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Before you ask why, ask if.Very few people lie about the concept of gender as it applies to themselves; they speak the truth as they experience it. However, many people make the classic mistake: they assume that everyone else's experience must match their own. It's not lying; it's an understandable mistake.For many years, I made the same mistake. Gender was not a concept that made any sense to me. I thought it was just a physical description. Yet the older I got, the more everyone around me seemed to want it to mean something.The way they spoke to each other, the assumptions they made, the way they made jokes about girls and boys, how they wanted to be called and treated; it all seemed to relate to gender. Worse, they seemed to want me to join in. Everyone was playing some weird roleplaying game, and nobody had bothered explaining the rules.I thought everyone was deluded. I thought they were buying into a big lie, created by history and repeated mindlessly.I thought they were lying.Eventually I read about non binary people. I read about agender. I thought: Oh, that’s me! And that’s when I realised.People are not deluded. They’re not hoodwinked. They’re not lying. They genuinely feel themselves to be men or women. Men and Women are not just made up concepts.Nowadays, based on studies of how children usually police gender around age 3 and socialise themselves and brain scans that show genuine differences, I believe that people are born with an inate sense of their gender. It’s like a compass inside them. That compass drives them to identify around them people whose gender matches theirs, and want to fit in and copy other people in that group; that’s where all the social bit about what women or men are supposed to do comes from. How people express that gender can be learnt and changed; but that internal bit that tells them what they are? That’s a fundamental drive. And it’s a drive that I do not have.Now, regarding transgender people: our brain’s gender is set while we are in the womb, but it grows at a different stage of development than our genitals. So if the hormonal balance in the womb shifts, we can get a gender that doesn’t match our body.People who are not trans can find this difficult to understand. Heck, I definitely don’t understand what it’s like to actually believe you’re a man or a woman! I think it’s very easy for people who are assigned one gender at birth, and whose brains match, and whose genitals and body all match, to feel like those things are all connected. For them, it’s bound up and part of being a woman or a man. The idea that there are definitely two genders, defined by genitals, sounds good because it matches their experience. It matches what they’ve always been told. It matches what almost everyone they’ve met experience. It makes sense!So when they encounter someone who does not experience gender in the same way, it’s easy to understand how someone would find that difficult to even conceive of how that might work. It’s easy to assume that your experience is universal. It’s easy to think that trans* people are deluded. Or hoodwinked. Or lying.The reality of course is that humans come in a tremendous variety, and many of them are very different to me, in ways they cannot convey and I cannot hope to properly understand. Heck, what I see as red and blue probably doesn’t look the same in your brain - but there is no way we could work that out! Instead we will just find ourselves arguing over the merits of different colour combinations.Of course, if I choose to decorate my house in a way you find garish, it’s ok. It’s my house, not yours; you don’t have to come over. Don’t start trying to rip off my wallpaper because you don’t like it. You’re welcome to carry on living in your own house; I won’t force you to live in mine. Let’s both enjoy our homes in peace.We’re not lying; we’re just different. My truth is not your truth. And that’s ok.

I am well groomed, successful in my field, and incredibly assertive. Despite this, I understand that my ability to dress well and speak articulately doesn't make me better than anyone. Further, I acknowledge that my success is due to hardwork and determination rather than genius. When people congratulate me for what I've accomplished, I remind them that they can do it too. I'm not special. Complacency and a lack of humility is the downfall of even the most successful individuals. Arrogance has no place in my personality or vocabulary. Yet, many of the women I meet continue to be intimidated by me. Why? Unfortunately, many of these women don't have the confidence to assert themselves like I do. Naturally, it's going to be off putting. To them, assertiveness is a foreign concept. Naturally, meeting someone who is the polar opposite of you isn't always the most pleasant experience. But it can be worth being with someone that has traits you lack. Relationships shouldn't be a competition. It's unfortunate that they don't realize they too could be equally as assertive and determined if they tried. Sure, this is an inate facet of my personality. Even still, they don't realize is that it took years of work, introspection, and effort for me to become the person I am today. The problem is is that they're too afraid to admit they have an esteem problem or if they do, they're unwilling to work on it. Rather than fixing the problem, the best course of action for them is to avoid it. Being around me is difficult because I assert my boundaries and my expectations upfront, while they expect me to read their mind or feel slighted when i candidly express myself. You can word the truth in the best, kindest way possible. But sometimes, the truth by nature is unpleasant to hear. I welcome this. I rather know exactly what I'm doing wrong because then I can fix it. I don't appreciate when people mince their word because their afraid to offend me. And they don't know how to deal with this. No one that is used to sulking and moping around wants to hear that fixing it is within their control. If there's a problem, don't sit around and expect the world to feel sorry for you, instead find a way to fix it. In other words, people don't like that I don't play their stupid games and that I'm secure in myself. It bothers them because they're not, and they don't know how to deal with it, and when they do they're unwilling t put in the effort t change their situation. So they shy away and leave. If they're looking for someone to baby them, I'm not it. I expect a good partner to be upfront and honest. And let's face it, no one is perfect. If the person you're talking to is unwilling to work with you through the bad times and except you for who you are (assuming you're not a piece of shit), or if they think confidence is a bad thing, then if you're truly confident, you will understand that they're not the one and move on. Nevertheless, it is a shame people allow their insecurities get in the way and lose good opportunities, but it is what it is. Keep in mind that being confident, driven, ambitious, bold, and asertive is fairly rare, especially today. Most people won't know how to deal with this. Finding the right partner is going to be challenging, and it's going to take time. Most people won't be compatible with this type of personality. Don't give up, you'll find the right one eventually.

I will completely disregard the Trump portion of your question as it shows an inate political bias and serves no purpose other than to instigate.It's not that anyone ever actually wants a civil war the question should actually be why do people feel this is the only option?Over history, or at least my 40 years of existence I've noticed several justifiable uprisings where the people having protested silently and written letters and begged for help and begged to the government to do their job which we entrust them with, the people go wholly ignored.Think in the abstract sense. If you wanted something done so you communicated in some way written, speech, sign, what have you; and your request goes unheeded, you would attempt to really others to your cause peacefully.Presumably, you would again repeat that process but with larger numbers in an effort to demonstrate that is not only your will but the will of a multitude of others.If after that process, your request goes ignored, you may venture to a place personally to voice your grievances by protesting, picket lines, letter writing, public speeches, media appearances and so on.If that option were to fail you may possibly correspond directly with the individuals that you would wish to see change one particular thing or other.Should that fail you may attempt a meeting by appointment or phone call or what have you.I asked you, should that fail, what options remain?Nobody said a peep when portland, seattle, New York city, San francisco, Los Angeles... Were being looted, and destroyed, including of course the businesses and livelihood of a multitude of private citizens.Why is it then, when apparently those actions which resulted in wanton destruction of multiple individual's personal property infringing upon their rights to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, was nothing done while politicians applauded very publicly?Yet when the people, “the rightful masters of both the courts and Congress" (Abraham Lincoln) take the fight to their doorstep, which is actually constitutionally allowed and referred to as a duty of the people, should there be punishment?If you disobey your boss, you are put on notice. If you disobey again, you are written up. If you disobey again, you are fired. If you are fired and refused to pack up your workspace, and leave; you may very well be removed from the premises by your boss or a lawful authority.this situation regardless of political affiliation or whether or not it is distasteful or a moral affront to certain people is completely irrelevant.While I do not support the klu Klux Klan or their message I do support their right to spread that message, that is to exercise their right to free speech regardless of whether or not it is offensive. I would even go so far as to protect them because constitutional freedoms apply to everyone.Should they actually engage in violence against the people they speak out about, that is an entirely different story as that as person on person violence and not the people securing their rights which government is meant to protect as government is only a steward of the power bestowed upon the people by a higher power.The Constitution and founding documents chain the government. it is not a list of privileges or a mild suggestion it is a legal document. Even if that document were amended, it doesn't matter. It says in the declaration of Independence that men were bestowed by their creator with certain unalienable rights among them are the right to life liberty and happiness...Civil servants are just that. They are no different officially than any employee at any job and are afforded no further protection and are in truth under much more scrutiny because if your boss betrays you you're not allowed to do certain things to them. If you read the Constitution as it's written and read it closely, the same does not apply to government officials.I've heard so much of people's perspective which is just that an opinion or a bias or something they heard or saw or think but yet when presented with facts that challenge their personal opinion they become defensive and engage in character assassination because they feel themselves threatened which of course is not true.To have one's belief system challenged often presents an opportunity for personal growth and you would think that would be a welcome experience.in the realm of psychology we call this cognitive dissonance. That is, somebody with a bias believes something and even when presented with evidence to the contrary will not concede that it was an opinion and accept factual evidence.this seems to be the case over the past few weeks but in the interest of full disclosure I will say that I do not support either party and never have as in my 40 years somebody is always upset when those in service of the people should be doing the best they can to please everyone within the authority we give them. if somebody is of the opinion they don't like guns for example then that elected official should by rights tell them that is your right not to like guns but I do not have the right to tell others that they cannot have guns.It really and truly is just that simple.No one in their right mind, wants a war, ANY war, for any reason including military officers. It would be far easier to resolve conflict through peaceful means although that is not human nature that also raises the question what do you do when a peaceful approach or multiple peaceful approaches fail?TL;DRA peaceful, calm, rational approach to a given problem; is always the preferred solution. But what is one to do, when peace is given a chance and fails?