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People who have personality disorders often feel very familiar to me. I had a head start in understanding and treating these disorders because I grew up among family members who had personality disorders.My Family: Here is just a quick sample. My biological father and one male cousin were psychopaths. (Psychopathy runs in the male line of my father’s family). My stepfather and an uncle by marriage had narcissistic personality disorder. Some of my cousins had schizoid personality disorder. And, a beloved aunt had histrionic personality disorder. There were all sorts of other disorders as well, including psychosis, OCD, and lots of anxiety and depression.I love many of these relatives and some were very kind and loving towards me. In addition, despite their mental health challenges, all of them were surprisingly functional. They all worked at jobs they found interesting and the smarter ones all got advanced degrees.My Friends: Because I was raised by people who had fairly obvious (at least to me) mental health problems, I tended to choose friends who also were a bit off the normal path. My background made me quite tolerant of other people’s issues.Michael’s Diagnosis: In college my friend Michael had been evaluated and referred on to a therapist for treatment. He was given a envelope to hand to his new therapist with his formal diagnosis sealed inside. In those days the diagnosis was strictly for the therapist and not usually revealed to the patient.Two of our other friends steamed open the envelope so I could see the diagnosis. I was chosen because I was studying psychology and they hoped I would understand what it meant.The note said that Michael was a “Pseudo-Neurotic Schizoid with Psychopathic tendencies.” We were stunned! This was our dear funny friend Michael who loved Wagner’s Ring Trilogy and making sarcastic jokes. It took me another 20 years to understand what that scary sounding diagnosis meant.All of this together gave me a head start with regard to treating people with personality disorders and other psychological issues.My First Year: The first year I was working as a therapist, the final piece of my motivation to learn about personality disorders fell into place. Most of my clients were doing well and I was getting comfortable in my role as a therapist.Then I had some very strange experiences. I began to get a few clients who initially did very well with me in therapy. These clients initially appeared pretty average. They started out telling me I was great and their therapy with me was very useful.Then one day, for no particular reason I could discern, these previously satisfied clients would get very angry with me. Now they hated me. Some quit therapy because they now saw me as all-bad.A few became paranoid and made weird accusations. For example one woman came 10 minutes late for group therapy and knocked on the door, but none of us heard her. She decided that I had engineered this rejection because I did not want her as a client.My Conclusion: I knew that I was unprepared to deal with these issues. I could tolerate one client, maybe even two clients, deciding that they didn’t like me—but this felt different. I was pretty sure that something theoretically important was going on, but I had no idea what it was.The Advice: I went to my brilliant supervisor Dr. Elizabeth Mintz and asked her advice. She said: “Sit down, Elinor. I have some bad news for you.” I sat. She said, “You are going to have to study with the analysts because they are the only ones who are working with these issues.”She went on to explain that the people I was describing very likely had personality disorders. If I wanted to treat them, and many therapists did not, I would have to choose an expert to study with and perhaps even enter a training institute and retrain as an analyst. As I was already trained as a Gestalt therapist, this would be an expensive and time consuming project.I decided to do it anyway. I spent the next 15 years studying personality disorders. The last ten were at The Masterson Institute where I eventually went on faculty and starting teaching James F. Masterson’s developmental, self, and object relations approach to Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Disorders of the self.Punchline: Personality Disorders have been my passion since my first year as a therapist in 1974. My family background made it a natural for me. And, I could clearly see that in order for me to be happy as a therapist, I would need to take the time to seriously study personality disorders. I hated not understanding what was going on and not knowing how to handle it. Besides, I liked a lot of people who had personality disorders and I wanted to help them. So that, little children, is how mommy became an expert on Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Disorders.A2AElinor Greenberg, PhD, CGPIn private practice and the author of the book: Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations.

J N U crises from my perspective1Last few days many Profs of JNU feel that they should displaytheir commitment with "HINDUSTHAN KI BARBADI...... AAJADI AAJADI" bywriting articles, giving bites to media, giving interviews to the news papers.They are just handfuls, but creating the scenario or pretending as if PURIKAYANAT UNAKE SAATH HAI. The print media is also blindly printing them withoutthinking what will be the repercussions.2Looking at so called pro liberal bunch ofthought one quote comes in my mind: SHALLOW WATER MAKES NOISE.3These shallow people will not understand what patriotism is.They have not learnt from the example of their dear Russia. They will notunderstand what true patriotism is, not because they don't understand due totheir intellectual level but because of they don't want to understand. It issomething like SONE WALONKO JAGA SAKATE HAI, LEKIN SONE KA NATAK KARANE WALONKO TOBHAGAVAN BHI NAHI JAGA SAKATA. That EGO (which is generally responsiblefor the downfall of anybody- from plants to animals to humans to nations) iscoming in between. Being the teachers of a reputed university, have they notheard about Chanakya? Can’t they foresee the effects of what they are indulgingwith? In the name of freedom of speech, how can they tolerate DESH KI BARBADITAK JUNG LADENGE? Are they not a part of this nation called Bharat, India,Hindusthan? Are they not fulfilling right to vote? If yes, then being a citizenof this country how can they bear such sloganeering in their campus where theyare the boss? And if not why are they staying in this country and wastingtaxpayer’s money? Who pay their salary? The very nation- country, JANMABHUMIBHARAT. Who feed them? The very samenation- country, JANMABHUMI HINDUSTHAN. Who take care of their security? Thevery nation- country, JANMABHUMI INDIA. Don’t they feel ashamed while acceptingthe salary on every last working day of the month (delay of one or two days insalary invite foul cries from these people only and for salary hike, they arethe first to fight with the authority) from the very same nation of whom theyjustify cowardly DESH KI BARBADI TAK JUNG LADENGE, HINDUSTHAN KI BARBADI......AAJADI AAJADI in the name of freedom of speech?4They had got a chance to fulfill the demands like eradication ofpoverty, equality among all and whatever their so called demands were from timeimmemorial and even are now a days when they were ruling West Bengal, Bihar,Kerala. Is the condition better in West Bengal and Bihar?5All this happening because of their shallowness. They need todevelop their depth. They should come out of their petty materialistic approachtowards society; they should see the world without presumption. The world ischanging. To bring the change, sloganeering hate speeches don’t work. But oneto one interaction, execution of developmental plans work. Being educatedpeople, we should support whoever is trying to implement and executedevelopmental plans irrespective of their inclination- right or left.6I am surprised what children from any secondary school understand the dangers involved in so called free speech of JNU (talk to them, they will tell you), how this elite intellectual class of JNU, Jadavpur University, few from Delhi University and rest others from various Universities (higher education institutions) spread across India don’t understand.7The questions those raised in my mind are: are they reallyintellectuals? Have they really done some study to attain PhDs or the guide hasspoon fed the thesis?

Thank you for the question. I am waiting for this question from long time and really wants to discuss the various aspects of the scheme. Please do read the answer completely to arrive at a conclusion on the scheme.Fee Reimbursement Scheme Analysis in Andhra PradeshWhat is the Scheme?The fee reimbursement (FR) scheme is a scheme started by Late Sri. Y.S.Rajashekhara Reddy the then Chief Minister of the United Andhra Pradesh ans continued in a slightly modified form by both the Telagana and the residual state of Andhra Pradesh till date. This scheme is started in 2008 with an estimated budget of Rs.2,000 crores in the year 2008-09. The scheme was a part of the slew of welfare schemes (which I call as self-destructive) in the run up for 2009 general election. The scheme was a massive hit among the masses and they all rallied behind the congress government and congress managed to retain power in the state (of-course with less votes but more seats). The scheme offers financial assistance to the students pursuing professional courses like Engineering, MBA, MCA, B.Ed. and Medicine. The only criteria a student need to ful-fill is that he/she need to produce an income certificate from the competent authority and the income should be less than 1 lakh per anum. That’s it one certificate and you are all set to receive a huge financial assistance from the government of Andhra/Telangana.What are the pros of the scheme? Why is it a massive hit among the people?Obviously anything which someone gets for free is lauded. Hence, Fee Reimbursement is not an exception. It is received with great applause from the weaker sections (on paper) of the society. They hailed Y.S.Rajashekhara Reddy for this pro-poor scheme and in fact attributed him a Demi-God status. The major beneficiaries of this scheme are those sections of the society who are from the un-organized sector and typically fall under the lower middle class category rather than the below poverty line category. When the scheme was introduced in 2008, if you remember till 2008 there is a boom in the software industry and every parent in the Telugu states is of the opinion that if their son/daughter completes a B.Tech. they will be earning huge income and hence all their financial problems can be solved. Since, people had this aim they were more than happy to get this un-expected financial assistance from government. In the initial phase this scheme has waived of the complete fees for the students. Hence someone who seeks an admission under fee reimbursement scheme would be paying only for amenities like library, cautionary deposit and some other facilities like transport.So, if you have followed the answer till now carefully, you must be convinced that this is a very good scheme and every other state should implement this immediately. May be you might have already started hating me somewhere deep in your heart for criticizing the scheme. My dear reader please stay un-biased and without stepping into someone’s shoes follow the rest of the answer carefully to understand the consequences of this murky scheme.What is the political angel behind the scheme?Like every other government scheme there is a political angel behind this. The political rival of congress at that time (2008) is TDP lead by CBN. CBN was the C.M. of Andhra Pradesh for nine continuous years and infact the longest serving C.M. of Andhra Pradesh. In 1995 when he took up the C.M. chair of Andhra Pradesh, Andhra Pradesh was a poor state and had literally no money to even pay the salary for the government employees. With his commitment and good governance skills CBN has put corruption levels under control, developed transparency in the system and hence increased the revenue of the state. He focused on I.T. sector which was a budding field then, he invited the CEO’s of the top MNCs and convinced them to setup their offices in Hyderabad. He went aggressively on industrialization, pharmacy sector also developed exceptionally well. With overwhelming support from the NDA government at the center infrastructure of the state was improving. Under the golden quadrilateral scheme roads were developed, connectivity increased. Two sports extravaganza namely National Games and Afro-Asian games were conducted in Hyderabad hence exceptional sports complexes were constructed. This was and will perhaps remain as the golden era in the Telugu states.The major consequence of this development is the fact that the youth of Andhra Pradesh started having good jobs. Un-employment problem which was the root cause for Naxalism in Andhra Pradesh was solved. Engineering colleges came up especially in the year 2000 a lot many engineering colleges have come up in private sector to cater the ever growing demand from the I.T. sector. So, now when it appears all is well. There is a twist in the tale. Agrarian distress and severe drought spells has teribally hit the agriculture sector, the rural population were against the government, government employs who were made to work round the clock were against the government, the Telangana agitation which started in 2000 started picking up momentum and was a given new dimension with congress promising the special state hood for Telangana if voted to power. Put together in 2004 election congress along with communist parties (CPI+CPM) TRS (Telangana Rashtra Samithi) has won the 2004 election pushing CBN to opposition.Now, if you come to 2009 election scenario, people could clearly see the difference between TDP and the congress governments and have realized the mistake they have done by now by voting out CBN. The major cause for the victory for Congress Alliance in 2004 is because of the rural constituencies favoring Congress. Educated, urban and middle class people voted for TDP. So, in 2009 the primary aim of the Congress government is to improve its urban voting, that to in a manner that the core vote bank of TDP collapses. So, they targeted the lower middle class which always looked up to the TDP government because they believed that development in the state alone can save their lives. This class is a very vulnerable class because they are never benefited by the traditional poverty alleviation programs from the governments. Hence the scheme “Fee-Reimbursement” which will sponsor the higher education for their children the dream for every lower middle class parent. Hence turning these people as congress voters by 2009 election.Another major reason is that by 2008 there are a lot many engineering colleges than necessary in Andhra Pradesh all these colleges are owned by the kith and kin of politicians. Most of these colleges are in-fact owned directly by the M.L.A.s and ministers. Many seats in these seats in these colleges used to be vacant. And, the 2008 global depression has shown the world that software boom is not a reliable profession and the threat of losing jobs overnight has pushed many parents towards traditional jobs (government jobs). Hence to rescue the owners of the private colleges (politicians or at-least their funders), fee reimbursement is introduced.What are the consequences of Fee-reimbursement?The most positive out-come of this schemes are1. Increase in the digital literacy.2. Women pursuing professional courses have grown in leaps and bounds earlier when the family could afford only a single child education, often women were deprived of their education even though they perform exceptionally well when compared to their male sibling.The following are the dark side of fee reimbursement scheme1. Quantity of engineering and management graduates has increased exponentially. Hence leading to severe un-employment problem. Remember un-employment is a serious social concern and can create lot many problems than anticipated.2. Quality of the engineering graduates has remained pathetic, this is because many colleges doesn’t have at-least properly faculty and facilities. Hence we generate “on paper engineers without any skills”. Mark my words I am very firm on this statement.3. The burden of spending on fee reimbursement has kept multiple developmental activities at bay, hence development is crippled.4. Corporate engineering colleges often lure students from rural background with the help of internet centers and PRO’s into their institutions with fake promises and spoil their future. The promises will be like we will guarantee you a degree with 70%, you need not come to college etc.5. The growing perception among parents that to stay jobless after B.Tech, is common after looking at these improperly educated people has pushed many parents to send their children to deemed universities outside Andhra Pradesh which charge at-least 12 lakhs for completion of B.Tech. This has hit on the pockets of the parent very hard. Yet, parents are ready to bear this financial burden for the sake of their child’s future.Enough of criticism, how to improve the scheme and bring benefit the studentsI don’t want to sound like a regular politician by crying foul about the existing scheme and just blabber on the shortcomings. I propose the following modified fee-reimbursement scheme. I feel myself qualified to propose these solutions having been in engineering academia for more than a decade.1. Implement an education loan scheme, free of interest for the duration of education and one more year as grave period and then imposing a reasonable interest. This scheme has to be made available for any student whose parental income is less than 5 laks per anum. There is no harm in this scheme because here the money is on a rotatory basis. This is a loan and hence there will be no burden on the treasury every year. Another great impact of this scheme would be that non-serious casual college goers because government is sponsoring them shall not waste the government money which earlier is the case. The serious concern in this scheme would be, people who were till now habituated to get freebies from government may turn their back at the government. But this scheme if implemented will save at-least 5,000 crores every year for the ex-chequer. This amount can be spent on providing basic facilities like drinking water, last mile connectivity for villages and improving the drainage system.2. Restrict the scheme only to the meritorious making this a merit-cum-means scholarship. The merit criteria need not be stringent like 70% or 80% but at-least clauses like no back-logs and 60% (bare minimum needed to get a job after B.Tech.). Also, make attendance mandatory and track the attendance using bio-metrics to make sure that the scheme is not misused by colleges which often collude with students to enjoy the government funds.3. Improve the standards of engineering colleges. Stop playing with the future of students. Shut-down colleges with insufficient and under-qualified (Ph.D. qualified) faculty. Also colleges placement statistics need to be audited every year by government agencies and this data has to be made available in public domain and students should not be cheated by fake placement statistics from the engineering colleges. This step of improving the quality of engineering colleges is an urgent need and upto some extent Telangana government has done this.4. Strictly monitor the income certificates issued by the competent authorities to make sure that only the real poor get the benefit.Note: Views expressed are personal.Please leave your comments below and in case if you like the content and feel this is useful please do up-vote which will boost my confidence. Thanks in advance.