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This is somewhat related to tests and measurements based upon practical knowledge:My IQ is around 110 or so.After college, I wound up in the USAF due to it being during the Vietnam War and having my classification changed to 1A by my draft board. Due to some other things that happened, I was placed in the 81XX0 Security Police career field. I decided I would do the best I could even though I was not thrilled to be a cop. Surprisingly, I did very well during SP Training. Each week, they would post the point score for various tests on a list with the highest score by a number that represented a given individual. Each week, I found that I was always in the top 5 or so, but not the very top score. This included such things as security, law enforcement, a week of weapons firing, etc.[During the security block I scored one wrong on the test. The instructor pulled me aside and was a bit upset because I had changed one of the answers to an incorrect one and would have had a perfect score. I asked him why this mattered and he explained that our scores were critical to how the instructors were rated by their superiors. Coincidentally, about a year later this same instructor was transferred to my duty station overseas and he still remembered me and how I had changed the one answer that would have given his instructor team a student with a perfect score.]In the end, my accumulated score was high enough to be the overall outstanding graduate out of about 100 men.Later on, after returning to the states from the overseas remote tour of duty, I had to take the new WAPS testing system in order to get promoted to the next grade. I had gotten a job doing a lot of office work because they found out I was one of the few airmen who could type. I made good use of the time, learning lots of things about how the Air Force system worked. I had to take two exams: one for the 81XX0 career field where I got a good score of 88 percentile. But I also had to take an exam for “General Air Force Knowledge.” I had no idea what that meant until I sat down to take the test and realized that I pretty much knew every question on the exam because they were the kind of thing that I had been using day to day. But other Airmen just would not know of such things. And they were not important things from my perspective. Like what form to use to order forms, etc. I received a 99 percentile score.I think by then I was a Sgt E-4, but very soon received a line number for promotion to SSgt E-5 in less than three years in the service.

CompTIA A+CompTIA Net+CompTIA Sec+Read: One general hacking book on whichever tech interests you the most (cloud, networking, OS, physical, social eng, WiFi, malware, data, etc.)CompTIA CySA+Read: How to Automate the Boring Stuff with Python(by now you are either a helpdesk tech/T1/T2 or a junior cybersec analyst/work in SOC, with some light Python skills that you don't really know how to apply.)CCNA (new version after February) - general purpose IT, should be a slam-dunk if you already have 4 CompTIA certs. Cisco has many a manager's ear in almost every industry and I bet that they will be pushing this one to be "The One Cert", just like the CCNA R&S was in the 90's/00'sRedHat RHCSARead: Clean Coding (even if you don’t code, read this. It’s like a staple in the tech industry. Kind of like how every field scientist in the Arctic has to watch The Thing on their first night.)Read: Either "Learn Powershell in a Month of Lunches" - or - "Learning the Bash Shell", depending on what your shop uses, or what you want to use, and also fold in what you pick for the following cloud certification choice. (Its not a hard rule at all but generally powershell for Azure and bash for AWS.)Microsoft Azure AZ-500: Security - or - AWS Certified Security (whichever you’re current shop uses, or your goal shop uses. Also, factor in if you want to aim for business systems (azure) or tech systems/DevOps (AWS). There are benefits for both.)Read: Time Management for System AdministratorsWhichever of the 30 GIAC certs apply most to the position you want to have - forensics, blue team, red team, incident response, networking, malware analysis, software security, data security, physical security, etc. (use this cert to pivot to a different role if necessary!!).By now you should be extremely employable (CompTIA trifecta, Linux cert, Cloud cert, and CCNA mean you are unstoppable) and you should be able to get your job to pay for OCSP or CEH. The former is a better cert, both are common in HR filters)OCSPCEH (optional) (by now you are a PenTester or some red-team tech.)CompTIA PenTest+ (to renew CompTIA stack, maintaining Sec+ and CySA+ is extremely important if you work anywhere tangentially related to govt - do NOT let them expire.)(by now it should have been a couple years. At least enough to where you should be coming up on eligibility for CISSP)CISSP Congrats, you’ll earn at least $100k even in the most LCoL areas. The CISSP is the single most important cert you can get from this list. People consider it a kingmaker for a reason.PMP (optional)The PMP is a decidedly non-technical project management cert but it enables you to work with managers and execs on a project basis. This one is almost as hard to get as the CISSP and it’s great if you are going into consulting.CISMNow you are the manager of your department, or at least close to it.Masters in Business Administration with a focus in ITYou are now CISO of your companyENJOY YOUR RETIREMENT - or, consulting for a ridiculous fee to pay for your boat.Notes:This is a plan that will take at least 5-10 years to complete (not including CISSP/CISM/PMP/MBA).You should aim for 1 cert per quarter.Some are easier than others and this list is not in order of difficulty, but rather in order of employability, in my opinion.The first four CompTIA certs should take 1 year of relaxed but diligent studying.The Azure/AWS cert and the RHCSA can be switched in order to apply more appropriately whichever job you have.The RHCSA could be replaced with CompTIA Linux+ but I would avoid switching them since RHCSA is one of the staples of the industry for showing Linux proficiency.The new CCNA will be a very general exam and I guarantee that it will be included in many job requirements once it drops.OCSP and CEH are extremely expensive and you should be working at a place where your job will pay for them - if not, you are not at a job that intends to make you a security guy.If you get the OCSP, and you enjoy PenTesting, just end your guide here.Once you move into management, you won't get to actually play with tech anymore, and for some people that's the only thing that matters.The MBA is technically optional if you intend to be C-level for your own company or the place you started at, but if you are applying/recruited for anywhere else, you’ll need that to get to executive level.You can skip some of these and pick and choose but this would be a meteoric trajectory for anyone.In all honesty, this is probably too much for any one person in the span of 10 years considering that life gets in the way. But 20 hours a month is only 1 hour a day, excluding weekends.Each of these tests (besides the CISSP/CISM) only require like 40-60 of studying to earn. You can achieve this in your downtime at work, or studying at home instead of watching Netflix. But if you ever get kids/sick/injured/life happens, just try to do as much of it as possible and you will end up where you want to be.IMPORTANT: certs aren’t the end-all, be-all of this industry. Many places don’t even respect them. But they are a structured form of learning. You need to always be teaching yourself stuff. Always be learning. An IT certification allows you to learn new things in a structured format and then show that you grasp those concepts. They are not the silver bullet but anyone with a cert is worth more than someone without one when it comes to hiring. It shows that you learn, are invested in the industry/material, and most importantly, it shows that you invest in yourself. That you want to learn and be more competent in the industry. That’s the most important part. Also, if your company has a service that you use (Rapid7, Splunk, ELK, etc.), try to get them to pay for a class. I know at least a couple people with high level certs that were only hired because they know how to administrate Splunk).Making yourself a homelab will absolutely help you with your certs and also help with hiring/promotion prospects. At least in the places I’ve worked at, they wouldn’t ever let young/inexperienced guys play on the production ESXi hosts, so how would I ever get experience in that?Easy, just buy an old i7 Optiplex and make a Proxmox / ESXi host in your home. Homelabbing is equally as important as certs when it comes to applying your knowledge and demonstrating your ability.If you are near the beginning of this list in terms of certs/knowledge, try to do some of the following:Beginner Homelab ProjectsDNS PiHole - total cost: $35 for RasPi 3b+OpenVPN server - total cost: $35 for RasPi 3b+ (could be in same device as above!)Boomer-proof desktop (RaspberryPi 4 with Linux mint on it and LibreOffice productivity apps as a full desktop for your parents or kids.) - total cost: $35-55Remote network intrusion device: RasPi 4 with PoE hat or battery, and 4G LTE SIM card for remote access. Toss this behind the router in your parents house to practice remote network intrusion.Unifi WLAN Network (Unifi WAPs with a Unifi controller on a computer) - total cost: $75-$150 for 1-2 new Unifi AP-AC WAPsUnifi LAN (Unifi EdgeRouter or USG as your main internet router, configured to spec for your home network, with port forwarding and content filtering) - total cost: $50 (used) - $200 (new+hi-spec)VLANs, QoS, private IP range subnetting (either in one of the routers above or in a managed switch) - total cost: $50-$150, including cost of USB RS-232 cable.Linux Plex Server (old desktop hardware with 1-4 new 4TB WD Reds) - total cost: $100-400 - can be expanded over timeSonarr, radarr, sabnzbd, Ombi, on that same server - total cost: freeAutomation tools written in bash or python - total cost: freeNextCloud personal cloud storage on that Linux Server, or an Ubuntu VM - total cost: freeUse a diagramming tool to make maps of your network. Print these out on hi-gloss paper and pass them out along with your resume during interviews. Also, take diligent notes.an HTTP Apache server on your Linux server that hosts a wiki à la a Sharepoint server. Include IPs and poets for various servers and your diagram and how-tos and tips and tricks to remember. Code it in raw HTML.SABnzbd API-calling script to speed limit the download rate whenever your wife starts using Plex, and reverts back to full speed after 2 hours unless she is still using Plex - total cost: freeFully automated backups using either a separate Linux machine or a QNAP/Synology/etc NAS - total cost: $100-500Collection of symlinks to important .conf files on your Linux server being collected into a directory which is rsynced on a Chronjob to a remote Raspberry Pi that you put on your grandparents network in Toledo, OH and has a persistent VPN tunnel back to your network and is saved on an external hard drive, all of which is tucked Under their Verizon router - total cost: $70 (raspi + external HDD), not including plane tickets to visit your parents.Home security system with MotionEyeOS or BlueIris on Win10 with wired cameras or wireless cameras which save footage to a couple or mirrored WD Purple drives - total cost: $150-$400Home Assistant to automate things like turning on lights when motion detection occurs on those cameras - total cost: free-$100 (depending on various things like Phillips Hue controllers and bulbs and such).Decide you want to virtualize everything to move it all to Proxmox on a Dell R710 and this time do it right cuz now you understand Linux file permissions and how to properly partition hard drive disks - total cost: free

This answer has two parts- the first part generally revolves around social issues keeping the central theme as feminism and an effort to explain various acts abutting it. And, the second part anything that is not directly correlated to feminism.TL;DR( I warned you alright? I won’t be responsible for all the big ass bombs I am gonna drop)Part I1) The notion of marriage and everything enmeshed to it is deeply misogynistic.A woman is expected to change her surname to her husband's surname. Now, there are women who claim they are doing it out of love and not being forced i.e they are focusing on the part that them changing their surnames is a “choice”. A valid”personal choice”.But, think over it- why is it only the women who does it to show her love and why not the husband? Wouldn't love count as misogynist then?Coming to women who are expected to live with their in-laws. Forthrightly speaking, I have observed women are expected to work to maintain a positive image in front of their in- laws. To live under the shadows of a immutable pressure to keep in touch with them. But, is the same expected from the husband ? No.Besides, why is it just the woman who is expected to change her house?Is she a property that a transaction is being waged from the father to the husband?There are people who say, ‘Well, your name is also about patriarchy because it is your father’s name.’ It dosen’t matter because it is the name that I have had since I was born, the name with which I traveled my life’s milestones.In short, my identity is connected to this name. And, a clear way to see it is this- if a son is inheriting the father’s last name so it’s alright for the daughter to do so. Besides children should be able to inherit their mother’s last name as well.In a truly just society, women should not be expected to make marriage-based changes that men are not expected to make.Marriage hinders with the freedom of so many Indian women. It expects women to behave in a certain set of ways and men in certain others.Yes, there are exceptions- culturally, personally whatever be it. But, the world works on generalizations and not exceptions. And, the reason we feel exceptions are a valid point is because media glorifies it. And, the reason media glorifies it is because this is not generally the case. Period.Besides, we have unconsciously normalized certain activities as masculine or feminine. By thanking a man for taking up some basic responsibilities( that every human should know as a basic life skill), we are normalizing that it is a feminine trait in general.We all have seen many women say” My husband is really great. He cooks and does the dishes with me as well. I am so grateful to him”.Or“ My husband is quite liberal. I can wear anything I want”Firstly, By saying this, we are implying that this is not something that men should do in general.Secondly, why do you think woman have to predominantly put in those remarks? Because, so many times its not the case. Ever heard a man say” My wife is really great because I can wear anything or go out of the house anytime I desire” ?We have put these labels for everything. Think of the word” beautiful” and handsome”. Ever heard someone say” beautiful man” and” handsome woman”?I was reading this book “Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions - “ by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie - . And, I came across some wonderful lines.Also,. He is doing what he should. When we say fathers are ‘helping’, we are suggesting that child care is a mother’s territory, into which fathers valiantly venture. It is not.……you both made the choice to bring a child into the world, and the responsibility for that child belongs equally to you both. It would be different if you were a single mother, whether by circumstance or choice, because ‘doing it together’ would then not be an option. But you should not be a ‘single mother’ unless you are truly a single mother.And the last aspect- Let's suppose both the husband and the wife are working somewhere and they return from their work. Who is expected to cook? The women right? Is it not fair proof of misogyny?( Now, don’t comment about exceptions please)We also need to question the idea of marriage as a prize to women, because that is the basis of these absurd debates. If we stop conditioning women to see marriage as a prize, then we would have fewer debates about a wife needing to cook in order to earn that prize…Remember that television commercial we watched in Lagos, where a man cooks and his wife claps for him? True progress is when she doesn’t clap for him but just reacts to the food itself – she can either praise the food or not praise the food, just as he can praise hers or not praise hers, but what is sexist is that she is praising the fact that he has undertaken the act of cooking, praise that implies that cooking is an inherently female act…So, don’t you think there should be some space for changing the rules? Like a man changing his surname?Sounds odd right?Here’s the reason-When you keep repeating an action again and again it feels normal.Argumentum ad antiquitatem (Appeal to tradition - Wikipedia)Also, there's this aspect of society that has a problem with a man staying at the women's house. How imbecile!Is Marriage Worth It for Women?2) The people who think feminism is not the correct term and " antifeminist egalitarian" is -are not ignorant but have actively “wrong knowledge”.I derived this thought from the book “Factfulness: Ten Reasons We're Wrong About the World – and Why Things Are Better Than You Think “I realized the problem couldn’t simply be that people lacked the knowledge, because that would give randomly incorrect answers—chimpanzee answers—rather than worse-than-random, worse-than-chimpanzee, systematically wrong answers. Only actively wrong “knowledge” can make us score so badly…And the reason a person would call it egalitarian and not something more specific can definitely be attributed to the memes and the random information being propagated over the Internet.These for example-Source: Google(read mind of a dumb person)And I need feminism because-I am not a delusional disgusting hypocritical human like her.I respect women equally as men because above all they are humans and they respect me!Source: Google( read ass of an incel)And such misinformation being spread under the name of feminism. Now, here’s a thought. We all have come across such memes and answers but we have rectified ourselves on delving deeper into the topics but think about those people who contemplate Internet through the lens of privilege and if these memes are the first thing they stumble upon, they would have a totally wrong idea about feminism, politics whatever.Story-timeI remember a lesson that my brother taught me.On a fine morning- apparently we both went to capture the sunrise from our roof and we were speaking about how Japan is different, economics and stuff and he casually asked me” So, what do you think is keeping India backward?”I replied” The uneducated people” without giving it much thought and more because we have seen people say such stuffs right?That’s when he corrected me” It’s the ill-educated people. See if a person is uneducated he will look up to someone educated and learn the right things but imagine if that someone uneducated looks up to someone ill-educated.”And you know who are these ill-educated people? Whose knowledge base is based on memes and random stuff over the Internet. Who depend on doltish whatsapp forwards.Harking back to the insecurity of the people making these memes.That is what happens right?”“ When you have been accustomed to privilege equality feels like oppression”I have read quora answers making weird correlations. Suicide rate of men is higher? Blame feminism.Why not blame toxic masculinity? Which again has a correlation with misogyny.Iceland had a financial crisis? Blame feminism by assuming the top leaders in Iceland have assumed it was due to the men( There’s legit one answer where the person gives facts over how Iceland is the most feminist country in the world but there are no facts about the misandry there. According to this person if a country is feminist then it is misandrist by default)Coming to why feminism and not egalitarianism-Egalitarianism was first visible on a vast scale when “Liberté, égalité, fraternité” or “Liberty, equality, brotherhood” became an official slogan of the French government. In August 1789, with the Déclaration des droits de l’homme et du citoyen (Declaration of the Rights of Man and of the Citizen), the French Constitution got framed around the basis in equal rights of men, but not of women. Even today, after almost 230 years, the French constitutional provisions of ‘rights of man’ are still given higher value in French constitutional court interpretations granting certain rights to men and not to women.The same can be seen in the United States Declaration of Independence – July 1776, where an assertion of equality for men, but not of women, under Natural Rights – contingent upon the laws, customs, or beliefs of any particular culture or government, and therefore universal and inalienable (cannot be abandoned, restrained nor repealed by human laws). Making Egalitarianism a concept to be enjoyed by men – and men alone.Egalitarianism is an umbrella term . We see that in the name of egalitarianism women have been forever excluded so if we if we keep focusing on egalitarianism we keep focusing on a certain gender and keep ignoring women's issue. And, we further widen the gap that was already created.Sure, I am an egalitarian. And I do feel that men as well have issues and we need to get rid of those problems faced by men. But it has a specific term . Don’t try to inculcate everything into feminism. It will just dilute the main reason .Just because there was a girl who filed a fake rape case, or just because a girl used feminism to further her personal agenda dosen't mean feminism is nugatory or Feminism is cancer.This is eventuating under the comment section of a very popular answer. Not just these, there are so many comments pretty much implying such rapist mentality.Also, this unmitigated assumption that “All modern feminists are radicals who can’t tolerate men”. It is not just ignorance it is lack of proper systems of knowledge I would say. This is the best example of Faulty generalization .In logic and reasoning, a faulty generalization, similar to a proof by example in mathematics, is a conclusion made about all or many instances of a phenomenon, that has been reached on the basis of one or a few instances of that phenomenon.It is an example of jumping to conclusions.For example, one may generalize about all people or all members of a group, based on what they know about just one or a few people:If one meets an angry person from a given country X, they may suspect that most people in country X are often angry.If one sees only white swans, they may suspect that all swans are white.Faulty generalizations may lead to further incorrect conclusions. One may, for example, conclude that citizens of country X are genetically inferior, or that poverty is the fault of the poor.We still haven’t achieved anything close to what we should have already achieved- not because I am a woman but because I am human before anything else.We still don’t have proper laws for marital rapes, rapes or domestic violence in general .There are still woman in rural areas who clap eyes on some fundamental rights as privilege.And let’s suppose if you are a bit lucky-living in urban area, all forms of privacy, to be able to wear anything you wish then still there’s no way of escaping the instances of casual sexism.This is something that I read in the book” We Should All Be Feminists” By chimamanda ngozi adichie. Okay, she has a Ted Talk covering the same points as well.( The speech was just so great that I found myself giving her a standing ovation- so do give it a watch)Some people ask, ‘Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like that?’ Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general – but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. It would be a way of denying that the problem of gender targets women. That the problem was not about being human, but specifically about being a female human. For centuries, the world divided human beings into two groups and then proceeded to exclude and oppress one group. It is only fair that the solution to the problem should acknowledge that. Some men feel threatened by the idea of feminism. This comes, I think, from the insecurity triggered by how boys are brought up, how their sense of self-worth is diminished if they are not ‘naturally’ in charge as men.When I was in primary school in Nsukka, a university town in south-eastern Nigeria, my teacher said at the beginning of term that she would give the class a test and whoever got the highest score would be the class monitor. Class monitor was a big deal. If you were class monitor, you would write down the names of noise-makers each day, which was heady enough power on its own, but my teacher would also give you a cane to hold in your hand while you walked around and patrolled the class for noise-makers. Of course, you were not allowed to actually use the cane. But it was an exciting prospect for the nine-year old me. I very much wanted to be class monitor. And I got the highest score on the test. Then, to my surprise, my teacher said the monitor had to be a boy. She had forgotten to make that clear earlier; she assumed it was obvious. A boy had the second-highest score on the test. And he would be monitor. What was even more interesting is that this boy was a sweet, gentle soul who had no interest in patrolling the class with a stick. While I was full of ambition to do so. But I was female and he was male and he became class monitor. I have never forgotten that incident. If we do something over and over again, it becomes normal. If we see the same thing over and over again, it becomes normal. If only boys are made class monitor, then at some point we will all think, even if unconsciously, that the class monitor has to be a boy. If we keep seeing only men as heads of corporations, it starts to seem ‘natural’ that only men should be heads of corporation…So in a literal way, men rule the world. This made sense – a thousand years ago. Because human beings lived then in a world in which physical strength was the most important attribute for survival; the physically stronger person was more likely to lead. And men in general are physically stronger. (There are of course many exceptions.) Today, we live in a vastly different world. The person more qualified to lead is not the physically stronger person. It is the more intelligent, the more knowledgeable, the more creative, more innovative. And there are no hormones for those attributes. A man is as likely as a woman to be intelligent, innovative, creative. We have evolved. But our ideas of gender have not evolved very much.I know young women who are under so much pressure – from family, from friends, even from work – to get married that they are pushed to make terrible choices. Our society teaches a woman at a certain age who is unmarried to see it as a deep personal failure. While a man at a certain age who is unmarried has not quite come around to making his pick. It is easy to say, ‘But women can just say no to all this.’ But the reality is more difficult, more complex. We are all social beings. We internalize ideas from our socialization. Even the language we use illustrates this. The language of marriage is often a language of ownership, not a language of partnership. We use the word respect for something a woman shows a man, but not often for something a man shows a woman. Both men and women will say, ‘I did it for peace in my marriage.’ When men say it, it is usually about something they should not be doing anyway. Something they say to their friends in a fondly exasperated way, something that ultimately proves to them their masculinity – ‘Oh, my wife said I can’t go to clubs every night, so now, for peace in my marriage, I go only on weekends.’ When women say ‘I did it for peace in my marriage,’ it is usually because they have given up a job, a career goal, a dream. We teach females that in relationships, compromise is what a woman is more likely to do. We raise girls to see each other as competitors – not for jobs or accomplishments, which in my opinion can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way boys are. If we have sons, we don’t mind knowing about their girlfriends. But our daughters’ boyfriends? God forbid. (But we of course expect them to bring home the perfect man for marriage when the time is right.) We police girls. We praise girls for virginity but we don’t praise boys for virginity (and it makes me wonder how exactly this is supposed to work out, since the loss of virginity is a process that usually involves two people of opposite genders).A lot of people conjecture that women have it easy when it comes to dates because they get approached by a lot of men. And, a have to lot of options to choose from. Not really. Most of the times these are creepy men .3) Feminism affects both men and women. Period.I don’t know from where this assumption comes from . But, me being feminist- naturally makes me a misandrist.That’s when logic committed suicide or consumed cyanide.Ok so this toxic masculinity revolves around 3 ideas-a)Toughness( A man should be tough because women should be fragile- they think so-not me)b)Powerc) Antifeminity( There are certain attributes to being a women so those attributes can’t be a part of a man. )And the mental health stigma.And I find this thing on quora where a person says “ Feminists can protest for their rights but they can’t pay their bills on a date”This is not true. I can assure you that we would always split the bill. So, does every woman I know off has the same thoughts. And, if a woman refuses to do so, it is because she as a person is a jerk and not that all woman are jerks in general.But we are all gold diggers . Alright? /sBy encouraging girls to achieve their full potential and when they will get accepted as human beings we will equally get rid of all ideas of toxic masculinity.Yes, there are imbecile ideas like a man should not be vulnerable and other bs. So why not change the idea of what constitutes being a man?I don’t know why but I find vulnerability a super attractive quality. Imagine if it’s just you speaking - won’t you lose interest within a few minutes? So will any other sane person out there. One sided conversation- not romantic.These lines are from the book”We Should All Be Feminists” by chimamanda ngozi adichie.Gender matters everywhere in the world. And I would like today to ask that we should begin to dream about and plan for a different world. A fairer world. A world of happier men and happier women who are truer to themselves. And this is how to start: we must raise our daughters differently. We must also raise our sons differently. We do a great disservice to boys in how we raise them. We stifle the humanity of boys. We define masculinity in a very narrow way. Masculinity is a hard, small cage, and we put boys inside this cage. We teach boys to be afraid of fear, of weakness, of vulnerability. We teach them to mask their true selves, because they have to be, in Nigerian-speak, a hard man. In secondary school, a boy and a girl go out, both of them teenagers with meagre pocket money. Yet the boy is expected to pay the bills, always, to prove his masculinity. (And we wonder why boys are more likely to steal money from their parents.) What if both boys and girls were raised not to link masculinity and money? What if their attitude was not ‘the boy has to pay’, but rather, ‘whoever has more should pay’? Of course, because of their historical advantage, it is mostly men who will have more today. But if we start raising children differently, then in fifty years, in a hundred years, boys will no longer have the pressure of proving their masculinity by material means. But by far the worst thing we do to males – by making them feel they have to be hard – is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is. And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males. We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, ‘You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man. If you are the breadwinner in your relationship with a man, pretend that you are not, especially in public, otherwise you will emasculate him.’ But what if we question the premise itself? Why should a woman’s success be a threat to a man? What if we decide to simply dispose of that word – and I don’t know if there is an English word I dislike more than this – emasculationAnd this one from” Dear IjeaweleTeach her that if you criticize X in women but do not criticize X in men, then you do not have a problem with X, you have a problem with women. For X please insert words like anger, ambition, loudness, stubbornness, coldness, ruthlessness.We all benefit from a more gender-equal society. Even men | Anne KarpfAlright, so I came across this answer and the misinformation and the misinterpretation of the facts incontrovertibly appalled me .So in the 2nd line the author says “ studies are yet to be conducted” and in the 3rd line it says-”” despite that…”.Isn’t it self contradicting?Moving on…Alright- it says that Iceland hasn’t shed any toxic masculinity standards. In one of these author’s answers she has attached the links of how Iceland is a feminist Country and stuff but no link was attached to the misandry part of Iceland. Just because a country is feminist dosen’t mean it has to be misandric.But, I agree with the statistics and the conclusions she came to .( Because, well she is not writing the statistics)“Since, feminism is also responsible for breaking toxic masculinity standards by dismantling the patriarchy, why is it that male suicides have only increasing over the years?”Feminism is responsible for breaking toxic masculinity standards but that is not it’s sole and the most important aim( Now, with time if we have get rid of the other issues-this might be the case)We can’t explain a phenomenon by just a single reason. And, we are in India, we still haven’t what we are yet to achieve.Okay, I agree that the suicide rate among men is higher and with the conclusions she arrived at as well.Just because feminism has been the most prominent movement in India at uplifting women and there is an increased number of reasons why males commit suicide dosen’t mean , it is because of feminism men are suffering.Have a look at these-Cum hoc ergo propter hoc (with this, therefore because of this). This is the familiar fallacy of mistaking correlation for causation -- i.e., thinking that because two things occur simultaneously, one must be a cause of the other. A popular example of this fallacy is the argument that "President Clinton has great economic policies; just look at how well the economy is doing while he's in office!" The problem here is that two things may happen at the same time merely by coincidence (e.g., the President may have a negligible effect on the economy, and the real driving force is technological growth), or the causative link between one thing and another may be lagged in time (e.g., the current economy's health is determined by the actions of previous presidents), or the two things may be unconnected to each other but related to a common cause (e.g., downsizing upset a lot of voters, causing them to elect a new president just before the economy began to benefit from the downsizing).andThe Correlation/Causation FallacyIf two things appear to be correlated, this doesn't necessarily indicate that one of those things irrefutably caused the other thing. This might seem like an obvious fallacy to spot, but it can be challenging to catch in practice -- particularly when you really want to find a correlation between two points of data to prove your point.Alright coming to the second part- I have no idea what made you think just because some feminists are against gender neutral laws - so does all feminists- I do support gender neutral laws that will benefit men, women, transgenders or any other sexuality in general.See-Deepak Mehta (दीपक मेहता)'s answer to Should India's rape law be made gender neutral?Koyel Ranu | কোয়েল রানু's answer to Should India's rape law be made gender neutral?“Feminsim is successfull in reducing men to slaves” I mean I am trying hard to not laugh but this was funny- jumping to random conclusion from facts that dosen’t even imply so…outlook/why-the-patriarchy-is-killing-men/What is it like to be a woman in Iceland, the most feminist country in the world?7 Laws That Show Why Iceland Ranks First for Gender EqualityIceland closes gender gap but violence against women remains4)PMS is a real thing and not something that men need to complain aboutThere is infact a wide range of mood swings. It's not in our control.Insufficient amounts of serotonin may contribute to premenstrual depression, as well as to fatigue, food cravings and sleep problems.I had to mention this because everyday I find some dude complaining about feminists, and PMS and what not and spewing some bs like -” don't date a hardcore feminist”The reason I am mentioning this is because it is not a part of “drama” that comes along . If you really have so much problem with your girlfriend at something that is so natural then please do break up stating this reason. I am sure she won’t hesitate to do so.5) I feel feminism does have a personal implication. And, here is how-Calm down folks! I don’t mean use the misuse the laws for any personal gain but I want to focus on the part that what feminism is to me may not be for you.Saw the picture where an army officer is a feminist but a girl drinking and smoking at her own will is not?a) I really feel that breasts are over- sexualised and I support free the nipple movement.¯\_(ツ)_/¯Pretty much the same reason I have no problem with the “WAP” song- yes the full form being-”Wet ass pussy”.WAP is receiving hate for all the wrong reasons. You don’t like an artist ? No problem. But, stop saying that someone should be banned and how the music industry is dead because of them.There’s something called artistic creativity. Every artist should have the freedom to express himself/herself( Now, by this I don’t mean promote child abuse). And, the day we decide to ban them from doing so is the day when the music industry will really be dead.Besides, what is so erroneous about the video? It is clearly known that this song wants to celebrate the sexuality of women. What’s so wrong in a girl expressing her sexuality?Try an experiment- If you ask a man if he watches porn and if he replies yes . Chances are you would act normal.Do the same for the girl- on her pleasuring herself or masturbation- chances are -if not me and you directly, people will question her character.(Now some people are already dead that a 16 y/o using the word”masturbation”. So, alright folks! We all know everything so why do we pretend that we don’t? We are all familiar with sitcoms and songs and novels.Besides I am talking about a social issue. Alright?)And yes, that is how this liberates you. Women’s sexuality is often considered a taboo . And, when you decide to go against it- that is when you feel liberated.You know it’s like breaking some rules and showing a middle finger to the society.See, different people have different bars of what being liberated would mean to them.Imagine Cardi B- she is a billionaire, a perfect definition of being privileged etc. So her sense of freedom will be different from what sense of freedom would constitute to you or a lady living a rural area.So nothing wrong with the WAP song.Also, I am no Cardi B fan. I like selective songs of her like Taki Taki( mainly because of the beats), South of the Border( this one mainly because it has ed sheeran and camila cabello as well)This is something by Chmimamnmda ngozi adichie- in her book “Dear Ijeawele”To make sure she doesn’t inherit shame from you, you have to free yourself of your own inherited shame. And I know how terribly difficult that is. In every culture in the world, female sexuality is about shame. Even cultures that expect women to be sexy – like many in the West – still do not expect them to be sexual. The shame we attach to female sexuality is about control. Many cultures and religions control women’s bodies in one way or another. If the justification for controlling women’s bodies were about women themselves, then it would be understandable. If, for example, the reason was ‘women should not wear short skirts because they can get cancer if they do’. Instead the reason is not about women, but about men. Women must be ‘covered up’ to protect men. I find this deeply dehumanizing because it reduces women to mere props used to manage the appetites of menb)I do think that drinking and smoking is female empowerment.Smoking is harmful for health no doubt over thatThink this way. You see a man smoking and you see a girl smoking.Upon seeing the man-” I can’t breathe due to the smoke. It’s prohibited here” and when you see a woman smoking” Omfg! A GIRL smoking?”We teach our girls not to get drunk but we never teach our men to not take advantage of girls when they are drunk.c) I recently saw answers where people have problem with a woman cutting her saree. In short a woman wearing something according to her personal choice is hurtful for these over sensitive people.So firstly there’s something called-Indo-Western clothing - WikipediaAnd besides, it is her choice how she decides to wear her saree, lehenga, whatsoever.It’s also the liberty that the fashion designer should have in experimenting.And some people were bringing in the issue of culture. Here’s something that I would like to quote from “We Should All Be Feminists”Some people will say a woman is subordinate to men because it’s our culture. But culture is constantly changing. I have beautiful twin nieces who are fifteen. If they had been born a hundred years ago, they would have been taken away and killed. Because a hundred years ago, Igbo culture considered the birth of twins to be an evil omen. Today that practice is unimaginable to all Igbo people. What is the point of culture? Culture functions ultimately to ensure the preservation and continuity of a people. In my family, I am the child who is most interested in the story of who we are, in ancestral lands, in our tradition. My brothers are not as interested as I am. But I cannot participate, because Igbo culture privileges men, and only the male members of the extended family can attend the meetings where major family decisions are taken. So although I am the one who is most interested in these things, I cannot attend the meeting. I cannot have a formal say. Because I am female. Culture does not make people. People make cuture. If it is true that the full humanity of women is not our culture, then we can and must make it our culture.Now, this is not Africa I understand. But the main takeaway was -culture is always in a state of flux and if we really want to take pride in our culture we need to first get rid of those ideas interfering with one’s personal choice.(And, this is not a woman specific view I hold on- had a man(or any other sexuality) done something along the same lines- my views would be the same)And, just for information. This is not our culture. This is people’s personal opinions being perpetuated under the name of culture.6) How much people say burqa/hijab/niqab or any form of covering is empowering and liberating by claiming it’s their personal choice and not being forced upon them- it is still not liberating.Alright I do know those 3 are different things.I saw this answer on Quora. Can you imagine the level of brainwashing?Why do you have to wear the hijab to let people know you are not the toy? Real progress is when you won’t wear any covering and still you won’t be accepted as a toy. And, we feminists are working for that.This comment underneath describes what I feel.No, the writer did not upvote this comment. Because, well the blatant truth was enunciated.We have to understand that rules don’t exist in vacuum. These acts of covering up has been there as an act of oppression. And doing something liberating is doing something that you have never been allowed to do.And, remember the A.R Rahman controversy? I respect Rahman sir as a musician a lot but that act of his daughter covering up( I know it isn’t forced) can’t just seem to me as a personal choice. It looks more like being in the illusion of personal choice.The hijab has liberated me from society's expectations of women | Nadiya Takolia (The hijab has liberated me from society's expectations of women | Nadiya Takolia)A highly delusional article.This line struck me the most-“It is me telling the world that my femininity is not available for public consumption. I am taking control of it, and I don’t want to be part of a system that reduces and demeans women. Behind this exterior I am a person – and it is this person for which I want to be known.”And , this is exactly the root of all problems . If there is a problem in the society like the objectification of female bodies we do not further cover ourselves up . By this we justify the act of being objectified. Instead we fight . If there is a problem we solve the problem and not run away from it.And something sane as well-https://newhumanist.org.uk/articles/4199/why-feminists-should-oppose-the-burqaSecularism and the Status of WomenNow here’s the thing. If I find a flaw in my thinking-I am free to correct it.Part II7) No one should date before the age of 20( It should be illegal) and no marriage before 25 years for both genders.[Look at the question. It asks for unpopular opinions.]Before you roll your eyes hear me out. Think of your mind like an infinite universe with endless possibilities.We should yen to live our lives as an explorer and not a caretaker( Alright! This line is inspired from”Interstellar”)It gives us a feeling that we are explorers of our mind- and the world and not any shitty boyfriend/girlfriend.The more you unravel the more you realize there's more to unravel. And, that's a good thing. People should focus on their studies or whatever they are passionate about. I am not saying you have to study hardcore quantum mechanics.Let's suppose you are passionate about photography so just explore in that arena- go for workshops. Travel - create experiences and read.People at this age should explore themselves.I see a lot of folks in this age group whining about how sad they are for being single. Like seriously, you haven’t found that spark in your life yet.[ If you are saying something along those lines just for the jokes then it’s unequivocally fine]Imagine when you were in your teens and the bucket lists you used to make? About travelling ? About meeting new people. This is the time.The concept of love is screwed. Remember what Daniel Sloss said in one of his Netflix specials-" We have romanticized the concept of love and it's cancerous"I am cringing hard. And that was the end of my pseudo-intellectual shit on love for the shitty concept it already is.8)Indefinite optimism is really stupid.Okay, this is not me getting a random dose of motivation after reading” Zero To One” by Peter Thiel. Besides, I read it long ago.I find the water debate really stupid .When someone shows you a half filled/half occupied glass of water- if you say half filled you are an optimist and if you say it is half empty you are a pessimist.Everytime a person asks me “ What do you see?” I feel like answering” Your stupidity”Can we just grow up to be realists please? It is only the realists who can truly be happy. What’s the point of being an indefinite optimist only to get this bubble bursted later? To solve a problem we need to first recognize there is a problem and if we are engrossed in answering “half full” your life is fucked up.Besides, nothing is really empty or vacuum. Scientifically wrong.Empty space is actually filled with quark and gluon filled fluctuations.To create a true vacuum an enormous amount of energy will be required. And even if it would be created it would be unstable i.e a single pertubation would be enough to fill the vacuum with quantum field fluctuations.What Is 'Nothing', Really? Possibly EverythingA Study About NothingWhat do physicists mean when they talk about nothing?9) Wedding is simply a waste of time and money.[Please you say anything lemme just say that my family has a obsession with wasting money on something as stupid as marriage just like your family.]There’s this question over this erotic website called quora-” How much did you spend on your wedding?” Just check it out and you will get your answer.And, people call this wedding intimate. Seriously, feeling intimate in front of thousands of people? So in order to share that intimacy every time why not call us every time you ….Whatever.10)The idea that we are incomplete without a life partner is shit.You Are Enough: If You Think You Need A Man, You Need To Be SingleCame across this quora answer-By vocalizing that we gotta wait for those right person, and right shit we are normalizing this shitty idea.I don’t think marriage is something that we should teach young girls to aspire to.This is not definitely the lesson we leave out to young girls. We teach young girls that to be a complete person - you don’t need a man. We teach young girls to read- watch movies- meet new people and expand their horizons- add perspectives to their lives . We teach young girls to look for her dragons when she is lonely and not a man.And one thing-” Fall in love when you are ready not when you are lonely”.My English ma’am in 10th gave this lesson-one of the wisest words.“ We should remember that couples should complement each other and not complete each other”. We should be complete as people by ourselves. Sure, someone can complement you.Okay- This is not an answer on the advices I would give 16/17 y/o’s . So I will let that love bullshit pass.You read books about how the girls there are such a rebel, so why not be one yourself?11) We have romanticized the concept of introversion and being night owls and etc.No, this is not about you and me.In my school, I legit know some folks who go to bars and clubs -spend partying and call themselves introverts . Not once or twice but quite often. Alright I do know this-The 4 Types of Introvert:And they are definitely not social introverts. Because you have to hang out in small groups of people. At bars or clubs you hang out in small groups of people. And this really makes it hard for the real ones.12) Kids are fucking annoying(If any of my relatives or family members are reading this then I feel sorry for you being so unemployed that you have started to read my answers over here)Alright! There’s this habit of kids of constantly shouting on top of their lungs with almost nil maturity. I really hate to hear those annoying sounds they make. Some people find them cute.Though, I find babies cute when they are crying( No, I am not a sadist)13) We are all hypocrites to some extent.No one . I repeat no one is completely sane. We all are racists, misogynists, homophobic to some extent. We all speak out against something and often end up doing something along those similar lines( No, I don’t mean a hardcore mistake but “upto an extent”)But we are trying and that’s a sign of progress.Footnotes:1)Feminism Isn't Just a Modern Movement—It Dates to Antiquity2)The waves of feminism, and why people keep fighting over them, explained3)we-have-the-wrong-idea-about-males-females-and-sex4)The science of sex differences is nothing for feminists to be afraid of5)Was Jane Austen a feminist? The answer is in her stories | Curtis SittenfeldEDIT 1Please do give this a watch-10 Things Sheryl Sandberg Gets Exactly Right In 'Lean In'