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Yes they do. I know people who do. But the parents resist the urge to burden their children. They prefer going to nursing homes, going to a retirement community, working after retirement age, or retiring in a different, cheaper, country than asking their kids to take care of them because of self respect. But there are kids who make great sacrifices for their parents. One of my professors (I studied in an American university) had a friend who quit his job to take care of his dying mother. It destroyed his life. The market took a downturn, after which he had to work two jobs. Another man I know had to be persuaded to leave his home and live with his daughter.Take a look at this obituary:“Louise 'Cort' Daniels passed away peacefully at 6:00 p.m. Saturday, June 17, 2006 in the home of her son and daughter-in-law Curtis and Barbara, in Crawfordsville, Indiana. Prior to moving to Crawfordsville Cort lived her later years independently in Sanibel, Florida and Colorado Springs, Colorado.”Source : Louise Parker Lux "Cort" Daniels's Obituary on The News-PressIt’s that important to say that she lived independently before moving to her son’s home. This woman isn’t poor. She’s the former wife of Leo Burnett’s Draper Daniels. Her family wanted her to be at home, thats why she wasn’t at a nursing home.There are a lot of brainwashed people who think that Americans don’t have familial ties. This is nothing but fake propaganda to make it look like we have this glorious moral value system even if we are “poorer” compared to Americans. In India, you are the personal property of your parents, husband/wife. Once an Indian said to me: “Yes, I own my kids”. It also reflects the way my parents treat me. Ties=bondage and lack of freedom of choice in many instances like place I want to settle in, career path etc. I often feel like there’s an invisible cage around me.American culture is very individualistic. You are responsible for yourself, even in your old age. I skyped with an American friend’s mother once. I had questions about life in America. I told her that she should retire and her husband shouldn’t worry about looking for work since their son will start working. As their son, he should support his aged parents, I said. I will never forget what she said to me for the rest of my life. She said that its their fault (husband included), that they didn’t plan for retirement, and that they couldn’t burden their son with extra responsibility. “It is not fair to him”, she said. She could never do it to her son, out of love for him. Having met many Americans, heard stories of more, I can guarantee that they feel the same type of attachment as humans, but they do things in a different way. They do take care of their parents.P.S.I could never burden my kids, and I’d rather die instead of asking my kids to sacrifice their life for me. Having sex, getting pregnant, giving birth are all choices people make. No one forces you to have kids. You are not doing your kids a favour by looking after them. It is your responsibility to support the life you created. You can’t ask them to return the “favour”. You don’t own your kids. If they are busy, leave them be. Buy a home in a retirement community (its not an old age home, its a gated society/community complex with villas/apartments which have safety features for old people like accessibility) and have fun with your peers.

I’d have to say what I dislike the most about the USA is the lack of alternative lifestyles available in or near cities and communities. Specifically, we seem to lack spaces and happy living environments for our homeless and elderly, or just people who wish to live a simple happy life. Here are some examples of which I’d like to see more of:More community sanctioned spaces for our homeless; like even tents, or small tiny one room homes with running water/electric maybe—we don’t need much, we just need a small space. There ought to be no good reason for a person to be living on the streets.Our elderly often needs special care that most of us can’t afford; like who can afford $6,000+ a month for a loved one’s elderly care? There are people like me, who will gladly volunteer care for free, we just need a small place to sleep, and a small amount of food (in return,) to happily do this. With a little education on elderly care, and maybe exceptions to strict laws regarding this, then there is a lot we can do for each other if organized correctly—Each community ought to have such projects. The point is to let people care for each other, and not see a job in the ‘care’ industry as just another way to make a buck, but rather a chance to share and give to each other; and give people in need, a chance to be self-sustainable among each other.Jobs: Maybe an exception to minimum wage for those of us willing to work for less. Like I will take a $4.00 an hour job that will put enough food on my plate to survive. But with higher minimum wage, less jobs will be available as businesses have to tighten their belts.Create and except ‘more’ work positions for people who have disabilities, or have special needs or health concerns that don’t currently ‘legally’ entitle them to any outside assistance. We have an entire work force that is idle because they don’t meet the current qualifications to work in most capacities. With a little leeway and accommodation, we can provide more working environments that benefit both the employer and growing numbers of needy employees.I’ve been both rich and poor. And sure $$$ in the bank is a good feeling and can provide more freedom and happiness, but there is a point where $$$ can backfire and one can find themselves slaving at there jobs just to keep up with a $13,000 monthly expense, mostly going to pay only the interest they owe. We may become ‘addicted’ to a lifestyle that essentially brings an imbalance between work and play; work being time and energy doing something to make the payments on stuff we bought. And play is time and energy doing stuff for the pure enjoyment and happiness of it, like maybe sharing life with loved ones and friends more, or actually enjoying more time with the stuff we bought. If we are smart of lucky enough, we can also turn our work into play too, we may just need a little imagination for this sometimes.I know soooo many people who have worked hard and sacrificed spending more time with family and friends, all their lives, so they can accumulate enough money to retire carefree. But when they retired, they only lived a few years after that to enjoy it all, while seeing their loved ones go through the same addiction to satisfying some business’s ROI to get ahead. Such sadness to see this happen again and again. Such resentment and regret people can end up with, when they realize that they could have injected more ‘love’ into their lives (which is free,) rather than racing down a river—with say a few weeks vacation a year— that just leads to eventual death anyway.So just saying, I am the most happiest when I stop to enjoy each moment in life for the now—this may be a personal journey. So if you find yourself over-stressed, than maybe look for ways to reduce such stress, because there are solutions for this, like maybe simplifying your life or something. Sure if you are in a place where you can retire at 30 or 40 then great, go for it. But most of us can’t do this, right? Even with my wealthy friends, like their idea of fun is really stressful, haha. I really enjoy the simple stresses more, like finding shelter and water, and food, and helping those homeless, elderly, and just people in need, have a moment of happiness with each other. Money can be great, but all we really need to be happy is to just be alive to enjoy each other’s company—and the communities in the USA just ought to promote this more, I think.

Asexual people have indeed faced trauma and discrimination. For example, like lesbians, asexual women have often historically (and even now!) faced “corrective rape”Here’s a huff post article on it: 'I Hope You Get Raped'Secondly, asexual people do face the same sorts of personal discriminatory behaviors on a daily basis as others in the community13 Stories of Asexual and Aromantic OppressionSomewhere on the A-Spectrum: Agender, aromantic and asexual people face misconceptions, aggressionMany places recognize hate crimes against asexual people in a class of their own, like homophobic or transphobic hate crimes. This is from the UK:Acephobia & Anti-asexual hate crimeSurprisingly, a Canadian study of university students with high Right Wing Authoritarianism and Social Dominance Orientation scores found that they actually have more negative feelings toward asexuals than toward the rest of the lgbt community TheHere are other studies:Intergroup bias toward “ Group X ” : Evidence of prejudice , dehumanization , avoidance , and discrimination against asexuals - Semantic Scholar“Chasing Aces: Asexuality, Misinformation andthe Challenges of Identity”https://ojs.library.dal.ca/djim/article/viewFile/6926/7243“Asexuality: The 'X' In A Sexual World: a 6 part series”https://pm22100.net/01_PDF_THEMES/99_THEMES/04_SOCIETE/S_ASEXUALITE_01.pdfCombating the stigma against asexuals and aromanticshttp://www.stanfordlawreview.org/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2014/02/66_Stan_L_Rev_303_Emens.pdf"Sounds Fake but Okay": Navigating asexualtiy on campusAmatonormativityOpinion | Asexual People Deserve Better From Our Medical ProvidersFuck your aphobia / AAU Climate Survey on Sexual Assault and Sexual Misconduct (2015) (first is an explanation of the implications for asexual people)Asexuality and Victim BlamingWhy We Need Mental Healthcare Without Asexual Erasure - And How to Get ThereAsexual Men and Rape - The Good Men ProjectAsexuality and RapeMen, Masculinity, Asexuality, and RapeReligion and Asexuality OverviewDo you want to?Also:“Asexuality was listed in the DSM as HSDD (Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder) until 2013, making it officially a mental illness that would be treated with therapy and medication. It is still in the DSM, except that you can ‘opt out’ if you self-identify as asexual, which is great except that asexuality is still so unknown that there undoubtedly many people who are asexual but don’t know that it’s “a thing”. This means that who knows how many asexuals have been sent to therapy and told they’re sick, then been “treated” for their orientation to try and force them to experience sexuality “correctly”.Hypoactive sexual desire disorder - Wikipedia“Personal stories of acephobia: Acephobia Is Real““We accept SGA (same-gender attracted) and trans aces”Firstly, SGA (same-gender attraction) is a term that was used and is still used in Mormon conversion therapy, so as one can understand, a lot of people are very uncomfortable being labeled with this description. Secondly, it enforces a gender binary of “same” and “opposite” gender that leaves a large number of nonbinary people out in the cold. Is a genderfluid person only “same-gender attracted” if they’re attracted to other genderfluid people who are genderfluid in exactly the same way? How about agender, intergender, demigirl/boy people? And before the argument “well they’re included as trans” is made, there are plenty of nonbinary people who do not identify as trans.The standard of “SGA and trans” as requirement for entry to the LGBTQ community is used nowhere outside of aphobic tumblr, and it seems crafted specifically for the purpose of excluding aces, aros, NBs, intersex people, and others not deemed “gay enough”.(SGA did NOT come from ‘SGL’, same-gender loving. That is a term created by black queer people and not to be appropriated by white people.)Discussion of the history of the word ‘queer’ and why it’s better than ‘SGA’: x, x, x, x, x“““The LGBT community has always been about fighting homophobia and transphobia/we came together to fight homophobia and transphobia”“Homophobia and Transphobia”: What does the LGBT+ community fight for?The modern American movement was first known as the “gay community” when cis gay men refused to even accept lesbians, then the “gay and lesbian community”. (Good reading on the subject.)“After the elation of change following group action in the Stonewall riots in New York, in the late 1970s and the early 1980s, some gays and lesbians became less accepting of bisexual or transgender people. Critics said that transgender people were acting out stereotypes and bisexuals were simply gay men or lesbian women who were afraid to come out and be honest about their identity. Each community has struggled to develop its own identity including whether, and how, to align with other gender and sexuality-based communities, at times excluding other subgroups; these conflicts continue to this day.” (source)“From about 1988, activists began to use the initialism LGBT in the United States. Not until the 1990s within the movement did gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people gain equal respect.” (ibid)These are scans of a gay magazine from 1999 showing that 48% of those surveyed did not believe that trans people should be a part of the gay community.The community’s boundaries have always been in flux”“Aces have never been a part of the LGBTQ/queer community”Asexuals recorded as “Group X” in the 1948 Kinsey ReportsWhat is asexual history? The 19th and 20th centuryFrom The Westminster Review, a political magazine, in 1907; an essay by Helen Fraser called Women’s Suffrage, on how if women got the vote, butch and ace women were gonna dominate the whole thing and screw it up for all the Real ladiesthe “aces/aros were part of the bi community until they very recently chose to split off, so stop telling them that they have never been queer or that they don’t belong in ‘the LGBT community’” masterpostasexuality existed before David Jay and AVEN“Where were you when…?” A History of Asexual Inclusion (Part One)“Where were you when…?” A History of Asexual Inclusion (Part Two)The Spinster Movement liveblogging my descent into madness”“From “Feminism,” by Correa Moylan Walsh, 1917:(anything in bold is my own emphasis, not hers)“…Women’s concern with the concerns of men is contrary to the nature of things, and the nature of things will prevail. The principle of the survival of the fit women, in the order of nature, means also the passing away of the unfit women – the ‘elimination of the wayward.‘The women who act the parts of men will not perform the function of women: they will not leave offspring. Their progeny will die out. Only the progeny of the women who remain women will abound. Thus feminism, in all its elements, is doomed.It would seem to be a law of progress that advancing civislisation tends to produce asexual women - female Urnings, as well as males of the same type. As the old customs compel these also to marry and to reproduce their kind, their numbers increase, till at last the old customs are broken down. Then the opening of men’s professions to women, and the liberation of women from women’s duties, acts as a safety-valve.The asexual women behave like sexless men, enter men’s professions, support themselves, do not marry, or at all events produce next to no children and - both they and their male similars, who likewise refrain from marriage – die out.Then, the field being cleared of such creatures, the remaining women, produced from mothers and fathers who had the normal sex-instincts of men and women, will be such themselves, and will of themselves retire from competition with men, who in their turn will be virile, and the world will continue on its usual course.If this were all, we might be willing to wait for the automatic clearing, when its predestined time comes. But this is not all, and here comes in the second reason why, in particular, woman suffrage cannot last.The clearing itself is an evil that will weaken many a nation or race, and endanger its existence in the competition with other nations or races in the portentous times that are coming.Feminism, begun among the asexual, is spreading to those with normal sexual instincts, who, in a false imitation of the others, repress them.The virile men and feminine women of the upper or leading classes or races are likewise affected by the anti-child-bearing mania, and their progeny also will die off, leaving the world in the hands of inferior classes or races. The decline of civilisation will then be accomplished, and the usual course of things must begin again from a low plane.”Need more? Look it up yourself. I hope this answer was sufficient to see why the idea that asexuals have not faced the same history as the rest of the community is merely a myth spread by Ace-exclusionists.Much credit goes to a great master post of studies on Asexuality on liveblogging my descent into madnessNot all content from there though.