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Whoa! There are a LOT of separate things going on in this question, none of them good.For starters, let's deal with the easy one: you do NOT share your log in and passwords with anyone, ever. They are specifically tied to you as an individual person, and giving them to another person is the antithesis of what they are designed for. The ONLY time when Person A has access to Person B's password is in the unique context where Person B is legally subordinate to Person A in every aspect of that context. Examples are parent and minor child, or employer and employee on work accounts.Moving up the ladder is the question of who should have what access to what content. This should be discussed openly and explicitly on an item by item basis, and is a function of relative roles. If you are truly partners with your co-founder, deciding to not allow her access to company information does indeed bespeak a lack of trust, or a dysfunctional working relationship. You need to move the conversation away from "password sharing" and sit down and hash out what specific content each if you should have access to, and why that access is important. If after the discussion you can't come to an agreement, then you both need to accept that the partnership is not viable, and you need to go your separate ways.Finally, the saga of your three disastrous attempts with co-founders, taken together with your self-description, clearly indicates a fundamental problem that overshadows the tactical issues above. An objective observer would tell you that, based on the facts in evidence, you are the kind of person who should NOT have a co-founder in the first place. Period.You have high needs for command, and should structure your next company with employees, rather than partners. While there is no guarantee that will work either, sight unseen I can assure you that doing it again with another co-founder will result in simply another failure.

This is not going to be the answer you’re hoping for, but I hope it can help you and your child anyway. There is nothing you can do to change your ex-spouse. Chances are you’re divorced because they weren’t a good spouse, or the spouse you hoped for, so unfortunately they can’t be expected to suddenly become a good co-parent, or the co-parent you hoped for. (I am telling you this because I am in this position myself.)I see three (maybe four) courses of action:1. Continue to beg your ex and give them even more power to continue causing you (and your child, because children sense our tension) misery in what is meant to be your second chance at a tranquil life, free of abuse.2. I don’t know about your country, but in my country I can’t get free legal representation (too rich, lol!) and I can’t afford my own representation (too poor, lol!) The last time I went by myself to try and get a child maintenance order enforced my ex spent over R120,000 on a team of lawyers to get out of paying R43,000.He won and there was also a high emotional cost to myself and the children, not to mention the days off work etc. I’m not saying you shouldn’t take this course of action, but please be aware that a legal system and a justice system are not one and the same and you and your child may stand to lose more than you would gain.3. Explore other options such as scholarships and bursaries and save as much as you can if your means allow. When your child is old enough to work legally (16 in most places, I believe), give them the full picture and tell them what actions it is in their power to take if they wish to attend college.Examples: holiday/vacation and part-time jobs, diligent study to keep their grades up and applying for the relevant scholarships and bursaries. I believe that it is also possible to get a loan to assist with college expenses in many situations.(4. If your child still has a relationship with your ex-spouse, depending on the individual dynamics, the ex might be happy to give some college money directly to the child whereas they would rather die than allow you to administer it. I wouldn’t count on it though.)Finally, without wishing to sound harsh, in my culture a college education is a nice thing to have but a) it doesn’t by any means guarantee a job afterwards. b) it isn’t a universal right. c) it must be lovely to be at a residential college with other young people, but there is also the option of working full- or part-time while studying via correspondence. If a person is hungry enough for knowledge they can and will do it (I did).As parents we want to give our children the best, but at the same time we can only give them OUR best, and that differs from person to person. No need to feel guilty if you haven’t as much money as the parent next door.If you do your best to feed, clothe, house your child, educate them up to secondary/high school level and most importantly, teach them about values, that is all that matters. It may be very upsetting for both of you at the time, but adversity can build character and resolution that will pay off later. Best wishes to you and your child.

Well, to each his/her own! My ten lines would be:Society only celebrates the wedding ceremony with you but will not be there to bear the consequences of your marriage with you. There is a huge world of difference between wedding ceremony and life in marriage.No one pressures or pressurizes anyone into marriage. Whoever gets pressured or pressurized and falls for it, has only himself or herself to blame.Not being married or being married is not a certificate for making heaven. Many who actually got married will miss heaven because of the consequences of wrong marital choices.Once you cross the bridge of getting married, you are on your own. You’ve got no one else to blame.The decision to marry or not to marry and the decision of who to marry is for the individual person to make. No deity, spirit, minister, parent, sibling, friend, co-worker, etc, must be the ultimate decider but the individual contemplating marriage.Whatever your faith, creed, religion, worldview or philosophy, never allow the nuggets procured from any other source becloud your judgment on who to marry. Open your eyes wide and apply your brains.No matter how profoundly visionary or forward-looking you may be, you will never fully comprehend all the vagaries, vicissitudes and dynamics that your marriage will spin in the future.Owning up to the joys and sorrows, triumphs and travails of your marriage is the only way to keep your sanity and stability. Hold no one else accountable.Marriage does not and will not always guarantee the happiness tales you read and heard about.Believe in yourself. No matter how dreary your marital journey becomes, you have every reason to be in the world. Dying to escape the hardships of your marital experience is no option. Stay strong for yourself when everything else fails!