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I remember a girl from university who was an excellent student who always got top grades. Like me, she turned up to all the seminars but unlike me, she also read all the primary and secondary reading material and spent hours on private study every weekend while I was out partying or rock climbing somewhere. I respected her as a better student than I was. I think I even fancied her. We met up - in groups, that is - a few times and she was cool: A fun, normal, very smart person who also happened to be a dedicated student.Then I just stopped seeing her around - at first, on the social circuit, then she started dropping lectures and seminars. After a couple of months, I caught sight of her and she looked really bad: tired, pale, gaunt, but still clutching her books. I thought perhaps it might be a tragedy in the family or something but no: It was study stress. It totally sucked the life out of her and she ended up having to take some time off for therapy. It turned out that this was a timely intervention that saved her from having to take a year off or even abandon her studies altogether but it seemed like a narrow escape.I’m sure everyone knows someone who absolutely needs to get high grades: As a goal in itself, as a source of self-esteem, often in the hope that their parents (or people in general) will love and respect them.We all have insecurities but these overachievers deny their insecurities and instead pile the pressure on themselves. Their achievements are a way of hiding and avoiding their insecurities and gaining validation but as with a drug, the anaesthetic glow from each achievement is temporary and leaves an ever greater abyss that needs to be filled.Not only is this constant high performance unsustainable, it also negates early exposure to failure and how to deal with that, emotionally and practically. In other words, these overachievers tend to develop high IQ/low EQ. The more time goes on, the greater their fear of failure becomes and the more physically and emotionally exhausted they become, often with serious health consequences.Sooner or later, these people will crash and burn - hard. It may happen mid-university, mid-career, or later in mid-life. Burnout is a massive problem and many sufferers never fully recover - it’s like a brain injury. Some do make an intervention in time but find that, in order to do so, they need to have a complete and abrupt career change, which in turn, means they have to take a big step down professionally. Finally, there are those in the middle who are aware of their unhealthy behaviour but unable or unwilling to fully abandon it: They live in a permanent state of not quite living up to their own expectations, punctuated by regular ‘mini burnouts’.It’s often hard to reach out to these people because they typically present as very motivated and capable - even superior and intimidating. It’s when they disappear off the radar you have to make the effort to go and knock on their door and check they are okay. A timely intervention can make all the difference.UPDATE: Thank you for your upvotes - nearly 5000! Study stress is clearly an important, widely-felt issue that deserves to be dragged into the light and understood. If you fear you or someone else is suffering from study stress, do contact your university counselling service - here is an example from my university: Counselling Service.UPDATE 2: A great article on ‘perfectionism’ (or, ‘a fear of failure’). Blames increasingly marketised student competition and recommends counselling. ‘My brain feels like it’s been punched’: the intolerable rise of perfectionism

The Magical AmuletWhen my son was eight, he went through some pretty intense bullying at school, and suffered from severe anxiety, depression and PTSD symptoms. During the worst of it, he had traumatic nightmares up to four times a night, every night. Eventually, he was so scared of having nightmares that he couldn’t get to sleep. Even mentioning that it was bedtime would result in him have a panic attack.As you can imagine, this was absolutely awful for him, and heart-breaking for me.We went through counselling and resilience training with a psychologist, and I taught him, and helped him through, various calming and meditation techniques. Because of the PTSD element, I had to withdraw him from that school. Over a period of a couple of months, he improved dramatically, until he was almost back to his old self.Except when it came to sleep.Despite not having those intense nightmares anymore, he was still terrified of going to sleep. During the day, he was calm and happy, but as soon as it got dark, he’d start getting anxious and withdrawn and fearful. In his mind, sleep and terror were inextricably linked.So, one night, when he was exhausted and I was at my wit’s end trying to figure out how to help him, I told him to wait a moment, and I went into my room. I rifled through my jewelry box until I found an old necklace that I’d had for fifteen years, and never wore anymore. It was given to me by a friend, and was very special to me. I took off the pendant (a silver-backed oval with an image of two wolves on the front) and carefully carried it in to my son.“If you promise to be very, very careful with this,” I said, “I’ll let you use it.”“What is it?” he asked.I handed it to him and said, “It’s a magical amulet. Do you see those wolves?”“Yes,” he said, his eyes wide.“Their names are Fire and Ice. And if you keep this amulet under your pillow, they will protect you from nightmares. No nightmares can get to you while you’ve got the magical amulet.”My son nodded and carefully put the magical amulet under his pillow. Then he looked up at me and asked, “Will it work if I hold it in my hand?”I nodded. “Yes. But don’t drop it. Make sure you keep it in your bed. It’s very, very special.”That night, my son fell asleep within minutes, the magical amulet clasped in his hand. The next morning, he came running out of his room, a huge grin on his face, and gave me a hug. “It worked! I didn’t have any nightmares!”He slept with the magical amulet in his hand every night for three months. One night, he told me he didn’t need it anymore. About a week later, as I was putting him to bed, and gave me a cuddle and said: “The amulet wasn’t really magical, was it?”I smiled and said: “No, not for me. But it was magical for you when you needed it.”

First of all, the direct answer to the question is that even according to the article cited in the question, the University of Delaware promised to seal those records until two years after Biden had retired from public office.Any claim that Biden’s temporary lack of public office between the end of the Obama administration and his run for President constituted retirement from public office doesn’t pass the sniff test.President Trump’s supporters and surrogates are claiming that the only reason that the University of Delaware and Joe Biden are not releasing all of his personal senatorial records, which he donated to the university several years ago, is that he has something terrible there to hide.Let’s forget for the moment that if there was something terrible in his records, he could have shredded it before making that donation.And let’s forget for the moment that if there were any substance to the claim, which she has made, that she filed a formal report, then that report would be in the custody of the Senate, not among Senator Biden’s private papers. (No such report has been found in the Senate’s records. If there were, you can be sure Senate Majority Leader McConnell would have helped find and publicize it.)And let’s forget that if there were actually any reason (probable cause) to think that there were anything incriminating in those papers, a subpoena could be sought to pry those papers loose.At the risk of being accused of “waddaboutism”, let us ask if this is an example of a specific example of a general rule, and let us consider what other examples of that kind of thing the President’s supporters and surrogates would apply that rule to.The President has asserted that he was the smartest, bestest student in his class at Wharton, and graduated at the top of his class. At the same time, he has threatened to sue the pants off of anybody who publishes his academic records, which are private by law. Do his supporters and surrogates insist that his academic records should be released?The President used to promise that he would release his tax records “in a couple of months”, or “as soon as the audit is finished”, or “right after the election”. There is a lot more reason to believe that his tax records will reveal evidence of criminal tax fraud than that Biden’s private senatorial papers will show evidence of sexual assault. Do his supporters and surrogates demand that those papers be released? Or do they defend his blocking legally mandated oversight by the House Ways and Means Committee?The State of New York thinks there is probable cause to think that the financial papers in the custody of Mazars will show evidence of financial and electoral fraud. They have gotten a subpoena to see those papers. The President is fighting that subpoena to the Supreme Court. Have his supporters and surrogates insisted that he stop fighting the subpoena, and simply release those records, on the grounds that if he didn’t break any laws there is nothing to hide?When the House was investigating criminal and unconstitutional abuse of Presidential authority with respect to the Ukrainian coercion, the President blocked testimony by the people who had the most direct knowledge about what had happened. Did his supporters and surrogates demand that those people testify, on the theory that if there was nothing wrong, then there was no reason to hide?When Special Counsel Mueller was investigating whether or not the President engaged in a criminal conspiracy with Russians to influence the 2016 Presidential elections, the President refused to give a live interview to Special Counsel Mueller. Instead, he gave written answers to a set of questions, thus giving his lawyers a chance to scrub them clean. Most of the answers turned out to be some form of “I don’t recall”. Did his supporters and surrogates insist on having the President give live testimony to Mueller, on the theory that there was nothing to lose unless there was something he was hiding?Or are his supporters and surrogates simply every bit as hypocritical as the President himself?I know what I think.Q: Why does the University of Delaware refuse to release Biden's papers?