Letter 1: Fill & Download for Free

At 23 I had all the bad habits.I ate horribly. I could eat McDonalds 4 meals a day, drink until I passed out, and then start again the next day.I had bad relationships. And I was bad to my family, my professors, my girlfriends, and sometimes my friends.I had horrible acne, cysts that constantly had pus running down my face, a huge nose, crooked glasses, tangled hair and I was too skinny and my head was too big.I asked one friend of mine if a girl would ever kiss me. He said maybe smile more and just enjoy life.Then I went to college and I became dependent on people liking me. I was so insecure I was convinced every girl was cheating on me.Then I tried LSD for the first and only time when I was 22. After that I lost all interest in programming and I only wanted to become a writer.Day and night I would write.I stopped going to classes and I was thrown out of graduate school.I changed my sleep schedule as an experiment but it worked.I slept from 4 to 8 in the afternoon and 4 to 8 in the morning. I still got eight hours in.Then from 8am to 4pm I’d read books and write short stories and novels. And then from 8pm until midnight I’d hang out with friends. Then start writing again.I took an easy job programming so I could have time to write.The World Wide Web was just starting and many of my grad school classmates quickly became ten, twenty, hundred millionaires.(Lycos, one of the first search engines, was started by the guy in the office next to mine).I had no interest. I thought people would only like me and respect me if I published a novel.I wrote about 40 short stories. I wrote several novels.Here are some of the titles of the novels: “The Book of Orpheus”. “The Book of David” (I liked “The Book of…”), “The Porn Novelist, The Romance Novelist, The Prostitute, and They’re Lovers”, and “How I Saved the World From Mutual Assured Destruction.”None of them got published. I sent each one out to about 30 publishers and got form letter rejections back. Not a single letter saying, “Keep it up!”I don’t understand why I continued writing but I did.When I liked a girl (woman? I don’t know, I was just a boy) I would wait outside her apartment in the morning until she left her place for work and I would say, “hey, I was just passing by”.Yes, I was a living, walking cliche.I indulged in every bad habit.I learned how to hitchhike. To hitchhike well, you have to make your body and face and posture seem like the sort of person who won’t kill other people and will be entertaining at the same time.I’d stand on the highway and I hitchhiked home from work every single day. I have many stories about the people who picked me up. Everyone had a story.I got so good at hitchhiking that if my friends and I were going to go to a restaurant I’d race them: they’d be in their cars and I’d hitchhike. Sometimes I’d beat them.I wish I had followed the ten habits I’m about to suggest. I was 24 and didn’t know any better.At 24 I thought I knew everything. I thought I had to immerse myself in my bad habits so I would have things to write about.I was wrong.At every age in life, the most important values are FREEDOM, CONNECTION, and IMPROVEMENT.Trying to live the life of a hero will only make you a loser.Below is the way I try to live now. But I regret not doing most of these things at 24.Then again, the best time to start something is ten years ago and today.These are my Ten Commandments of Freedom.First, Five Freedoms:Freedom from health concerns: Eat, Move, Sleep well. DON’T be a prisoner of your body.Freedom from money concerns: Spend less than you make. I’ve had 15 million dollars and spent more than I had and was suicidal. I’ve also had a salary of $27,600 and spent less than I made and I was free.Don’t be a prisoner of your bank account.3) Freedom from outcomes: Process > Goals. Don’t write to publish a novel. Write to become a better writer. Don’t try to get rich. Get good at providing value. Don’t try to be the #1 opera singer. Practice singing every day. Process is today. Outcomes are fantasies that are unpredictable and you have no control over.Don’t be a prisoner of unreasonable goals or society’s expectations.4) Freedom from validation: The need for approval is just a dopamine hit. Dopamine spikes when you get an Instagram like. Dopamine is the same neurochemical that spikes when you take cocaine. Need for validation is no better than a coke habit and I’ve seen it ruin careers and friendships. It’s a bad addiction.Don’t be a prisoner of other people’s opinions.5) Freedom from toxic people:Find your true Scene of people who love you and who you love.Don’t be a prisoner of those closest to you. They are often the ones who will bring you down.This also means you can’t become toxic. Always be honest. Reach out to people instead of just “liking” their photo.Be honest even if it means hurting someone. Because it will only get worse later.Those are the freedoms. Now you need Processes to get those Freedoms. Process will always be the fire that will light your way when you are lost.Five DAILY Processes1 ) Read every day: Quality fiction, quality non-fiction.Quality fiction: because it makes you a better writer. A better communicator.Quality non-fiction: because if you even learn 1% of what you read, that’s 1% more than everyone else.2) Creativity: Write down ten ideas a day on a waiter’s pad. This exercises the creativity muscle until your creativity is a super power.This one process has changed my life 10,000% over the past 17 years.It has made me millions. It has helped me change the lives of others. It has helped me be a better speaker, communicator, friend, spouse, parent, employee, manager, entrepreneur, advisor.It has given me empathy - not an easy skill and I hope to always get better3) Secret charity. Superman is anonymous and he saves people. Do the same.It will make you feel good, it will amaze the people who get a glimpse of what you are up to, and it will save the world bit by bit.4) CONNECT: Connect with friends, family, community. Positive connection is a life force that feeds us. We NEED it.5) 1% improvement. Whatever you are interested in, try to improve 1% a day. Compounded that’s 3800% a year. Start at 24 and nothing can stand in your way ever.——The fastest way to achieve financial freedom is to follow the above.But true freedom is not needing the validation of others.Once you find this, and can really feel it, everything will unravel the way you want it. The courage to live your unique life will be yours.Your life, not the life your parents, or peers, or romantic partners, or bosses, or professors want you to lead.Only YOU are qualified to lead your life.—-I wish I had started all of this at 24. Some people are mature enough to do this. But I wasn’t.I failed too many classes and jobs, I was clingy in too many relationships, I was goal oriented and desperate to achieve those goals. I woke up outside my apartment lying in the grass too many times.I hope I’ve learned better by now.I often feel it’s too late for me.But maybe that’s part of the process.

I have studied in Fatima Girls High school-Kazipet.The topper of our school was a great fan of mathematics. She always talked about doing some research (Ph.D) in maths. She had really great plans.In 9th standard, she opted for MPC (maths, physics and chemistry) group. As expected by everybody she was the topper of the school in the 12th board exams.She joined Bachelor of Science (B.Sc)[1] . But because of over confidence and over freedom (which was not there until 12th standard), she lost her topper status in B.Sc.In addition to this over-freedom, she met her significant other in her final year of B.Sc.Whole of her final year was spent writing letters to her S.O.As a result, the mathematics research idea had gone somewhere with the wind!She got married after graduation. She never felt sorry about her B.Sc. results. She was rather blissfully happy in her married life.But after 7 years of marriage she started regretting about her negligence in studies during graduation.But she told to herself “sitting in a rocking chair and continuously rocking will take you nowhere. Come on shift from that rocking chair to some forward moving vehicle, which you can drive”So she again started studying. Completed ICWA[2] (inter) quickly and joined the service. Completed ICWA final while in service.Now she is a retired employee from a reputed company in a good position.She is none other than yours faithfully—-Vijaya LakshmiAs per request of some quorans in comments section, I am posting the photo of both of us (before marriage). They are actually two separate photos joined together by me in Photoshop.Thank you Arpita Sureka for the A2A.Edit: Some people in the comment section are curious, why he is happy and I am not in the photo. This is the reason:They are two different photos taken at two different places and time. Both the photos were taken few days before we actually met. My photo was taken for the purpose of sending to other party for marriage alliance. So I was tensed in my photo. His photo was actually cropped from a photo with his friends.Footnotes[1] Bachelor of Science - Wikipedia[2] Institute of Cost Accountants of India - Wikipedia

Ah, Americans. After emigrating from Britain, on my very first day of school in America, a kid came up to me and asked “What was it like to live in a country that wasn’t free?” That wasn’t the last time such wackadoo sentiments were expressed. Americans are indoctrinated, as children, to believe they are the only free people and a lack of interest in other cultures prevents many of them from ever questioning that.Don’t ask why without asking if.[1] The premise of the question is unfounded nonsense. Many countries and associations of countries include freedom of speech within their laws. Here are just a few examples:Chapter III, Article 21 of the Japanese Constitution says:Freedom of assembly and association as well as speech, press and all other forms of expression are guaranteed.No censorship shall be maintained, nor shall the secrecy of any means of communication be violated.Part VIII, Paragraph 77 of the Constitution of Denmark says:Any person shall be entitled to publish his thoughts in printing, in writing, and in speech, provided that he may be held answerable in a court of justice. Censorship and other preventive measures shall never again be introduced.Article 100 of the Norwegian Constitution says:There shall be freedom of expression.No one may be held liable in law for having imparted or received information, ideas or messages unless this can be justified in relation to the grounds for freedom of expression, which are the seeking of truth, the pro- motion of democracy and the individual’s freedom to form opinions. Such legal liability shall be prescribed by law.Everyone shall be free to speak their mind frankly on the administra- tion of the State and on any other subject whatsoever. Clearly defined limi- tations to this right may only be imposed when particularly weighty con- siderations so justify in relation to the grounds for freedom of expression.Prior censorship and other preventive measures may not be applied unless so required in order to protect children and young persons from the harmful influence of moving pictures. Censorship of letters may only be imposed in institutions.Paragraph two of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms says:Everyone has the following fundamental freedoms:(a) freedom of conscience and religion;(b) freedom of thought, belief, opinion and expression, including freedom of the press and other media of communication;(c) freedom of peaceful assembly; and(d) freedom of association.Footnotes[1] A2–36: QUESTIONERS SHALL NOT ASK WHY UNTIL THEY HAVE ASKED IF