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Thanks for your patience Ravi Bharath. You have loaded me with questions. Sorry, I could not answer them quickly but will answer them as soon as possible.Basically, there are a few things you need to stick to in handling people, but you are encouraged to read books in this topic and learn to handle people well. If you want to succeed in life, the single most skill you need to work on is how to handle people.\1. Never apply logic to handle people. People are emotional creatures. So, applying logic to handle human beings does not go well. A particular person may be outright wrong in his actions, but if you handle that person by applying logic, you will fail. Time and time again, I have seen this in my life. For example, criminals, even if convicted, would never budge to your logic of right or wrong. They have their own right or wrong. This calls for understanding their emotions not their actions.I read a story in a book which changed my attitude toward handling people upside down. There were a lot of youngsters roaming around an American forest and were displaying some riotous behavior, disturbing the peace of the forest. In addition, they were also smoking, which could potentially lead to forest fire. The forest ranger came to know about these riotous people, and had to handle them quickly. She did not beat their head with, “you’re wrong” or “you’re not supposed to do that” kind of messages. She took a pack of cigarettes and heed straight to them and told them, “I don’t want to disturb your good time together, but I would appreciate if you smoke these outside the forest”. To many other forest officers’ amazement (who earlier failed to handle these people correctly), these apparently rebellious people immediately burnt off their cigarettes. That woman ranger handled these people well because she appealed to their emotions not to their logic.2. Do not criticize people. No one likes criticism. The world-renowned self-help author Stephen covey says “Any damn fool can easily crticize, but if you want to gather honey don’t critize”. Criticism will not get a positive response from people whose behaviours are bad. So, if you want to handle people well and win many friends, discipline your tongue not to criticize people. It is very difficult but not unachievable. By far, this is the most important rule in handling people.3. Try to understand others before expecting others to understand you.4. Focus on people’s strengths. Don’t focus on People’s shortcomings and all the bad stuff in them.5. Genuinely compliment people. People crave appreciation. Say a few good words about them. Appreciate what they are and what they are good at.6. Learn to accept each person’s uniqueness. You cannot straighten a dog’s tail. Much the same way, you can’t straighten people at once. You need to accept their own way of viewing things and their own way of handling things. People come in all sizes and all characters. Some are slow, some are superfast. Some are lethargic all the time, some are superenergetic. Some speak like a medicine, some will cut you with words. Some are rude all the time, but some are well-rounded. You gotta work with people to make things work.7. Never try to win over people, and never try to get even with people. They will never forget your behavior. So, win people; do not win over people. Suppress you ego from time to time to get the desirable results from people.8. Finally, try to be a person who can be inclusive of all people, regardless of race, ethnicity, origin, or color. We need each other.If you wish to develop people skills, these books are a must read:

Personally, I believe that there are four major areas in life that needs much attention. So every person should get to know how to handle these four things. The early a person becomes skillful in these areas the better the life will be.1) Mind:A person’s mind is highly sacred. The Bible warns that, “Guard your heart with all diligence, out of which life flows forth”. So how to handle one’s mind (and relatively also one’s emotion) is vital. You may study the book Grow Rich While Sleeping by Ben Sweetland2) Time:we all have to use our time wisely in order to have a productive life. One can study the book How to Get Control of Your Time and Your Life by Alan Lakein3) Money:Money is a major factor that decides the quality of our life. Opt for studying the book Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki.4) People:People are highly emphatic in every one’s life. There is no progress without people. Interested readers can study How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie and 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

I have read hundreds of books in my life (I don’t have a score of the books I read), several hundreds have changed my life. So I cannot say there is “one best book” that changed my life. There are hundreds that changed mine.Authors like Ralph Waldo Emerson, Henry David Thoreau, Winston Churchill, Orison Swett Marden, Robert Collier, Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie, Sean Covey, Stephen Covey, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Dennis Kimboro, Clement Stone, Phillip McGraw, Norman Vincent Peale, Robert Schuller, Harv Eker, Darren Hardy, Ryan Holiday, Michele Weiner-Davis, Annie McGee-Cooper, Tim La Haye, Joyce Meyer, Joel Osteen, Jentezen Franklin, Robert Kiyosaki, Emi Kiyosaki, Robert Allen, Karen Bell Nelson are some of the most significant authors who have had a great impact on my life.Apart from these authors I read everything from children stuff, to teens books, to ELT, to high-school books, to psychology, to marital therapy, to econmics, to personal finance.Though I read thousands of books (I don’t read all books cover to cover) so far, it is tough times don’t last but tough people do had been the most influential book in my life.When I was sacked from my editorial job at 2013, I could not handle my emotions well and could not get a job even after attending 2 dozen interviews. I was struggling with suicidal thoughts and thoughts of taking revenge, etc. It is at this time that turned into my library and picked this book. I emerged victorious out of this job loss and became an author and entrepreneur. If not for this book, I would have killed myself. This book gave me life when the means to life has been taken away from me. So, I would say: This book is a must-read for every one.