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Having done Master’s (by Research) in IIT Madras, and doing PhD in one of the best research groups in Europe, I like to think I know a thing or two about what is a PhD. It is a long answer, sorry about that.Here is what a PhD in generally entails, an extensive/thorough research into a topic, at the end of which you come up with something novel, develop your research into a manuscript which you submit to a ‘respectable’ journal. The manuscript then undergoes peer-review which is the process in which experts in the field check your work and at the end of the process either accept or reject your manuscript. It is the quality control process to make sure nobody does Ctrl+C and Ctrl+V job. Now the thing to keep in mind, not all journals are good, there are a lot of predatory journals which take money from people and publish sub-standard work without any peer-review process. It is an outlet for sub-standard researchers who cannot publish their work, who have not done anything during their PhD to have their name on something. Publishing is also a mandatory requirement for graduating. Finally, the PhD student compiles all his papers into a thesis which goes to a review board. In the review board, there will be ‘experts’ who judge the thesis based on its merits. On the basis of which the candidate is awarded a doctorate and he becomes a Doctor, a PhD.With this introduction, let us see if ‘Dr. Kanhaiya Kumar’ passes the basic smell test of a PhD.Generally universities make it a point to publish the PhD theses open-source so that the research they do can be helpful for others and easily accessible. However, if someone from outside wants to access JNU theses, they have to go through a long bureaucratic process or wait for three years embargo period. After three years of submission of the thesis, they might (who knows, they might not) upload it on Shodhganga the repository of Indian PhD theses. But, that should not deter us from reading what is in a thesis, because people generally publish 'research paper' of their work which can be accessed through the journal website.Here is the link to the ‘research’ paper Dr. Kanhaiya Kumar published: International Journal of Humanities, Engineering and pharmaceutical science. Anyone can download the paper, you just need to register (for free) and download by logging in.Now, a few things about the ‘journal’. He published his work in ‘INTERNATIONAL RESEARCH JOURNAL OF HUMANITIES, ENGINEERING & PHARMACEUTICAL SCIENCES’. If you look at the title itself, you can see that it publishes everything from humanities, engineering and even pharmaceutical works. Nothing wrong in that, but it begs the question, who reviews the works submitted. So, let us look at the review board[1], as you can see, the so-called reviewer list has no real experts. It is general practice in academic research to submit your work to journals where there are experts from reputed institutions. Even a cursory glance at the reviewer and editorial board shows that here are people from ‘not-so-good’ institutions where no-real research happens. Moreover, we cannot even be sure if they are real people. There are no emails or any links to any of these people. Furthermore, you can see there are not even a single JNU professor on the list, which basically means either they don’t know about the journal, or don’t consider it to be ‘good’ journal. Also, the authors need to pay some ‘nominal’ fee to publish articles in the journal. PAID JOURNAL.Furthermore, the journal website says, they are indexed by Thomson Reuters, they have an impact factor of 5.484, if you check the Thomson Reuters website, the journal does not feature there, nor is the impact factor listed anywhere. The listed impact factor is some obscure Morocco science impact factor of 6 or something. Meaning, this is a shady journal which is not indexed anywhere. The journal is so local, it's proprietor is sitting somewhere in the paper mill colony, Balmiki Nagar, Lucknow [2], but talks of International collaborations this and that. They have this special award called 'Udaan', which they have conferred on a famous US neuro-scientist[3] . I contacted the professor who had been conferred the ‘Udaan’ award and asked him if he knew about this. I have masked the contact details for obvious reasons.This is their modus operandi, they contact genuine researchers and tell them they will award them honorary awards this and that. If and when the researcher says yes (who does not like awards) these journals derive legitimacy by putting photos of those people. In this case, even though Dr. Perry[4]has asked them to delist his name, IJHEPS editors or proprietors have not done that.On a side note, a librarian in Colorado university - Bealls, used to publish the list of predatory journals, here is a link to the Bealls list: Standalone Journals, enter IJHEPS and you can see that the journal in which Kanhaiya Kumar published his so-called ‘reserach’ is listed as a predatory journal.The menace of predatory journals in India is unparalleled. Recognising the importance of maintaining the academic excellence, UGC periodically publishes a list of journals[5]which are considered to be respectable. Before 2019, IJHEPS was approved by the UGC as an acceptable journal. However, it later came to light that a lot of predatory journals were also included in the UGC approved list. Read this Nature[6]article to understand the severity of the problem. The subsequent analysis of the list by Prof. Bhushan Patwardhan et al. [7] revealed that over 88% of the non-indexed journals in the UGC approved list were probably of low quality. Following the publication of this article, UGC cancelled the old list of approved journals and set up the UGC-Consortium for Academic Research Ethics (CARE)[8] committee under the chairmanship of Prof. Bhushan Patwardhan. Under UGC-CARE, updated journals list were published in 2019. IJHEPS was removed from the list of approved journals because of its dubious credentials. The journal IJHEPS does not feature in the list of journals approved by UGC, check here [9]. UGC finally realised its mistake and removed IJHEPS from the list of approved journals, but the journal website still shows that it is UGC-approved and flaunts its cancelled UGC serial number. Btw, the journal has not published anything in the last two years.Now, even a cursory glance at the journal gives a wrong vibe when you cannot find its indexing anywhere on standard indexing websites, that should tell you that it is not a high-quality journal. Okay, you accept your work is not high-quality so you want to publish in a non-indexed journal, even then you should make sure the reviewer board has experts from top universities. JNU is one of the premier institutes in India, you would expect so-called brilliant, academically sound geniuses to recognise a shady journal when they encounter one. But, here knowingly or unknowingly ‘Dr. Kanhaiya Kumar’ decided to publish it in a shady journal. Any half-decent researcher would know that someone publishes here if the work is worthless. But, ‘Dr. Kanhaiya’ could not even recognise he is making a mistake and his supervisor allowed it. This is India’s top central university. Facepalm.Okay, the journal is shady, but lets judge the article not based on its association with a shady journal but based on its merits.Here is the abstract of Kanhaiya’s paper:Interestingly, his supervisor’s name does not feature in the paper. It is general practice to put supervisor’s name in a PhD paper because, he is also involved in the work and it also provides some merit into the work. Generally, professors avoid publishing in predatory journals because it is a black mark on their profile. Is Kanhaiya’s supervisor a good researcher? His PhD was supervised by Dr. S. N. Malakar. The only information available about him (he is not there on Google scholar or any of the reputed academic research websites) is that he has written 'few' books. Generally professors make it a point to list out their international peer-reviewed, publications in high-impact factor journals. Somehow, Dr. Malakar doesn't think it is important. Moreover, a supervisor who allows his student to commit academic fraud by allowing publication in a shady journal is as much guilty as the student himself. From academic view point, it is not an understatement that his supervisor is also of the same ‘standard’ (what standard is that, we will see eventually) as ‘Dr. Kanhaiya Kumar’. Yatha Raja, Thatha Praja. If you want a comparison, here is a link to Prof. A. R. Ranganathan’s profile on the JNU web page, look at his publications and credentials: Anand Ranganathan, you can clearly see he does some good work. Why is it so hard to find anything about the ‘research’ or the so-called ‘African studies’ of Mr. S. N. Malakar? Your guess is as good as mine.So, in the abstract the hard-working researcher Kanhaiya Kumar who says he did not waste his time in JNU, and he did not mooch off the tax payer’s money says this, ‘this paper attempts to analyse the process of Social Transformation from the formation of Union of South Africa to Republic of South Africa and the end of apartheid regime.’ This comes after a bunch of he did that, they did that, we ‘attempt’ to do this. So, they are ‘analyzing’ the process of social transformation in South Africa. We don’t see any method how they analyze this or whatever. But, hey he is a revolutionary so he must have done something ground breaking. Let’s see the body of the paper.In the first section, he introduces us to the concept of social transformation.For two pages, he rants on and on about who defined what, this guy did that, that guy did this, and ‘Marxism’ is ‘a science of social sciences (sic)’ or a scientific apparatus to understand the entire processes of the society (whatever that means), he also introduces us to the ‘Manifesto of the Communist party’, which according to me is the most important part of the paper. (2 pages/7 pages over).Next he talks about the formation of union of South Africa, which is a literature review of how Union of South Africa came into existence (4.5 pages/ 7 pages over), the ‘actual’ research has not started yet, I am not really sure it takes 5 years to reproduce the ‘Manifesto of The Communist Party (sic)’ and a basic literature review of African union. Leave all that, a basic Wikipedia page would have more information than this ‘research journal’.Then he gives a literature review of the formation of the Republic of South Africa. This happened in 1967, that happened in 1980, one more thing happened in 1989. Where is he ‘analyzing’ the formation I do not know. Again, a Wikipedia page would have more detailed discussion on the topic than a ‘research’ paper by this PhD scholar. (6.5 pages/7 pages over)After this brief literature survey, right away comes the conclusion, his ‘goal’ as stated in the abstract was an ‘attempt to analyse the process of Social Transformation from the formation of Union of South Africa to Republic of South Africa and the end of apartheid regime.’ His conclusion is, considering the case of South Africa it can be argued that, Social Transformation is the comprehensive study of the entire worth of a given society. Well, he stated that in the abstract, gave a bunch of definitions and a Wiki history of South Africa and writes it is important. SURE. Where is the analysis he promised the reader in the abstract? Facts are not analysis, what is his ‘expert opinion’ we will never know, because he is busy listing the events from some history book.At least in the conclusion, I expected him to give his opinion or the so-called analysis, again he keeps stating the obvious facts without venturing in to the realm of using the brain.A journal publication is a mandatory requirement to get the PhD degree. Since, Mr. BiharToTihar could not publish it in a proper journal, he published it in a predatory journal with dubious credentials. The guy who once said his family cannot afford a gas cylinder, somehow could afford to pay this journal enough money to publish his work. FYI a full-time PhD student in a central university gets around 25–30k per month. If he wanted, he could've bought a gas cylinder for his mother, it says a lot about the kind of politics he represents. All the main-stream media published about his graduation saying, ‘Oh Humra Kanha finished his thesis (love love), he is Doctor now, he wants a job, he is asking Modi to provide jobs to the Youth’. (see here: JNU's Kanhaiya Kumar Says He Wants a Job After Submitting his PhD). Nobody went into the quality of the work, if he really produced something meaningful. Remember, on top of the subsidised education, these people get money to go to conferences abroad, the government gives students in central universities around 3 lakh Rs. to travel for two International conferences. They are supposed to present their work there and get feed back from experts. If these people have not done any work (which is the case here), what do they do going abroad? Vacation on tax payer’s money?Now, to conclude, I had a Bachelor student who assisted me for two months and carried out a part of my research. He did more work in two months than what this ‘revolutionary’, ‘liberal heart throb’ did in ‘five’ years. These revolutionary PhD scholars in JNU start complaining when an honest tax payer asks them to stop mooching off the government money. As I have clearly shown, this is the quality of work, a revolutionary, brilliant researcher like Kanhaiya Kumar in JNU humanities publishes at the end of his decade-long research career. Funnily enough, Kanhaiya Kumar’s supervisor said Kanhaiya put my head high by his work. This makes me wonder, where his head was when he supervised Kanhaiya into publishing this ‘great research work’.Here is what his supervisor said once, ‘after being closer in the academic interaction I could know him better as a brilliant student whenever we discussed some of the writings of the African literary personalities like Woke Soyenka, Ngugi-Wa-Thango, and Chine Wa Achebe.’ Looking at his work, ‘brilliant’ is an understatement for Kanhaiya Kumar.Now, Kanhaiya Kumar wants to enter academia, and looking for a post of Asst. Professor. We keep wondering why cannot India produce good researchers like JC Bose, Meghnad Saha or CV Raman anymore, why is there such a brain drain?Here is a reason, because in India mediocrities who masquerade as brilliant are celebrated and we fund such mediocrities in research.Everyone hailing this fraud as a public intellectual, remember the old saying, 'every country gets the leaders it deserves'. India has long been the land of intellectual achievements, it deserves better leaders than this fraud.Read more at:Kanhaiya put my head high, says his PhD supervisor | India News - Times of India’Edit 1: Did he write the thesis himself?There are a lot of grammatical errors in the paper, so I guess he wrote it himself. On the other hand, there is nothing in the paper anyway. Look at that paper, a high school student would do a better literature review than this genius.Edit 2: Somebody said only JRF students get PhD stipend and kind of hinted that Kanhaiya might not have been getting stipend, and could not have afforded a gas cylinder.Here is a link to the list of registered students at JNU: http://jnu.ac.in/sites/default/files/RegisteredPhDStudents2016-17.pdfSearch for Kanhaiya kumar, entry number 2042.The website of CAS says all PhD students get UGC fellowships. Our ‘hero’ Kanhaiya Kumar also availed fellowship awarded by UGC. UGC gives every student 25000 Rs. per month first 2 years and 28000/- Rs in the last three years (there might be a little variation here and there).Here is how much an Indane gas connection costs -> Indane Gas Price: New Connection, Cylinder, Regulator, Refill. If Kanhaiya wanted, he could have bought a gas connection for his poor mother. In this video[10], when Rahul Kanwal asks him gas cylinder Modiji diye hain kya, he says gas cylinder toh feasible nahin hain isliye Chulha use karte hain. Any middle class person would know a family would utilize a 14.2 kg gas cylinder for atleast 15–20 days. Even if we take this hero’s words at face value, we know he is earning 25000/- Rs. per month (which is like average monthly income of millions of Indians), he does not help his mother. Kanhaiya used to get subsidised hostel, food, internet access everything in JNU (living in JNU is heaven, everything is free, free, free). However, his mother was burning roti on a Chulha. The guy who asks for Azadi from poverty, even when he has money (plenty at that by the standards of a poor person), he does not give Azadi from Chulha to his own mother. A 14.2 kg gas cylinder costs somewhere around 500–600 Rs, with 25000/- Rs monthly salary, this guy says he cannot afford a gas cylinder. And we are being given sermons on poverty by people who cannot even take care of their own family. Incredible India.I repaid my education loan and bought few things for my family with the small 8000/- Rs stipend I used to get when I did my Master’s in IIT.Why are we letting the people like Kanhaiya cheat poor people claiming they are poor? This guy is an ‘intellectual’ and we have people defending him. God save India.It reminds me of the recent interview of a PhD student from JNU. When somebody asked him what do you do with your scholarship, he said I bought an iPad, ‘isme main padhaai karta hoon’. Any middle class person would know an iPad (any Apple product for that matter) is a luxury, it is for people who are not pressed for money. Any reasonable person, when he desperately needs a tablet (JNU provides free internet, library and all sorts of facilities it is not a need, but fine) he could have bought a cheaper Samsung or some tablet, not shell a lakh on an iPad. Priorities. The disgraceful person even took 16–20k from his poor parents for the iPad. With the iPad in hand he said, ‘I am very poor, thats why I need subsidy.’H.Y.P.O.C.R.I.T.E.Edit 3: Somebody also raised another question saying, this is just one paper and it is not complete thesis, and JNU professors are smart enough to judge it by themselves. In other words, no need of publishing or peer-review.CUTE.Hello cupcakes, here is how it works, people can write whatever they want in their thesis, and if their supervisors also do not care about research but only about running their agendas they will simply accept whatever their student writes. Here, research is not the main goal, but student politics, the ideological fights and the revolutions are. Moreover, if you belong to an ecosystem like JNU, the external examiners will also be JNU by-products, there will be NO real scrutiny of the work.That is exactly why the peer-review process and publishing your work in a ‘research’ journal is important. If a thesis written in JNU and checked only by JNU professors is the only product of your PhD, I am sorry, no academician would take you seriously.I am trying to get access to his PhD, if and when I get it I will dissect it like I did his ‘research’ paper. And a humble request, if you are studying in JNU, go to the library and send me a copy of his thesis.Anyway, in five years of PhD and three years of MPhil (oh btw, he worked on the same social transformation thing in his MPhil too, not African union but Senegal, here is the thesis: http://opac.jnu.ac.in:8000/theses/TH22105.pdf), the revolutionary published only one shady journal article, gives me ‘high hopes’ about his thesis. If you check it carefully, first two pages of this PhD ‘research’ paper is just copy-paste of his MPhil thesis. ‘Dr. Kanhaiya Kumar’ published his paper in a predatory journal, says a lot about his ethics. Unless and until a research gets published in a peer-reviewed International journal (Indian journals have a bad reputation because of such fraudulent activities) it is as good as non-existent. I can also write something about, ‘Technological advancement and Social transformation in Wakanda: A case study of the Marvel universe’, pay some money and get it published. ‘Dr. Kanhaiya Kumar’ indulged in academic malpractice, PERIOD. There is a famous adage in Kannada, ‘a thief is a thief whether he steals a small areca nut or an elephant’.Edit 4: I am accused of being biased against Communists.Let me make it easy for everyone reading this, I have no regard for the people who romanticise poverty and cheat the poor with elaborate dreams of the dictatorship of the proletariat which ultimately leads to senseless violence. Ideology which has resulted in the worst of the dictatorships possible, which has resulted in the deaths of millions of innocents should be opposed with all our might. I am a free-market capitalism supporter, I know for sure Communism is not the way forward for India. India was stuck in the socialist dark age till we opened our markets in the 90s. Look at the state of Bengal today with all that rosy Communism. India does not need that, and people should fight it.Edit 5: People talking about colonialism to defend communismColonial empires were inherently racist, the British never looked at us as equals. Apples and Oranges. If you want to really compare, compare the 60s-70s India with 2020 India, or even Mao’s China with present China (which is basically Capitalist Communism, an oxymoron, but fine). Before the 1991 market reforms, 'socialist economy' was forced on us. The Nehru family took cues from the Soviet Union and China, they followed them in every possible way. For those who don’t know, Indian five year plans were copy-paste of five year plans of the Soviet Union. Indian PSUs are copy-paste of the Soviet state-controlled industries.If you want to understand how the poverty in India has been reducing post-1991 market reforms read the research paper by Datt et al. (2016) or read this article - Revisiting poverty reduction in India with 60 years of data. To quote them, ‘Even though a trend decline in poverty emerged around the early 1970s, the year 1991-92 – the benchmark year for economic reforms in India – stands out as the year of the great divide. Markers of a structural break are many. There was a significant spurt in economic growth, driven by growth in the tertiary sector and to a lesser extent, secondary sector. The pace of poverty reduction also accelerated, with a three- to fourfold increase in the proportionate rate of decline in the post-1991 period. The acceleration in rural poverty decline was even higher than that for urban poverty.’Ever since the market reforms, we have been lifting the poor out of poverty faster than we ever could. The communism which I am talking about is the maddeningly authoritative state control of every sphere of life, which is essentially what the 'Communism' has led to everywhere in the world. People should have the freedom to do what they want, run their businesses how they want, buy goods from wherever they want. Yes, there needs to be a control to make sure environmental and other concerns are addressed but dictatorship is never the answer.On-paper Communism is great, everybody knows that, the ideals are lofty, but we know the end result, Soviet Union, China etc etc. And please don't tell 'real Communism' has not been tried anywhere. I have heard it so many times. It has failed time and time again for the simple reason that people love being free, and dictatorships of any kind ultimately devolve into oppression, because hey, human nature. If anything, the paths taken by Western countries like Netherlands, with free markets and universal health care, social security is good. But closing down the markets, demonising the capitalists does not help. Let me say it again, India was dirt-poor before the 90s. It is only after freeing the markets that we developed. The poor in 2020 is definitely better off than the poor before 1991, at least now the government has more money to spend. It is the capitalists who created the wealth which the government could then spend. The Communists of today have no other job than demonising the industrialists. Look at the state of West Bengal after decades of Communist rule. There are million other examples. I don't need the Communist sermons on how I am blindfolded. I was born in a poor family, I know what poverty is. Anyone who cheats the poor with unrealistic ideologies deserve to be countered. If your comment is about how I am blindfolded and etc, don't bother to comment. I am not uninformed, I am just realistic. And please stick to the critique of the revolutionary’s work.Edit 6: People asking me about the certificates of BJP leadersFirstly, I am not BJP spokesperson, you can go and ask them directly. Secondly, the only legitimacy of Kanhaiya Kumar is his ‘student leader’ and ‘PhD’ status. I am just a concerned researcher about the state of Indian universities. I wrote the answer for the simple reason that Kanhaiya professed his interest in becoming a professor, which will lead to more Kanhaiyas and bad research.Edit 7: People saying publishing is not necessary and even UGC has recommended doing away with the mandatory requirementYou argument would be valid, if and only if the work which is being done is surely of good quality or of some confidential nature which cannot be published. Before making this line of argument, ask yourself, how can we trust a work if everyone who checks the thesis is from JNU? Peer-review is a time-tested process for this reason only. There needs to be a quality-check, do not defend something for the sake of defending.Footnotes[1] International Journal of Humanities, Engineering and pharmaceutical science[2] International Journal of Humanities, Engineering and pharmaceutical science[3] International Journal of Humanities, Engineering and pharmaceutical science[4] International Journal of Humanities, Engineering and pharmaceutical science[5] https://www.ugc.ac.in/pdfnews/5283580_UGC-Cancelled-List.pdf[6] Why India is striking back against predatory journals[7] https://www.currentscience.ac.in/Volumes/114/06/1299.pdf[8] Consortium for Academic and Research Ethics (CARE)[9] Consortium for Academic and Research Ethics (CARE)[10] Kanhaiya Kumar Exclusive From His Home Town Begusarai | Jab We Met With Rahul Kanwal

Tell the truth about her in social media.Here is a long story on how a man who was unjustly maligned by his narcissistic ex in social media fought back and got his revenge by exposing the truth. You can find the original here: Bitter, narcissistic Ex fraudulently tarnished my reputation, and turned people against me behind my back. Years later, I give her a taste of her own medicine.This all took place five years ago in the beginning.I've lived my whole life in Russia except for the four and a half years I lived in the Eastern part of the United States, where I went to college for a degree in engineering after completing my one year of national service. There are lots of good schools here but I originally had the intention of moving to America permanently. I have relatives who live in North America so I was invited to stay with them during this time. It turned out I didn't really stay with any of them.Because I am tall and good at sport I also did high jump and basketball while in school. I was never that good, but adequate enough to make the team to such a degree that I was retroactively given a small athletic subsidy while already enrolled. It made my tuition slightly cheaper, which for an international student was a concern, even if my parents were high status regarding money.While enrolled in college I met my soon to be girlfriend Natalia, a girl originally from Connecticut and from a very wealthy family. Her major was fine arts and we met in an English class and began dating. Natalia was a little more than two years ahead of me in her studies age-wise but we became a serious enough couple to where I took an apartment outside of campus, and she moved in with me. Her parents' house wasn't far from campus but she chose to stay in my apartment, mostly because I don't think she wanted to bring me to her house too often. Maybe her parents didn't approve of me, or maybe she did not approve of me enough to show me to her parents very much.We had a good relationship or at least I thought it was good. She never complained and always liked to show off that we are a couple. She was the first person I knew in my circles who owned a selfie-stick and she would take it with us and everything was a photo opportunity. I didn't have any social media at the time but I made one just so that she could "tag" me in her posts. Eventually all her social media friends added me as a friend also. And since many people from my own home country had social media too they saw me and added me as well.Among Natalia's friend group people called me Drago which is dumb because I don't think I look like Ivan Drago. Natalia makes no secret to me of the fact that she is from a wealthy family and she tells me that she has a trust fund that will pay for her lifestyle her whole life and she doesn't even really need to attend college.I'm from a privileged background too but I don't have a trust fund myself. My father owns a small hotel outright, and where we come from that means you're rich like Steve Jobs in a relative sense. So sometimes in the mail, Natalia would get these bank statements that just tell her how much money she has in her trust fund, how much interest it made, and what her dividend, or in other words her allowance, for the month is. It is for this reason that Natalia is in no particular hurry to finish school, which is why at the time she was already twenty-three but only barely a sophomore. Natalia would show these statements to me and leave them lying around the house.They didn't have her whole bank account number listed on them anyway. They just showed balances and the name of her bank. My parents and my athletics paid for a good amount of my expenses but I still worked on campus at the bookstore to earn more money. Natalia didn't work.I didn't really have many issues with Natalia. She seemed friendly enough, was pretty, and good company. We had lots of things to talk about and we had fun together, or at least I had fun and thought she had fun too. I didn't know if I ever wanted to marry her, but I didn't rule out the idea. One thing I didn't like about her was that she was very dramatic and very prone to panic. For example if we were at a department store where she wants to buy a particular thing, and her favorite personal shopper isn't available she'll act like it's the end of the world. She wasn't above making scenes. She'd also be a bit short and rude with restaurant staff.One thing that I thought was a bit disingenuous of her was that although she was a millionaire, she liked to pretend to be poor. Not that there's anything wrong with not flashing your wealth, because there isn't. What I mean is that she'd try to act like she came up rough and that she was making life happen on her own, if I make sense. She tried to act like she was down for the cause as some say. It's kind of like when rich suburban kids try too hard to copy how things happen in a hip hop video. Except Natalia wasn't trying to be White female Tupac, she tried to do this Bohemian artist thing and pretend to some people that she was living on a shoestring.Around me, she was more herself. Or really I don't know which self is her real self. All I know is that she isn't poor but she pretends to be, in certain company.Well moving on.Eventually Natalia tells me, OP what do you think of having an open relationship? I didn't really know anything about open relationships but when Natalia explained what they were, I told her I wasn't interested in anything like that. I asked her if she wanted to be in one and is that why she's asking, but she said no, that she just read something about open relationships.From my now-perspective I know she probably had someone or some people in mind who she wanted to date or have sex with, or she already had been doing these things with one or more people but just hasn't told me about it yet.Natalia had had her inner reproductive organs surgically cut so that she could not have children. I bring this up, because SHE brought it up to me, when she was practically begging me to have unprotected sex with her, and I was worried about maybe getting her pregnant when she didn't want to be. She showed me the actual paperwork for the procedure by emailing me a PDF document that she received from her own doctor.I only thought about it after the whole open relationship discussion because up until then we had been having sex without a condom and I assumed I was her only partner and I knew for a fact I was clean, but now I was worried whether or not SHE was actually clean.But for a couple weeks more things appeared going as normal. She assured me over and over again that she had no other partners, and so like a fool I continued to have unprotected sex with her.Suddenly though within the month, Natalia tells me she needs to move out, that our relationship isn't working out.Okay, I think, I'm sad to see you go, but can we be friends? And her attitude is yeah of course we can be friends! Even then I knew she probably met someone new or had always been with that person and was now just ready to move on from me. My attitude is well most girls come and go, that's life. I'm sure many women have the same approach to guys.She left a lot of her stuff behind like clothes and papers including her bank statements that had her trust fund info on them. I tell her since we're friends why don't you come by and get your stuff? Or I'll bring it all to you. She said oh that's fine I'll get them someday could you please hold them for me? And it's not as though she had that many things at my apartment. I think she especially didn't want to have me bring it to her house or new place where she stayed because she had a new boyfriend. None of my business.I never linked my social media to my phone or went to computers to check it because I just didn't care about that sort of thing and I still don't. But I found out later that Natalia had deleted and blocked me on social media almost immediately after she moved out, and combed through her friends and deleted anyone who appeared to be one of my friends from back home.I was almost done with my degree and over the next year completely lost touch with Natalia, though I never argued with her or had an official falling out. I assumed we just moved on with our lives. I had been accepted at another school one state away from my undergraduate college to complete a masters degree, and didn't want to waste time, so I hired a service to box up some of the less important things at my house and forward them to my new apartment. By this time I had bought a used car and so with one suitcase I could set myself up for a few days while I waited for the bulk of my furniture and other luggage. I sent a text to Natalia and emailed her too, telling her where I was moving. Of course I rerouted all her mail to go to her parents' house not long after she moved out, because for a long time she used my place as her address. She wasn't thinking big picture enough to do it herself, otherwise I could have kept getting her mail for a while.In my new hometown I jumped headfirst right into studying, and hardly even went home except to eat and sleep. I never even opened a few of my boxes that contained things I wouldn't need, like old textbooks or very heavy winter clothing. Those stayed in their moving boxes.So after another year, I have my masters, and move back to Russia. I'm happy because I had managed to get a job right away in my chosen profession. I sell my car and most of my random furniture on the internet. I had written down what was in each moving box, on the outside of the box. Those boxes that contained nothing I needed right away were kept sealed the entire time I was in my second American apartment.When I arrived in my current home, I finally opened all of my boxes and realized that I still had some of Natalia's old clothes from when we were a couple, two and a half, three years ago. I even still had her old trust fund statements. I had over a years' worth of them, which is about the length of time Natalia lived with me.Since it had been such a long time and we hadn't talked in years, I assumed she no longer wanted the things, but I still didn't want to give them away or throw them away without seeing what she had to say.So for the first time in years I check my social media, and am surprised to see that she blocked me from sending her messages. I try to text her but her number has changed or maybe she blocked me there, too. Anyway she doesn't reply. Same thing happens when I email her. Why will she block me? I wonder. I think it must be an internet problem. I log out and just try looking at her social media as a random web user, and have no problem at all.I see that she hasn't really changed. Still pretty, still dressing all quirky and Bohemian. I feel kind of weird but I take a little break from what I'm doing and just see what she's been up to for the last couple of years. She's with some new guy now who looks a little bit like me but with longer hair and less responsible haha. Well good for her.I can see that she really puts her whole life out there on social media. Every little thing is worth an update from her. She is as dramatic as ever. I do notice she's a lot more political than she was before. Well that's good. It's always nice to believe in something passionately. I am not at all surprised to see that as usual she portrays herself as a struggling artist who's making a way for herself in the big bad city. Whatever works for you, Natalia, work it! She talks trash about high fashion brands, how she never had anything growing up, how she ate stew from grass as a child because she was so poor. She is really laying it on thick, and also she ripped off that story from ME, because I was telling her about how my relatives were forced to eat grass stew during the patriotic war because there wasn't much other food.All of this is just her being a poseur, which doesn't affect me, but what does affect me is when I see a post that mentioned me by name. "Nat, this is SO like your abusive ex OP, OMG!"Her friend was referring to a picture of how verbal abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse. Natalia had replied,"yeah, OP really tried to destroy my self esteem. He was also not shy about threatening me."Lots of guys who were her friends on social media commented that they'd kill me or kick my ass if they ever saw me. For most of them I would laugh because I would smash them like so many ants, especially how most of them are like wearing women's blue jeans I mean really are you sure about that, stick legs sir?... but right now I am furious because Natalia lied about me. Some of them were even seriously talking about naming me to school administrators about having my degree canceled or having me put on some kind of offender list.None of them bothered to keep in contact with me so they didn't know I moved back to Russia, but they were also talking about reporting me to the police and having me arrested.In other posts Natalia also mention me by name and actually accuse me of assaulting her in various ways, that I cheated through school, that my parents are in the Russian mob (LOL oh-kaaaaay).In every post Natalia tried to come off like she was taking the high road by not reporting me to authorities and that it was her "cross to bear" as a survivor. Her friends were like lemmings giving her electronic back pats about how courageous she was. Barf.By a little digging I saw that she broke up with the guy who I figured out was the man she moved onto after me, and he was getting slammed, too, and I'll assume he was also blocked on social media. From piecing together what Natalia says to her friends on social media, it's clear she's built up an image of being a struggling artist, and her current boyfriend also appears to believe she's a struggling artist, and they share an apartment together. I piece it together that the boyfriend works a 9 to 5 but he looks like a hipster type so maybe he is an artist too. He looks like he's struggling to keep it all together. They are totally into the activist scene. They're always talking about online funding for all kinds of charitable work. Noble stuff. Not being sarcastic.Natalia smears me across platforms. The book of many faces, the grams that are instant, the stupid blue bird app where people unknowingly brag about how worthless their existences are.Right away I think of the bank statements I have that show Natalia is anything but struggling. Because according to the statements I have, unless Natalia developed a $10,000 a day coke habit over the past two years and bought a Bentley and crashed it into Taylor Swift and lost a court case, she's getting just over six figures a year just sitting on her ass and will continue to earn these funds in perpetuity.But then I think, I've moved on and am happy, I don't even know Natalia anymore, I don't REALLY care what these social media losers think of me...Until I see yet another post where Natalia makes this dramatic statement about how she is unable to have babies as a result of a traumatic assault. To her credit, she didn't blame ME for this imaginary attack, but she was still trying to score social points by pretending to be a victim.I was even more convinced when she and her friends actually altered some of the pics of me online that Natalia had once taken with her selfie stick, and X'ed out my face using Photoshop paint. The photos were captioned with all kinds of untrue slurs. Really harsh, criminal accusations. Funny, how all of them are so eager to accuse me of being a criminal and are talking about how they will kick my ass if they see me, but none of them think of telling the police about any supposed crimes I committed.Seems really lazy.She also blamed PTSD for the fact that she was near thirty and still not graduated from college.I thought about somehow faking an account and getting her to add me as a friend, but then while looking through her friend list (and she had like a thousand friends), I saw that one of my friends was still on there. My friend doesn't speak any English and he doesn't spend much time on social media either, so he had no idea what any of these people were even saying.I noticed even long ago that it was weird that Natalia didn't include her own parents on her "friends" list, but she explained that away by saying they were too old and didn't do technology. Maybe, Natalia, but chill, your parents are like 52. I suspect now (even then, I suspected it) it's because she wanted to build up a different persona online, and her rich parents would ruin that image.Through lots of digging, I figure out where Natalia works. It's a non profit.I finally decide to return Natalia's things.I put her old clothes, many of them really expensive designer shoes and purses) into a box with her bank statements, and address them to her non-profit. I don't actually write Natalia's name on the outside.I write her name on the inside, explaining in a note that these items are all things that she bought while she lived with me when I was still in the USA.I figure they could raise many thousands of dollars if they sell these things on Eb∆y. I mean if Natalia, the owner, was willing to part with them of course. It would be great for their non profit. Could you ask her about it?A couple of days later...As for Natalia's actual bank statements, before mailing them in the box I collected some of her greatest hits online where she posted pictures of herself at rallies bemoaning the 1%, complaining about her hard knock life, about how much she cared for others' suffering. And I combined these photos on a photo editor with scans of her bank statements, with red highlighter around her monthly allowance, how much she had in total, and how the funds would last forever. I also made sure to highlight the name of the originator of the trust, a quite well known name in American industry who is identified as her great grandfather.For each of the twelve statements, I add one of Natalia's hypocritical posts about being poor, struggling, living check to check, how she depends on her art to survive.My favorite salvo is where I screen cap her post about how she is unable to have children due to an attack. I merge this with my PDF she sent me where she paid over $10,000 to have her tubes wrecked. I made sure to highlight her parents' state and zip code on the invoice, though I crossed off their exact address.I made my point though, that the procedure, which took place a few years ago, was when she still lived with her parents in one of the most titanically expensive locations on planet Earth.My Russian friend and I spent the next fun hours spamming the walls of all Natalia's friends with these pictures that show she is rich and a liar. All of them he had access to, anyway, and it was well over three hundred. We make sure to fire similar, battleship broadsides to her over-filtered and photoshopped account where she's always thinking she has to lie to kick it, and also send her and all her friends lots of bird calls on that other app.The fallout was hilarious.The denials sad and pathetic, but mostly hilarious too.Credibility?Oh that credibility!Oh, Natalia, it's destroyed.Why is your boyfriend so mad at you?Did all the organizations you've "liked" on social media "like" it when they saw you were sitting on a fortune and yet claiming "I don't have any money, starving artist LOL! But can I offer my time or homemade brownies teehee?"Day one: Friend count: 1,234, Subscribers, 2,740, Followers, 1,080A week later: Friend count: 620, Subscribers, 895, Followers, 466Natalia are you sure you're not James Charles?My friend doesn't speak English, but he and I are waiting to see if he'll be the last one eventually. And anyway, social castration and death needs no translation.Months after that...I was curious to see later if she was online anymore. POOF! Her profiles were gone or at least the ones she had been using for years. I hope her boyfriend enjoyed his sudden comeuppance! It was probably an amazing day at the office for him to come home and learn that his Bohemian hipster girlfriend was sitting on millions of dollars.To this day I have no real idea why Natalia would do this to me to begin with. I was always nice to her and never even raised my voice to her. I can't remember even one occasion where we actually argued. It's a mystery.What isn't a mystery, is, the fact that the non profit actually called me long distance to thank me for the box, and they made sure Natalia got it. I didn't try to make any secret that these items came from me, so if Natalia wants to sue me for finishing a war she started, she can go right ahead.She will drown in her bunker beneath her lies and I will be break-dancing and cripwalking, planting my flag on her Reichstag.Anyway they said Natalia tried to deny the things were hers at first, but later when she saw the bank statements she tried to say I bought those things and was trying to smear her.Yeah ok. I bought a bunch of €9,000 purses and mailed them to strangers on the off chance it might embarrass you.Eventually she took the papers making some dumbass claim that they were forgeries but left the big ticket items pretending they weren't hers. For what it's worth, the people at the nonprofit knew the statements were legit and told me so. The girl who called me from the nonprofit was asking me if she and the other girls could have the items. I reminded her that the items were Natalia's but if she abandoned them then I say go to town.I asked if Natalia still worked there and if I could talk to her.Oh no, sorry they tell me, Natalia moved back home with her parents.Must be nice, having such a luxurious, eight bedroom fallback trench.Live by the sword Natalia?Enjoy getting IMPALED on it.I hope you enjoyed finally getting your stuff back.From Russia,With Love.

Normally on internet, the discussion on Identity Theft revolve around Online Identity Theft i.e. through internet. In my opinion, offline Identity Theft is more dangerous and easy to execute. Secondly, there is more organized mafia whose job is find potential victims for Identity Theft. Mostly i observed that online Identity Theft is because of mistake from user end which could have been easily avoided but scope of offline Identity Theft is vast. In this post we will discuss tips and tricks to prevent offline identity theft.Tips to Prevent Identity Theft1. Photocopy of Documents: Few days back i was watching “Crime Petrol”. It was quite interesting episode related to Identity Theft. Lady A gave her documents for photocopy and told shopkeeper that she will collect in 2 hours. Somehow fraudster steal the copy of documents. Documents were misused by fraudster to get job in Lady A’s name. Fraudster committed fraud in her company and poor Lady A was caught based on documents. Though police finally caught the real culprit but imagine the trauma undergone because of Identity Theft.Photocopy shops are soft and easy target for identity theft. With advancement of technology, photocopy machine can retain scanned copy of documents. It is advisable to take photocopy at home through printer only. If it is absolutely necessary to photocopy from outside because of volume then you should get it done only from known shopkeeper. You can also keep extra copies at your home for emergency.2. Handover Documents only to Bank Executive and Take Acknowledgement: During our day to day financial transactions, we have to handover some imp documents to bank like PAN, Address proof etc. One of my friend who is businessman handover his originals to employee and send him to bank for any such work. I do understand that it is not feasible for him to do everything on his own. At the same time it is suicidal to handover either original or photocopy to 3rd party. It is advisable to handover documents only to authorized bank executive and insist on acknowledgement. In relevant document, also mention the details of documents submitted by you with the bank.3. Watermark: One of the critical step to safeguard your identity is to watermark all the scanned documents and then take photocopy. Only use watermark copy for any future use. Watermarked copies are very difficult to temper with. Watermarking can be done using software like pdf writer or image editor. Though its a tiring job but you have to do only once in a lifetime.4. PAN: Obtaining a PAN is one of the simplest govt process in my opinion. Last year CBDT made verification of originals mandatory for PAN to reduce PAN based frauds. Analysts termed it as “Step Back”, “Return of License Raj”, “Bottle Neck” or “Retro Grade” step. Being an election year and under pressure from govt, CBDT withdrew the circular. PAN is lifeline for doing any financial transaction and process is so lax that anyone can manipulate. I hope new government will take note of this and will re-introduce the circular to verify originals before PAN is issued.PAN is one of the most misused document for financial frauds and is heart & soul of identity theft. PAN should not be issued / re-issued without verification of originals even if it cause inconvenience to general public. People don’t realize that its for their benefit only.5. Enquiry in CIBIL ReportAs i keep requesting my clients and readers to PULL out their CIBIL report atleast once in 6 months or preferable once every quarter. One of the imp section to look out is “Enquiry Information”. Please check any suspicious entry in the report e.g. if bank A has posted entry related to Enquiry for issuance of Credit Card with credit limit 1 lakh. In case, you have not applied for any such credit card then immediately you should bring it to the notice of the bank. Prevention is always better than cure and checking “Enquiry Information” in CIBIL Report is one such prevention.6. Social Media: “Permanently Shifted to Pune” and “No Longer using Mobile No 98107XXXXX” are the two recent updates of one of my wife’s friend. An open invitation to Identity Theft. In my opinion, social media is one of the most dangerous place if not handled responsibly and with caution. Even Afghanistan, Iraq and Somalia will rank after Social Media. Social Media is emerging as a new crime hub both for financial and non-financial crimes.“Too Little on Social Media can be Too Much”. It is advisable to draw a thick line between privacy and social interaction before you post anything through social media channels. Privacy should not be compromised at all and at any cost. Remember for a small mistake you have to pay heavy price.7. Letter Box: In the age of internet and email, people don’t check their letter box for months. It is quite visible from overflowing letter boxes next to mine in my apartment complex. Its again an open invitation for Identity Theft. We receive bills and statements through snail mail and anyone can easily steal your identity using these document. It is advisable to check your letter box regularly to prevent identity theft.8. Change of Mobile or SIM: Now a days most of the people change their mobile every 6 months. Also many of us have habit of storing important information on mobile like bank account no, PAN, Passwords, PIN etc. In my post, Whats app – A serious threat to privacy i highlighted threats specific to Whats app in case handset is changed but other information stored on mobile is also at risk. As mobile is personalized device therefore danger of Identity Theft through mobile is manifold. It is advisable that all the data from mobile should be deleted when you are changing it. Mobile should be restored to factory settings. Remove micro SD card and also remove all installed applications. Log out from all accounts sync with the device and most importantly remove SIM card (if you are opting for Nano SIM in new device).9. Purpose of document: Whenever you are handing over photocopy of your documents, don’t forget to mention the purpose for which the documents is being handed over. For example, if you are submitting document for Ration Card then don’t forget to mention on Watermarked document “Purpose: Application for Ration Card” in either Red or Blue Pen. It will help to prevent identity theft. Secondly, if fraudsters realize that particular person has taken necessary steps to prevent identity theft then they don’t mess around. Only people caught unaware become victims of identity theft.10. Date of Birth: Besides PAN, DOB is important piece of information for Identity Theft. When i was born, Birth Certificates were not mandatory..Am not that OLD :). My actual DOB is different from what is registered in 10th Class Certificate (DOB in 10th Certificate was considered final). Initially i used to complain to my parents regarding the same but now i realized it was done to protect me from Identity Theft :). Today before i wrote this post, i thanked my father for same as no one know my DOB in 10th Certificate.11. Beware of Freebies: Last but not the least and most crucial. Don’t share your DOB, mobile no, name etc through feedback forms in Restaurants or to participate in some lucky draw. You can politely say NO. There are no free lunches in this world but others should not have free lunch at your cost :).Hope you liked the post. Please remember once your details are out in open you cannot control the flow of information. It is advisable to be secretive. Instead of social media, share information through one to one contact. At the end of the day, you are responsible for your privacy and only you can prevent Identity Theft.Credit - 11 Tips to Prevent Identity Theft - Nitin Bhatia