t deserve to treat people this way, I need to see examples and evidence that this will happen so I can feel comfort, I know I’m not alone in being abused by a cluster B, but where is the justice?”so here is pure hard evidence that their lives crumble and honestly were always crumbling before and after you are discarded.timeline- June 2019- me, salary job paying 6k a month full retirement on the horizon, just got promoted just, got a huge bonus. My wife good starting career 4K a month, she is moving fast and looking at a multi branch management job. “our” 6 month old child, no debt, we trying for another baby, new cars, looking at homes. Planning on moving to NYC area which is where I am from, to go make more money and live where all my family and friends are (I live a thousand miles away in her home city) Life is on the up and up, we were honestly happy.From July 2019 to early March 2020 this has what my wife decided to do- while I’m on a work trip she has a 5 day affair with coworker/new supply (human garbage who knew me and knew we were married) and my wife moves into their place (some no name town in the sticks) with our child, who knows what horseshit she fed the new supply to convince them this was a good idea, I figure smearing me as terrible and or abusive (the new supply/replacement hates me for reasons I don’t understand) when in reality our marriage was actually quite good, no fighting, lots of laughs, good sex life etc.I’ll call the day she left D day for clarity and go from thereD day + 3, I get a DNA test, not my kid, D day + 10 hand her divorce to include removing my name from birth certificate legally unbinding me from any child support, custody, medical insurance for the both of them and I receive a settlement for about 8 grand for personal debts and property owed. D day + 40 (mid sept) she goes to emergency room for self harm suicide attempt, ends up in mental hospital for a week (extremely heavy BPD and factor 2 psychopathy traits) she now literally wears her psychopathy on her sleeves in the form of scars. D day + 70 end of October divorce is finalized and I get everything I requested in divorce. D day + 90 mid November) loses job due to coworker relationship because of conflict of interest within the company. D day + 120ish (mid December) I am in a new casual relationship and around the time my ex finds this out she starts reaching out to me about how the new supply isn’t working out and is being abusive. She Contacts me many times explaining how abusive (sends evidence) new supply is and how she hates her situation. But she has left and gone back 6 times because she has nowhere else to go (family won’t speak to her) D day + 200 covid 19 hits and her and her new supply are both out of work broke stuck together, her new supply is apparently abusive and from what I heard through a mutual friend my ex wife is devastated that she is in the situation she is in and is trying to find a way out but can’t due to the quarantine and that the new supply is/was the bread winner and she has no financial way to take off. Their relationship has gone to complete shit and they are literally stuck with each other due to nothing else but her own bad decisions with her employment and life choices, living in broke misery.Update June 18 2020- the drama continues- she left my replacement because of “the abuse” and shacked up for a bit with the supposed baby daddy in secret (and yes I said supposed baby daddy Because she isn’t sure) the baby daddy’s family with kids has now been ripped apart due to the affair my ex had with him and her child that came with it. oh and she had sex with his roomate as well when she stayed with him, all the while telling my replacement she wants to fix the relationship. she is still jobless dragging her poor child all around gods creation whenever she becomes unstable. She returned to the replacements home and was living there rent free while the replacement was living somewhere else and getting therapy so they can fix the relationship, total blame shift in my opinion (while my ex sleeps around).As of mid July 2020 She has now moved back to her home city and resides 10 minutes away from where I live. Bouncing on and off with my replacement, living separately, breaking up and getting back together. Again Typical cluster B behavior. She moved into a place by herself, is lonely as shit most likely, and hasn’t been able to find an immediate suitable source of supply. Using my replacement as a crutch regardless of how abusive and toxic they are together, because she doesn’t have the options and time she used to when it comes to finding partners. Keeping my replacement around until she finds someone more suitable.She found a temp job and is using unemployment money and cash that my replacement gives her to pay rent and take care of her bills. She can’t find a steady job because the company she worked for is huge and the owner more or less blacklisted her because of her actions while working for them, which include helping my replacement get higher commissions, drinking on the job, co worker affairs etc.Through the rumor mill I have heard her and my replacement are back together and my replacement is moving in with her. My ex wife didn’t even last two weeks on her own without a source of supply, and clearly couldn’t find a new human toy to play with so she by default recycled my replacement. In a paragraph below I have a side note as to why this happens.A perfect and complete utter tornado of emotional, physical abuse and manipulation, causing nothing but chaos and triangulation so her unhinged immediate needs can be met at the expense of others.Weaponizing her child before and after his birth still to this day, she has destroyed…and I mean destroyed three families in a very short time span. My family, the baby daddy’s family and my replacements family. She was even friends with the baby daddy’s wife.I want to put a side note here- I have stated this before in other posts but it is very relevant to this situation. The only time a narcissists life will seem more stable and you will see them stay with a partner for a long period of time no matter how shitty the relationship is, it is because of lack of other possible sources of narcissistic supply. If my ex wife didn’t have a baby tying her down and could go out and do whatever she pleases, she would be way more overt with her narcissistic behavior, and pursuing her old habits like before I met her (Examples in a paragraph below) in her past she has ghosted people over literally nothing and immediately found someone else to live with and or screw, but for some reason she stays with this one even though it’s highly toxic, the only reason for this is lack of options. Narcissist require three things, sex, services, and supply. If they don’t have the looks, and freedom of lifestyle to acquire these options through people or are deficient in acquiring these three things from another possible victim/target while searching (because they are always reflexively searching for supply) they will stick with whomever they have already acquired, and even deal with the lack of narcissistic fuel that is given to them. This shows itself to the world as a stable person who has calmed down and is in a loving relationship, but it’s a facade. The second they find someone who offers at least two of these three things Better than their current source, they will either have an affair secretly or leave their current partner. So in my ex wife’s position she would have to find someone who is willing to be a full fledged enmeshed family with her, as well as someone who is easier to manipulate. Now even though that’s what happened with my replacement, those options don’t show up very often. So these two will most likely be together for a while, and all because she isn’t as attractive as she used to be and lacks the possibility of other targets. My point is don't ever judge how good or bad a psychopaths relationship is after they discard you by how long they are with their new target. The longer it is, usually the shittier they are doing. This is why you might have seen your ex narc downgrade with their new partner compared to you. It makes no sense to you, and it won’t be for reasons you would normally think. Maybe because you were the more attractive one in the relationship, they took it as a threat to their self esteem and abandonment so they left you for a person who is quite unattractive. Now they can be the better looking one and not have to worry about that person leaving them. Maybe you were Incredibly reasonable, great at compromise and finding logical solutions to issues, meaning they couldn’t ignite you and pick fights so they can feel power over you and giving them that negative attention they desire, so they found someone who they can argue with and guilt into manipulation. Maybe they have abandonment anxiety (which narcissist have) that the relationship got to a point where they were worried that they might be found out for the self loathing phony that they think they are, so they find a new target to start a relationship over with. Going through the motions of courtship and get that rush of a relationship beginning. Or maybe they just exhausted you emotionally to a point to where you weren’t entertaining to them anymore. I could go on with a hundred examples.THIS MY FRIENDS, IS THE CLUSTER B IN. FULL. FUCKING. FORCE.No remorse, no empathy, no concern for others not even her own child who is now a weapon system for manipulation, completely resourceful, always searching for the next immediate supply even if for a night, everyday a crisis, every spoken or written word a lie.Little did I know her life was chaos before me, and I will admit I did ignore some red flags, but good lord the things I found out later on after my discard. Family who literally refuse to speak to her, Self medicating all day Xanax klonopin you name it, suicide attempts, a Rolodex of booty calls 5 to 10 different partners a week (men and women), drinking, amateur porn, possible escorting, screwing people from work at work, conning people out of money, literally stealing from peoples houses, abusive physical fights with partners, especially female partners. The list goes on.Truth is I am sometimes almost impressed by it.Now you would think having a child would make someone get their shit together and want stability, but that clearly isn’t the case. Even her friends thought being married and having a family with me would lock her down. And now she is a broke single mom, all because she just wanted to do whatever she wanted. To hell with me and our family, to hell with what’s best for the child she wanted to do what she wanted to do.Her enablers/flying monkeys have all but moved away or don’t talk to her anymore, and the bridges she has burned with people in the city we live in are still ablaze so her social life isn’t much to speak of. The once social butterfly hottie with a body where life was a party is no more. Buy the ticket, take the ride sweetheart.Sadly the only reason I know all this is because I was hoovered. I took the bait when she contacted me about the final time she left the new supply and I’m truly concerned because of the baby boy. it set me back in my healing, and like a stereotypical discarded soul, I spent the a few days with Jack Daniels, pacing, chain smoking and crying, but I’m slowly recovering. luckily I wasn’t available immediately for her to have a place to stay and she went somewhere else. But it did enlighten me and give me a very unhealthy reminder to the crazy making and total lack of self awareness that exist in these types of people. To triangulate and cause chaos to so many people without any regard for anyone else besides herself. hearing about her sleeping with someone while trying to fix the relationship with the new supply makes me think about all the lies and cheating in my relationship that I most likely don’t know about or ever will know about.It disgusts me to my core.It made me sadly realize I have to go full blown NO CONTACT for my sanity. I tried minimal contact for the sake of the child but it cannot be done. My life has to come first, or else I wouldn’t be good for anything or anyone in the future. I still have a trauma bond with her and can’t completely let go because of her child and this is unfortunate, but I know in time my contact with her will just slowly drift away. At least I hope.She was my best friend.A month after she left she told me in the calmest tone that she never actually loved me. Which made me ponder so much, why did she marry me why did she want to have another child with me, why invest money, time, family, etc etc….all future faking. The fact that a woman who never loved me was willing to be a huge part of my life and let me have sex with her body all for resources is incredibly disturbing beyond words.So since we were working on having another child for months before she ghosted me I decided to ask her hypothetically that if she was actually pregnant again with my child would that have stopped her from leaving me, her answer was a dead pan eye rolling “NO” Everyone reading this please sit back and think about that for a moment.Thank the universe that didn’t happen or I would have been as the great philosophers of history would say “royally fucked”All jokes aside, her whole life fell apart because of one thoughtless impulsive decision. I do feel terrible for the child whom I thought was my son, and I miss him dearly every single day. That’s a pain I have to bear. And the loss that my parents feel losing a grandson, that kills me inside. Someone can try and hurt me all they want but every time I think about my parents and how sad it makes them all I want is gravity to stop working on my ex wife. Her selfish act of tearing a family apart and taking a child from me is unforgivable.Sorry I know this was supposed to be short lol. But my point is this. This woman had the opportunity to live a good life, and especially a good life for the baby boy. now the possibility of that life is gone forever. It wasn’t a pipe dream future either, it was a very realistic future that was on the short horizon. That is going to be the most painful for her, months, years, a decade from now after using people to no end, most likely when she is in the phase of narcissistic collapse between partners having those moments of regret that stop existing in her skull the second she finds a person to feed her fuel, wherever she is, knowing that she could very realistically have a completely different life, but fucked it up on a whim. And I know this because she has said it to me. Her words in a nutshell- We never fought and always got along, I had a companion, a husband, a father for the baby, a best friend.Its just plain sad, And when I say sad I mean it the sense of pathetically inadequate.She is more or less in the exact place she would have been if we never got together. meaning that everything she did just wasted a lot of people’s time. As much as I am happy to see the relationship with my replacement fail left and right, it also bothers me because it shows how her leaving me for them wasn’t even worth it. It all adds up to nothing. I think that is the saddest part for me. The simple fact that it’s like I never existed, she is where she would be if we never met, the baby daddy gets to have his son, her friends and family who I became close with don’t speak to me anymore. I’ve never been in a situation where everything you did and the relationships you made for years added up to nothing. Like some weird sci fi movie where I’m living in a parallel universe and I’m the only one who remembers the alternate reality. I associate the feeling with losing loved ones due to death, but the saddest part is they are just out there existing without you…that’s the hardest.like one of those tornados in the Midwest that lays waste to a whole neighborhood in its path and as quickly as it showed up it literally disappeared. With only the victims to pick up the pieces of what’s left of their lives.Honestly the life we had together is the life you would think a cluster B would want…resources. A great place to live, money in the bank, family and friends to use as supply, hell even extended family as a babysitter, just to not be responsible for a night lol. But In the end these types of people will either fuck it up for themselves, Or find replacements. She doesn’t care who fathers the child or the quality of the extended family, the baby daddy has other children with a woman who hates my ex, and rightfully so. It’s not like the little boy is gonna be able to have a good relationship with his brothers and sisters, or even his father, there will always be some sort of drama because he is the bastard child of an affair. People don’t forget those things.The cluster Bs pathology of impulsivity and having immediate needs met will trump all else, there is no forethought most of the time.She even admitted to a friend that she didn’t think about what the consequences were, she just wanted to be with this other person, that was all it took to ruin everything. A week long affair, that in itself shows her disorder like a giant flashing billboard. Her lack of insight, lack of self regulation, her impulsivity, the sense of entitlement due to her pathology and her lack of apparently not knowing who I was deep down. It all made her think what she did was acceptable and everyone, especially me would just get in line with her staggeringly outlandish agenda. Well She was very wrong. She was so insulted when she read the divorce, you would have thought I was the one who cheated by her reaction.She used to blame me for mostly everything due to the divorce, but I didn’t send her to the wolves with the divorce out of spite. What happened legally and financially was the default setting for me to get away with only my emotions destroyed and nothing else. She fought the divorce at every angle and became more nasty than any person I have ever seen. It made me come to the conclusion that she didn’t want to lose me as a resource and wanted to have her cake and eat it too. If you want to see a cluster B become a complete monster, put them in a position where there is nothing they can do with all their manipulation, rage, and intimidation. I don’t suggest it.These types will get the offer of a million dollars at one end of the room and all they have to do is walk over and get it. But there is an unloaded gun in between them and the money. they will be told not to touch the gun. but they will pick up the gun, go to the store, buy ammo, walk back into the room, load the gun, stare you in the face and then shoot themself in the foot. All the while blaming you for why they can’t walk over to the million dollars. My point of the analogy I just stated above is that in the end these types of people are aware and conscious of their actions, that there were many ways to not have it come to the conclusion it came to and ALL THEY HAD TO DO WAS STOP. They create their own abandonment and misery.When it comes to cluster Bs Im convinced their internal psyche is so full of self hatred that it prevents them from their own happiness. It’s like golem in lord of the rings where their obsession is their own demise. Unfortunately people like us pay the price for it as well. Everyone thinks things are always better with their new supply, trust me, things are not better. Most likely things are worse due to their disorder becoming more unstable with age. I do not hate my ex wife, How can I hate something that is so sad on the inside. I pity her, and I will admit I do feel pure rage sometimes about what she did, but in the end she is the one who has to wake up with herself every day, knowing the things she has done and the lives she has negatively effected.I honestly will never understand why she did the things she did. I knew what cluster B was prior to meeting her, but No matter how much Of my extensive research On cluster B personality disorders I still can’t grasp it. The only conclusion I can come to is I was a good source of supply and she used me for the resources I had, then found another target to manipulate while attempting and failing to keep me bound to be a babysitter and a bank roll.so there you have it. A long summary of how a toxic cluster Bs life falls apart by their own decisions. Whether they recognize it or not.I’m not going to give the cliche saying “I wish her the best” because honestly I do not. The truth is I don’t wish her anything.We are the Collateral damage of their unhinged pathology.sorry for the rant. I wish everyone luck on their journey.

I can only answer this from a husband's and father's point of view.#1 EmotionsPregnancy is a hell of a roller coaster ride for your emotions. Your hormones are all over the place. But considering that you're growing a child, it may actually be a small price to pay. Don't be surprised if you do small things and suddenly you're crying. My wife once dropped a towel and cried for 10 minutes. To this day, she has no idea why. So yeah. You have that to look forward to.Other times your emotions will be at an all time high. You're gonna be on cloud nine and no idea why. It's just random sunshine and rainbows.#2 DreamsPregnancy dreams are a thing. And they're a doozy. Talking to my wife, mom and my mother-in-law (three different women I promise), I've learned that pregnancy dreams are VERY vivid. They won't even necessarily make sense.#3 CravingsYou're gonna crave some weird stuff at weird moments. I'm talking about peanut butter and pickles. Ham and vanilla ice cream. Fried okra and jelly. These were all things my wife craved. I once made a trip to McDonald's for their pancakes at 4am and a separate trip to a Waffle House for their coffee so my wife could dip (yes literally dip) her pancakes in the coffee and eat them#4 SupermomBelieve it or not, some women become a kind of a supermom while pregnant. Suddenly your eyes are hurting and you need glasses. Or you suddenly don't need the glasses anymore. You can smell better (my wife couldn't stand the smell of raw pork and wouldn't even be near the house while it was being prepared). Same is true for hearing, taste and touch. You're just suddenly aware of so much more. Some women keep one or more of these heightened senses even after childbirth. Ever hear the phrase “mom nose”? Or “mom ears”? Yup. That's where it comes from.#5 SexAs I stated before. You're emotions are gonna be a roller coaster. Same is true for your sex drive. Many women will have their sex drive suddenly kicked into high gear and it stays there. Some women even state that orgasms during pregnancy are just plain better. Fellas be aware. You might actually end up dreading sex.Please note that as the pregnancy progresses, the uterine lining will grow thinner and thinner as your body makes preparations to deliver the child. If you decide to have sex in the later part of your 3rd trimester, this thinning could lead to vaginal bleeding. And it may SCARE. THE. SHIT. OUT. OF. YOU. Now I'm no expert, but this happened to my wife and I and we B-lined to the hospital. The OBGYN told us that it was nothing to fear. But still, it doesn't hurt to talk to your doctor should this happen to you.After the baby is born, sex will eventually go back to being fun again. But for quite a time, even during those intimate moments, know that she's probably thinking about the baby. Don't make it weird, it's a defensive thing. During the act, she'll be pins and needles because every little noise will make her wonder “is the baby choking or was that the bed creaking?” so don't get upset if she seems a little not interested for a while.#6 IncontinenceYou're gonna pee. You're gonna pee a lot. A LOT. This is because you're new baby will be pretty much dancing on your bladder. A lot of times you'll run to the bathroom for a false alarm. But hey…better safe than sorry, right? The incontinence can also carry over to after you've had your baby. Ever see a mom frantically fight against being tickled? Or dreading a sneeze? This is why.#7 PainSome women will be in an excruciating amount of pain in their stomach area. There’s a condition called diastasis recti (abdominal separation). It is incredibly painful and can be fixed both with and without surgery. It happens as the uterus grows larger to accommodate the child. The child thrashing about can also aid in your developing this. This is the reason why many mother's out there can never seem to lose that belly after having a child.The left side is a normal stomach. The right is a woman with diastasis recti.#7 SleeplessnessMany expecting mothers and new mothers are zombies. They have to function for several hours with little to no sleep. Sometimes even entire days at a time while in this zombie-like state. Not only is the unborn child weighing on your innards and nearly suffocating you, but you're also in pain and just downright uncomfortable at night or while generally resting. You're gonna toss and turn. And what may be comfortable for you isn't necessarily good for the child as certain positions could either crush or suffocate the unborn child. These things, I'm afraid, you’ll have to be aware of. And it all adds up to you not sleeping well. If at all. I actually had to buy a recliner just for my wife so she could have a spot to sleep on. It's now her knitting chair. It's been through hell. Doesn't even sit up straight anymore. Hell it doesn't even rock anymore without sounding like some knocking metal on metal nightmare. But hey, she loves it.For new mothers, she'll be pins and needles and checking on the baby every 30 seconds. This is natural. But it'll drain them fast. Combined with the constant crying and diaper changing of a newborn, new mommies will be just worn out. This is how you get those videos of moms rocking empty carriers or mom's putting the milk in the pantry and the cereal in the refrigerator. It happens. And it'll happen to you also.As I just mentioned, the baby will play on your innards. As the baby grows, it will push your inner everything out of the way. Don't worry though, they fall back down to their proper position over time after childbirth. From what I understand, it's a very unsettling feeling (results on the exact feeling may vary). But before that, you're gonna find it's hard to breathe, you can't eat NEARLY as much, your heart is pumping like crazy and that's not even all of it. Parts of you will ache that you didn't know existed.#9 HairYou're hair is gonna develop a mind of its own. It'll start growing like crazy. Be prepared for hairy legs. At about 6 months you'll lose sight of everything below your belly. So be prepared for some bushwhacking as soon as you're able. Don't be afraid to draft your partner for this part. I volunteered. Had to help out somehow.#10 Treat foods.Whatever your choice is, keep a bag or two of a snack food around that you know you'll eat, but you're careful with. You may not eat a whole lot, but you're always willing to snack. FELLAS DONT TOUCH HER SNACKS!! I had to keep an unholy number of tortillas around the house.#11 SwellingLook there's no easy way to say this. But you're gonna gain weight ladies. A lot. In addition to this, you'll swell and be swollen a lot. I'm talking about your feet, hands, face and yes, even your boobs and your butt. Before we had our first kid, my wife was a low C-cup. Now she's an E-Cup. And it's been 2 years since our last kid. Be prepared to alter or completely change up your wardrobe. But some of you may get lucky. Either way, be ready.#12 The StrangerThis is another of those weird things that only happen to small number of pregnant women. One day you'll look in the mirror and you'll realize that you don't recognize yourself. This is because of the extra weight you'll gain and the possible facial hair you'll grow. Did I mention that you might grow a moustache? Yeah that's a thing. Sorry. Just remember that it's you.#13 The AlienThere's really no other way to word this one. Sometimes you'll look at your belly and you'll see a SUPER tiny hand or foot. It's kinda cute (almost endearing) and honestly kinda freaky. For the lady it can also be painful. The baby doesn't understand that he or she has fingernails and toenails. But you will…when it scrapes them across your uterus. It's a pain that has no words and aside from “painful” you can't even describe what it feels like.#14 The DeliveryThis isn't so much about the pregnancy as it is about crossing the finish line. CONGRATS!! Now, every TV show and movie makes childbirth seem so beautiful and wonderous. And it is. BUT. It's also horrifying. There's a plethora of sounds, sights and smells that will honestly make you wonder why you ever agreed to go through with it.#15 Mommy timeOkay look I'll be frank here. New mommy, you NEED the “me time”. Now whether that's just knitting in a back room with some music playing or you just sitting on the bed with a glass of wine fucking do it. Raising a kid is beautiful MONSTROSITY of a job. And let's be honest here. Whether or not dad is there 100% of the time, that child will spend more time with you than with anyone else. But don't forget to stop and smell the flowers. Too many moms will work themselves into exhaustion because they feel the need to be supermom. And I understand why. But your health is important here. You aren't doing the baby any favors with your tank running on the memory of gas. Take a break once in a while.That said…daddy listen up. There's a few things here that you need to hear and know as well. New moms are a lot like momma bears. They will fight the world over their baby (assuming she's a good mommy). And yes, that includes even you. But don't take it to heart. It's a combination of exhaustion, post partum depression and horomones. And unfortunately, you're probably the first thing she saw and took it out on. Just hang in there. While I'm at it, don't be a bitch daddy. Step up and help mommy. Give her a hand with stuff because honestly, unless she's dealing with the baby as needed, she's gonna be dead on her feet a lot. And in a LOT of pain. So again, step it up. It's your kid afterall. She didn't put it there herself.#16 As if all the aforementioned wasn't enough there’s also Postpartum Depression. There's a few things that contribute to this. Depression, history of depression, not wanting the child, not ready for the fact of being a mother and even the sudden drop of your hormonal levels after childbirth. These can all lead a new mother to feeling this type of depression. There's several ways to handle this. But I recommend consulting your doctor and so on. Don't be afraid to talk to your partner about this. In fact, I highly recommend it. There's even a rarer form of this called Postpartum Psychosis. Which is basically a form of psychosis brought on by the same things as well as a history or family history of psychosis. Again...consult your doctor(s) about this.#17 The Aftermath.Well. Umm. Okay look, this is something no one EVER talks about. But after you deliver your baby, your vagina is gonna look like someone took a whisk and went to town on your lady parts. And it's NOT gonna be pretty for about a month. At month two, it'll be presentable, but still not usable (no happy dumb fun time). At about three months, you'll be okay. But refer to your doctor. Oh and diapers. Diapers are a thing. You'll be sporting these symbols of sexiness for longer than you want. But apparently they're pretty comfortable. So why are you wearing them? Because get ready for what's essentially the longest period of your life. Sorry new mommy.There ya go.There's probably more. But I can't think of them now.*Edit 6–17–19*•A big thank you to Richa Bhake Ghatole for pointing out that I missed this one.Lactating (milk from your breasts in case you weren't aware) is a common thing also. Towards the end of some women's pregnancy, their now swollen breasts will begin to leak colostrum. This is the pre-milk lactation and contains a LARGE amount of fatty fluids and the mother's antibodies. And it's VERY healthy for the newborn child as they won't have any antibodies really worth speaking of. So all their strength will come from their mother. The thing you need to be aware of is that you're gonna leak at weird times. Sometimes during sex (even well after you've the baby), sometimes you'll leak just because you heard a baby cry on TV, sometimes you'll leak because you put on a shirt and it brushed your boob too hard. And the list goes on.There's not much you can do about. However lactation is a lot like a muscle. The more it's used the more it produces. So if you're looking to breast feed your bundle of frustration, breast feed or pump often. Also, just a warning but the pumps sound a lot like cow. You'll know it when you hear it. That said, if you want the lactation to stop or slow down, you'll simply have to stop pumping or breast feeding. But it'll still take a little while before the pipes are clear.And lastly about the lactation, some women aren't so lucky. Just because you haven't breast fed in a while (even years) doesn't mean they youret necessarily done. Some women will continue to leak once in a blue moon every so often. So there's that to look forward to•About the sleeping. Now firstly this is based on my experiences and observations with my wife. So don't hold me to this. But sleeping on your back is okay for the first trimester only. After this, sleeping on your back could be detrimental or even fatal to your unborn child as it could cut off the blood flow to your child-to-be. Sleeping on your stomach is mostly just physically uncomfortable and becomes a near impossibility. Ever try laying on a beach ball? Now imagine that…except it's your belly and baby. Sleeping on your side is the recommended position. Otherwise you could do things like prop yourself up with pillows or get a belly donut. There's even prenatal cushions/mattresses. Some massueses even have a prenatal bed that you could use. You could probably buy one of these if you had the money to sparePretty self explanatory on how to use one.

A primer on your height & what you can do about itYour height is determined between 60%-85% by your genetics. The remainder of that is environmental, primarily nutrition[1]. If you're malnourished during your growing years you won't reach your full potential. If you get enough nutrition you'll likely reach your genetically predetermined height, possibly a little taller.There is some indications that getting enough protein through your developmental years can add to your height positively. In Japan after the war, the population had access to more fish protein and the average height of the country increased 3 inches[2]. Denmark has become one of the tallest countries in the world, and it's rise in height is strongly correlated to it's wealth per capita .[3] The most likely take away here is that people that can afford to eat, and eat well, will be taller. It's no guarantee that you'll be taller through eating, but proper nutrition through your formative years, can maximize your genetic potential. A good, balanced diet of fats, proteins, and carbohydrates -- eat food, not too much, mostly plants -- you'll do fine.They've been doing some research on fraternal twins to try to determine what the specific gene is that determines height. The reason that they're looking at fraternal twins rather than identical twins is that their exact DNA is different but most of the environmental factors are the same (what the mother ate while they were pregnant, probably how they were treated after they were born, etc). They can then compare the genomes of the twins after they reach their height and see what is different between them. They do this for thousands of fraternal twin pairs to determine which parts of their genomes are different. As of writing this they think it's partly in the X chromosome and chromosomes 7, 8, and 20. Scientists haven't narrowed it down entirely, genes are pretty complex and it's not as simple as it's explained in your general science classes with recessive genes and dominant genes.[4]As you grow up, your bones get longer. Everyone has Epiphyseal plates at the ends of their bones. As you grow, these plates are added onto. When you go through growth spurts, particularly puberty, they are added onto rather quickly. Some people experience growing pains in their bones as they expand. When you're done growing (mostly by the time you're 18-25), your bones Ossify, the epiphyseal plates seal themselves, and you stop growing taller and longer. At that point you're done. No more growing. That's it.How do I know if my Epiphyseal plates have sealed?I’m going to quote this answer: Thomas Johnson's answer to How do you know when your epiphyseal plates are sealed (disregarding age)? (Please go and up vote his answer if you find this portion illuminating)When looking at an x-ray of your limbs, look for the line between the diaphysis (shaft of the long bone) and epiphysis (rounded articulation/ where the joint lies). Here is a picture of the epiphyseal plates of the distal tibia and fibula in an ankle:You can easily see the dark line above both "ankles" or malleoli. These are the epiphyseal plates you are looking for. Here is a picture when the "growth plates" are "sealed":You can see the white line on both sides of the knee, known as an epiphyseal scar. The white line means the area is more dense, whereas the dark line from before means it is the less dense, growing cartilaginous tissue. If the white line exists, it means the epiphyseal plate has "closed" and no additional bone will grow from the cartilage.Daily fluctuationsYour height actually decreases slightly through the day. In between your spinal disc s there are fluid sacs. When you stand up your head and shoulders put axial pressure on your spine and cause these sacs to compress. You can shrink by as much as 1% of your height this way (this will not accumulate beyond 1%, 1% is the most you will lose, even by standing up for a month straight) .Simply lying down will allow them to expand again.This isn't a big deal, though there are several sites out there than claim otherwise and claim that they can create extra space between your spinal bones. Additionally there are claims that stretching and hanging can increase your height. This is a quarter true. Hanging and stretching can reverse the compression, making you slightly taller until your spine compresses again. Spinal compression can reduce your height temporarily by 1%. In tall people this can be as much as a half inch. Stretching and hanging and lying down can restore this 1%, but won't make you taller.[5]For this same reason, astronauts can be as much as 2" taller in space. There's not enough gravity putting axial pressure against their spine to compress it. Additionally, the fluid pressure in the sacs can exceed any forces pressing against them allowing astronauts to expand past that 1%. When they come back to earth, they return to their normal height over the course of months.[6]Your height and sportsBecause of the growth plates, and the fact that your spine can compress, people got the idea that weightlifting and high impact sports could cause you to not grow as much. They're not quite right. There has been no evidence that weightlifting can stop your growth[7] . The origins of weightlifting being a thing that stunted your growth came from a couple of places, most recently a 1970s study of Japanese child laborers. The children that did work all day ended up shorter than average[8]. The truth behind the stunted growth is, of course, malnutrition. Child laborers worked long hours and didn't make much money...not nearly enough to feed themselves well.Another reason people used to think weightlifting was bad for children was they didn't develop muscles like you do as an adult. Children don't have enough hormones yet for muscles to develop properly, but what weightlifting can do for them is put stress on the bones encouraging them to grow as well as help them develop their central nervous system allowing pathways to be created for them to do more work as they go into adulthood. A lot of lifting weights is in the head.Recent studies have shown that weight lifting at any young age can help build bones and stave off obesity for children leading into their adulthood. Weight lifting at a young age has also been shown to prevent injuries and osteoporosis into old age.Sports have a tendency to self select. I've seen so many questions:Can basketball make me taller?Can swimming make me taller?These questions are based on the fact that professional basketball players are tall and well known swimmers are tall. The well known players are tall because being tall gives them a distinct advantage in these sports. I swam for 15 years, all through my growing years. I'm 5'7". It doesn't work like that. Further, basketball is pretty high impact. Short sprints, stops, starts, jumps. If someone thought weight lifting would stunt your growth, basketball would too for the same reasons. Every time you jump you put several times your body weight against your muscles and bones. Much more than you would be weightlifting at that age.The same thing goes with gymnasts. They're not short because the sport makes them short, they're short because it's easier to be a great gymnast when you're short.[9]But it's not quite as simple as that, either. Studies on female gymnasts revealed that in their youth, they show slowed height growth, primarily in their legs. When they stop doing gymnastics, they are able to reach their full potential...gymnasts who start young have decreased bone age compared to people who start later, when they quit, their spine height and legs grow more and fully catch up to where they are predicted to be based on genetics within 8 years of quitting. Men did not experience this at all. Through out their entire growth within the sport, they don't suffer from abnormal bone ages or strange growth patterns and actually end up being as tall as they should be based on genetics even while continuing the sport[10]. The gymnasts they analyzed reached their full genetic height under the conditions analyzed. Most of them were actually just supposed to be short -- their parents were short. It's mainly a correlative link between the sport and the height, possibly connected to nutrition.Several other studies relating to particular sports (ballet, wrestling, distance running) linking to height issues. These sports, along with gymnastics, particularly for females, have rigorous training requirements limiting the time children have to eat. Additionally, the sports themselves put particular demands on the participants weight[11]. It's likely these growth impediments are due more to nutritional deficits rather than something intrinsic to the sport.Studies performed on swimmers, gymnasts, and tennis players also support the correlation to height but not causation because the participants are actually reaching their appropriate height, not exceeding it. As far as the sport goes, they're just self-selected for their height.Sleep During DevelopmentalThere have been a few studies that I was able to find relating to sleep patterns and growth. It's well known that when you sleep your body releases all sorts of hormones and most of your growth and recovery happens at this time.[12] One would think that a lack of sleep would cause stunted growth.For children aged 5-11 and 1-10 there were a couple studies done. One found a very weak negative correlation between sleep time and height. In neither study did the researchers concluded that the correlation was significant enough to say that sleep correlated with height growth at this age. [13] [14]Other studies involving interviews over a couple of years with adolescents found that sleep problems were correlated with lower "puberty scores" (that tracks their development to adult-hood). However, an association between height and sleep wasn't noticed, but the researchers noted that more needed to be done [OP Note: I could be reading that wrong, It's possible it wasn't tracked at all, if someone knows better, let me know].[15]Finally, and much more indicative of likely issues, A study performed on children diagnosed with sleep apnea showed their height was affected negatively by the apnea condition.[16]Based on this research it looks like, based on the apnea research that there could be an issue related to height growth and a significant lack of sleep. In any case, based on the overall benefits of sleep, I'd recommend not skimping on sleep during your growth years, and getting checked out for apnea if you have noticed any of the symptoms.Myths Concerning Growing Taller and Stunted GrowthThere are tons of old wive's tales out there about strategies to grow taller. They might not all hurt you, but they sure won't help. If anyone has any studies that back up any of these strategies, I'd gladly move them from my myths section to my realities section:Skipping. How this is a thing I have no idea, particularly when you look at the myths (and realities) laid out earlier about gymnastics and weightlifting. If weightlifting makes you short (myth) and gymnastics makes you short (partially true, as detailed above), how would skipping (relatively high impact asymmetric leaping from one foot to the other) make you taller?Sports like: Swimming, basketball, cycling, any others, making you taller, dispelled above. They're amazing activities and can help you grow stronger, faster, smarter, and build team work and leadership skills, but they won't make you taller.Stretching and yoga. Things like "Growing Tall 4 idiots". They can help your posture, but as you're growing they won't add inches, they'll just help you express your height.Hanging exercises. They'll decompress your spinal disks allowing you to gain as much as a half inch in the middle of the day, but the gains will only last a few hours.Salt in your shoes.Praying and wishful thinking. They might make you feel better, but you won't get taller as a result.Miracle pills -- things like Ayurvedic Urea, Ayurvedic "Step Up". Snake oil is a unsubstantiated claim applied to medicines and supplements. Even actual Ayurvedic practitioners will tell you that there is nothing in any Ayurvedic textbook on height increase. All height increase supplements are snake oil.Binaural Beats. This is utter pseudoscience that confuses the causality of brainwave synchronization.[17]Particular diets and foods (milk, etc) will make you taller. While eating enough is essential to realizing your full potential, there's no evidence that any particular food will have more effect than anything else. There's also no evidence that other animal's growth hormones (like trace amounts of bovine growth hormone in milk) will help you grow taller or stronger. The only diet you need is one that contains a good balance of carbs, proteins, fats, and contains all the vitamins and minerals you need.Particular foods will stunt your growth. There is NO evidence that coffee stunts your growth[18]. Diet coke does not stunt your growth[19]. The major problems with diet drinks and coffee are that they contain very little in the way of nutrients and can fill up a kid's stomach. Plus, caffeine can be used as an appetite suppressant. All of this adds up to a child not getting enough nutrients. Sodas aren't great because they're packed with sugar. While you need sugar, you don't need the amount a couple sodas give you, and you need other nutrients just as much: proteins, fats, vitamins and electrolytes like potassium and calcium. I kept my kids away from these drinks to keep their appetite going so they have enough room to eat.That particular activities like weight lifting will stunt your growth, as mentioned above.Exercise releases HGH which will help you grow. Studies on this phenomenon have shown that HGH release through exercise only has an effect on the localized areas that are exercised. Lifting legs releases much more GH than lifting arms. If you work legs and arms in the same day, it will not make your arms stronger than if you lift your arms by themselves even though your body is coursing with GH[20]. There is no reason to think that your height will be affected by GH released through exercise for that reason and there is no evidence to back up that claim. Exercise and weight lifting during puberty is a great thing, it could possibly set you up to be much stronger and healthier throughout your life...just not taller.Further, the HGH release through exercise is about 100 times less than it is during normal puberty. The notion that nanoliters of GH per liter of blood can make a substantial difference in comparison to milliliters of GH per liter of blood is outrageous.What can actually be done about your height?There are few things that can be done, and most of these treatments are only responsibly given in cases of abnormalities. As stated above, the best thing you can do is strive to be as tall as you can naturally be by eating properly through your childhood. As mentioned above, by eating a balanced diet with plenty of protein, carbs, and fat, you may be able to exceed genetic expectations by a small amount -- possibly more over several generations of proper eating. Exercise and sports can be helpful in keeping you healthy and generating strong bones, but in the end it won't make you taller than your genes say you will be.Hormone treatmentOccasionally, there comes along a case where a child is short, inexplicably (this is known as Idiopathic Short Stature). When you bring a short kid into see the doctor, they'll eliminate diet first. Most of the time if the child isn't eating right and then they start eating properly, they'll shoot right up. Some cases, the kid is eating right, but they just aren't growing. To qualify for these cases you usually have to be in the bottom 3rd percentile of your age but you should be higher, based on genetic predictors. In those cases HGH treatments have shown that they can grow over 9 centimeters over the adjusted predictions, sometimes reaching the predicted height based on heredity, sometimes not. [21] If this is the case for you, see a doctor and ask them about it. They'll usually do tests to determine if your body isn't generating enough hormones. If it is generating enough, a responsible doctor won't give you more.It should be noted that HGH treatments for otherwise healthy children does not result in substantial or necessarily any additional height grow and could have adverse effects like predisposition to diabetes, cancers, and scoliosis.There is also a condition known as Laron’s syndrome where your body is HGH resistant. This can be treated with Insulin-like Growth Factor 1 (IGF-1), but is only effective if administered before puberty.[22] [23]Spinal ConditionsThere are a number of conditions that can make you appear shorter.Scoliosis:Kyphosis:Getting these conditions diagnosed and treated can add several inches to your effective height, making you appear the height that you are.PostureAdditionally, a lot of people experience bad posture. Later in life you won't grow taller, but if you get in the gym, start being active and focus on standing up straight and tall you can fully express your height. There's no special exercise you need to do (back exercises can help like Straight Leg Dead Lifts) but it's more a focus on being active and standing tall.Keep your head level, looking forward, not up or down.Chest outShoulder blades back and tucked down, like you're trying to make your neck longerSlightly flexed abs for supportPelvic floor neutralSurgeryThere is a controversial, expensive, painful, high risk surgery with a very long recovery time called Distraction osteogenesis. They break your tibia and fibula then affix a device to keep them separated:You while this is taking place you cannot put weight on your bone and you have to undergo 1-2 hours of physical therapy daily to keep the bones from getting stiff. This process can take months to complete. After the new bone is formed there is another 6 months strengthening time period where you need to carefully strengthen the bone without the lengthening device. The entire process can take as long as 2 years. Even after all that there are dozens of complications:The new bone may not form solidly and there's a good chance of breakage within 2-3 monthsThe new bone may not form in the proper angleYou might not grow the expected 2-3 inchesYour leg lengths may not be even afterwardsAn infection can be catastrophicNerve damage could cause you to lose the leg entirely.Usually the only time they do this surgery is to correct cases where one leg is significantly shorter than the other. Because of the recovery process any credible doctor will have the patient go through a psych evaluation prior to the surgery to validate that they can handle the recovery process. Personally, it sounds dangerous, risky, and pointless. [24]Look TallerThere’s a few strategies to help you appear to be taller as well.ShoesWear shoes with bigger heels.At certain point you could be pushing the bounds of traditional fashion, but if you feel like you can rock it, by all means:Insoles/RisersYou can get insoles called risers that can make a normal shoe act like high heels and push you up without having anything look different externally.Combine the two and you could add several inches.Clothes that fitWhen you wear clothes that actually fit you, it can make you appear longer than normal, particularly skinny jeans and shirts that aren’t baggy.Going along with that one:Working outYou don’t need to get massive or muscular and you don’t need to get super skinny. Keeping your body fat down can contribute to your looking lean (not to mention being and looking healthy).Getting your body down below 20% body fat for a man should be a goal for both health and looking good. At this point clothes will fit better and give you longer lines.Wear horizontal stripesThis one’s a little counter intuitive, but it’s been backed up by science [What Makes You Look Fat: Vertical or Horizontal Lines?]Horizontal stripes actually make you look thinner and taller than vertical ones.Taller hairPutting your hair in a more vertical alignment will make your face look longer helping give the impression of height.Exude confidenceEasier said than done, but a self-confident person always appears larger than they actually are.When all else fails:Get some painting stilts.The OutliersFinally, in contradiction to everything I said above, there are some people who have conditions like a tumor affecting their pituitary gland which controls certain growth hormones. They often experience uncontrollable growth.The tallest man in the world, Sultan Kosen -- Tallest man - livingBefore you start researching how you can give yourself a pituitary tumor, people afflicted with this after puberty will see their hands and feet grow continuously along with their skin thicken, soft tissues grow and organs increase in size. It's not a pleasant condition.[25]Height is not everythingIn closing, there's nothing wrong with being short. Some of the most powerful men in the world have been short. Your height doesn't make you a better person, it doesn't make you more attractive or less attractive, at least to people that matter. What matters more than anything else is how you project yourself. The more confident you are, the more you can accomplish and that has nothing to do with your height.Tom Cruise 5'6"5'5"(4th President of the United States and Father of the US Constitution, only 5' 4" (the statue on the campus of JMU is supposedly true to life, he was short, but powerful)Nick Saban 5′6″, Current Football Coach of Alabama Crimson Tide, rated by Forbes as “The Most Powerful Coach in College Sports”, highest paid public employee of the State of Alabama, only coach lead 2 schools to 5 National college football championships.Muggsy Bouges, 5'3" 15 year NBA veteran.Make the most of who you are, it doesn't matter if people physically look down on you right now if you can make your mark on history.Footnotes[1] How much of human height is genetic and how much is due to nutrition?[2] Inside Japan: Surprising Facts About Japanese Foodways[3] Why the Dutch are so tall[4] Height Hopes | Understanding Genetics[5] 3 Types of Spinal Disc Problems[6] My How You've Grown![7] There is no need to avoid resistance training (weight lifting) until physeal closure.[8] Phys Ed: The Benefits of Weight Training for Children[9] Page on researchgate.net[10] Female Gymnasts: does their training reduce growth rates, delay maturation and increase the risk of long-term skeletal injury?[11] Are There Exercises that Stunt Children's Growth? | LIVESTRONG.COM[12] Sleep deprivation effects on the activity of the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal and growth axes: potential clinical implications.[13] Page on nih.gov[14] Sleep duration from ages 1 to 10 years: variability and stability in comparison with growth.[15] The association between pubertal status and sleep duration and quality among a nationally representative sample of U. S. adolescents.[16] [Study on the height and weight in children with obstructive sleep apnea hypopnea syndrome].[17] Brain Wave Pseudoscience[18] It's a Myth: There's No Evidence That Coffee Stunts Kids' Growth[19] Does soda stunt growth?[20] Research Review: Anabolic hormone release = more muscle? | Precision Nutrition[21] Bart Loews's answer to Why is HGH an uncommon and unheard of supplement for helping a child to grow taller?[22] Regulation of Growth[23] Laron syndrome - Wikipedia[24] #getArticle.articleTitle#[25] Pituitary gigantism