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Initially all I wanted was the “no fault” divorce - joint custody, 50–50 split of marital assets and- since she is on disability - the state recommendation for spousal support.I left residency up to my children - they were both older than 14, and chose to live with their mother. They both knew her history of bipolar and multiple suicide attempts- but I was told that going against their decision would be pointless.Ny now ex kept on not “taking the deal” and wanted sole custody - she is bipolar and spent a lot of time in a psyche ward, so that was NEVER going to happen - and wanted 75% of my paycheck.One time we even “had a deal” - both attorneys told the judge - when the judge formally asked each of us, she said no.Another $40,000 of attorney’s fees to be paid out of joint assets to get to the next court date.Attorneys charge $400/hr. So that is where most of our money was going. But I had zero power to stop her from bringing me to court and “promising” to work it out.Finally one day miraculously she agreed to the exact same terms we and the state of CA had offered from day 1.Weekly visits with my children - 8 hours (standard was 16, but I asked them and they told me that they wanted less - they were teenagers and needed a life - so I agreed).Then one day I got a call from the local police who were at my ex wife’s house. I drive there and they were taking with my children asking them if they wanted to go home with me. I was totally puzzled by the familiarity, etc. My children spent a few hours with me then went back to their mother.I then went to the local police station, shoes them the joint custody order, requested all reports involving my children.I was given 18 reports - mostly my ex wife calling the police because she was in some sort of argument with my children.At that time, both my children were getting straight As, my son has an assistant manager job at a pizza place, and - per my demanded court order - they both regularly saw therapists.Who were not told about the police visits due to lies told by my ex wife.Within 2 weeks, my son turned 18 and moved out - my ex wife literally kicked our daughter out of the house.I proceeded to file for sole custody.The order was sole custody for me with zero visitation by my ex wife.

First and foremost - THANK YOU to everyone who shared their stories explaining why they don’t talk at work. It feels great to be understood through other experiences. I am also an introvert - I prefer to observe and think, and find most conversations draining (especially when people just want to be heard instead of listen and learn). According to the Meyers-Briggs personality test, I’m an INTJ.I’ve lived and worked all over the US (FL, TX, PA, NJ, NY, AZ, WI, WA, CO, CA), and in many fields. While there are a variety of people, both good and bad, some places have worse cultures than others. A lot of it comes from its history and localized influences (whether a business, government agency, city, county, state, or country). Unfortunately, the REAL culture of a job/office/etc. isn’t something you can look up, and considering the economic impact of COVID-19 and social justice riots, most would be grateful for any job right now. Makes me very grateful I worked on myself to get into a job from which I can telework.We all know in the US, overall it’s a culture of fakeness, and always putting on a positive image over the harsh reality. It’s especially prevalent in California and Texas. Makes me wonder why Yankees add the extra work to being fake instead of honest (I don’t call myself/people from the US “Americans” because it’s arrogant to think we’re more important than or representative of every other country over two continents).I’ve read many forums, and the laziest comments I’ve seen to complaints is “Well, don’t work/live/move here!”, who say the same thing to immigrants. Those kinds of people are ruled by racism, classism, instant gratification, and redemptive violence of being right/better than others, rather than the “burden” of long-term thought to consider job and individual situations outside of their own. The “what have you done for ME lately” kind of people who would never be good at the calculus delta or sigma functions, because they require you to think about “change over time” and “the sum of all parts”. Learned from YouTube and Khan Academy, btw, not some fancy college - but looked down on because I “didn’t spend the money to learn it”.That all being said, it all contributes to the general attitude of work places within those cultural microcosms.My worst experiences have been in the retail/sales and legal fields.In retail, you’re seen by customers as garbage unless they’ve had to work a low-wage job and gained humility and empathy. Many solely go to retail businesses to vent their personal frustrations and life dissatisfaction on people they perceive as lower in status. This usually causes the workers to not want to be social - because it represents more problems they don’t need, because they’re required to be nice to even the meanest customer, for horrible pay and the looming threat of being fired if they don’t work hard enough, or a customer on a power-trip complains. Work, then, begins to feel like a prison of necessity. Especially the interior culture and social politics of those who suck-up to more abusive managers, while throwing other people under the bus.That being said, I finally escaped retail for a state government job in CA, in an executive legal healthcare office. At first, I thought “finally, I am working with highly educated individuals who know how to behave professionally”… WRONG. From this job, I learned people are people no matter where you work.Sure, things were fine for the first two months, but from my observations, something about the culture seemed very “off”, but I shrugged it off and thought “maybe attorneys are just very private and quiet - something I can appreciate, being an introvert myself”. The manager who hired me went on a month-long vacation, and when she came back, her personality was a complete 180. Not only that, but people who had survived her, took me under their wing. At first, they seemed like they were saving me from this manager. As time went on, the manager became more abusive, and I learned I was surrounded by snakes who use everything you say or don’t say against you… and it was completely unnecessary.The thing about a government job (at least for CA state jobs) is, once you pass a probationary period of 6 months or a year (based on position), your job is a property right, which requires mounds of documented evidence and a hearing to fire/dismiss you. The trick is getting past probation. My manager was an alcoholic narcissist - anyone who didn’t suck up to her and demonstrate loyalty, even if it meant being abusive to other people, she found ways to either fail them on probation, bully until they found another job, or force them into retirement. Even among people who passed probation and had no worries, they still perpetuated this abuse cycle like the private sector. Before I knew it, I was all alone. I had to go to the office of civil rights and threaten to sue for discrimination against a person with disabilities. Eventually, that manager was lemon-shuffled to another agency, and the interim upper manager who took over passed me on probation.While that was a relief, and that manager was the worst of the experience, it didn’t end there. The whole office culture was full of snakes. I learned to keep my head down, don’t talk to anyone, don’t care what people thought about me, and focus on studying a different field (STEM, which unlike legal, you can’t manipulate/argue with the facts) with a plan to transfer to a scientific agency. In the time until I finally left, I discovered the culture was full of narcissists who were bipolar, insecure, and always looking for dirt on people. The social culture was full of cliques like in high school. The only reason anyone spoke to you was to get information to use against you, play mind games for their amusement, or win you over to their clique. Any time you tried to call them out on it, didn’t matter how much evidence you had, they would gaslight and manipulate you (often using the DARVO technique). Even when I was just minding my own business, or when people found out I saw through their lies, they would spread reputation-damaging gossip, and to my disappointment, most were dumb enough to believe it and ostracize me, instead of think for themselves. Spineless sheeple.I’m sure the attorneys were good at their job itself, but you wouldn’t believe how many of them had worse MS Word, general computer/internet, or even spelling and grammar skills than I did (I was just support staff, with only an AS degree, mostly self-taught), but they acted like they’re so much better than everyone else. It also didn’t help that many were bitterly divorced, and had grown into hateful sexists (on both cis-gender spectrums). What’s worse is unless you discussed sports or some other mundane topic, they became insecure and started giving you the cold shoulder - but expect you to be a cheer-leader for their sports-related achievements, but put your own achievements down if it wasn’t interesting to them, or made them feel less accomplished. So I decided not to bother at all, wear my headphones, do my clerical duties, and study in my down-time. When I did this, the narcissism REALLY came out; they were offended as if saying “how DARE you not acknowledge me!”. The kind of people who complain if you breathe wrong near them - no exaggeration.Though I am in a better agency/position now, in a field I enjoy - from all the lessons I’ve learned across the occupational spectrum, I’ll NEVER again warm up to coworkers further than what’s necessary. I’m grateful that there’s an option to continue teleworking until a vaccine is created, and even then, to only go into the office when needed.When they say you’ll never have friends again like when you’re 12 - it’s true. While I enjoy learning about different cultures through my language exchange programs, I’m grateful it’s indirectly (via app). Though I will say I’ve gained much more respect for other countries in how they handle pandemic situations, and function as a society in general (while Yankees are more concerned with instant gratification, and cry like babies about “mah freedumb!” when they don’t get their way at everyone else’s expense).While I may have put down roots in CA, I am really hoping to retire in another country. Even if the revolution for change is upon us now, it’ll still be decades before the changes happen socially and systematically, or how much harder the willfully ignorant will fight against change, and rebrand symbols like the flag to further an extremist agenda, and tear us apart.To all those who have suffered, who have humility and empathy, who do their best and rise above their abusers instead of become just like them - thank you for being a decent human being. Please know that you’re not alone.