Assisted Living 30 Day Notice Letter: Fill & Download for Free

Putting a parent in assisted living or a nursing home is not always a callous decision. I used to be in the camp that believed that only uncaring children put their parents in those facilities. It’s really not that simple. My mother has Alzheimer’s, and we ended up putting her in assisted living. My mother did live at home with my dad after we officially got the Alzheimer’s diagnosis. My dad really tried to take care of my mom, but his caretaking skills is very lacking. She had no appetite and was losing weight. She was still mobile at that point, and one time she accidentally set the stove on fire while she was trying to boil water. After a urinary tract infection landed her in the hospital and then rehab, we hired a caretaker and made arrangements for weekly RN visits. The caretakers were ok, and the visiting RN was pretty useless. Then my mom had a stroke. She was having mobility issues prior to the stroke, but it was the stroke that left her wheelchair bound. While she was in rehab, we got the lovely letter from Medicare that since she was failing to improve, she was going to be discharged in 3 days. To make things even more complicated, it was during the holidays. The fact that my mom was now wheelchair bound was a complete game changer. My parents’ home is very much not handicap accessible. There was no way we could get anything in place over the holidays. We tried to stall the process by filing an appeal, but that only bought us a few more days. Our backs were against the wall. We found an assisted living facility that would allow my mom to stay there for 30 days. At the end of 30 days, we could either bring her home or have her become a resident. It was during this time we weighed all of our options. There were no easy answers. My mother requires full time care. Neither my sister nor I are in a position where we can quit our jobs. Plus, end-of-life care is VERY expensive, and there’s quite a bit not covered by Medicare. While we were deliberating, we started noticing that my mom was actually doing better in assisted living than at home. She was eating well and was partaking in the activities instead of sleeping all day. The facility where she’s at has an RN on staff who sees her everyday, and she gets examined by a nurse practitioner every week. We had to be very honest with ourselves. Can we do better than that? The answer was no. It’s worth pointing out that assisted living is not always equivalent to abandonment. I live out of state, but either my sister or my dad would visit her every day. I was going to see her at least once a month. Unfortunately, the COVID-19 pandemic put a screeching halt to our visits. We do have daily Skype calls with her now.

First, the laws differ depending on where you live. If you live in the USA call legal aid. Most county courthouses have a legal aid department that can assist you or at minimum set you up with an attorney to provide free legal advice so you can at least know your rights.You are over the age of majority, that means you are legally an adult. Your parents are only legally responsible for you until you turn 18. After that, they are not legally required to support you or provide a place for you to live. Many parents choose to let their children stay at home with strings attached, you have to follow their rules.My son, who will turn 24 in a month, still lives at home. He just graduated with his Master’s degree. He is now searching for a job. We are letting him live at home while he is searching for his job but he still has to follow our rules. My number one rule is that he needs to tell his mother where he is at- all the time. I am not going to deal with his mom panicking over not knowing where he is or if he has been in an accident. We are still paying for his cell phone and so he has to respond to his mother within an hour of her calling or texting him. If he does not, he has 30 days to find a place to live and will have to support himself. This is a very simple and easy rule to follow, especially since he pays us no rent.He does this because he respects his mother, he loves his mother, and neither of us wants to deal with her panicking and worrying about his safety. He is also grateful to have free room and board while searching for a job. He wants to live on his own and I do not blame him.By the way you asked the question, it appears you had an argument. I would go back and apologize immediately. Even if you live in a state that gives you tenant rights which would force your mother to go to court and get a court ordered eviction notice, that will only buy you 30 to 60 days notice. All she has to do is write you a letter, send it by certified mail with a return receipt, and the clock starts ticking.You need to follow her rules, no matter how unreasonable they seem to be to you. You might be able to work this out by talking things through and coming up with an agreement. Put the agreement in writing and both of you sign it. If this is not possible, then come to an agreement on a time line for when you will move out and put that in writing.Then put a plan together to move out. Take advantage of any job training opportunities that are available. Try the local community college. Try the local unemployment office. There are many places that will help you train for decent paying jobs that are available.Than you need to start saving money. You do not need to go out and party with friends. Save all the money you can while you are living at home. Take whatever job you can get while you go back to school or train for better jobs. Search for roommates and a place to live. That way, if things get worse at home, you can move out sooner if you need to. You also should consider going to college or a vocational school and start your career.It is better to move out before your mother goes through the eviction process. Evictions go onto your credit history and will make it harder for you to rent a place to live.As a high school teacher, I am guessing that the argument you had with your mother had something to do with your mother’s concern about you. Maybe you are not being serious about your future or you are just mostly hanging with friends. Maybe you are expecting your mom to provide everything for you which makes it easier for you to be lazy. You are now an adult, it is time to provide for yourself, your mother has done her part. It is time you be the adult and behave like one and not rely on your mother’s money but that you earn your way in life.

Yes - 20+ years ago I was stationed at a small military base in Wisconsin and I lived in a crappy little house in a nearby town. It was in poor condition when I moved in, so I took pictures of everything. Landlord refused to fix anything (he even had an electrical outlet in the shower). A little less than a year later, I was offered housing on base and I mailed and hand delivered my landlord notice and gave him the required thirty days. He couldn’t be troubled to walk through the house with me on move out, so I again documented it with a lot of pictures. I left it in much better condition than when I found it.Thirty-five days after move-out, I received a letter from him that not only was my security deposit forfeit based on damages and cleanliness, I also owed two extra months rent for breaking the lease early (it was the remaining time on my lease). I immediately questioned that, as I witnessed someone else moving in not two days after I moved out. He told me it didn’t matter and he would send me to a collection agent. I elected to take it to small claims court and present my case.A month later, and after many threatening calls from his lawyer, my court date arrived. I had researched every aspect of landlord/tenant law and brought my evidence. While waiting for our turn, the lawyer again took the opportunity to threaten me, this time with the prospect of a counter suit. I refused to back down and when we got into the hearing, the landlord’s lawyer immediately asked for and was granted a continuance for two weeks. More threats came, but I held my ground. The next court date came, and I finally got a chance to present my evidence and defend myself. Ultimately, the judge ruled the landlord was in the wrong by trying to keep my deposit and that I was only liable for one extra day of rent, as the new tenant moved in two days after I moved out. Since the landlord waited 35 days to notify me of what I owed (Wisconsin required it be within 30 days at the time), the judge also ruled he owed me double damages. Rather than pay me in a lump sum, he requested the judge allow him to pay me back in six monthly installments. Unfortunately, the judge granted the request.Of course, the slumlord was late in paying the first payment by about a week. The second payment was even later and arrived the same day I placed a lien on his properties for non-payment (he owned about 50 houses). A week later, he was trying to sell one and the lien stopped the sale. You guessed it, more threats from his lawyer. First it was they were going to sue me for depriving him of needed income. The lawyer provided a citation that appeared not to apply, so I held fast. Then a cop showed up at my home threatening me with possible arrest (again on a bogus charge). When I mentioned it to the admin assistant for my office, she let me know the cop was a cousin of the landlord, so I called the Chief of Police to find out why they had sent the cop to my house (they hadn’t, he was doing it for his cousin). Coincidentally, the lawyer called me that day and demanded I come to his office that afternoon to get a check for the entire amount and sign paperwork to remove the lien. I told him he could deliver it to me at my office and when the check cleared, I would gladly sign all the paperwork. His assistant showed up at my office an hour later with cash and I signed the paperwork.I didn’t see him again until a year later. My admin assistant’s son had the same thing happen to him and she asked if I would help him. I agreed and even offered to go with him to small claims court. The same lawyer was there and the slumlord elected to settle, rather than deal with me again. It was extraordinarily satisfying.