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I believe what you meant to ask is what is the eligibility criteria for writing UPSC exam so that you can take a chance in getting IAS.FOR IN DEPTH FULL INFORMATION PLEASE CHECK THE WEBSITE FROM WHERE I HAVE CITED THE DATA[1][1][1][1]https://sarkarijobstoday.com/what-is-ias-how-to-top-ias-exam-eligibility-syllabus-exam-pattern-strategy-preparation-role-functions-salary-powers-career-growth-etc.htmlWhat is IAS?Founded in 1858 as Imperial Civil Service (ICS) and then later on 26th January 1950 changed to Indian Administrative Service (IAS - Bhāratīya Praśāsanika Sevā) is an administrative arm of the All India Services where the recruitment happens through Civil Services Examination. Often people call it the mother of all examinations in India. It is one of the toughest nationwide competitive examination in India and is considered to be the premier civil service of India.The exam is conducted by the Union Public Service Commission for the recruitment of officers to various cadre for the All India Administrative Civil Service.IAS is a part of permanent bureaucracy in India along with Indian Police Service (IPS) and Indian Forest Service (IFS) and is an inseparable part of the executive of Government of India. It remains politically neutral and guarantees administrative continuity to the ruling party.Being an IAS Officer.An IAS officer can be employed by Union government, State governments and public-sector undertakings. An IAS officer gets to have exposure in diverse roles like The District Collector, Commissioner, Head of Public Sector Units, Cabinet Secretary, Chief Secretary etc. IAS officers can also represent Government of India at international level in bilateral and multilateral negotiations. When on deputation outside India, an IAS officer can be employed in intergovernmental organisations like the World Bank (WB), the International Monetary Fund (IMF), the Asian Infrastructure Investment Bank (AIIB), the Asian Development Bank (ADB) and the United Nations (UN), or its agencies.IAS Exam Eligibility CriteriaNationality:· Candidate must be a citizen of India.·Candidate must be a citizen of Nepal or a subject of Bhutan.·Candidate must be a Tibetan Refugee who came to India before January 1, 1962, to be settled permanently in India.·Candidate must be person of Indian Origin who has migrated from Ethiopia, Kenya, Malawi, Myanmar, Pakistan, Sri Lanka, Tanzania, Uganda, Vietnam, Zaire, or Zambia with an intention of permanently settling in India.IAS Exam Educational Qualification:·Candidate must hold a Bachelor's Degree from any of the recognized universities.·Candidates who have appeared for the qualifying examination and are awaiting results or those who are yet to appear for the qualifying examination are also eligible for the Preliminary Examination. Such candidates have to produce proof of passing the said examination along with the application for the Main Examination.·Candidates with professional and technical qualifications recognized by the Government or its equivalent are also eligible to apply.·Candidates who have passed the final year of MBBS or any Medical Examination but are yet to complete the internship can also appear for the Main Examination. However, they must submit a certificate from the concerned University that they have passed the final professional medical examination.IAS Exam Age Limit:A candidate should be minimum of 21 years and maximum 32 years old as on August 01, 2018. But he/she must have been born not earlier than August 02, 1986 and not later than August 01, 1997. Necessary action will take to make corresponding changes in respective Rules/Regulations pertaining to various services.The upper age limit prescribed above is relaxable for the following candidates:·5 Years - Scheduled Caste/ Scheduled Tribe (SC/ST).·3 Years - Other Backward Classes (OBC).·3 Years - Defence Services personnel.·5 Years - ex-servicemen including Commissioned Officers and ECOs/SSCOs who have rendered at least 5 years Military Service as on August 01, 2018.·5 Years in the case of ECOs/SSCOs.·10 Years - Blind, deaf-mute, and orthopedically handicapped persons.·5 Years - In the case of ECOs/SSCOs who have completed an initial period of assignment of five years of Military Service as on 1st August 2018 and whose assignment has been extended beyond five years and in whose case the Ministry of Defence issues a certificate that they can apply for civil employment and that they will be released on three months’ notice on selection from the date of receipt of offer of appointment.IAS Exam Number of attempts permitted:Restriction on the maximum number of attempts is effective since 1984:·For General Candidates: 7 attempts (Up to 32 Years).·Scheduled Caste and Scheduled Tribe Candidates (SC/ST): No Limits (Up to 37 Years).·Other Backward Classes (OBC): 9 attempts (Up to 35 Years).·Physically handicapped- 9 attempts for general and OBC, while unlimited for SC/ST.How to become an IAS officer?Even though the exam is popularly known as IAS exam but it is officially known as UPSC Civil Services Exam.The UPSC CSE consists of 3 stages: -1)Prelims - A qualifying test which is usually advertised in Feb-March and held in June-July every year. Its results are later published in mid-August. Prelims consist of two objective-type papers (general studies and aptitude test)2)Mains - Held in October every year. Mains consists of nine papers of conventional (essay) type.And then3)Interview (Personality Test) - held in March each year. Final results are usually announced in May.After this, the newly recruited IAS officer trainees are sent to Lal Bahadur Shastri National Academy of Administration (LBSNAA) in Mussoorie, Uttarakhand for 1 year training. There will be a 4 months foundation course in LBSNAA, after that there will be a long all-india educational tour called “Bharat Dam”. During this tour, the officer trainees get to visit various parts of the country and they also get to see how the army, navy and air force work.Roles and Responsibilities of an IAS OfficerAn IAS officer needs to carry out various roles which demands a great level of responsibility and perseverance. It is very important for an IAS officer to be both physically and mentally fit at all times in order to handle the immense work pressure which they may come under depending on circumstances.The following are the major roles and responsibilities of an IAS officer:·Handling government affairs which involve framing and implementation of state/central govt policies in consultation with the concerned Minister.·Supervising/monitoring the implementation of policies and also travelling to those places where the policies are to be implemented.·Disbursal of funds via personal supervision for implementing policies.·Incase of any violation of rules while on duty, the IAS officer is only answerable to the Parliament and State Legislature.·The job functions and responsibilities of an IAS officer differs at different levels of their career.·On confirmation of service, the IAS officer shall join the state administration at the sub-divisional level and serve as Sub-Divisional Magistrate (also known as Additional District Magistrate or Sub-Collector). Here they have to look after law & order, general administration and development work happening in the area assigned to them.·After completion of probation period, the IAS officer is given administrative command role in a district as District Magistrate & District Collector & Deputy Commissioner. The tenure usually lasts for 15-16 years.·After the completion of tenure as District Magistrate & District Collector & Deputy Commissioner, the officer may be promoted to head a whole state division as Divisional Commissioner.·After this, the officer may be appointed in the State Secretariat or he/she may serve as Head of Department or in Public sector undertakings.·Through deputation, an officer may serve in different positions from State to Centre and vice versa.·At the centre, an IAS officer plays a key role in formulation and implementation of government policies related to various areas like finance, commerce, education etc. He may be posted as Joint Secretary or Deputy Secretary or Chief Secretary for carrying out these roles at the centre.·When on deputation outside India, an IAS officer can be employed in intergovernmental organisations like the World Bank (WB), the International Monetary Fund (IMF), the Asian Infrastructure Investment Bank (AIIB), the Asian Development Bank (ADB) and the United Nations (UN), or its agencies.Career Path/Career Growth of an IAS officer and Salary detailsOnce the IAS officer completes his 1 year training, he/she will then be sent to their cadre regions on probation for few years. There are 24 cadres like AGMUT, West Bengal, Kerala, UP, Rajasthan etc. The probation period lasts a minimum of 2 years upto a maximum of 4 years during which he/she needs to pass final examination inorder to get confirmed status in service.The newly recruited IAS officer (in Probation) will start off with Junior Time Scale salary structure. Its range is 15600 with Grade Pay of 5400. The starting basic will be 21000. Dearness Allowance (DA) will be 107% of basic. The officer will stay in this scale for 4 years. After competing probation and final examination, the junior officer will be posted as Sub-Divisional Officer/Magistrate.After completing 4 years, the IAS officer will get promoted to Senior Time scale with Grade Pay of 6600. The officer also gets 2 extra increments. He will be given the post of Additional District Magistrate/Sub-Collector, CEO, Zilla Parishad or Chief Development Officer.After serving 2-3 years as ADM, the officer is then selected as District Magistrate/District Collector of a district. The tenure usually lasts for 15-16 years. Instead of DM/DC the officer may be posted as a Joint Secretary of a ministry of the state. If the officer goes on central deputation then he is given the post of director of a department.After completing 9 years of service, an IAS officer will be promoted to Junior Administrative Grade with Grade Pay of 7600 in the scale of ₹15,600 – ₹39,100. He/She will also get 2 extra increments.After completing 12 years of service, an IAS officer will be promoted to Selection Grade with Grade Pay of 8700 in the scale of ₹37,400 – ₹67,000. He/She may remain as DM or may become Special Secretary of a government department.After completing 16 years of service, an IAS officer will be promoted to Super Time Scale with Grade Pay of 10000 in the scale of ₹37,400 – ₹67,000. The officer will get the post of Additional Secretary or Secretary of a department of a state government. In field posting, he/she may also become a Divisional Commissioner. In Central Government, based on seniority he/she can get posted as Joint Secretary of a ministry of the Government of India.After completing 25 years of service, an IAS officer will be promoted to Higher Administrative Grade in the scale of ₹67,000 – ₹79,000. The IAS officer gets to become a Principle Secretary of a department of a state government. In Central Government, the officer gets to become Additional Secretary of a ministry of the Government of India.After completing 30 years of service, an IAS officer will be promoted to Apex Scale with fixed basic of ₹80,000. The IAS officer gets to become a Chief Secretary of a department of a state government. In Central Government, the officer gets to become Secretary of a ministry of the Government of India.Cabinet Secretary Scale is the highest position of a government employee in India with fixed basic of ₹90,000. There is only one Cabinet Secretary in Central Government. There is also a state equivalent of this post called as Chief Secretary of a state government.During their service period in state government, an IAS officer will get opportunities to go for deputation to central government or PSU bodies or foreign countries.When on deputation outside India, an IAS officer can be employed in intergovernmental organisations like the World Bank (WB), the International Monetary Fund (IMF), SAARC, the World Trade Organisation (WTO), the International Court of Justice, the Asian Infrastructure Investment Bank (AIIB), the Asian Development Bank (ADB) and the United Nations (UN), or its agencies.Even NGOs with worldwide reputations like Red Cross Society or Ford Foundation seeks the expertise of IAS officers. The foreign postings are lucrative due to high salaries.Life of an IAS officer after retirement.IAS officers after retirement will get their pension amount every month, but they are not given any government accommodation.After retirement there is a mandatory 1 year cooling-off period from the date of retirement. Once the cooling-off period is over, an IAS officer can indulge in any private sector activity or join private sector jobs Soon after, he sought permission from the Department of Personnel and Training (DoPT), the cadre controlling authority for the IAS.Footnotes[1] https://sarkarijobstoday.com/what-is-ias-how-to-top-ias-exam-eligibility-syllabus-exam-pattern-strategy-preparation-role-functions-salary-powers-career-growth-etc.html[1] https://sarkarijobstoday.com/what-is-ias-how-to-top-ias-exam-eligibility-syllabus-exam-pattern-strategy-preparation-role-functions-salary-powers-career-growth-etc.html[1] https://sarkarijobstoday.com/what-is-ias-how-to-top-ias-exam-eligibility-syllabus-exam-pattern-strategy-preparation-role-functions-salary-powers-career-growth-etc.html[1] https://sarkarijobstoday.com/what-is-ias-how-to-top-ias-exam-eligibility-syllabus-exam-pattern-strategy-preparation-role-functions-salary-powers-career-growth-etc.html

Air Force Common Admission TestAFCAT is a national level competitive exam conducted by the Indian Air Force (IAF) to select officers for all its branches, except for the medical and dental branchesFor all entries other than NDA and CDSE and for all branches, candidates have to undergo the AFCAT.The test is conducted twice a year in February and AugustAdvertisements inviting applications for AFCAT are out in June and December. Candidates are to apply as per the advertisement.The test is conducted all across India by the Indian Air Force.SCHEME OF SYLLABUSThe AFCAT Question Paper will have 100 questions. All questions will be of three marks each. For every correct answer the candidate will get three marks and for every wrong answer one mark will be deducted under negative marking. The total time allotted for the paper is two hours.Each Question Paper will have questions from the following topics:-General Awareness – History, Sports, Geography, Environment, Civics, Basic Science, Defence, Art, Culture, Current Affairs, Politics etc.Verbal Ability in English – Comprehension, Error Detection, Sentence Completion, Synonyms, Antonyms and Testing of Vocabulary.Numerical Ability – Decimal Fraction, Simplification, Average, Profit & loss, Percentage, Ratio & Proportion and Simple interest.Reasoning and Military Aptitude Test – Verbal Skills and Spatial Ability.For Examples of questions asked in AFCAT, follow this link → http://www.careerairforce.nic.in...Coming to preparation part, as compared to other Defence exams namely CDSE, AFCAT is comparatively on easier side, but having said that, one should not take it that easy also, as day by day competition in AFCAT is increasing exponentially.First step, towards the preparation for AFCAT, i believe, should be, understanding the syllabus and pattern, syllabus for first timers, is not any different from any other competitive exams, only Military Aptitude Test holds exception, but with little practise, it will be a piece of cake, and a sweet one.Next, after going through the syllabus and pattern, one can start solving previous year papers, the more you solve,the more you get familiar with two things, one, the time constraint, and two, your question solving ability for various type of questions.Following links for Previous Sample papers would be helpful →AFCAT 01/2015 and EKT question paper along with answer keyAFCAT 02/2015 and EKT 02/2015 question paper along with answer keyAFCAT Question Papers Fully SolvedAFCAT Question Papers UnsolvedAfter solving say, 4–5 previous years question paper, you will be in the position, to judge, to start with which section first and score more, the objective is to score more and not to simply attempt questions, negative marking had been drowning anchor for many candidates in past, and this anchor weighs & hurts more, when you miss it by one or two marks. So, plan ahead, always aim to score as high as possible, normally candidates, go through the past trends of cut-offs, and once confident with same, they stop answering other questions, this is not a good practise, as recent past has shown that cut-offs can very well go of course shooting very high.Having said all this, For General Knowledge, you keep track with current affairs, inShorts and Current Affairs app can help a lot, For rest all other sections, previous year question papers can really helpful, or else if you want make it a sure shot, you can go ahead and buy some good AFCAT books, Arihant Publications has proved good for me, you can give it a try.In AFCAT exam speed matters, you have to complete 100 questions in 2 hours. There are few sections where you need just 5 secs to answer a questions, you are right, general knowledge sections is something you can do with speed, another sections is English, these sections do not take much time to solve because you either know the answer or you don’t. Mathematics and Military aptitude will definitely take more time. So plan accordingly.Following is just an example of approach which you can take, or else, go ahead with your strategy, if you are confident.Maths—>Military Aptitude—> English—>GK [If you Maths is strong]GK—>English—>Military Aptitude—>Maths [If you are weak in Maths]Following is brief description of various process →STEP 1 – RESPOND TO ADVERTISEMENT FOLLOWED BY WRITTEN TEST1. For NDA and CDSEThe advertisement for NDA is released twice a year in the months of June and December and for CDSE in the months of July and November by UPSC.Candidates are to apply as per the advertisement.The written tests are conducted by UPSC only. For details visit www.upsc.gov.in2. AFCAT – Air Force Common Admission Test.For all entries other than NDA and CDSE and for all branches, candidates have to undergo the AFCAT.The test is conducted twice a year in February and AugustAdvertisements inviting applications for AFCAT are out in June and December. Candidates are to apply as per the advertisement.The test is conducted all across India by the Indian Air ForceTypes of commission. There are two types of commission:-Permanent CommissionA Permanent Commission means a career in the Air Force till you retire. Permanent Commission Officers continue to serve till the age of superannuation. For a Permanent Commission, you could join as follows:MENFor Flying BranchAfter 10+2 - Join NDAAfter Graduation - Join through CDSEFor Technical and Ground Duty Branches - Opt for Permanent Commission (PC) course through AFCAT and join Air Force AcademyWOMENPresently Women Officers of Education and Accounts Branch only are being considered for Permanent Commission. Option for PC will be considered/offered on successful completion of Short Service Commission (SSC) tenure, subject to Vacancies, suitability, merit, willingness and service requirements.Short Service CommissionA Short Service Commission means a limited period career in the Air Force. You can join the IAF as a Short Service Commission Officer by opting for a SSC Course.For Men and WomenAvailable to graduate and post graduate entries onlyTenureFlying Branch – The engagement period is 14 years from date of commissioning (not extendable)Ground Duty (Technical) and Ground Duty (Non-technical) branches – The engagement period would be for a period of 10 years. An extension of 4 years may be granted subject to vacancies, suitability, merit, willingness and service requirement.Marital Status . Candidates below 25 years of age must be unmarried (term unmarried excludes widower and divorcee even though without encumbrances). Marriage is not permitted during training. Married candidates above 25 years of age are eligible to apply but during training period they will neither be provided married accommodation nor can they live out with family.Candidate should not have been arrested, convicted or prosecuted on criminal charges.Candidates who have been withdrawn / suspended from Defence Training Establishments on grounds of discipline are not eligible to apply.For Detailed Eligibility Criteria, please visit following official link →Find your future - as per BranchesFind your future - as per your Qualification3. NCC entryAir Sqn NCC Senior division ‘C’ certificate holders are to apply through DG NCC/ respective NCC Air SquadronSTEP 2 - SSB (Services Selection Board) TESTINGIf you have successfully cleared Step 1, you will receive a Call letter to report to any one of the Air Force Selection Boards located at Dehradun, Varanasi, Gandhinagar, Mysore and Kancharapara. At the Air Force Selection Board (AFSB), you undergo following tests in order to ascertain your suitability and gauge your potential as an Officer in the Indian Air Force.1. Stage I TestingOfficer Intelligence rating TestPicture perception and Discussion TestStage I is a screening test. Those who qualify Stage-I are eligible to undergo Stage II testing. Stage I disqualified candidates are routed back after announcement of results2. Stage II TestingAll Stage I qualified candidates undergo following tests as part of Stage II testing during next three to four daysPsychological Tests are written tests that are conducted by a Psychologist.Group Tests are interactive indoor and outdoor activities which are a combination of mental and physical work.Interview involves a personal conversation with an Interviewing Officer.These tests will be explained to you in detail before they are conducted at the Selection Board.The following is the schedule for OLQ Tests:Day 1Phase I testing – Officers Intelligence Rating Test & Picture Perception and Discussion testDay 2CPSS / PABT * (for Flying Branch) followed by Psychological testDay 3Group tests / InterviewDay 4Group tests / InterviewDay 5Group tests / InterviewDay 6Group tests / Interview / Conference* Pilot Aptitude Battery Test (PABT) is a unique test. It is aimed at assessing a candidate’s aptitude to be trained as a pilot. PABT is being used as an independent selection device to induct potential officers into Flying Branch of Indian Air Force. PABT comprises three tests viz Instrument Battery Test (INSB), Sensory Motor Apparatus Test (SMA) and Control Velocity Test (CVT). Instrument Battery Test (INSB) is a paper pencil test and other two are machine tests. The Instruments Battery Test (INSB) comprises two parts. This test assesses assimilation of the briefing and the ability of an individual to read and interpret the dials of an instrument panel of an aircraft. The candidates who score the minimum laid down criteria are subjected to the machine test. The machine test includes Sensory Motor Apparatus Test (SMA) and Control Velocity Test (CVT). These tests measure the psychomotor co-ordination skill of the individual. These tests are conducted on a single day and administered only once in life time.At the Conference held on the last day, all the Assessors i.e. the Psychologist, Ground Testing Officer and the Interviewing Officer, discuss your personality and decide on whether to recommend you or not. Those recommended by the AFSBs will be required to fill up certain documents at the Boards and subsequently move to the next step.Bharat Bhushan's answer to Can anyone help me for each and every round of SSB individually?STEP 3 - CONDUCT OF MEDICAL EXAMINATIONSIf you are recommended by the Selection Board, you will be sent for the medical examination either at Air Force Central Medical Establishment (AFCME), New Delhi or Institute of Aviation Medicine, Bengaluru.STEP 4 - PREPARING ALL INDIA MERIT LISTAn All India Merit List is compiled on the basis of your performance in the written test and AFSB interview, subject to being medically fit. Based on the vacancies available in various branches / sub branches, joining instructions are issued to join one of the Training establishments.Source → Career Air ForceAll The Best.Thank You.!

Sorry for going anonymous but din’t had the courage to say this all.I have a very long happenings to share, I hope all of you reading this will learn something from this and if possible then implement some good points in your life. I hope that this answer will help to identify the most wired nature of human beings. And will make you to understand why relationship fails after arriving at certain level.Before writing any answer to this let me tell you that I have read all the answers available till now and the major reason I could identify is 1. Dowry 2. Cheat and Last but not the least 3. Too much expectations from life and fear that those dreams will not be fulfilled.Coming to my particular story, but before starting this let me tell you my profile … I am male, age 27. from a veg, gujarati , brahmin family, I am the only child of my parents.…. I have never take a proud but its necessary to tell that though being avg in studies I have studied from some IIT and doing job in some fortune 500 Indian based MNC. CTC just crossing the tire of top most tax slab. (I am not writing this to show off but later on you will find a link of these all) and yeah because of overloaded love from the family I am fat as far as physique is being considered and I am a bit sipo-sexual in nature. Knowledge and intelligence drives me more than outer beauty in longer term.So lets begin, I remember the each and every date very clear.It started on 28th July 2016, I met her on some matrimonial website. Numbers were exchanged. She was stating that she is 25 years old, after few days she said that she inflated her birth date and she is actually 27 years old. That was the first red-flag of the relationship which I ignored as the initial talks were going very smooth. I would highly say you all people reading this answer that ignoring the red-flag in the relationship is the worst thing that you can do ever and one day you will be regretting that why you never reacted or why you reacted so late!In my initial period I often noticed her sad status like “One day you will realize what you have lost” and all other sad status on whatsapp which people generally writes at the time of break up or just after break up. I asked her if everything was fine with her. She said that she was okay then I tried to know the reason behind such status she said “Just aese hi” (Just like that) …. so I asked that but for someone you might have written that, she said a name (assume it Kunal). I din’t investigate the matter, I don’t know if I was trusting her so much or I was going blindfolded or I was just having a fear to lose her as I have never been interacted with any girl for so long before. This was the 2nd red-flagged, I ignored.After my Utarrakashi trekking camp I went to Patna to meet her (she was a bihari, I respect all you bihari people out there and after spending 5 years in Jharkhand I would rather feel proud to call my self a Jharkhandi than a Gujarati). I met her in-person for 2–3 times in Patna. We interacted about family and all and everything was going fine.I repeatedly ask her if my look was an issue for her. (I know that if you people will start ranking people on the base of their look I come in rejects or say last 5 percentiles of people, but my confidence lies in my knowledge which makes me to stand out of the queue) Her replay was “Mere ghar me looks ka utna nahi hai” (My family members doesn’t care about looks so much)But her action was not replicating such words of her, she was a shopping freak and forcibly made me to buy certain cloths of her choice. And led me to some parlour and that hair cut costed me somewhat 4,000/- Rs. No doubt I am earning well but we gujju people are always bit concerned about the expenditures we make, we make sure that money goes in some quality stuffs which can either be appreciated later on or gives you joy. 4000 rs or haircut was not falling either of them. But love is blind…. This was the third red-flag I ignored. Yes, I term this as red-flag and some of you may not be agree with this, FYI I have a debt (home loan) of more than 2.5 mn at this age.The forth one I ignored was not the biggest one, but the cumulative effect of this could have worked as an eye-opener for me.This was the time of November now, parents meanwhile started talking and one fine day, I decided to visit her house based at Dehri-on-sone, I fixed a date and just before 2 days of my journey she informed me about her sisters (she had 4 sisters and no brother, she was the 5th and the youngest one) 2 of her sisters were handicapped, one was having polio and one was deaf and mum. When I asked those things that why you have hidden these things to me? She replied that “Tumhe meri bahen handicapped hai us se kya?” (How does that matter to you if my sisters are handicapped?) Though she had a valid point there but the thing is that if I was informed from the beginning I would have kept my parents informed for the same as in India wedding happens between two family rather than two individuals. And since she informed me much later so now I was required to be bad boy in the eyes of parent that I was informed for the same and I hide those things from them with a view to keep new “to-be” family member clean.Ohk, I should acknowledge here that being the only son of my family both of my parents support my decision. They gives their opinion and later on leaves the decision making power to me.The fifth one had taken place in the month of Dec 2016.When she met me, she was jobless for 5 years. She had done BBA from some Over-popular university at Pujab (I am using the word over popular not because of quality but because of the advertisement they do). After that she had offer letter mentioning CTC to be 2.5 LPA. Which I consider as BBA fresher to be at par with the standards of education you get there. But aspirations of people was bit higher. So she never joined that job and gone for banking exam. She was saying that it was her dream to be a PO in bank and she was giving her 100% to fulfill this dream of her.Previously she was only looking for officer cadre exams, which she could not pass. After realizing it down the line 2–3 years she also started applying for clerical exams. And she could not pass that too. Then she started analyzing cut off state wise. And she applied for the exam in Gujarat. As cut off over there was comparatively low.I was advising her to go by flight. But she had a friend who was going with her. They both booked the tickets of train and that was’t a direct train, it was a break up journey via - Delhi. Delhi …. December …. Fog. I explained her many times but she never believed.And finally that happened what I was expecting. Train got delayed so much and the connecting train left for the destination. I advised her to take up yellow line and take the next flight of Ahmedabad, I was ready to book the tickets. She said that her friend can’t afford flight tickets so she was searching for next train for baroda (their exams center was baroda) And lot of harsh word exchanged there in the flow of the moment.The result she was, when she was looking for next train, her friend came out from washroom and said my brother booked flight tickets for me up to baroda. Shall I tell him to book yours too? (I was going to say that baroda is not so easily connected with air, better go to ahmedabad, but before that she said yes and ordered me to transfer the money into her friend’s cousin’s bank acct and cut down the phone. It was 1 AM in the night and I was also travelling to somewhere because of official purpose. I called her back and ask that how does the flight goes? she said that its via mumbai …. I literally cursed her for this. And once again her flight from delhi got delayed because of fog and I was required to make another booking for Bombay to baroda.But what surprised me more was that, she was literally letting it go. On the one hand she was saying that job at the bank is my dream … in the middle of the conversation she said “ chhod deti hoon nahi dena muje ye exam, hona to waise bhi nahi hai” (I quit, I don’t want to give this exam, anyhow I am not going to get selected)I mean, really??!!! if something means for me I would have given up my everything for it. And that girl is giving it up that easily because of hurdle in travelling, and that too then when she doesn’t have anything else to do.Now comes the day my family visited her home in Feb 2017. They literally warned me about the seen happened there. The observation of my parents were as follows.The girl is mammonist.They (my parents) were there only for 2–3 days, but the girl went to patna on the 2nd day on the news of some of her friend met with some minor accident. Was it that important?? And even if it that was much important then was she a doctor or nurse? I asked my self in the severe disappointment.And this one was the big shock, in our tradition there is no concept of dowry. But the girl’s ornaments comes from girl’s family (except some basic ornaments which is being given from the groom’s family) While in their culture thing is bit different. And they literally given a long list (including sari for some washerman and gifts to her sister and all …. and even more value of everything has been specified like 5 Saari for washerman should be approximate of rs 2,500/- rs each, 5 saaris for dholi (the one who plays the dhol) should be of rs 2,500/- and these all things were required from my parents side. And they clearly said during the conversation that they will not assist in these things as the girl is EDUCATED. (I know this is a normal thing and can be dealt easily but you know sometimes the way you speak, the tone, body language makes a negative impact even if your point is right or valid)When these all came to my knowledge, I immediately called her and asked her that whats all these non-sense? I am just thankful to god that I put my phone recorder on then. And I cleared that since we are not demanding anything and we won’t be entertaining such demands. She okayed with it.This was the sixth and the biggest red-flagged I ignored.This 6 red-flags I ignored before my engagement. And I got engaged on 14th May 2017, at my hometown where each and every arrangement were done by my father including their stay and food-ing at some decent hotel for 4–5 days and the ring ceremony hall and all.Fast forward engagement done. She was willing to do some HR course which was offering her forged experience certificate for the years she lost in banking preparation. She pleaded me to advocate that course to her parents while I had advised her to go for MBA for better career leverage but since she did not performed well in the exam so I did what she was willing me to do. She also requested to say her parents the course is of 6 month while it was only of 3 months. Which I did.One day soon after our engagement she she gave me her computer for repair, I was checking if I can find any movie there but accidently I found her pics with some boy. And that boy was not Kunal. And these photographs were absurd enough they were kissing and some photographs of her were looking like she was in some hotel with that guy. I asked her about this and this then she said that he was used to be her boy friend prior to Kunal. The photographs were more than just a friendship and I could not avoid this red-flag, i din’t said anything to her but this thing was in my mind.Later on we both were back she was to Banglore and I am to Ranchi. Her sad status continued …. I asked her reasons repeatedly just to irritate her and make her to speak. She accepted that she was in love with Kunal.All boys behave like an ass hole when they are in love. I did the same. I tried to save my relation by begging her that let me give a chance I will make all the things fine in her life. And she also okayed it.But then things were getting changed…. hours long phone calls started just to be a formality of 5 mins for the day in the evening. She made a new friend in her institute (assume her name swardha) and often started saying the things like “Swardha uses shampoo worth Rs 5000” “I also want luxury items” these that … and all of these things were in taunting tone. (I hope that you still remember that I have a loan on more than 2.5 mn) And these all resulted in her frequent statements like “I am not happy with you” , “None of us is happy in this relationship” “Are we engaged?” , “ I want to end this up.” and every time I cried and beg her not to.One day, I got a call from my batchmate, “Hi, Dear, How are you?” I told him that I was good, then he asked my relationship status. I was bit curious to know the reason because as per my knowledge I informed my every good friend that I was engaged. I said that I was engaged. But why are you asking again. Then he requested me that if I can give him an hour at some pastry shop. We met around 6.30 PM and I was feeling nervous, means I know that I was passing from some down time but I never thought that people knows about it. We ordered some food, he said me not to be panic and don’t take anything on heart and not to be emotional as I am the one, and such consolations were making me more panic I literally abused him and angrily asked him to speakout the center point else I was getting late for some work. (I din’t had any work but I was feeling very heavy inside that I was not willing to seat there) He said that since he is also of same age he is also finding a life partner and he also registered with some matrimonial website. He gently unlocked his phone and opened some app and searched something and then shown me and asked that “I think she looks like your fiancée” I was silent. I had words in my mouth but …. I just could not speak. I took his phone scanned entire profile and said him to send me screenshots on whatsapp. He asked me if I was okay or if he should come along with me to drop me at home. I said him that I will make it, no need to accompany. He said sorry if he had broken my heart, I thanked him for introducing me to the reality. He called me repeatedly that day for silly silly things like If I have reached home or not or if I had taken dinner etc. I could sense his care and fear.I immediately called her as soon as I reached home, prior to making call I decided that I will scold her, she will say sorry and the things will be normalized. But rather than this what came out was totally different. When I said that I saw her profile he suddenly asked with next level of anxiety “Tum kya kar rahe the matrimonial site pe?” (what were you doing on matrimonial website?) I explained, but then she was in the mood of ending it up. She blame it all on me. Stating that all fault is mine as I look bad and that’s why she was still in-touch with Kunal but Kunal is not paying attention much since she was engaged with me till then so she was on that platform. And all the fault was mine as I don’t look good.That fine day she finally broke up with me saying that I am too fat and where ever we are going together people are laughing on her for picking a big sized boy. I was torn into pieces by hearing these all. She initially said look doesn’t matter to her and now she was saying such things. She literally used the words like “Kya milu tumse? shakl pasand nahi hai tumahri” (Why would I meet you, I don’t like your face) and “Jis bande ko dekh ke uske paas jane ka mann naa kare uske saath kaise zindgi guzaru?” (If I don’t feel to go near to you by seeing your face then how would I spend my life with you?) “meri sab friends ki shaadi huyi, sab ghumne jate hai, apne husband ke saath selfie lagate hai, me kaise lagaungi tumhare sath apni selfie?” (All my friends are getting married, all are going for honeymoon and setting selfie (as profile pic of whatsapp and fb) how would I will upload my selfie with you?) “Tumhe pata hai engagement wale din me kyu ro rahi thi?? Muje tumse ratti bhar bhi pyar nahi hai , me ye shadi bas apne gharwalon ki khushi ke liye kar rahi hoon kyoki wo tumse khush hai aur kunal ke father ne jo dowry demand kia tha that was out of my father’s reach.” (Do you know why I was crying on the day of engagement? I don’t love you a ratti (ratti = 0.13 gram), I am marrying to you for the happiness of my family as they are happy by you and the dowry demanded by Kunal’s father that was out of my father’s reach)This led me to sob for nights. She later on that night only requested not to inform her parents for the same, she will inform her parents on appropriate time.I was sad, heartbroken, sobbing …. Yes, I felt suicidal as well. A week or two later I informed my parents for the same that it din’t work out and she did such and such things to me. I chose to fight back. I decided to concentrate on my career. And I moved on after a month or two.But I forgot the saying that Never leave your enemy half dead.I did a mistake by accepting her request of not to inform her family.Suddenly after 6 months she hit me again …. “Why did you left me?” “Previously you were making me to understand but you just escaped this time?” “I love you so much.” “I can’t live without you” “Plz comeback”I was like what the hell!! My heart is a heart or any hotel? That anyone can come and go at anytime?? And this time I felt bigger shock as I never assumed that she can be back after going these far for these long.She hardly used to call my family. But this time she suddenly started calling to my mother and all. (She only called once after the engagement before this)But now I was determined. I have decided not to go in to that phase of mental trauma again. I know I don’t look good and I accept that and if anybody has any problem with it then people should deny before the engagement some of the alliance did that and I respect their decision, its their lives their choice, we met, we had a coffee, we had few good words and some snacks and that’s absolutely fine if these all things not workout rather than breaking an engagement later on. Say it on my face “Hey, fat man! I am sorry.” I won’t mind. That 5 years old kid living next house to me tell me every day that “Uncle aap mote ho” (Uncle you are fat) but the kind of words she gave it to me after coming that close, somehow it gave me deep down scars into bottom of my heart and those words are just not acceptable. I could remember the day that I literally begged not to end this and give me a lil respect as a human. But …. She never gave it. She was treating me as her financial security and rest of the time she was treating me as a speaking dog, may be a street one.I informed my family member to block her number and I also started avoiding her calls this time, she got it that I was gone but then she did certain things which made me feel proud on my decision of calling this wedding off.Firstly, she tried to get back with love and affection but when she saw that that was not working out she tried to bring my mother on her side. Luckily, I informed my mother before for the same. She said “Mumma ham logo ne itna kharcha kiya uska kya hoga?” (What will be of the expenses w e (let me make you remember, most of the expense had done from our side as explained earlier) bear for this engagement?) And after that talk my mother also started avoiding her.Then her family started calling from different numbers to me and my parents suddenly out of nowhere, they had called my father only 5 times before this issue and everytime their reason of calling was the same, the call was for postponing the marriage till date first they were saying that lets arrange the marriage function in July / Aug 2017 then it went to Nov 2017 then it went to Feb 2018 then it went to May 2018. They were postponing it for silly reasons like Exams of their grand children (grand children were in Jr. KG) But now we were in different mood then.We din’t entertain any logic of them…. then comes her cousin brother (who is well aligned with some affluent political party and having a profile of builder/contractor in a tire 2/3 city of Jharkhand) (Whom I had met only twice) She messaged me that “Bhaiyya bahot gussa hai dowry ka case karna chahta hai” (Brother is very angry and he wants to file a dowry case on you) And I was decided that whatever will happen I will not allow that girl back who don’t like my face. (I din’t really mean it but it was the cumulative effect of everything happened so far)When she realized that I was not responding over that too … She literally started threatening me. Like … We will sue you in court, we will file the case of dowry, your job will be sacked, you will be jailed, your parents will be jailed, their pension will be effected, we will get your home seized, you don’t know the connection of our family in Jharkhand. Bhiyya BJP me hai (My brother is in BJP) Bhaiya Gunda hai (My brother is criminal) beta ab to tum reh ke dikhao Jharkhand me (Kid, now you show me how can you live in Jharkhand)I was shocked by such behavior of her. Then I joined an NGO. (And I know that I will be getting negative comments for these from all feminazis and femtards) I joined a men’s right NGO. I call it NGO for Patni - Pratadit - Purush (NGO for Husbands terrified by wives) as I am the only unmarried guy there and the kind of stories those people are having I am feeling thankful to god for saving me at early stage from this bad marriage else I would have spoiled many lives with me.Now … I am still getting the threats from the opposite party to file a case and all. But I am happy with the kind of guidance I am getting from the NGO. Being a well educated individual, I have taken additional responsibility of counselling depressed males for that NGO. I used to guide them on phone for 5–7 hrs a week. Helping them to stay strong in their battle. So what if I don’t have a good face or I am overweight/weak physically …. they can’t beat my courage, my knowledge and my determination.I have decided not to marry again …. may be parents are not agree with this but … or may be few years down the line I may change my mind but one thing is for sure that this incident has given me deep scars in my heart.I am telling you all a fact as per the survey 98% of 498A (CAW and Dowry cases are fake) Indian judiciary is highly biased towards females. I don’t say that girls should not be having any aspirations but their over aspirations (and being specific by over I mean over than their capabilities, 15% might be capable but rest 85% are not they are living in a fool’s paradise) and such women will eat the Indian family system. One must not give the examples of Indra Nuyi and Sunita Williams to set the wings of aspirations of girls as boys are having Donald Trump, Sir Kim Jong to do that. Everything comes with a price, if you want to be professionally successful then you will be having less time for your family this is 99% fact rest 1% contains the people like Ambanis and Birlas and the Bollywood fantasies I also see Bollywood as one of the major responsible part of it, the kind of lavishness they are showing in pictures, very few people can live the life upto that standards. Movies are making us to aspire high and makes us slothful in nature. I highly appreciate the dialogue of Ramadhir singh : Jab tak Hindustan me cinema hai, logo ka chu*** kat ta rahega, sab ke dimag me apni apni picture chal rahi hai aur sab apni apni picture me hero hai. (till we have cinemas in India, people will continue to act like di**heads (by taking learning from there) own movie is running in the mind of everyone and everyone is the hero of their movies.)I don’t say that dowry and CAW (Crime Against Woman) is not there in India, its there but for the people it has been incumbent-ed so strongly they are far away from the benefits and the one who are using these all they are using these all as a new legal terrorism to males. Actually taking a birth as male in India makes you the second class citizen of the country and the day you enters into a wedlock, you confirms that you are an a**hole. Luckily many people have not realize it yet. The divorce rate has increased four times in last 2 decades in 2000 it was 1.5% and now it has become 6%.According to a survey conducted by one of the reputed NGO, 65% of the women have confessed that they have been advised wrongly by CAW Cell and Advocates and the system as a whole. They initially they were thinking that they will get it done as because she is a woman and laws are woman biased but the system is as such that it does nothing is such cases except killing the time and money of both of the parties and the one who is insecure anxious pays the heftier amount. Out of those 65% almost half of them were willing to go back (Read this:Anonymous' answer to What happens to women after the 498A/dowry accusations are proved false in court? What is the life of a woman after that?) to their respective partners but very few are ready to accept them whole heartedly (mostly the one those who are accepting it because they have done a mistake by filing RCR 9 (google it))I am remembering a line of Rahim (a poet)Rahiman doori prit ki mat todo chatkayJe tute fir jude nahiJude gaanth ban jay.(Translation: Rahim, don’t break the thread of loveAs it doesn’t get re-united once it has been brokenAnd even if its get re-united, it makes a node in the thread)I often felt that she broken the thread so manytimes that our thread of love was filled with such knots only there was not any space for extra knots so …. There was no scope of a single more thread. I often relate fail in understanding her behaviour. As prior to final break up also she had given deep shittiest scars by often saying that I am leaving you, I am ending it up, I don’t wanna get married to you. Everytime I tried to normalize the things so might be she had taken it too lightly that he is just like that and I can do whatever I want. Hell NO …. N … O … NO …. You can’t do whatever you want to do and if you want to do only whatever you want to do better stay single for life time. Live like a king and die like a dog (Osho) A person will accommodate you, will try to synchronize himself/herself for you. But if you think that only you will rule and your partner is a slave then you are unfit for married life. I am actually shocked that if a person can go upto this level of mental cruelty.Leaving that issue a side … Lets see that what she had achieved but before this let me tell you the most funniest part of the story. Since she was saying that her brother is a criminal and all, I thought that if her brother is criminal then he might be having some digital footprints. So I checked out e-court application and searched for his record in his city for last 11 years. I found 3 cases against him. I was shocked being frank threaten a bit as now I see her brother as potential threat. But when I was gone into details of the cases he was having then they were as follows.The case by his wife against him and his brother and sister in law and parents u/s. CrPC 125 of Domestic Violence Act of 2005, which was started in 2012 and ended in 2014 and decision had gone in the favour of his wife.He then filed a review petition soon after the verdict of the first one in 2014 and he again lost it in 2017Then he filed a divorce petition in 2017 and this case is still going on.And I was laughing like a hell it was like I was threaten because of him?? If he was so powerful and resourceful then why he wasted these many years in court? Couldn’t he manipulate the verdict with the means of their connections and all? But on a later stage being fair I saw him that he is also being misguided in this legal system and for a while I felt to help him. But I won’t.Now lets see what she is doingShe is trying to spread bad word of mouth in my friend circle, which she is not getting succeed, as all of my friends keeping me informed for the same. Infact they are giving their ID PWD of their social networking account and saying me that you deal with it the way you want to. I am thankful to give me such good friends for life.She is still having active accounts on matrimonial websites and she is searching for some groom who can buy expensive things for her which she can’t afford deserve. She is yet to complete her HR course which will give her a fake experience certificate (it has been 12 months already though course was of 3 months and I don’t know what she will give if the upcoming employer will ask for IT returs), she is not going to class regularly (since beginning), she has given up her banking preparation, she has given up MBA entrance. The one thing I could relate with her trying to be back to my life again was that the guy she wan mentioning, Kunal got married with some other girl. #Karma is a beach …. go with a beer and enjoy the tides.The one thing I would like to advise you all … I mean all boys and girls both thatDon’t take the inputs of life from moviesAspire high and for those aspirations work hard, rather than living in the fool’s paradise.After (II) expect the minimal things from life. Don’t be bag of expectations on your to be partner.Cut your cloth according to cloth. By the 25 you all must be aware of your strengths and weaknesses so build your professional and personal life taking those leverages. Like if you are dominating in nature don’t do a lower-class job and don’t marry dominating partner too. Else there will be lightening and thundering from office, kitchen and bedroom.Try to help others but don’t be miserable in solving the misery of others.Follow your heart, don’t go in the flow of the moment. Cause up and down tides will come and go but you need to identify safe distance to build your hut.Don’t benchmark your lifestyle with others. Everyone is having their own way and destiny.Be clear on account of what you want don’t just roam around. Never ever take any assumption in terms of relations. Be clear by mind and be straight forward by tongue, don’t sugar coat (until and unless you flirt or fart)Keep love in your heart for everyone, treat everyone with empathy and sensitivity.Tread offs will happen in married / corporate life and one should not be non-negotiable but one should be pro-active in nature that, trade off will result positively into their portfolio. (Infact if you are really in love then you will not feel a big deal by seeing that tread off is going to the basket of your partner) but don’t be clamant.Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Never Ever Avoid Any Single Red Flag of Relationship.I am feeling thankful to god, my parents, uncle, grand mother and friends for being with me. I am feeling my self nothing but just lucky in this case that I got saved from a bad marriage.A small note for the feminazis and femtards: If you have kept your petience of reading this all, I respect you. But please I won’t entertain your questions like how did you knew this and that … As this is all a long story and I am a guy with brain so all your answers lies there that I used it.