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People with alcohol problems do not decide to make the transformation of quitting alcohol overnight, but once you do, just go for it. Admitting to your drinking problems is a great step and sticking to it is the best. It is important to acknowledge your ambivalence about stop drinking alcohol. If you are not sure about making the decision right now, then reconsider, but if you are super ready, then the list below can be helpful.Most people with alcohol problems do not decide to make a big change out of the blue or transform their drinking habits overnight. Recovery is usually a more gradual process. In the early stages of change, denial is a huge obstacle. Even after admitting you have a drinking problem, you may make excuses and drag your feet. It’s important to acknowledge your ambivalence about stop drinking alcohol. If you’re not sure if you’re ready to change or you’re struggling with the decision, it can help to think about the costs and benefits of each choice.How To Stop Drinking Alcohol?There could be gazillion reasons for you to stop consuming alcohol. Some people need to stop drinking alcohol because of medical conditions such as liver diseases which have been badly affected due to heavy alcohol consumption. Others choose to do so for religious reasons or simply to move towards a healthier lifestyle.#1. Speak About Your IntentionsQuitting alcohol is a big decision and hence needs to be talked about. Your family and friends play an important role in supporting your major decisions, and therefore you should tell them about your intentions. Once stated that you want to quit drinking alcohol, your close ones will know the reasons for you turning down social gatherings at pubs and bars.#2. Don’t Be TemptedAlcohol addiction is not an easy one to get rid of until you are thoroughly determined. The initial days of quit drinking alcohol could be the most difficult because of the temptations that are hard to resist. Catching up with friends, going out on Saturday nights, dinner dates or even office parties, ALCOHOL is written everywhere.#3. Look For AlternativesJust because you wish to quit drinking alcohol does not imply that you’ll have to put an end to your social life. If Friday nights have always been about partying, then be it, just make the hop from a pub to a bowling alley maybe? Or catch up on a good movie? This will naturally help you skip on consuming alcohol.#4. Let The Process Be GradualNow that you have decided on quit drinking alcohol, it is important to be patient. An addiction is called so because it has become a significant part of your life and letting it will take loads of efforts, time and patience.#5. Identify Your TriggersEvery addict has their own trigger points and so will you! As someone who is trying to quit drinking alcohol, it is highly important that you recognize and identify your trigger points, i.e. the times or situations in which you are tempted to drink.To know more Tips on How to Quit Drinking Alcohol for Good?

People want their different interpretations to be seen as facts, so if they can make their own interpretations seem as valid as canon then they feel better. It validates their opinions, regardless of how true it is. It gives them that gratifying “Aha, so there!” moment they can send to fans who disagree.JK Rowling’s comments indicate that Harry x Hermione are a more plausible pairing in some ways, but she never says anything about how those two characters should have ended up together. That is exactly what is taken out of context and treated as canon by some Harmione shippers.-Let’s take a look at JK Rowling and Emma Watson’s thoughts on the matter (pieced together with the following sources):J.K. Rowling, Emma Watson discuss Ron, Hermione, Harry: Full interviewFull "Wonderland" Interview Reveals Ron/Hermione Shippers Can Relax - The-Leaky-Cauldron.orgEW: I thought we should discuss Hermione… I’m sure you’ve heard this a million times but now that you have written the books, do you have a new perspective on how you relate to Hermione and the relationship you have with her or had with her?JKR: I know that Hermione is incredibly recognisable to a lot of readers and yet you don't see a lot of Hermiones in film or on TV except to be laughed at. I mean that the intense, clever, in some ways not terribly self-aware, girl is rarely the heroine and I really wanted her to be the heroine. She is part of me, although she is not wholly me. I think that is how I might have appeared to people when I was younger, but that is not really how I was inside.Hermione’s thought and feelings are fundamentally different to JK Rowling’s. As Hermione doesn’t reflect her author on the inside, the argument that Hermione should have chosen Harry because he’s more like the author’s husband falls apart.Although Rowling favours Hermione because she’s a part of her, that doesn’t mean that the character is a carbon copy of her author.&JKR: I wrote the Hermione/Ron relationship as a form of wish fulfillment. That's how it was conceived, really. For reasons that have very little to do with literature and far more to do with me clinging to the plot as I first imagined it, Hermione ended up with Ron.EW: Ah.JKR: I know, I'm sorry, I can hear the rage and fury it might cause some fans, but if I'm absolutely honest, distance has given me perspective on that. It was a choice I made for very personal reasons, not for reasons of credibility. Am I breaking people's hearts by saying this? I hope not.She wrote Ron and Hermione’s relationship in a personal, wistful, self-satisfying way. I understand where she’s coming from and I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing. She wanted to give a part of herself an ideal happy ending, with the ideal partner she envisioned being Ron who was written as the heart of the trio.I do think she could have developed the Romione relationship in a better, more “credible” way. I don’t think they needed to have so much drama and aggression in HBP and their relationship failed to develop OotP. Opportunities were missed and the development of Romione was lacking in places. Perhaps Rowling was so taken with their communicative bickering so much that she only thought of smoothing it out near the end.I think Rowling always envisioned Ron and Hermione like they were “meant to be” (see the Red King & White Queen theory), but didn’t know quite how to handle them in the later books, as their romantic feelings ensued). Instead of developing them (which she only really does in the last book) she kept playing them off one another to keep the tension.Even though I agree with some of JK Rowling’s flaws in regards to the Romione relationship, I still like them as a couple.&EW: I don’t know. I think there are fans out there who know that too and who wonder whether Ron would have really been able to make her happy.JKR: Yes exactly.EW: And vice versa.Unsurprisingly, Ron is treated like an afterthought (though thanks for mentioning him, Emma) and Hermione’s happiness is treated as the top priority. It reminds me Kloves removing Ron’s importance to the trio and pushing him to the side in favour of prioritizing Hermione.JK Rowling and Emma Watson have strong biases towards Hermione, so I suppose this was inevitable. I just wish they were fairer to Ron, is all.&JKR: It was a young relationship. I think the attraction itself is plausible but the combative side of it… I’m not sure you could have got over that in an adult relationship; there was too much fundamental incompatibility. I can’t believe we are saying all of this ’ this is Potter heresy!EW: I know, it is heresy.She isn’t sure that Ron and Hermione’s bickering realistically reflects a real life, average adult relationship. That’s fair. They’re not a perfect couple and it takes them years to sort out their feelings and get together.&JKR: In some ways Hermione and Harry are a better fit […]JK Rowling certainly acknowledges that they could work better than Romione— meaning that Harmione is at least a plausible ship— but only “in some ways” that aren’t specified.This must be nice to hear as a Harmione shippers! After all, she’s acknowledging that their ship has foundation and I won’t dispute that. I think Harry and Hermione work better in some ways as Harry and Ron work better in other ways… That’s what makes them a formidable trio!My issue with Harmione shippers is when they claim JK Rowling says here that she prefers Harmione to Romione, which isn’t true.&JKR: […] and I'll tell you something very strange. When I wrote Hallows, I felt this quite strongly when I had Hermione and Harry together in the tent! I hadn't told [Steve] Kloves that and when he wrote the script he felt exactly the same thing at exactly the same point.I find this part odd because Harry and Hermione do share intense moments in the tent— it’s just that those moments are filled with anger, frustration and deep depression. I won’t deny that those emotions are strong, but I have never seen them as romantic.As she talks about Harry and Hermione in the tent (not in the graveyard), I’m guessing she’s referring to this scene(?):Harry picked up Hermione’s wand, which he had dropped in the snow, and sat back down in the entrance of the tent.“Thanks for the tea. I’ll finish the watch. You get back in the warm.”She hesitated, but recognized the dismissal. She picked up the book and then walked back past him into the tent, but as she did so, she brushed the top of his head lightly with her hand. He closed his eyes at her touch, and hated himself for wishing that what she said was true: that Dumbledore had really cared. (DH)Hermione touches Harry’s head and he leans into it. This display of comforting contact is sweet but nothing romantic is suggested, especially as Harry doesn’t dwells on any feelings for Hermione and focuses his attention on his affection for Dumbledore. Even when receiving affection from Hermione Harry doesn’t seem very taken with the act, as he acknowledges her touch and quickly moves on.I don’t see how Harry and Hermione’s interactions in the tent is similar to the movie’s will-they-won’t-they dance.(Also, of course Kloves “felt exactly the same”— Hermione was his absolute favourite and she was getting a chance to flirt with the main character.)&EW: That is just so interesting because when I was doing the scene I said to David [Heyman]: “This isn’t in the book, she didn’t write this”. I’m not sure I am comfortable insinuating something however subtle it is!JKR: Yes, but David and Steve ’ they felt what I felt when writing it.EW: That is so strange.JKR: And actually I liked that scene in the film, because it was articulating something I hadn't said but I had felt. I really liked it and I thought that it was right. I think you do feel the ghost of what could have been in that scene.I’m grateful to Emma for talking what JK Rowling actually wrote in her own book because the majority of this article seems movie-based.For me, JK Rowling’s feelings didn’t translate in the book. Hermione comforted and supported Harry by keeping him upright, guiding him back to the tent and patting him on the head but I just don’t see these instances as romantic. Harry was at his very lowest, deeply depressed and even wanted to die. Hermione was being a close friend— a big sister to Harry, perhaps— but I don’t see romantic intentions in her support.I know Harmione shippers feel otherwise and I’m fine with that! We prefer different characters and ships so it’s only natural to draw different conclusions.&EW: It’s a really haunting scene. It’s funny because it really divided people. Some people loved that scene and some people really didn’t.JKR: Yes, some people utterly hated it. But that is true of so many really good scenes in books and films; they evoke that strong positive/negative feeling. I was fine with it, I liked it.The dancing scene works for the films because that interpretation had already elevated Hermione’s importance to Harry at the expense of Ron. Harry and Hermione are far more compatible in the films as both characters are changed. Harry was a far more subdued, comforting and weakened character who existed to comfort Hermione when she was upset.The scene makes much less sense for book canon and doesn’t accurately reflect Harry and Hermione’s characters. Of course, I can’t say how much the films impacted Rowling’s feelings towards her characters, but I have my own suspicions that this isn’t entirely to do with the books.&EW: I remember really loving shooting those scenes that don’t have any dialogue, where you are just kind of trying to express a moment in time and a feeling without saying anything. It was just Dan and I spontaneously sort of trying to convey an idea and it was really fun.JKR: And you got it perfectly, you got perfectly the sort of mixture of awkwardness and genuine emotion, because it teeters on the edge of “What are we doing? Oh come on let’s do it anyway,” which I thought was just right for that time.EW: I think it was just the sense that in the moment they needed to be together and be kids and raise each others morale.JKR: That is just it, you are so right.Harry and Hermione canonically, absolutely irrevocably could not do this in the books. Ron was the only one who could make them feel like kids again. Ron was the one who raised their morale, which is proved when he returns.The whole point in him leaving was to show that Harry and Hermione needed him. Without him they struggled and became depressed. Harry sniped at Hermione, refused to comfort her and was consumed by resentment. Hermione was inconsolable, depressed and was scared of Harry’s intense anger.They had small moments of comforting reconciliation, but they were still deeply unhappy. When Ron returned their situation and morale immensely improved.The dance scene misunderstands Harry and Hermione’s canon personalities. Then again, the films beforehand had already done that, so it’s nothing different.JKR: All this says something very powerful about the character of Hermione as well. Hermione was the one [who] stuck with Harry all the way through that last installment, that very last part of the adventure. It wasn’t Ron, which also says something very powerful about Ron. He was injured in a way, in his self-esteem, from the start of the series. He always knew he came second to fourth best and then had to make friends with the hero of it all, and that’s a hell of a position to be in, eternally overshadowed. So Ron had to act out in that way at some point.She’s right that Ron, considering everything he had been through, needed to act out at some point, though she fails to mention all of the context that caused Ron walk out (e.g. Harry’s mockery/dismissal, Ron’s poor physical wellbeing).She’s wrong about “that very last part of the adventure” as she seems to forget that Ron came back and shared the real last part of the story with Harry and Hermione. Ron shared in a lot more than Rowling is giving him credit for.Also, Hermione couldn’t physically leave Harry because she had no family to go to, whereas Ron had several networks Rowling had set up. Once the trio were in the forest Hermione was pretty much stranded with Harry until the quest progressed. She made her choice to stay with Harry, but did she really have anywhere else to go? How much of a choice did she have?&JKR: But Hermione’s always there for Harry. I remember you sent me a note after you read Hallows and before you starting shooting, and said something about that, because it was Hermione’s journey as much as Harry’s at the end.… How can they ignore Ron’s story in DH and imply that it isn’t as much of a journey?! JK Rowling is neglecting 1/3 of her trio.Ron’s DH notable “journey” moments are as follows:Becoming more mature for Hermione, in hopes of starting the long-term relationship they both want, by using the self-help book gifted by Fred and George.Prioritising Hermione’s life over his own, personally saving as his first instinct and offering to sacrifice his life over hers several times.Suffering from physical/emotional/psychological injury, only to return stronger, braver and more resolute in helping Harry and Hermione.Leaving his friends at his breaking point, before realising where his priorities lie, and returning back even stronger and more secure.Living independently and not relying on Hermione, as he fights his way back to his friends.Saving Harry’s life and destroying the Horcrux, which are two major events in his journey.Overcoming his insecurities for Harry— a MAJOR journey for Ron— and finally, truly understanding exactly where Harry is coming from, as well as how invaluable he is to the trio.Losing a family member in the battle which signifies how letting Harry into his family, sticking by him so closely and treating him like family has come at the cost of his brother.Coming up with the plan that destroys another Horcrux which shows how he now applies himself instead of waiting to follow Hermione’s instructions.&EW: I completely agree and the fact that they were true equals and the fact that she really said goodbye to her family makes it her sacrifice too.Ah, this is by far my least favourite part of the interview.They both ignore everything Ron has done and sacrificed for Harry to elevate Hermione: The Kloves Effect (the name isn’t to be taken seriously lol).I acknowledge that in the films Harry and Hermione are “true equals”, but Emma Watson’s comments aren’t reflective of the book counterparts, as:Ron brings light, home, love, humour, warmth and familyHermione brings logic, knowledge, stability, preparation and safetyHermione and Ron are true equals to Harry. That’s why JK Rowling made them the Red King and the White Queen. She made them equals.&JKR: Yes, her sacrifice was massive, completely. A very calculated act of bravery. That is not an “in the moment” act of bravery where emotion carries you through, that is a deliberate choice.I see JK Rowling downplaying Ron’s emotion-fuelled acts of bravery to prop up Hermione’s deliberate choices. However, both characters should be commended for their different styles of bravery:Ron, the heart— his bravery is fuelled by his emotions and instinctHermione, the head— her bravery is fuelled by her logic and calculationOne is not better than the other. They are both different people who work/act/behave differently.Even so, Ron going out of his way to return to Harry and Hermione was also a logical and calculated move that showcased his bravery and loyalty! They could find several examples of Ron making brave calculated decisions if they looked for them.&EW: Exactly.JKR: I love Hermione.EW: I love her too.I love Hermione too! The book version is great! The movie version… not so much.&JK: Oh, maybe she and Ron will be alright with a bit of counseling, you know. I wonder what happens at wizard marriage counseling? They'll probably be fine. He needs to work on his self-esteem issues and she needs to work on being a little less critical. […] Ron’s used to playing second fiddle. I think that’s a comfortable role for him, but at a certain point he has to be his own man, doesn’t he?”JK Rowling even comes about to defend Romione and recognizes that they just need to sort through their issues.Her “maybe” and “probably” have the same vague, non committing ambivalence as her “in some ways”. By using such vague language, Rowling confirms that what she’s saying isn’t canon, so she can’t say for sure. If she was writing about this in absolutes then we should treat it as canon/fact, but it isn’t.EW: I think it makes sense to me that Ron would make friends with the most famous wizard in the school because I think life presents to you over and over again your biggest and most painful fear until you conquer it. It just keeps coming up.JKR: That is so true, it has happened in my own life. The issue keeps coming up because you are drawn to it and you are putting yourself in front of it all the time. At a certain point you have to choose what to do about it and sometimes conquering it is choosing to say: I don’t want that anymore, I’m going to stop walking up to you because there is nothing there for me. But yes, you’re so right, that’s very insightful! Ron’s used to playing second fiddle. I think that’s a comfortable role for him, but at a certain point he has to be his own man, doesn’t he?EW: Yes, and until he does it is unresolved. It is unfinished business. So maybe life presented this to him enough times until he had to make a choice and become the man that Hermione needs.There’s not much for me to say here, other than Ron already became “the man that Hermione needs”… In. The. BOOK. He acted more maturely, applied himself, improved himself, complimented her, comforted her and supported her to show his affection for her.Ron became a better version of himself for Hermione. He already made that choice. It’s a pity that the films completely gloss over this and never finish Ron’s personal journey.&JK: Just like her creator, she has a real weakness for a funny man. These uptight girls, they do like them funny.EW: They do like them funny; they need them funny.JK: It’s such a relief from being so intense yourself – you need someone who takes life, or appears to take life, a little more light heartedly.This confirms that Hermione shares a similarity to her author over liking funny guys, which is part of her “wish-fulfillment”: Hermione gets to end up with the kind of lighthearted, funny man that JK Rowling is attracted to.Perhaps Rowling lived out a “what if” version of her life when writing Hermione. Personally, I think that idea is rather sweet.-On a different note, I have a feeling that one of my previous answers has offended someone else who so I would like to apologize for stirring so many negative emotions.Due to the nature of their comments I’m guessing this is aimed at me(?):I’m done with playing nice to appease people who fight dirty.Critiquing the characters and the arguments proffered is not the same as a personal attack. Learn the f***ing difference.I’ve never said any of their comments were “personal attacks”, just that they were insults, which are aimed towards a group of fans that I’m a part of. The behaviour I explored has negatively impacted my views of this platform, so it’s fair for me to talk about. There’s no need to be rude and aggressive.On the topic of crossing a line, this person mentioned a graphic “it hurts” image, which I managed to find— it was a reference to self-harm. I’m not comfortable with the use of the image (because of my experiences with depression, self-harm and suicidal thoughts) but there are no threats of violence/harm to anyone other than themselves.In comparison, publicly inciting hate towards someone, that leads to numerous anonymous threats, is attempting to hurt, threaten and intimidate someone. Implying that reading someone’s argument is like self-harm is one thing. Encouraging sending hateful, threatening anonymous messages is another.So, I think I do know “the f***ing difference” as the assumptions I have shown do go beyond “critiquing the characters”. Claiming that Ron fans are sexist, stupid, have lesser opinions on literature, are abuse apologists, liars, delusional is insulting.Of course, we all have to make an effort to make the HP fandom less toxic. I have only pointed out the parts that I think should be acknowledged.Again, I apologize if anyone thinks I’m being unfair and causing offence.

Emotions are your body preparing for the next thing it needs to do. From this standpoint, they are neutral, not good or bad. They also serve as a feedback system that tells the mind things that are too information intensive for simple recollection.Anyone who has seen EEG results in real time notices that the brain operates with “waves” of neurons firing, sometimes across the whole surface. The brain uses differing styles of querying its own contents and employs two systems of sorting through this mass of information that is triggered by our perceptions or recollections. These are broad classes but they relate to how the information is evaluated.Cognition or thinking focuses on specific information, perceptions, recollections, concepts, values and features. Jung labeled this style of evaluating information Thinking. Thinking comes in different flavors depending on the information it is sorting through.IdentificationClassificationSynthesis (Prediction)DiscriminationAnd, these methods can be used in conjunction to perform more complex analysis. When we are making comparisons, we are using Identification and Classification together to evaluate objects, etc.But, to handle the really big globs of life experiences and generate a single motivational/directional “choice” we need a system of what is essentially voting for the correct response at this moment. This is what emotions do. The emotions you feel both prepare your body for action, or to respond and they give you feedback which is often paired with one or more example cognitions (discrete perceptions, memories or imaginings) that give you a fulcrum for interpreting the response you are feeling. Jung called this way of evaluating information Feeling. And it is really an amazing system for comprehending information.Just like with Cognition, Emotion operates by evaluating the whole store of your brains current information (when we allow it) relating to what ever we are focusing our attention and within a specific assumptive frame of reference. If our reference frame is unclear, we experience a drifting sensation called disorientation.Emotions resolve to one of three outcomes:Is this a threat?Is this an opporuntiy?Or is this a challenge?And, we have four parallel ways of interpreting every impression, perception, recollection, conceptualization, imagining, or etc. This utilization of four domains of consideration is consistent through all of the workings of the brain. And, this division of information is accomplished by the same sorts of domain analysis complex modern sensor equipment use to discriminate specific information from a background of all sorts of competing signals. The same sorts of classifications that apply to cognitions apply to emotions, but emotions evaluate based on past, current and potential impact of the information. So, emotions come in four different “flavors” too.Identity (Status, Specificity and Recognizability)Mobility or Sequentiality (Acquisition, Retention and Implication)Affinity (Membership on a group or class, herd behavior)Diversity (Novelty and Information seeking)And, like Cognition, the products of the evaluations made by our emotions can combine together to form much richer responses to conditions.The most simple of these combinations is called a couple. This is a diagram of the 18 unambivalent emotional couples.These twelve basic emotions give rise to literally hundreds of definitions of more complex emotions like three colors combine to create the color wheel. You can find more about these definitions at this link.David Powell's answer to Is there a simple classification / category system for emotion?Emotions are intensified by combining into couples and when couples combine even stronger emotions can be expressed. This is like one light vs. four lights. One light dim, very dim. Four lights very bright, very very bright. Paul Ekman’s universal emotion definitions concentrated primarily on just a few couples and mostly on very high level compounds and other states that are expressed when the emotional system is right at its boundaries. Not very useful.However, it is worth mentioning that all four emotions of a type (aggression, anxiety or attraction) focused on the same object of consideration at the same intensity form the “great” compound emotions of:Love - Four Basic Attractions at the same intensity at same focusHate - Four Basic Aggressions at the same intensity at same focusGrief - Four Basic Anxieties at the same intensity at same focusHowever emotions don’t exist in a vacuum. The intensity of the emotions we feel is greatly influenced by Impulses which act like a ladder building strong emotions. Impulses though the process of perception, recognition and feedback as the waves of recognition crash back and fourth in our brains, one cycle intensifying the last. And, Impulses can drive directly to action without Cognitive/Emotive evaluation if a habitual action is already keyed to this “very specific” impression. This is how a professional baseball player hits a ball flying at 100 miles per hour, perception goes right to long practiced action without even thinking.The intensity of emotions we feel is damped by increasing experience of multiple outcomes of events. Each of these outcomes becomes a facility for exploring the grey of situations when Impulses are all about the Black and White of situations. So, the realm of emotional reasoning is the happy middle between these two ends of the spectrum of damped reactions. This style of emotional reasoning is called Attitude.The undamped glory of the emotion Admiration (Pride + Affection) is damped down to Respect (Assurance + Appreciation). The pain of Embarrassment (Shame + Pathos) is damped down to Humility (Modesty + Sentimentality). The hard accusation of Suspicion (Hauteur + Disdain) is damped down to Criticalness (Reserve + Dogmatism) and so on.And, beyond emotions we have our passions, urges and appetites which well up from our most basic animal nature that is always present. This aspect is sometimes called Libido but the term is loaded. But, it is our self-preservation mode. And each of the emotions is linked to aspects of this modality at their very core. Thus, when the higher levels of processing offered by our enormous Cerebral Cortex are not functioning well because of suppression of our neurotransmitters due to rationalization, denial or other such command that we might impose on our own-selves, this is the emotional system that is left over, the Lizard brain, the predator, etc. And, to some extent, this is also the brain that we are functioning within when in the throws of sexual excitement which also suspends our higher levels of judgement while acting through the Impulse system.SO, if emotions are so wonderful, so excruciatingly responsive, why do people complain and suffer because of them?The first level of suffering is called mixed or ambivalent emotions.Normal Frequency of Emotions:Attractions - 65 to 75% of waking hoursPure Anxieties - 4 to 6% of waking hoursPure Aggressions - 4 to 6% of waking hoursPartial Ambivalences - up to 13% of waking hoursFull Ambivalences - 2% of waking hours.For a person not suffering emotional distress but just chugging along with life, all is not perfect but for most of their waking day things are more or less OK. However, mixed emotions are painful, not only because both anxieties and aggressions have an element of discomfort, but because ambivalent emotions have the aspect of having both sorts of discomfort at the same time. And, very often, ambivalent emotions result in non-actions or deeply contradictory, even hypocritical actions. So, rather than leading to solutions that “solve” the problem, ambivalent emotions cause the feeler and the people around them great distress.When someone confronts you with a Petulant (Pathos + Anger) demand, you are confronted with an equivalent dilemma. Which do you respond to? The hurt of their pathos or the fury of their anger? And, the trap is that the “petulance” user is going to attack your response regardless of which choice you make. But worse, the complementary emotion to Petulance is another ambivalent emotion and no matter which your system uses, its going to mess up your thinking processes and cause you to feel the “push me - pull you” discomfort of your own ambivalent response.Ambivalent emotions can be formed from emotional couples as well, and these are also painful, even more so. And, as these sorts of emotions populate your day, your ability to reason and process information deteriorates. When we feel ambivalent emotions 10 to 25% of the day, we can function but the deterioration takes its toll on the person experiencing this, and also their relationships that are necessary to sustain them in a rational frame of thought. When ambivalent emotions consume more than 30% of your waking hours, it is difficult to distinguish real or imagined situations, threats or opportunities.But, the use of ambivalent emotions is not the only thing that goes “wrong.” To much reliance on Impulsive thinking leads to all of the outcomes that are generally associated with impulsiveness. This is normally associated with childish behavior, but because our storehouse of information is always limited to our own experiences, we are always going to act impulsively (due to lack of offsetting experiences) when we are confronted with novel or strange circumstances that we cannot frame within our current store of experiences. Some personalities because they focus so much on perceptions and seeking immediate pleasure also seem to have an impulsive balance in their behavior. This leads to higher highs and lower lows than the folks around them, but also some would claim it leads to poor decisions made because of lack of patience and judgment.The other end of the spectrum is associated with old age. This is being Attitudinally balanced. Words like Dogmatic, Reserved, Timid, and Vane are associated with personalities that are balanced toward Attitudinal reasoning. And, because this system is at its core the one that signals the body to release less energy over use of the Attitudes results in low moods. This is as opposed to the Impulse system which signals “fire it up!” So people who are constantly thinking in the Attitudes are often depressed and tend to be withdrawn as well.Introverted people seem to be unemotional, but this isn’t the case when you get to know them. Rather they utilize their cognitive processes more than their emotive processes. And, this is the case with the opposite Extroverted personalities who show lots of emotion, but often have their moments of deep thought and insight.A discussion of emotion is not complete without touching on the aspect of Mood. Moods are not emotions. Mood is our perception of our available energy to do things. And, each of the domains of consideration that the mind uses has its own associated Moods which convey the energy available to do that specific sort of “action.”High moods are feelings of wellbeing. But, above a certain level, happy turns to mean as the primal survival motivation system grabs control and shuts down the higher processing capabilities. This is a little described phenomena that pretty much is the backbone of all of the villains who are characterized as mighty, famous or otherwise tempted to get too much into themselves.At the bottom of the moods of well being are a set of moods associated with Meditation and Prayers. These are centering moods that free us from all of the noice and thoughts and concerns.. and whole systems of therapy, much less religious activities are all centered on creating the opportunity to seek this level whether by going down or up from previous moods. Done right, a religious service however, walks up the moods of well being from Peaceful to Inspired and then back to Excited or Engaged.Low moods are the stuff of depression and below that Agitated depression and Psychosis.The aspect of personality called Character creates thought processes that bound our moods and keep us from slipping into emotions that are consistent with sliding into these moods and at a deeper level provide defenses from slipping into Malevolent high moods oar Agitated Low moods.The good feelings of high mood and attraction emotions cause memories and habits to be formed to replicate the situations and behaviors that gave pleasure in the past. Feelings of anxiety and distress on the contrary provide negative reinforcement to avoid situations and behaviors that bring on these feelings. And, feelings of frustration especially that cannot result in useful action also provide negative reinforcements for behavior. Where as frustration that can be successfully overcome brings feelings of elation and very high moods indeed.This is just scratching the surface, but yea, emotions are a really really good thing. This is why Data, the character on Star Trek the next generation, continuously seeks them.