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This is a pretty long and tragic story, so please don't read it if it's not your cup of tea.In this answer I'll tell you the story of a girl I performed an autopsy on, sent the required reports and judged to myself on how selfish the girl must have been. It was around 2 months later that I found out why she did what she did, that made me feel like such a horrible person, judging someone without knowing what she'd been through. Her story left me speechless.It was a pretty hectic day, but all my cases were stable and I wasn't required anywhere. I was just chilling in the canteen with my colleague when I got called by our hospital police. They had an inquest letter for an autopsy for a 20-year-old girl who had hanged herself. My first thought was “Urgh! Not again.” I remember saying something along the lines of “What have these kids seen at such young age to just throw their precious lives away? We believe in sanctity of life, that every life matters, and how it’s our sacred duty to protect it at any cost. Kids like these just throw their lives away in petty causes.” I used to perform autopsies around three to four per week and most of them were suicides by poisoning or hanging just because they had a tiff with someone and decided to kill themselves in the heat of the moment.I went down to the mortuary, confirming in all the departments that I was not needed anywhere. There I saw the grieving father, his eyes devoid of light, his clothes dishevelled, his hands trembling when he approached me to give me a brief history of the events before we started on the autopsy.His words were shaky and he would often wipe his puffy eyes to get rid of the tears that wouldn't stop falling when I interviewed him. After his daughter finished her SLC levels (Grade 10), he persuaded her to study a 3-year course of Health Assistant (HA) which she was enthusiastic for. She was good in her studies and passed her HA course with flying colors. She had volunteered in our hospital for a couple of weeks before her results were due. And then when she passed, she started working in a health post near her home. Suddenly, she wanted to go to bigger city for bigger opportunities. Her dad didn't want to get in the way of her job experience. So they sent her to Butwal and she didn't come home for a whole year. When she came back, she seemed distant, would have tantrums and random bursts of crying. No one knew why. He tried to get help for her, but she said she was fine, just going through some things she wanted to deal with on her own. She was pretty closed off so he didn't press it. He was so guilt ridden. He should've gotten her help, he kept on repeating — he should’ve known something was wrong, should've gotten her some help.I got into the mortuary and after a thorough autopsy, concluded there was nothing remotely suspicious of foul play and everything pointed toward a clear-cut case of suicide by hanging. The only thing that bothered me there was a Pfannensteil incision in her Lower abdomen. It's an incision given commonly for a C-section. And she had a lower segment incision scar in her uterus as well. I noted these findings, came out and asked the father if she'd had any surgeries in the past. He told us that his daughter never had any surgeries except for suturing of a big cut in the left side of her forehead when she was a child.It was pretty puzzling but I didn't want to cause a ruckus, so I noted my findings in the report and sent it away. The case never went to court because it was clearly a suicide.Fast forward two months later when I went to Butwal for a two-day conference, where I met a nurse—let's call her Mrs. B—who was working in an OCMC unit. OCMC is a One Stop Crisis Management Centre where cases of domestic and gender-based violence are seen and cared for. I’m a pretty friendly person and Mrs. B was a marvel to hang around with. She was so fun and we hit it off easily. We were talking about how difficult it was working in periphery and how it was so hard to get help when we really needed it, difficult to deal with people who were abused because of how closed off they were. But it was also rewarding on some days when we actually manage to save someone from a difficult situation.She recounted a story of a girl from the district I was working in. And how she had gone to Butwal for an abortion but the child was already too big to be considered for abortion. The girl was unmarried and hence scared that her parents were going to kill her for getting pregnant and how the father of the child had left her after he found out she was pregnant.The girl was scared out of her mind when they told her they could not abort. She started crying and saying that she was going to kill herself before she told her family about this. The gynaecologists sent her to the OCMC nurse for further counselling and on how to handle the issue. She just kept crying and told Mrs. B she would rather kill herself than drag her family's name through such shame. So Mrs. B gave her another option: She could stay in Butwal, have the baby there and give the child up for adoption. No one in her family had to know. Mrs. B would arrange for accommodation, food, clothing, medical expenses and everything. After she had her child, Mrs. B would find people to adopt it. This scared and alone 20-year-old agreed, reluctantly.She stayed under Mrs. B's care for 4 months. The surgical team decided on Elective Cesarean Section because this was her first baby, and the baby was breech (that is, the head was up and the buttocks were the presenting part). For a girl who is going through her first labor, breech may present complications with delivery. She gave the baby up for adoption, stayed in the Safe House of the OCMC centre for a month or so, and left suddenly.Mrs. B told me the thriving baby girl was brought in for her vaccination recently with the adoptive parents. This was one of the success cases Mrs. B had when it came to dealing with people who were in an abusive relationship. She then wondered what became of her. I asked if the girl had a pretty prominent scar on her left forehead, Mrs. B asked me how I knew that. I didn't have the heart to tell her that it was the same girl I performed an autopsy on. I just said that I may have seen this woman around the neighbourhood where I worked. She narrowed her eyes at me in disbelief, but asked me not to tell anyone because it would be violating her privacy. Mrs. B didn't think I'd know the girl. I didn't want her to know that the life she thought she'd saved had ended up killing herself.That solved the mystery of the girl's Pfannensteil incision. I wonder what she must have gone through, to suffer the loss of her child, to be unable to confide in others about the sorrows that were slowly leading her to take her own life. I wondered how she must have suffered. Oh, how she must have suffered, all alone! And how one day, nothing in her world was enough to make her believe her life was worth living. And I remember talking to my colleague about what this child must have gone through to make her parents go through such a horrendous event (I think burying your child must be one of the greatest tragedies of all time).Now I know why. If there is peace after death somewhere, I hope her conscience is clear, and she finds her peace. And I hope her baby girl is looked after by the best people in the world.

There are several benefits in the civil services, which you can’t get in any other profession. There are still numerous reasons to join civil services in India despite all the liberalization and globalization.Let me narrate a few of those.​1: PrestigeImagine that you are passing on a road of a city like Delhi, Mumbai, Chennai or any major city of India and you see several vehicles passing by. There are expensive vehicles like Mercedes, BMW, or Jaguar and there is a Government vehicle of average type with red/blue light on its top with the name plate of the office/officer. Which vehicle people look at?I am sure that most people look at the vehicle with red light. The traffic constables become alert on duty and may give a crisp salute to the officer sitting in the vehicle. A government vehicle is a sign of authority, which immediately attracts the attention of people. Similarly, a government officer immediately gets attention in big galaxies of important people.Contrary to popular perception in urban India and media, the civil servants are highly respected by the people of India. It is because they serve people like no one else. Further, their selection process has always been transparent and fair. UPSC had always been above board for selection of candidates for top services. A PM/CM can make anyone a Cabinet Minister, Supreme Court Collegium can make anyone a High Court or Supreme Court Judge; and anyone can be made the CEO/CMD of a company but nobody can make you an IAS, IPS or IRS officer except your own merit. Hence, people of India never doubt the ability of a civil servant. When you become part of any function of an organization, its prestige goes up and you become the central point of the function and get all the attention.2: PowerA civil servant is the epitome of state power. You are not a government servant but the government itself. The laws may be passed by the Parliament, but are executed only through civil servants. We as IRS officers sign so many documents on behalf of President of India. Please remember that you exercise the power of the Government in India pertaining to your department. You have the authority to decide cases worth hundreds of crores and conduct search, seizure of arrest of the people who are breaking the law of the land. No wonder, the law breakers don’t want to mess with you and the law abiders look at you for taking on the law breakers. You have the original powers to implement the rule of law in this country. Only when you fail, others come into picture.3. Job Security and Political InterferenceIf you are in a private sector job, you can be removed with one day notice. You are always at the mercy of the company and its top bosses. The service conditions of civil servants are determined by the Parliament and can’t be changed to his disadvantage. Their service is protected by Article 311 of the Indian Constitution according to which, he can’t be dismissed from service without an enquiry where he would be given opportunity to defend himself. He also has the option to approach the Courts, in case he has been treated unfairly. The promotion of a civil servant is not in the hands of politician, which is either time bound manner or based on seniority. The promotion committees are headed by UPSC Member/Chairman and hence you can expect utmost objectivity in promotion. You don’t have to fear anyone, if you are on the right side of the law.Fortunately the central services like IRS are fully insulated from political interference. I have never got any call from any politician in my 25 years of my career and there has been no political interference directly or indirectly ever. The reason can be attributed to the ‘Transfer Policy’ if our department. The postings upto the rank of Additional Commissioner are made by the Chief Commissioner (Within his Zone/State) or by the Central Board of Excise and Customs (All over India) manned by all IRS officials. Even for Commissioner and Chief Commissioner, it is the Placement Committee (PC) headed by The Chairman CBEC or CBDT proposes the names for the approval of FM. If a name is not proposed by PC, no order can be made. Similarly for posting in sensitive intelligence/investigation originations like DRI and DGCEI, the names have to be proposed by the Director General for being considered for posting. Thus the CBEC/CBDT has a sort of veto power over transfer and postings of IRS officers. If you find it unbelievable, please read the policy yourself by visiting the link Page on cbec.gov.inUnfortunately the situation is not same in States and the IAS/IPS/IFoS officers are posted usually by CM directly. I was told by one of my IPS colleagues that in his State, an SP can’t even transfer a constable without the approval of the Minister In-charge of the district. I hope that good sense will prevail and some day they will adopt the best practices of Government of India.4: Decent Salaries and Excellent PerksThe salaries of the government officers have become very decent in recent years. When I joined IRS in 1991, my salary was around Rs 3500 pm only. Today in 2015 my salary is around Rs 1,50,000 pm viz. 43 times time more in less than 25 years . In addition, you also get free house, car, phone, medical, Leave Travel Concession, Children Education Allowance and pension. Most of the allowances are tax free. You require at least Rs 50 lakhs of CTC to enjoy the same lifestyle in corporate. Sometime, the rental value of your government accommodation itself may be much more than the CTC of several big corporate CEOs. Who can afford to stay in Lutyens Delhi bungalows on rent?5: Work Life BalanceWhile it is common to hear the ply of the civil servants that they don’t have a good personal life, it is not absolutely true. Every government department has different types of postings. Some posts (like DM, SP) require long hours of work while several posts are such where you have to find work. The salaries in both the cases are exactly the same. Hence, if you give priority to personal life, you can always request the government to give you such assignments, where you can have more free time for yourself and the family. I have, on several occasion, requested the government for such peaceful assignments as I wanted to devote some time to teach my children and I was always given such light assignements. You also get 2/3 years of fully paid study leave, using which I did my PhD on E-Governance from IIITM Gwalior while in service. You can choose to study abroad in top university of the world and the government may finance most of the expenses. A female government officer gets additional 2 years of fully paid Child Care Leave to take care of their children, in addition to the maternity leave. Each government officer is also entitled to upto 5 years of Extra Ordinary Leave (Unpaid) for taking care of personals needs in addition to the 20 days of Half Pay Leave and 30 days of Earned leave every year besides 5 day a week work-schedule and numerous gazetted holidays. You have lots of flexibility to choose the postings according to your needs and temperament.6: Job SatisfactionYou must remember that civil services are not ordinary jobs where you work for an organization or for a person. You work for the country and its people. The revenue collected by an IRS officer is used for the benefit of the poorest and needy and for development of infrastructure and nation. As a police officer, you control crime in the country and hence create an atmosphere for security, growth and prosperity. As an IAS officer, you make and implement the developmental schemes for the growth of the nation. Your job is in the nature of social service. Many billionaires like Bill Gates, Azim Premji spend billions from their own pocket to get the satisfaction of doing the social work. You have the opportunity to do so while in service and you are even paid for it decently.7: Freedom to WorkIt may not be believable, but it is a fact that you have tremendous freedom to do your work as a government officer. Each post in a government (SP, DM or Commissioner) is created and empowered by Parliament. Hence as far as you are on that chair, you have the full freedom to decide the things according to your judgment and discretion. For example, as a revenue officer, if I get information of tax evasion and I am empowered by law to conduct search, seizure or arrest; no one can give me any direction to act or not to act. No senior officer or Minister can change the decisions taken by the appropriate legal authority without following the procedures provided by the law. For example if the order of Commissioner is wrong, you have to approach the Tribunal, High Court or Supreme Court to reverse the order. These agencies have tremendous freedom and they decide the legality of the action independently without any intervention from the government.Even though media mostly highlights the conflicts between politicians and civil servants, in reality they work with each other without much problem. It is because the goal of civil servants and politician is one and the same. Politicians need good IAS and IPS officers who can help the state grow and become free from crime. When there is a problem, often both sides are responsible. You don’t even hear any conflict in states like MP, Chhattisgarh, Orissa, Rajasthan and even in Bihar (in Nitish Kumar regime). Most of the states have no conflict at all between officers and politicians. Good politicians and good bureaucrats always work together harmoniously and help each other. The problem between them is more personal than professional, though it is always highlighted as professional problem and politicians are blamed for the mess.8: Diversity of JobsThe civil services provide tremendous diversity of jobs. If you are in IAS, you can virtually head any organization in India. As secretary, you can head different ministries of the government and also different public sector undertaking, educational and research institutions. As an IRS (C&CE) officer you work in Customs, Excise, Service Tax, Narcotics, Training, Systems etc. You even work as advocate, when you are posted in Tribunals. You also work in intelligence agencies like DRI, DGCEI, CEIB, IB or RAW. All officers may get posting in Ministries and State/Central Government and work in the policy formation. You can get posted to international organizations like WCO, UN, WHO, World Bank IMF etc. You can take lien and become a professor or join an NGO or even start an NGO in public interest. You can write books, make films and do several other activities with the permission of government.9: Widest NetworkingThe networks of civil servants are the widest in the country. As an IRS officer, my colleagues are posted all over the country. We also have officers posted in several part of the world. I can call anyone and request them for any help or protocol. When you join a service, you join a family. You are like the new born baby, who is looked after by every elder of the family. You have to just request and your wishes may be fulfilled. As you grow older in service, your role is reversed and you take care of the young officers like your children.There is also a brotherhood between all officers. I just have to pick up the phone and request my colleagues in IAS, IPS or others, and they will usually extend all types of help. Through your friends, you can approach anyone in the country, in case you need their help. The businessman, actors, leaders are all interested in networking with you, because you are always in positive to help others. It is you who have to restrict your network due to time constraints and due to its effect on performing your job professionally and impartially. Even when you retire, the network is not broken since your juniors remain in the service till almost the end of your life.10: Post Retirement JobsA civil servant get the experience of the government as no one else can. It is often said in movies that an IAS (or IPS, IRS) officer can always choose to become a Minister but a Minister can’t become a civil servant. There is a great demand of such experience in the corporate, who have to deal several government departments, but they have no experience of dealing them. The retiree officers usually get very good job offers by corporate, if they choose to work later. Many of my colleagues, who have left IRS after 10-15 years of service to join corporate are getting salaries in Crores. You can even start your own consultancy firm and earn good money. Since you learn how to run the government, you can also choose to join politics and become an effective Minister or even Chief Minister (Arvind Kejriwal, Ajit Jogi) or Prime Minister (Morarji Desai). You can also become Governor, CIC, CVC, CEC or UPSC/CAT/Tax Tribunal Member/Chairman after retirement.ConclusionIt may be a good idea to join civil services like IAS,IPS, IFS,IRS or like, if you appreciate the value of the good things that government services have to offer. However, there is no free lunch in this world. Hence, “There is a price to be paid for getting the good things”. Remember the old Hindi Song “Kabhi kisi ko mukammal jahan nahi milta, Kabhi zamin to kabhi asman nahi milta” (No body gets a perfect world, sometime you don’t get the earth and sometime you don’t get the sky).If you are willing to pay the price, civil services are still one of the best options to join in India.Disclaimer: The views expressed in this post are personal.

The Polish language was gradually adopted in Lithuania by politically and culturally active segments of the society, between the beginning of the 15th and mid 16th century.It was the result of the Union in 1385 and the conversion to Christianity by Lithuania.In terms of art and architecture Polish influence goes back to the 14th century.The Church, the state and urbanisation were the main practical Polonising factors. The already existing Polish models were transplanted to the pagan Lithuania where they had been absent. They were further disseminated to the lower strata of the society.14th. century Church of Saint Nicholas, Vilnius, is the oldest surviving church in Lithuania:Lithuanians were numerically a small proportion of the population of the Commonwealth.Out of a total 11 million inhabitants in 1618: 4.5 million were Polish (40%), 0.75 were Lithuanian (6.25% of The Commonwealth population), 3.5m were Ruthenians , 1.5m were Belorussians.Lithuanians were a minority even in the Grand Duchy of Lithuania.Lithuanians:1340 - 30 % of GDoL population,end of 14th c - 10-15% of GDoL population.Polish clergy, soldiers, court officials and burgers started arriving in Lithuania soon after the signing of the Union to establish the new Church and state structures.A number of Polish peasants were brought in by several magnates ( boyars) to the sparsely populated areas.The largely Slavic inhabitants of the Duchy - the ancestors of present day Ukrainians and Belarusians - constituted a large majority.Up until the end of the 17 th century the official language of the Grand Duchy was Slavic Ruthenian.The Duchy’s Legal Statutes and registers were written in Ruthenian until the local nobility in Lithuania proposed the introduction of Polish as the official language, a process which was completed by the 17th century.The first statute of 1529:1588:After 1588, in Polish:Ruthenians, like all other ethnicities of the Commonwealth, were becoming nobles and acquiring equal rights. Some Lithuanian nobles were becoming Ruthenised.Perhaps adopting Polish served Lithuanian nobles as a way of distancing themselves from the Ruthenian majority surrounding them. It staved off their growing influence.In terms of territory Lithuania was not a “lesser part of Poland”. 17th century map: The Crown - pink, the Duchy - grey.In terms of power in the Commonwealth Lithuanians held a surprisingly strong position in spite of their small numbers.It was the Lithuanian Jogailo dynasty which ruled the Rzeczpospolita (Res Pública of Both Nations, translated into English as the Commonwealth) for nearly two centuries.Lithuanian magnates were often more wealthy and more autonomous than the Polish nobility.A map showing the territories of the most powerful noble families in the 16-17th century:Red - the Wiśniowieccy, Ruthenian origin.Blue - the Radziwiłłs, Lithuanian.Pink -the Ostrogscy, Ruthenian and Lithuanian.Green - the Zamoyski family, the only ones with Polish origin.The Lithuanian Radziwiłł family became particularly prominent, largely thanks to the romance between Barbara Radziwiłł and Sigismund II Augustus, the King of Poland snd Grand Duke of Lithuania (from the Lithuanian dynasty Jagiełło).Mikołaj Radziwiłł Czarny (The Black) held several administrative positions within the Grand Duchy of Lithuania. He was known by several versions of his name: Lithuanian: Mikalojus Radvila Juodasis, Belarusian: Мікалай Радзівіл Чорны, and Latin: Nicolaus Radvil.Despite opposing close ties with Poland, Mikołaj contributed to the ongoing Polonisation of the Grand Duchy, influencing other Lithuanian nobles to follow him in adopting Polish culture – its fashion, customs and language.The role of Lithuanian nobles in the Commonwealth does not support the implication of the question that Lithuania was “a "lesser" part of Poland”.Lithuania and Lithuanians benefited from the Union with Poland.I could be biased, so I’ll quote a Lithuanian quoran:Markūs Stenerys's answer to How Lithuanian was Poland-Lithuania?“Joining with Poland gave Lithuania immediate recognition and acceptance to Western culture and brought University, western architectual styles, influenced literature and culture”.Interestingly, despite the Lithuanian heft and importance in the Commonwealth, it was King Stephen Báthory (a Hungarian), who established the university in Vilnius - not the Jagiellonian dynasty who had ruled Poland-Lithuania before him for nearly 2 centuries.