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Asking for professional advice from the patient, even in passing. As a clinical director, I had to have a “boundaries chat” with a therapist who said she’d asked her veterinarian client for tips on various breeds. She’d started the sentence with “I asked my friend about Irish Wolfhounds, actually it was my client the vet . . .” Another time it was stock market advice from a broker.Talking about “interesting patients,” even without identifying them, for entertainment purposes, in social settings. (I see very little of this on Quora, when patients are obviously heavily fictionalized, and discussed for educational purposes only.)Hinting about seeing celebrity or other well known persons as clients. I would always cut those discussions off when I saw where they were going.Fudging on pre-authorization requests to insurance companies, exaggerating patients’ dysfunction or risk.Using “therapy tricks” to manipulate clients. I always hated this one, and felt it was never justified even if it got “good results.” After empathy and unconditional positive regard, Carl Rogers considered genuineness a critical component of client-centered therapy.

I was crushed last year to see that even the Chicago Manual of Style, the best in the business, had caved to the impudent Oxford comma.The Oxford comma creates every bit as many problems as it supposedly addresses. With a mandatory comma before the “and,” is “My wife, Tina, and I had sex,” an appositional clarification of your wife’s name or the revelation of just who you and your wife enjoyed a threesome with? Without the Oxford comma, it’s unambiguous.“So, let’s make a rule then… if the comma creates ambiguity, leave it out.” In the first place, the pre-Oxford rule already was to use or not use a comma to prevent ambiguity. In the second case, applying a disambiguation rule post-Oxford does nothing to disambiguate my sample sentence. Now if you leave it out, a threesome is certainly implied.The Oxford comma is a pedant’s rule and I will go to my grave pissing on it.

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