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Let’s see, a father, it didn’t affect me. I paid child support for many years, with my ex-wife purposefully not working up to her capacity and working to keep me from developing a relationship with our daughter.The last child support hearing we had, she wanted more child support, as she stated, she had medical bills to pay due to her bad back. Our daughter was fine, it was my ex-wife’s bad back.Every time I switched jobs, I would report my new job to them, send them photocopies of my ID along with the summary of my contract. I would always ask if they needed to speak with HR. They would tell me that they wanted me to do nothing ad their own processes would work.Within a month their process would fail. They would send me mail telling me I was in violation as I didn’t work for the company I told them I was working for. So I would go to my HR figure out who they needed to contact, then send a fax with all of the pertinent info to my case manager.The last job switch, after the first go around, I come to find out that my employer screwed up the math, and wasn’t taking enough out per month. I was threaten with jail over not being in compliance, while I was trying to find out how much I was in arrears ( yes I could go in arrears, it was in the agreement ). Unfortunately, the guy threatening me with jail couldn’t tell me how much I owed or how I could pay it.A week later, my case manager got back to me with the figure, as the amount was do small, and there was only a couple of months left, I paid it off in full.Personally, I find the whole child support thing funny. There are people I know where the father ran away and refused to pay, and somehow avoided jail. On the other hand, one guy I know, went to court asking for child support for his daughter when his girlfriend ran away. The judge denied him with the statement, “ya can’t get blood from a turnip”. Funny, no jail time for her either.

"Assets earned during a marriage belong to both parties equally."But that's not what happens. They walk off with all the savings, all the furniture and things they want, then the court gives them the kids.The truth is, the courts really don't care at all. All their decisions are biased to the mother. You can't even raise assets until other matters are settled. The family court system is honestly not about justice or equity, it is about $$$. And liars, narcissists, and abusers tend to do very well in courts because those are the type of people who generate profit for the courts. Without them, family court would largely be unnecessary.When evaluating support, they impute the women's incomes lower and the men's incomes higher. They demand the father verify every fact and figure, even the ones the court has provided to the father. Meanwhile, they accept any statement or figure provided by the mother as fact."The statistics prove, over and over again, that men end up with more wealth than women after a divorce. Most studies look at the divorced couple's financial situation three and then five years after the divorce."Actually, they don't. And that has largely been debunked. Also looking at incomes is not the whole picture. If a mother earns $25K net, and a father $50K net, but has to give the mother $25K in support. Than the mother is living on $50K and the father is trying to survive on $25K. But the statistics show the father making twice as much as the mother."She must find a job with some health benefits or pay out of pocket if she is above the income level that would allow medicaid to cover some of her medical expenses."You mean the woman must get a job, work full time, and support a household. Just like the father did all those years? You mean, the mother's income now doesn't solely go to her benefit?"Since very often divorced fathers are either unable or refuse to keep up with their maintenance/child support"You said it, unable....you know what happens to those fathers? They get thrown in prison. Their crime...being to broke to pay unjust punitive payments."Divorced people, primarily men who resent paying maintenance and child support should be reminded that divorce has far worse financial consequences for divorced women than divorced men"Really? Please show me them? My wife makes well over $60K/year working part time. Then get's around another $1,800/month from me. She just bought a new house with her bf who has a good job in IT. They're probably taking home around $8K-$10K a month after taxes. Meanwhile, I am months behind on my electric bill and facing shut-off notices.

My primary experience with the law -- considering my profession is borderline illegal -- is avoiding it. What I can share with you is the strategy some of my coaching clients have used when facing narcissists in family court.I advised them not to focus on their ex’s narcissism because, as other people pointed out, narcissism isn’t illegal and only a qualified psychiatrist can diagnose them. So calling your ex a narcissist in court is just name-calling that discredits you.That being said, narcissists are incredibly easy to nudge into exposing themselves. If a clever lawyer can make an articulate, non-accusatory statement and work the word “loser,” into their argument, the narcissist will latch onto that one word and become single-mindedly obsessed with arguing the point… Their testimony (if they testify) quickly turns into word-salad as they demonstrate that they have no idea what’s really going on and their only motivation is to win for the sake of winning.If you have to face a narcissist in family court, it’s best to calmly focus on your ex’s general irresponsibility with the child’s welfare, substance abuse (very common with narcissists), gambling, etc. and hope the court officials are experienced enough to profile him as an unqualified caretaker.Avoiding court altogether is also an option. It’s not hard to get a narcissist to give up child custody and still pay the kids’ expenses as long as you spin the story so the narcissist thinks they’re winning. It doesn’t really matter if the story you tell a narcissist makes absolutely no sense because narcissists have 2-D vision and will believe anything you tell them as long as it sounds like praise.Instead of fighting against the narcissistic tendency toward grandiosity, encourage it. For example, one of my clients convinced her ex to move out of the country by telling him he could easily buy a big house and find a younger woman to take care of him if he lived in Mexico. She advised him to pay a lump sum of child support in advance so he could live up to his great potential without being bogged down by his monthly bills. The key to influencing a narcissist is to show them how what you want will benefit them.As for the original question, “How can we make a family court more aware of how narcissism affects relationships?” it’s going to take either a major cultural shift that eventually trickles down to the legal system or an experienced, resourced, visionary whose life’s purpose is to educate legislators about the vast destruction of families caused by narcissism.