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It doesn’t work the same way. School sports in the US are a high status activity, coupled heavily to the school’s success, and tend to be set up so wealthy family’s kids get to win because they can afford the gear, travel, and missed academic time that result. So the typical high school jock is financially and athletically successful, which is what results in the stereotypically toxic combination of high status kids getting away with bad behavior because their success is coupled to the school’s success.School sports in the UK are set up to allow everyone to participate, and often the kids who do well are poorer and might not be excelling anywhere else. While the certainly get status from it, it doesn’t really feed back on the school or get influenced by the family’s standing.You don’t get anything like US jock culture except maybe at the high levels private school sports like rowing where the time and money commitments are substantial. But even then, it tends not to be coupled to bullying because the kids are older and didn’t grow up with that expectation.

I am a Filipina. I’m the black sheep of that culture. I was born and raised in the Philippines but moved to the US after high school to go to college. I’ve been living in the US ever since. There are a lot about the Filipino culture that I dislike. Here’s my list:1. Sense of entitlement – Filipinos think that their children, siblings, relatives, friends, acquaintances, foreigners, government, neighbors, the world, owe them. Here are examples. (A) A friend from senior year of high school, after many years of no contact, sent me an email telling me to send her money for one of her children’s surgery. She also told me that I am the godmother of one of her children. She continued to send emails the next 2 weeks asking me where the money is. (B) During a layover in Phoenix, one of the plane’s cleaning crew asked me if I’m Filipino. He also asked where I live. I answered ‘Chicago’. His response in Tagalog: ‘Oh wow….. I’ve never been to Chicago. Give me your phone number and address so I have a place to stay when I go to Chicago.’ He was so pissed when I told him ‘that’s what hotels are for’ and told me that I don’t act like I’m Filipino. (C) While grocery shopping, a Filipina approached me and asked if I’m also Filipina. Upon saying yes, she asked me to give her the phone number of all my friends so she can sell them insurance. Just like the person in #B, she was pissed when I told her I don’t give such information to strangers.2. Mendicant attitude – they are constantly begging. Here are examples: (A) While texting with a friend in Manila, I mentioned that I just made a smoothie for breakfast. She asked what brand of blender I have. I said ‘Breville’. I mentioned there’s also a cute, retro brand called SMEG. I just moved to a new house 18 months ago and bought new kitchen appliances. She said: ‘Hurry up and replace your kitchen appliances and give me the old ones. Wow…. I guess with that comment, she also expected me to spend at least $200 or more for shipping, all free of charge to her. She also said that anytime I want to get rid of something (handbags, clothes, shoes, etc), all I need to do is ship her the items. This same friend also would make comments like her daughter is looking for someone to finance her master’s degree. Another example about all the expenses related to get her old car running. In the Philippines, we call this ‘nagpaparinig’. This is, in my viewpoint, a very manipulative way to indirectly ask for money. (B) A Filipina colleague noticed that I was wearing a different ring and not my birthstone ring. She asked if it’s a new ring. When I said yes, she told me to give her the old ring.3. Parents see their children as an investment and retirement plan.4. Family treats the successful family member as an ATM machine. There is no gratitude in return or reciprocation. If you don’t live in the same household, you only hear from them when they need to withdraw cash from the ATM.5. Bahala Na attitude – a fatalistic, ‘come what may’ attitude. No planning for the future, or even coming up with a plan B or C if plan A didn’t work.6. Snooty – this is prevalent especially in women. Another word for it is ‘suplada’. These girls/women think that being suplada is a cute thing to do.7. Disdain for the poor and poverty-stricken – Other than the Philippines, nowhere else in the world where I have seen such blatant and public display and disrespect for the poor, even from those that are just a few notches above the poverty-line of the same group they are mocking.8. Hyprocrites – as devout catholics, they pick and choose which rules apply to them. A poor couple who can’t even feed themselves have 5 children and continue to have more kids. Why? Because it’s god’s will. Abortion is against the church and we can’t afford to buy birth control items. But at the same time, it’s okay to have sex outside of marriage, have affairs and other children outside of marriage, abandon their spouse and children to shack up with another person and start a family with this person, treating people from lesser social-economic status as pariahs, etc.9. Toxic positivity – when my mother passed away, I cut ties with all my siblings (except 1) after enduring years of their toxicity. Filipino friends in the Philippines think that was an abhorrent act on my part. To them, it is irrelevant how your family treats you. Family is family no matter what. They tell me they will pray for me and my soul. Are you f*&$ing kidding me? Another Filipino friend thinks I should continue to financially support my siblings (I’m the youngest of 7) because I am better off than they are and need to treat them as family.10. Shameless – I don’t know if this is the right term for this. When I was in college, I was approached numerous times by many people in the church to marry their son, nephew, or brother for $10k. A ruse to get their relative to the US on a spouse visa and be able to stay in the country to get permanent residency or US citizenship. All these requests were made in such a casual conversation, like it’s a normal thing to ask an acquaintance.11. Intrusive – they think it is okay to ask very personal questions to anyone.12. Small minded – they associate the number of times a day a person or family eats to determine their wealth. In the Philippines, the meals are breakfast, lunch, merienda (snack), dinner. I don’t remember if there is also merienda between breakfast and lunch. In the Western World, people eat to live. In the Philippines, they live to eat. Most people I know in the US eat about 2x a day, usually skipping breakfast. There are a handful of people I know that prefer to only eat one big meal a day. I’m a 2 meals/day person and lots of coffee. In the US, we don’t associate the 1 or 2 meals a day person as poor or if a person decides to have a peanut butter & jelly sandwich for lunch, as poor. 😊 To us, it’s just a simple choice of what you want to eat and when.13. Environmentally challenged – throwing garbage and littering anywhere they feel like, is the norm.14. Moochers - if you invite a friend or acquaintance to go out to eat or do some other fun activities (bowling, put-put, movie, go to a coffee shop), they automatically expect you to pay for everything. Even more shameful is they invite their other friends/relatives (who you may not even know) and show up to this meal/activity with all these gate crashers and they expect you to pay for the whole thing. In the end, the time spent with them turns out to be not fun. In the Western world, you ask a friend/acquaintance out to eat, they show up by themselves to the activity. When the bill comes, it’s usually either Dutch or split the bill in half. Most times, between friends, they take turns paying: ‘Hey I’ll get this one. You can get the next one’.

It is a very unfortunate hypothetical scenario.People who arrive to US - either for short-term or for long-term - visits are required to have a name of the local contact.If someone comes on a short-term visit needs to have someone else inviting them - be it a family member, a friend/acquaintance or a company sponsoring them - this is the party that certifies that they will be taking care of the arrival(s) until it's time for them to depart, in all respects including financial and medical needs.As for the long-term care options, in case the person is unable to remain in the country on a permanent basis, there could be an extension filed on humanitarian grounds allowing for a reasonable recuperation time.If the question is asking about a catastrophic health issues which would require years of recovery (if recovery is at all possible), and if the person in question does not have enough funds to return to the country of origin (other than US), the only option I see is getting the other government involved and perhaps even seeking out financial help from local US charities to gather enough funds to get the person back.The reason is that without legal immigration status, the person would remain in an legal limbo which would present itself in a never-ending billings from lawyers, court appearances and the like to keep this person's status active with USCIS.