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When you are completely and 100% sure of yourself, you will NEVER have to look for validation from others ever again.You have to do some serious inner work and healing. You could try to do this on your own but I would suggest working with a counselor/therapist who specializes in trauma, especially digging deep to uncover childhood “stuff” that you may not even realize is affecting your adult life.When we look for external validation, it is because at some point in our life we were not good enough. We weren’t praised for doing good things, we were mostly criticized for not doing our best. SO every every time in our adult life, we do something we think is great, we don’t believe it is great until someone else also agrees that it is great. If other people say it isn’t great, we take on their belief, which is the worst thing you can do.When you are confident and you know what you are doing is right, it won’t make a difference what other people say. You need to do the healing work, find books on Amazon regarding this. “Childhood Disrupted” by Donna Jackson Nakazawa is a great start.If this helps, please upvote! Thank you!

Just like Diane says in Season 5. Trauma doesn’t justify being an asshole. Some kids victim of child abuse will grow up to be child abusers… But a lot of them won’t. Bojack could have become like his mom or father but he didn't. He keeps searching for what he was missing in his youth, having values such as love and friendship in high regards even if he fails at it. So while the show gives us an idea of where her atitude comes from, hinting that she could have been different in other circunstances, I don’t think it’s justifying anything. She was a bad person.

In most cases it comes from early years of trauma. From verbal, emotional, sexual Or neglectful abuse. From being told how worthless they are from a very young age or from being held so high on a pedestal and never having to be accountable for anything. This happens in the years when they should be developing self esteem and self worth by making mistakes and appropriate consequences. When they are developing empathy. You cannot develop empathy if never taught that your actions have an affect on others or if no one reacts to your emotions. Which neither scenario allows. At an early age they begin creating the persona that they want to have and that never is quite within their reach. For there is no such thing as a perfect person. They no longer live in reality , they appear to, by laughing at jokes or being kind on rare occasions. They are very insecure and they despise what mainstream people have, the ability to be themselves without constant doubt. Funny thing is we all have doubt, they know that too and play on it. Like I said they don’t live in reality.