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0430- wake up0445- wake up0500- wake up0520- shit, shower, shave, brush, cleanse and moisturize. Put on PT Uniform0559- walk into COF, show face, get marked off roster, walk back out0602- Smoke cigarette or 2. Give to someone who needs one.0623- walk in0625- walk outside for morning formation. Salute when told present arms. End salute at order arms. Sing Dogface Soldier song with the morale of a gulag prisoner.0650 to 0745 or 8 (if the SL is braindead) and run up every stair in the brigade. Yes bitch, all three floors up and down. There are two sets a building. And you run to each building. And we wonder why our knee caps give out in a 2 years.0800- leave company, go to DFAC and eat. Scrambled eggs, biscuit, sausage patty. Yogurt, bananna,. choccy milk and Wheaties.820–0830 walk to barracks, smoke cigarettes, shower, get in uniform0915- walk to company0930- walk in, show face, dip out and smoke0950- walk back in, show face, leave Patrol Cap on table and sit on the toilet. Stare at the floof or phone for 20 minutes until someone calls for you1010- walk back in, sit for a class with pen and paper.1045- everything is calming down, lunch is soon, nothing should come down1130- go to DFAC or PX if you need cigarettes and monster. If you go to the PX and skip chow hall, buy beer too and drop it off at the barracks. You can nap too if you want for 30 minutes1245- begin walk of shame1300- show your face in the COF, leave and smoke cigarettes1315- get called back in to move wood, do medical training, learn another class, or do General Purpose Machine Gun drills. My fastest time for changing a barrel is 3.8 seconds! Im actually kinda proud of that since German machine gunners trained to do it in 7.1500 or 1600- sweep the line, do the squad huddle, and be dismissed.1620- change, workout, go to DFAC. If 1700 arrives, run inside quickly.1715- go to barracks and proceed to activate the standard drinking protocol.2100- go to sleep.The above are subject to change and can be altered or rearranged at any time.You have the right to be called back in at 2300 for a recall formation and barracks inspection.You have the right to stay an extra 3 hours because someone lost a laptop.You have the right to be screwed out of at least one meal, maybe 2. Shit, even all 3.The DFAC has the right to be closed on the weekends. If you're broke and don't have a car, fuck you, fuck the 300–400 bucks we take from your check.Miss an appointment? Negative event oriented counseling. Miss two? Reduction in rank, loss of 2/3 or 1/2 pay, restriction to post, FLAGGED, 14/14 or 45/45 extra dutyIs the number 4 alot? Times late for a PFC, yes. Number of DUIs for a Staff Sergeant, no.Fail two PT tests? Discharge.Body fucked up? Go to sick call. Then get called a profile ranger, shitbag by the same people who told you to go. Then get called out when you dont want to go.Narcissistic and Compulsive liar as an E5? No, you can't block his number. Yes, he can waltz in your shit at 0900 on a Saturday. Yes, he can lie to you and say you got shit to do, and sure as shit you were right. Oh yeah, the lies. The fuckin' lies and the gaslighting. LOVE IT.Drug test? There goes another 5 people. Here's how many our company lost: F, W, P, L, U, V, D, F, R, A, B. Thats more than a squad of people gone. Then you add S, Q, M from our sister company. Thats 14 people. Now you add up the entire battalion and brigade. Yeah, and you idiots wonder why we need so many more recruits. The turnover rate is astounding.You have the right to lose as many friends as possible until you have no more, which makes you want to get out just like they did.

Yes, in fact a Soldier can be counseled multiple times for the same incident. The Soldier might receive an event-oriented counseling shortly after the event occurs. That incident will likely be included in their periodic (monthly or quarterly) Performance counseling. The incident may be mentioned in a Soldier’s Personal Growth counseling. Where the supervisor might run afoul of regulations is if they assign corrective training for the incident in each of the counselings.

Many years ago, I was taught that we should avoid using questions like “how are you doing?”.In social situations, this question is oriented as a greeting, and has thus become a common phrase to use when meeting someone. It says ‘I’m interested in you and how you’re doing’ rather than ‘tell me all your problems’. People have the leeway to offer a simple one word answer and move onto more important things. However, when this question is asked in a counselling session, it aligns more with a request for information and direction.When people with mental health issues are asked this question, they often struggle with discerning how to answer. Is it a greeting or a request for information? And where someone has persistent challenges, the question reminds them of their struggles, and puts them in a position where they need to lie or select and (re)expose a private part of their life. When they’re asked this question by someone they see regularly, continually stating ‘really bad’ can get old, tiring, and can consistently put a negative overtone to the event.They’re engaged in a social activity or a counselling session to feel better about themselves… not to reinforce areas in their lives that are bad.It’s unpleasant when you start each activity with a talk about how poorly you feel… some people feel the need to lie, simply to have a nicer conversation. But this can result in them feeling isolated and alone in the world; partly because people think they’re doing ok when they’re not, and people will develop an incorrect idea of who that person is and what they’re going through.A good portion of counsellers and other mental health professionals recognise that there are questions that should be avoided. “How are you doing?” is often one of those questions; although this varies on a case-by-case basis.The type of viable alternative questions is also going to vary according to the style of intervention the mental health professional is using. As a quick example, if Positive Psychology was being utilised, a good opening question could be “what’s worked out well for you since we last met?”.Conversation starter questions should be open questions. “How are you doing?” is a closed question; one word can technically answer the question. This results in additional questions being needed to uncover details or encourage disclosure.Additionally, questions should not direct the flow of the conversation (outside of where it’s necessary due to the style of counselling taking place). It’s better to give the client the opportunity to talk about what’s on their mind rather than have the counseller decide what’s important; while there are times this is necessary, it shouldn’t happen in the first instance.In a more general sense, and with the above in mind, it’s often preferable to start with a pleasant greeting such as “it’s good to see you again”, and follow this with open ended questions:Is there anything specific you’d like to talk about today?What are your hopes and goals from this session?What’s changed since the last time we met?You seem happier / a little down today, what’s happened?What’s the most important thing you’d like to talk about today?These questions allow the client to talk about their challenges, interests, activities, and life events. The direction is decided by the client, according to what’s valuable to them and what they’re comfortable addressing.And it’s important to recognise that these questions focus on what’s happening in the client’s life at that moment. We’re not going to revisit the general or overall ‘feeling’ of the client’s situation. Any response given is more closely going to reflect what’s currently important for the client. And this allows the counseller and client to work together in celebrating victories and alleviating problems.