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I will let you decide for yourself, THIS IS NOT ONLY ABOUT ARMYs BUT ANY OTHER FANDOM, I am going to be citing some web articles that talk about cults and how to identify them.You can check the websites out for yourself, I will try to shorten the information, but I encourage you to not only take what I put here but to look for more information.Note: I will give my opinion at the end; If you want you just can skip all of this and got straight down, what I am quoting here is more for backing my answering below.Now to know if your fandom or you behave as a cult, take a look at this list 10 Things to Know About the Psychology of Cults - Online Psychology Degree Guide [1][1][1][1] of behaviours taken from Online Psychology Degree Guide [2][2][2][2] , you can go to see more details, I am just going to cite some parts, okay?I PUT ON BOLD the parts that reminds me the most to fandom behaviour.Taken from: What makes a cult? | Rick Ross by the GuardianPsychiatrist Robert Jay Lifton, who once taught at Harvard Medical School, wrote a paper titled Cult Formation in the early 1980s. He delineated three primary characteristics, which are the most common features shared by destructive cults.1. A charismatic leader, who increasingly becomes an object of worship as the general principles that may have originally sustained the group lose power. That is a living leader, who has no meaningful accountability and becomes the single most defining element of the group and its source of power and authority.2. A process [of indoctrination or education is in use that can be seen as] coercive persuasion or thought reform [commonly called "brainwashing"].The culmination of this process can be seen by members of the group often doing things that are not in their own best interest, but consistently in the best interest of the group and its leader.3. Economic, sexual, and other exploitation of group members by the leader and the ruling coterie.Some groups may not fit the definition of a cult, but may pose potential risks for participants. Here are 10 warning signs of a potentially unsafe group or leader.• Absolute authoritarianism without meaningful accountability.• No tolerance for questions or critical inquiry.• Unreasonable fear about the outside world, such as impending catastrophe, evil conspiracies and persecutions.• There is no legitimate reason to leave, former followers are always wrong in leaving, negative or even evil.• Followers feel they can never be "good enough".• The group/leader is always right.10 Things to Know About the Psychology of Cults:Cults are attractive because they promote an illusion of comfort.Humans desire comfort, and in a fearful and uncertain world many turn to cults because they tend to promote exactly that.Jon-Patrik Pedersen, a psychologist at CalTech, has pointed out that cult leaders often make promises that are totally unattainable, but also offered by no other group in society. Such things might include financial security, total health, constant peace of mind, and eternal life — the things every human desires at the deepest level.Cults satisfy the human desire for absolute answers.As Dr. Adrian Furnham describes in Psychology Today, humans crave clarity. Many cult leaders promote messages that are simple and seem to make sense, the exact opposite of what we’re often provided with in typical, everyday life.Those with low self-esteem are more likely to be persuaded by a cult environment.People are often surprised to learn that those who join cults are, for the most part, average people. They come from all backgrounds, all zip codes, and all tax brackets.But research done in the past two decades has found an interesting pattern: many people successfully recruited by cults are said to have low self-esteem. Cults generally do not look to recruit those with certain handicaps or clinical depression. However, people with low self-esteem are easier to break down, then build back up in an effort to teach them that the cult is the supportive environment they’re looking for.New recruits are “love bombed.”Once people have been recruited by a cult, they are often “love bombed.” This odd phrase is commonly used to describe the ways in which someone with low self-esteem is consistently flattered, complimented, and seduced in order to train their brain to associate the cult with love and acceptance.Women are more likely than men to join a cult.According to various research, women make up a whopping 70% of cult members around the globe. Psychologists have different ideas about why more women than men join cults. Dr. David Bromley of Virginia Commonwealth University points out that women simply attend more social gatherings, either religious or otherwise.This makes women statistically more likely to join groups that will ultimately victimize them. Others suggest it has to do with the fact that women have been oppressed for much of human history. Therefore they’re more comfortable being under an authority figure.Still others write this off as total crock. Emma Cline, the author of the bestselling cult-themed novel The Girls theorizes that young women are often taught to seek the attention of men and to wait for “rescue.” Joining a cult, says Cline, is a way for many young women to feel as if they are “seizing their destiny.”Many cult members have rejected religion.Dr. Stanley H. Cath, a psychoanalyst and psychology professor at Tufts University, has treated more than 60 former cult members over the course of his career.Cath has noticed an interesting trend: many people who join cults have experienced religion at some point in their lives, and rejected it. Perhaps this is surprising, considering many cults tend to be religious — or at least claim to be.Many of those who join cults are intelligent young people from sheltered environments. Growing up in such an environment, says Dr. Cath, often means that “many have a history of failing to achieve intimacy, of blaming others for their failures, and of constantly striving for perfectionistic goals.” These characteristics make them prime targets for cult recruitment.Cults maintain their power by promoting an “us vs. them” mentality.Cults prove powerful because they are able to successfully isolate members from their former, non-cult lives.One of the ways cult leaders achieve this is to convince their followers that they are superior to those not in the cult. This “us vs. them” mentality ultimately leads to cult members isolating themselves socially from friends and family. They replace those relationships with new ones inside the cult.Cult leaders are masters at mind control.Cult leaders convince their victims to separate themselves from society, give up personal possessions and sometimes huge sums of money.They convince people buy into whatever they are promoting. To do all this a cult leader must be a master at mind control.Ways in which leaders gain control over cult members vary, but some popular methods include:Brainwashing:: Cult leaders are known to repeat various lies and distortions until members find it difficult to distinguish between reality and cult life.Cult members often have no idea they’re in a cult.Although it can be obvious to those around them, people in cults often don’t realize what they have become a part of.Psychologist Dr. Margaret Thaler Singer spent most of her career studying the psychology of cults and brainwashing. She found that most people enter a cult willingly, without realizing the power it is bound to have over them.Singer theorizes that this is partly because some people are more willing to see the perceived benefits than they are the potential dangers. She also mentions that many people assume cults are only religious, though in truth, cults can also be political groups, lifestyle groups, or business groups.Cult life can have a dangerous and lasting effect.Cult victims often spend years overcoming the emotional damage incurred during their time spent in a cult.Dr. John G. Clark, Jr., is a Harvard psychiatry professor and the co-founder of a non-profit group which treats former members and their families.My take:If you are going to give it a dislike, at least read all first okay? this that I am written can be applied not only to ARMYs but all of the k-pop stand (big or small, EXO, Stray Kids, RV, Twice, MOA, E.L.F, MAMAMOO etc etc) and other kind of fandoms like groups like football, soccer etc..I do not have any secret agendas, I am not asking you for money, love, affection, heck, I think I only asked for likes once because it took me like an hour to look up on Twitter some Jimin’s fancams but that’s about it.I am not a hater nor an anti, if you are going to get mad with someone get mad with the companies and even maybe the idols, because they are the ones getting the profits of your love.How many times you have gone and attacked another person or celebrity/idol for doing almost nothing but when your fav does it, then ‘’she/he/they didn’t know, it is not x’s fault’’ blah blah blah.And you know why is like that? because you're are blinded by ‘’love’’ or you are afraid to go against the ‘’group’’ (whether that be the band or the fandom) or your leader!Now, some of you may be a little upset at me for writing all of this, but the way I am saying all of this is way more gentle than how some of my family members and friends would addressed it to me, but nevertheless they still would, you know why?Because that is Love, love is not an Idol (a person that doesn’t know you) telling ‘’go and do this, do that, you have to, don’t forget to blah blah blah… and remember we love you *fingers heart*’’ all for their own benefit.Now, just as I said with what happened with the Irene case some people are seeing what happened as a way to publicly murder her but they would not do the same to their own bias, because if Irene were you bias some would be like ‘’she didn’t know what she was doing’’I think kpop fandoms in general have people who acts in with cult mentality, but we could say that about any big fandom in or outside of k-pop around the world; kinda psychotic how some send death theard for saying something ‘’offensive’’ or rather something they disagree with that they feel could not be for the glory of their idols/gods/leaders.By the way, while writing this I am also thinking about you Football/soccer fans, you guys are just… ught! just get help please, you are the least fit to critique k-pop fandoms.Anyway the mob mentality of some KPOP FANS (Not only ARMY) of ´´let’s gather around and bash this person/section/group who doesn’t agree with us even tho they have not even attack us’’ is just plain pathetic and immature, one would expect immature behaviour for kids, but now, this seems to be a ‘’thing’’ that crosses ages.Many people here in Quara have resorted to bullying others just because they hold different beliefs… you are a bigot if you get angry about people talking about what they find right while you yourself seem to want to cut anyone off everyone whose belief does not align with yours and that is very cult like behaviour!Now going back to fandoms:The groups or bias could be considered their leader.Kpop groups and sometimes their fandoms love bomb the new fans, doesn’t that reminds you of your favs?Fans losing their minds when people point out mistakes of their fandoms and or idols.Idols telling you that they love you so they can get your money.Fans talking bad about fans who decided to leave… this also happens in cults.Fans feeling bad and with necessity to censors who talk bad about their favs.The ‘’Us vs Them’’ mentality, whatever it is one fandoms vs another or kpop fans vs. ‘’locals’’, there is a constant Us vs. Them is there.‘’Unreasonable fear about the outside world’’ I have heard many fans say things such as ‘’I don’t know what I would do without x band in my life!!’’‘’ Followers feel they can never be "good enough"’’ fans also tend to compare themselves and others to their idols and even put themselves down to remark their faves attributes.‘’Those with low self-esteem are more likely to be persuaded by a cult environment’’ this one goes along with the prior, kpop fans seem to always be voicing how bad they feel about themselves on twittter at least.Footnotes[1] 10 Things to Know About the Psychology of Cults - Online Psychology Degree Guide[1] 10 Things to Know About the Psychology of Cults - Online Psychology Degree Guide[1] 10 Things to Know About the Psychology of Cults - Online Psychology Degree Guide[1] 10 Things to Know About the Psychology of Cults - Online Psychology Degree Guide[2] Online Psychology Degree Guide[2] Online Psychology Degree Guide[2] Online Psychology Degree Guide[2] Online Psychology Degree Guide